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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London

I have met some lovely people on here and had a lot of fun. However I recently met a wife from here. She was a nice lady and we chatted for long time till she was ready to meet. She told me her husband did not know she had met from here. I did my usual in asking if she really wanted to go through with this. She assured me she had no problem and definitely wanted sex without her hub knowing. I am always careful to check what like or not and fully respect. A few days later she contacted me and told me her hub had found out she cheated and it was my fault. I was a bit taken aback by that as she clearly wanted the meet and seemed to enjoy. Yes clearly I was a party to this but she started the meet and said she wanted. I felt a bit bad for her and wonder if others had experienced and how dealt with. Yes my wife knows before others accuse me

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

Personally I wouldn't meet anyone cheating & it's the risk you take.

This is fun & hurting people isn't fun.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

"

Thank you. That is what I thought but do not like when people hurt. Not sure what else could have done

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago


"People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

Thank you. That is what I thought but do not like when people hurt. Not sure what else could have done"

Like koct said, the only realistic option not to hurt anyone would be to step back from these situations straight away, on principle.

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By *C44Man
19 weeks ago

Ipswich

You put your dick in the hornets nest and are surprised you got stung. If you facilitate cheating you have to have a thick enough skin to deal with the fallout if it gets found out. Of course she is going to try shifting the blame on you.

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

Very true. Have met wives before when hub does not know and no issues. This is newish to me online

Thank you. That is what I thought but do not like when people hurt. Not sure what else could have done

Like koct said, the only realistic option not to hurt anyone would be to step back from these situations straight away, on principle."

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
19 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I don't like to be involved with people with unknowing spouses because someone is going to get hurt when it comes out.

You both made your choices.

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By *olfandtazCouple
19 weeks ago

Bristol

We don't play if we know their partner isn't on board with it... cheating is something we don't do.

End of the day you both made choices and these are the consequences of them

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"I don't like to be involved with people with unknowing spouses because someone is going to get hurt when it comes out.

You both made your choices."

Wise words and considering not do in future. How would I know if spouse knew if told though

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By *itygamesMan
19 weeks ago

UK

was probably the husband all along , i wouldnt worry about it...

pretty obvious if you ask me.

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"was probably the husband all along , i wouldnt worry about it...

pretty obvious if you ask me."

This is the dilemma. I do love to meet wives but want all to enjoy and not regret. I guess can never be absolute certainty

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By *issmorganWoman
19 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I wouldn't knowingly meet someone cheating on a partner, these are the risks you take unfortunately.

The way she has behaved is not very respectful, but then cheating on her husband isn't either.

It's shady behaviour on both counts.

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"I wouldn't knowingly meet someone cheating on a partner, these are the risks you take unfortunately.

The way she has behaved is not very respectful, but then cheating on her husband isn't either.

It's shady behaviour on both counts.

"

I am very open I am married and my wife knows I meet others. We are very comfortable with that. Does the other party not take most of blame in telling me wanted this. Yes agree I have responsibility

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By *rSuave88Man
19 weeks ago

Mirfield

I wouldnt knowingly get involved with anyone that was cheating. I wouldnt want to be around or share my energy with negative people, whether in life or on fab. Stay clear of bad vibes.

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"I wouldnt knowingly get involved with anyone that was cheating. I wouldnt want to be around or share my energy with negative people, whether in life or on fab. Stay clear of bad vibes. "

That’s the issue. There were no bad vibes at all and if anything she was doing more to arrange than me. The meet was very nice

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By *icecouple561Couple
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19 weeks ago

East Sussex

She was keen. Her husband ((allegedly) found out. She blamed you.

So she did something wrong but blamed you for allowing her to do it. Hmm.

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By *issmorganWoman
19 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"I wouldn't knowingly meet someone cheating on a partner, these are the risks you take unfortunately.

The way she has behaved is not very respectful, but then cheating on her husband isn't either.

It's shady behaviour on both counts.

I am very open I am married and my wife knows I meet others. We are very comfortable with that. Does the other party not take most of blame in telling me wanted this. Yes agree I have responsibility "

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I meant shady behaviour on her part, obviously felt guilty about cheating and deflected any blame away from herself.

This is what I don't like, the lack of taking any responsibility for her own actions.

But I'd still say to stay away from those cheating op,go for people like you, who meet with their partners full knowledge.

