FabSwingers.com forum: The art of conversation gone

By *orny1-4u OP Man
16 weeks ago

newcastle

Who else thinks whilst messaging on here the last month or so women / couples it's like extracting blood from a stone. You try to learn more about people and the response is either 1 or 2 words.

If they are not interested I'd rather they just said at beginning and safe alot of time.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
16 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

This is our worst pet hate.

A couple where all four are chatting is nigh in impossible.

A chat with a guy without him wanting to talk about or show his cock within the first few messages is almost impossible.

The chats we have with ladies are so much better - they carry on conversations by answering and asking questions, something a lot of people fail to do now.

It does seem to be a dying art now.

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By *ing00Man
16 weeks ago

Northants

Maybe there should be more buttons like the wink, so you can send a grunt or a old-perv style "phwoar" .

Actually it's be kinda handy to have an ai button to write the intro message for you based on both yours and their profiles hehe it'd sure save loads of time haha!

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By *IG G77Man
16 weeks ago

GATLEY

Be nice to find good conversation with couples and ladies

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By *orny1-4u OP Man
16 weeks ago

newcastle

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By *orny1-4u OP Man
16 weeks ago

newcastle

Ive had some great meets and it's nice to know what you are letting yourself in for and giving an insight to your own quirks

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By *r SensualMan
16 weeks ago

London

Found it best to ensure every single message starting with the first to contain questions where the person can’t answer yes or no. Sometimes the conversation flows and the ask questions back in response, other times it’s the same issue you’re having OP.

When that happens I lose interest quickly. If you can’t make effort to converse then it makes me think you lack making that effort in the bedroom too..

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By *icecouple561Couple
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16 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Who else thinks whilst messaging on here the last month or so women / couples it's like extracting blood from a stone. You try to learn more about people and the response is either 1 or 2 words.

If they are not interested I'd rather they just said at beginning and safe alot of time."

I think a one or two word answer is showing a lack of interest.

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By *orny1-4u OP Man
16 weeks ago

newcastle

"Found it best to ensure every single message starting with the first to contain questions where the person can’t answer yes or no. Sometimes the conversation flows and the ask questions back in response, other times it’s the same issue you’re having OP.

Exactly the way I think

When that happens I lose interest quickly. If you can’t make effort to converse then it makes me think you lack making that effort in the bedroom too.. "

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By *andPextraCouple
16 weeks ago

North West

If I got more than one answer that consisted of a few words I'd not continue the conversation.

Not good for me, I actively enjoy flirting, seducing, teasing and having the same done in return. Hard to find on here, dare I say it especially from single ladies.

Undoubtedly as they are inundated with messages and struggle not to fall foul of the "grass is always greener " mentality or struggle with sheer volume and maintaining a meaningful discourse.

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
16 weeks ago

Scarborogh

We hate a few word answers to messages.

I’m not saying we send war and peace, to winks or messages but they consist of a lot more than one line.

Agree with another post on here it shows a lack of interest. There again it shows those that are willing to put effort into a conversation even online, than those who think it’s easy or not willing to put effort in.

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By *lfa RomeoMan
16 weeks ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

I make the effort to send a well thought out message, to then get a one or two word reply, it's so frustrating, I then don't bother replying as to me they aren't interested

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By *iddle ManMan
16 weeks ago

Walsall

"Who else thinks whilst messaging on here the last month or so women / couples it's like extracting blood from a stone. You try to learn more about people and the response is either 1 or 2 words.

If they are not interested I'd rather they just said at beginning and safe alot of time."

Don't get hung up on it OP. That's the site in a nutshell.

Can be a modern day wordsmith and if the recipient isn't interested then it's a no or a blank. Besides, some on here get hundreds of messages a day by chancers,so the odd decent message will get thrown out before given any attention.

I guess that is the price for being in demand on a site like this.