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"She was keen. Her husband ((allegedly) found out. She blamed you.

So she did something wrong but blamed you for allowing her to do it. Hmm.

"

Yes exactly. Would not mind if she took on some responsibility for her actions. She seemed to think all me. Still as said felt for her a bit as am compassionate in thinking

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"I wouldn't knowingly meet someone cheating on a partner, these are the risks you take unfortunately.

The way she has behaved is not very respectful, but then cheating on her husband isn't either.

It's shady behaviour on both counts.

I am very open I am married and my wife knows I meet others. We are very comfortable with that. Does the other party not take most of blame in telling me wanted this. Yes agree I have responsibility .

I meant shady behaviour on her part, obviously felt guilty about cheating and deflected any blame away from herself.

This is what I don't like, the lack of taking any responsibility for her own actions.

But I'd still say to stay away from those cheating op,go for people like you, who meet with their partners full knowledge. "

Thank you. Will think carefully next time. It’s hard though when someone does this and you like wives

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
19 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

You had a part in putting yourself in this situation, that's the bit you should own, lesson don't enable cheating....

As ppl love to look out the window rather than the mirror when caught out

Mr

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"You had a part in putting yourself in this situation, that's the bit you should own, lesson don't enable cheating....

As ppl love to look out the window rather than the mirror when caught out

Mr "

Thank you. A lot to think about. I started swinging in days before internet. In many ways it was less complicated

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
19 weeks ago

Derby

Why would you be surprised, that someone who lies to the person they’re supposed to respect most in the world, treated you badly?

If someone shows you their true character, believe them.

HW

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By *rSuave88Man
19 weeks ago

Mirfield


"Why would you be surprised, that someone who lies to the person they’re supposed to respect most in the world, treated you badly?

If someone shows you their true character, believe them.

HW "

I couldnt have put it better myself. So many bad eggs out there.

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By *punk n gushCouple
19 weeks ago

deal

Meet a certain couple 2 or 3 times all seemed good at first very nice and polite had a family emergency come upahad to cancel a meet at short notice geninue reason for cancelling and the male half of said couple turned physco started being really abusive and nasty we kept blocking them they just kept channumbers and accounts had to involve police in end

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester

I'm just cynical. You can never know for sure other people's circumstances. I appreciate honesty, I like to know where I stand. Do I MAKE people cheat? Absolutely not but if I'm attracted to someone in a relationship, will I reject them? No. OP, as others have said, she's just blaming you because she doesn't want to take the blame. Is she saying you dragged her on fab as well? Quite pathetic. Just block and move on.

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"Meet a certain couple 2 or 3 times all seemed good at first very nice and polite had a family emergency come upahad to cancel a meet at short notice geninue reason for cancelling and the male half of said couple turned physco started being really abusive and nasty we kept blocking them they just kept channumbers and accounts had to involve police in end "

Sorry to hear that. It’s very disappointing people behave like that. I like to think of others and we all have good reasons can’t meet at short notice. Can be disappointing but think of others as they might have greater issues

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"I'm just cynical. You can never know for sure other people's circumstances. I appreciate honesty, I like to know where I stand. Do I MAKE people cheat? Absolutely not but if I'm attracted to someone in a relationship, will I reject them? No. OP, as others have said, she's just blaming you because she doesn't want to take the blame. Is she saying you dragged her on fab as well? Quite pathetic. Just block and move on."

Thank you. Yes I am not impressed but do feel for her. Maybe I should not be as so many lovely people here. Not all about meets

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

19 weeks ago

East Sussex


"She was keen. Her husband ((allegedly) found out. She blamed you.

So she did something wrong but blamed you for allowing her to do it. Hmm.

Yes exactly. Would not mind if she took on some responsibility for her actions. She seemed to think all me. Still as said felt for her a bit as am compassionate in thinking"

Compassion is one thing but people need to accept the consequences of their actions. If her husband actually did find out and it's not just an excuse

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"Why would you be surprised, that someone who lies to the person they’re supposed to respect most in the world, treated you badly?

If someone shows you their true character, believe them.

HW

I couldnt have put it better myself. So many bad eggs out there. "

Good points to consider in future both of you. Maybe I have been too trusting in what others tell me. Thank you

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By *punk n gushCouple
19 weeks ago

deal


"Meet a certain couple 2 or 3 times all seemed good at first very nice and polite had a family emergency come upahad to cancel a meet at short notice geninue reason for cancelling and the male half of said couple turned physco started being really abusive and nasty we kept blocking them they just kept channumbers and accounts had to involve police in end

Sorry to hear that. It’s very disappointing people behave like that. I like to think of others and we all have good reasons can’t meet at short notice. Can be disappointing but think of others as they might have greater issues

"

Excatly we never cancel lightly but this was a very serious reason and very upsetting reason but sadly they didn't understand but end of the day its there loss not ours

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"Meet a certain couple 2 or 3 times all seemed good at first very nice and polite had a family emergency come upahad to cancel a meet at short notice geninue reason for cancelling and the male half of said couple turned physco started being really abusive and nasty we kept blocking them they just kept channumbers and accounts had to involve police in end

Sorry to hear that. It’s very disappointing people behave like that. I like to think of others and we all have good reasons can’t meet at short notice. Can be disappointing but think of others as they might have greater issues

Excatly we never cancel lightly but this was a very serious reason and very upsetting reason but sadly they didn't understand but end of the day its there loss not ours "

Agree entirely. Hope everything was ok on reason. That’s the most important thing and rest does not mater. If others don’t appreciate then it shows they not considerate

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By * F 2018Couple
19 weeks ago

shropshire


"Personally I wouldn't meet anyone cheating & it's the risk you take.

This is fun & hurting people isn't fun.

Mrs "

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By *punk n gushCouple
19 weeks ago

deal


"Meet a certain couple 2 or 3 times all seemed good at first very nice and polite had a family emergency come upahad to cancel a meet at short notice geninue reason for cancelling and the male half of said couple turned physco started being really abusive and nasty we kept blocking them they just kept channumbers and accounts had to involve police in end

Sorry to hear that. It’s very disappointing people behave like that. I like to think of others and we all have good reasons can’t meet at short notice. Can be disappointing but think of others as they might have greater issues

Excatly we never cancel lightly but this was a very serious reason and very upsetting reason but sadly they didn't understand but end of the day its there loss not ours

Agree entirely. Hope everything was ok on reason. That’s the most important thing and rest does not mater. If others don’t appreciate then it shows they not considerate "

Thankyou but no sadly on the reason for cancellation it wasn't a good outcome

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By *ellroseWoman
19 weeks ago

Brum

I wouldn’t meet a guy who was attached and he’s partner didn’t know as done it once and it caused too much drama

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"Meet a certain couple 2 or 3 times all seemed good at first very nice and polite had a family emergency come upahad to cancel a meet at short notice geninue reason for cancelling and the male half of said couple turned physco started being really abusive and nasty we kept blocking them they just kept channumbers and accounts had to involve police in end

Sorry to hear that. It’s very disappointing people behave like that. I like to think of others and we all have good reasons can’t meet at short notice. Can be disappointing but think of others as they might have greater issues

Excatly we never cancel lightly but this was a very serious reason and very upsetting reason but sadly they didn't understand but end of the day its there loss not ours

Agree entirely. Hope everything was ok on reason. That’s the most important thing and rest does not mater. If others don’t appreciate then it shows they not considerate

Thankyou but no sadly on the reason for cancellation it wasn't a good outcome "

Sorry to hear that. Take care. Xxx. Wishing you better with others

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
19 weeks ago

London


"I wouldn’t meet a guy who was attached and he’s partner didn’t know as done it once and it caused too much drama "

My wife knows and she is comfortable with that. It was wife I met who had issue

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London

Thank you for all you comments and help. I do love my wife meets and it would be hard to stop as I am an addicted if honest. Currently I have three meets am working on that look promising. Two would be with hub there so should not be an issue. The other one is another wife who says playing solo and not telling her hub. I have spoken to her on mobile and we are both keen to take further when we can arrange meet on my work travels. I do want this one to go better. Any further thoughts. My recent meet was no issue as her hub knew. Might have some more verifies coming as well

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By *icecouple561Couple
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18 weeks ago

East Sussex

^^ I don't understand why you would meet someone whose husband doesn't know after feeling so bad about the one that found out. You have meets arranged where the guy knows as far you're aware why not just stick to them?