Don't beat your self up and move on. Enjoy the site for fun and not a dating site.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
16 weeks ago

Tamworth

It’s really changed over the years. I’m finding exactly the same. Hi. How are you. You’re hot. Just generic monosyllabic rubbish that doesn’t spark any interesting conversation or allow you to get to know someone.

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By *ongAndThick123Man
16 weeks ago

Leeds

"Who else thinks whilst messaging on here the last month or so women / couples it's like extracting blood from a stone. You try to learn more about people and the response is either 1 or 2 words.

If they are not interested I'd rather they just said at beginning and safe alot of time."

To be honest OP, and I don’t mean this personally, you profile has no photos and all you’ve basically written is “I like tea and giving oral” so you haven’t given the recipients enough of a hook for them to be interested in responding properly.

I don’t know what your messages said so it’s hard to judge really.

I know personally I tend to be very cold to people who message without photos. Colder still if their profile has hardly anything written on. I’ll be short to see if they elaborate on things or introduce themselves properly, but they rarely do.

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By *orny1-4u OP Man
16 weeks ago

newcastle

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By *ampireLoveMan
16 weeks ago

Essex & Bristol

I have to be honest, there are some that are like getting blood of a stone from which just stop chatting to but their are some ridiculously fun and amazing people I have been chatting you on here. They far outweigh the no talkers

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16 weeks ago

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By *ene FairfaxMan
16 weeks ago

Dover

I tend to chat and waffle on about alsorts. I treat it like we are chatting over a coffee. Just be a gentleman and see what happens. If rejected just say thanks and move on. We can all be attracted to each other

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

A year ago, I would have said it was a generation thing with people under 35 being the worst. However I am not so sure, maybe its just becoming the norm. So many people when replying don't say Hello, or please. I had one 40 year old woman simply say "Pics" (no please or thank you) but she came across as a narcissist on her profile, as so many do sadly.

Modesty is virtually non existent now. Maybe its a winder reflection how the UK is loosing its so called culture? I always found Americans generally more polite (sometimes overly). While British politeness can come across as insincere/grated.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
16 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Can now add that some couples think it’s fine to start conversations being vulgar.

Yes it’s a sex site but I can guarantee even in a sex club no one would walk up to someone straight away and start talking about BJ’s 🤷🏻‍♂️

We find out more about people from talking about anything other than sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"Can now add that some couples think it’s fine to start conversations being vulgar.

Yes it’s a sex site but I can guarantee even in a sex club no one would walk up to someone straight away and start talking about BJ’s 🤷🏻‍♂️

We find out more about people from talking about anything other than sex.

I'd love that! cuts out all the unnecessary small talk bullshit no one is really interested in. I don' care how you or others try and dress it up, everyone is there for one thing and it's not to talk about the weather. You can make introductions but you don't need life stories. I don't want connection, that's what Mr is for. I just want to fuck and never have to deal with the person possibly again.

Everyone is forever trying to justify thier licentious behaviour with the 'social thing' as though they are really ashamed of what they are doing.

Sorry I just like being honest, direct which a lot of British people don't like.

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By *eroLondonMan
16 weeks ago

Mayfair

Not engaging in conversation is acceptable if they are not interested. Conversations also fizzle out for a variety of reasons, again totally acceptable.

From my experience - what I find unpalatable is when women message me and expect me to drive the momentum of conversation whilst they engage in pithy responses. The irony isn't lost on me when I look at their profiles and they've mentioned that they're looking to chat extensively with articulate people and not just meet after a few short messages.

It would be nice if they could practice what they preach, not resign themselves to lip service whilst falling foul of their own caveats.

Thankfully this isn't a common occurrence, for me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
16 weeks ago

"Not engaging in conversation is acceptable if they are not interested. Conversations also fizzle out for a variety of reasons, again totally acceptable.

It would be nice if they could practice what they preach, not resign themselves to lip service whilst falling foul of their own caveats.

Thankfully this isn't a common occurrence, for me anyway."

I usually find people who say they are 'open minded' are anything but. Usually the opposite. People who are open minded, don't need to say it.

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