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18 weeks ago


"Thank you for all you comments and help. I do love my wife meets and it would be hard to stop as I am an addicted if honest. Currently I have three meets am working on that look promising. Two would be with hub there so should not be an issue. The other one is another wife who says playing solo and not telling her hub. I have spoken to her on mobile and we are both keen to take further when we can arrange meet on my work travels. I do want this one to go better. Any further thoughts. My recent meet was no issue as her hub knew. Might have some more verifies coming as well"

Advice, given your OP: don't meet the sneaky one, stick with the ones whose hubby will be present or is aware and consenting. Spare yourself the trouble.

I can understand addicted, but you clearly have no problems lining up meet after meet with legit wives and couples. Why not stick with those?

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"^^ I don't understand why you would meet someone whose husband doesn't know after feeling so bad about the one that found out. You have meets arranged where the guy knows as far you're aware why not just stick to them?"

Agree that’s my dilemma. I have a craving for wives and not sure can stop. I know I probably shouldn’t with some but when they are keen it’s hard to resist. I do say no when it’s clear they are not genuinely wanting but it’s hard to tell

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"Thank you for all you comments and help. I do love my wife meets and it would be hard to stop as I am an addicted if honest. Currently I have three meets am working on that look promising. Two would be with hub there so should not be an issue. The other one is another wife who says playing solo and not telling her hub. I have spoken to her on mobile and we are both keen to take further when we can arrange meet on my work travels. I do want this one to go better. Any further thoughts. My recent meet was no issue as her hub knew. Might have some more verifies coming as well

Advice, given your OP: don't meet the sneaky one, stick with the ones whose hubby will be present or is aware and consenting. Spare yourself the trouble.

I can understand addicted, but you clearly have no problems lining up meet after meet with legit wives and couples. Why not stick with those?"

True but there is something that is so naughty with a hub not knowing. I know I should not and it’s risky but so lovely when works

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By *icecouple561Couple
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18 weeks ago

East Sussex


"^^ I don't understand why you would meet someone whose husband doesn't know after feeling so bad about the one that found out. You have meets arranged where the guy knows as far you're aware why not just stick to them?

Agree that’s my dilemma. I have a craving for wives and not sure can stop. I know I probably shouldn’t with some but when they are keen it’s hard to resist. I do say no when it’s clear they are not genuinely wanting but it’s hard to tell "

That's concerning. Perhaps as a rule of thumb you could refuse to meet if their husband is unaware. You must at least be able to exercise that degree of control. Saying you find it hard to resist is no defence and saying you feel bad after the event doesn't excuse your actions.

I'm assuming by the way that you're referring to women who aren't sure they want to cheat on their husbands.

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"^^ I don't understand why you would meet someone whose husband doesn't know after feeling so bad about the one that found out. You have meets arranged where the guy knows as far you're aware why not just stick to them?

Agree that’s my dilemma. I have a craving for wives and not sure can stop. I know I probably shouldn’t with some but when they are keen it’s hard to resist. I do say no when it’s clear they are not genuinely wanting but it’s hard to tell

That's concerning. Perhaps as a rule of thumb you could refuse to meet if their husband is unaware. You must at least be able to exercise that degree of control. Saying you find it hard to resist is no defence and saying you feel bad after the event doesn't excuse your actions.

I'm assuming by the way that you're referring to women who aren't sure they want to cheat on their husbands. "

No my problem is one women said she was comfortable cheating on her husband and she said enjoyed meet. She regretted later. If she said she was unsure before would not have gone through wit it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

18 weeks ago

East Sussex


"^^ I don't understand why you would meet someone whose husband doesn't know after feeling so bad about the one that found out. You have meets arranged where the guy knows as far you're aware why not just stick to them?

Agree that’s my dilemma. I have a craving for wives and not sure can stop. I know I probably shouldn’t with some but when they are keen it’s hard to resist. I do say no when it’s clear they are not genuinely wanting but it’s hard to tell

That's concerning. Perhaps as a rule of thumb you could refuse to meet if their husband is unaware. You must at least be able to exercise that degree of control. Saying you find it hard to resist is no defence and saying you feel bad after the event doesn't excuse your actions.

I'm assuming by the way that you're referring to women who aren't sure they want to cheat on their husbands.

No my problem is one women said she was comfortable cheating on her husband and she said enjoyed meet. She regretted later. If she said she was unsure before would not have gone through wit it"

If that genuinely is the only problem you have in this scenario then it's easily solved

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago


"Thank you for all you comments and help. I do love my wife meets and it would be hard to stop as I am an addicted if honest. Currently I have three meets am working on that look promising. Two would be with hub there so should not be an issue. The other one is another wife who says playing solo and not telling her hub. I have spoken to her on mobile and we are both keen to take further when we can arrange meet on my work travels. I do want this one to go better. Any further thoughts. My recent meet was no issue as her hub knew. Might have some more verifies coming as well

Advice, given your OP: don't meet the sneaky one, stick with the ones whose hubby will be present or is aware and consenting. Spare yourself the trouble.

I can understand addicted, but you clearly have no problems lining up meet after meet with legit wives and couples. Why not stick with those?

True but there is something that is so naughty with a hub not knowing. I know I should not and it’s risky but so lovely when works"

I also understand that, but knowingly going into that kind of situation and then being unhappy with the (very obvious) fallout doesn't make much sense. 🤔

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"^^ I don't understand why you would meet someone whose husband doesn't know after feeling so bad about the one that found out. You have meets arranged where the guy knows as far you're aware why not just stick to them?

Agree that’s my dilemma. I have a craving for wives and not sure can stop. I know I probably shouldn’t with some but when they are keen it’s hard to resist. I do say no when it’s clear they are not genuinely wanting but it’s hard to tell

That's concerning. Perhaps as a rule of thumb you could refuse to meet if their husband is unaware. You must at least be able to exercise that degree of control. Saying you find it hard to resist is no defence and saying you feel bad after the event doesn't excuse your actions.

I'm assuming by the way that you're referring to women who aren't sure they want to cheat on their husbands.

No my problem is one women said she was comfortable cheating on her husband and she said enjoyed meet. She regretted later. If she said she was unsure before would not have gone through wit it

If that genuinely is the only problem you have in this scenario then it's easily solved "

True and thank you. Will speak further to wife might meet . She is easy to speak to and seems genuine. I want to respect what she likes or not

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By *trueceltMan
18 weeks ago

Bristol

every man and woman is different 'post nut'. In other words we're all slightly different after an orgasm. It's why cuckolds rarely let themselves cum. Try factoring in yours and the otner person's 'post nut clarity' before making decisions. It probably won't make a scrap of difference but a useful habit nonetheless.

as for your predicament OP I'd say blocky blocky is the way forward and maybe keep the curtains drawn for a few days if they know where you live

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By *hesubtlegentMan
18 weeks ago

surrey

The wife had a guilty conscience and blamed you. Nice bit of gaslighting there. You like to fuck married women, I know the buzz from that. Yes it’s a bigger buzz when their partner doesn’t know but that’s on them. You did all you could to make sure she was ok going through it.

She will do it again with someone else. I wouldn’t stress about it…

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"every man and woman is different 'post nut'. In other words we're all slightly different after an orgasm. It's why cuckolds rarely let themselves cum. Try factoring in yours and the otner person's 'post nut clarity' before making decisions. It probably won't make a scrap of difference but a useful habit nonetheless.

as for your predicament OP I'd say blocky blocky is the way forward and maybe keep the curtains drawn for a few days if they know where you live "

Thank you. Yes have not given as much consideration to feelings afterwords and I should do that. No does not know where I live. Phew!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

18 weeks ago

East Sussex


"^^ I don't understand why you would meet someone whose husband doesn't know after feeling so bad about the one that found out. You have meets arranged where the guy knows as far you're aware why not just stick to them?

Agree that’s my dilemma. I have a craving for wives and not sure can stop. I know I probably shouldn’t with some but when they are keen it’s hard to resist. I do say no when it’s clear they are not genuinely wanting but it’s hard to tell

That's concerning. Perhaps as a rule of thumb you could refuse to meet if their husband is unaware. You must at least be able to exercise that degree of control. Saying you find it hard to resist is no defence and saying you feel bad after the event doesn't excuse your actions.

I'm assuming by the way that you're referring to women who aren't sure they want to cheat on their husbands.

No my problem is one women said she was comfortable cheating on her husband and she said enjoyed meet. She regretted later. If she said she was unsure before would not have gone through wit it

If that genuinely is the only problem you have in this scenario then it's easily solved

True and thank you. Will speak further to wife might meet . She is easy to speak to and seems genuine. I want to respect what she likes or not "

Yeah she's probably well practiced at seeming genuine.

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London

Am sure you are right. You are more sensible than me. Thank you again

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

18 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Am sure you are right. You are more sensible than me. Thank you again "

I am deeply cynical in certain circumstances .

Sensible sometimes

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"Am sure you are right. You are more sensible than me. Thank you again

I am deeply cynical in certain circumstances .

Sensible sometimes "

We all make mistakes xxx

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London

I spoke to the wife a short while ago and we have decided to meet for a drink and how goes. Hope it goes well this time

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
18 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Some people never learn 💜

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By *issmorganWoman
18 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"I spoke to the wife a short while ago and we have decided to meet for a drink and how goes. Hope it goes well this time"

I hope it's not a decision you come to regret op.

I'd stay well away from someone like that.

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"I spoke to the wife a short while ago and we have decided to meet for a drink and how goes. Hope it goes well this time

I hope it's not a decision you come to regret op.

I'd stay well away from someone like that. "

Hope so as well. She has such sexy voice which attracts me

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"Some people never learn 💜"

I know we guys have brain in cock

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

18 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Some people never learn 💜

I know we guys have brain in cock"

*some* guys

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"Some people never learn 💜

I know we guys have brain in cock

*some* guys"

True xxx

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By *neeyedwillieMan
18 weeks ago

Darlington

No sympathy except for the husband.

I hope he wakes up, sees her for what she really is and divorces her.

As for the OP, you put yourself in this position. You knew what was happening and still kept participating. Is it your fault she cheated, no but you could have had your own moral compass and not rubbed another man's rhubarb. You should have walked away. You didn't. You reap what you sow and you have no idea what that man is capable of.

Smart people stay away from drama.

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"No sympathy except for the husband.

I hope he wakes up, sees her for what she really is and divorces her.

As for the OP, you put yourself in this position. You knew what was happening and still kept participating. Is it your fault she cheated, no but you could have had your own moral compass and not rubbed another man's rhubarb. You should have walked away. You didn't. You reap what you sow and you have no idea what that man is capable of.

Smart people stay away from drama.

"

Thank you and appreciate what you are saying. We all go into this with no intention to hurt anyone but can see it happens sometimes. I have met others who really enjoyed and that is for them. I try not to judge others

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London

At least absolutely no regrets on latest meet. Great fun. Another coming soon. Faith restored

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By *evilswhoDareCouple
18 weeks ago

West yorkshire


"I have met some lovely people on here and had a lot of fun. However I recently met a wife from here. She was a nice lady and we chatted for long time till she was ready to meet. She told me her husband did not know she had met from here. I did my usual in asking if she really wanted to go through with this. She assured me she had no problem and definitely wanted sex without her hub knowing. I am always careful to check what like or not and fully respect. A few days later she contacted me and told me her hub had found out she cheated and it was my fault. I was a bit taken aback by that as she clearly wanted the meet and seemed to enjoy. Yes clearly I was a party to this but she started the meet and said she wanted. I felt a bit bad for her and wonder if others had experienced and how dealt with. Yes my wife knows before others accuse me"

By the sounds of things if it wasn’t you it would have been someone else , sounds like she’s trying to off load her guilt ………. It takes 2 to tango ,

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By *parkle1974Woman
18 weeks ago

Leeds


"People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

Thank you. That is what I thought but do not like when people hurt. Not sure what else could have done"

You could have refused to meet her knowing she was cheating on her husband

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

18 weeks ago

East Sussex


"People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

Thank you. That is what I thought but do not like when people hurt. Not sure what else could have done

You could have refused to meet her knowing she was cheating on her husband "

If I help someone rob a bank can I be excused from blame if I ask them if they're sure they want to go through with it first

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By *parkle1974Woman
18 weeks ago

Leeds


"People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

Thank you. That is what I thought but do not like when people hurt. Not sure what else could have done

You could have refused to meet her knowing she was cheating on her husband

If I help someone rob a bank can I be excused from blame if I ask them if they're sure they want to go through with it first "

Nope, still as guilty as them

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

18 weeks ago

East Sussex


"People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

Thank you. That is what I thought but do not like when people hurt. Not sure what else could have done

You could have refused to meet her knowing she was cheating on her husband

If I help someone rob a bank can I be excused from blame if I ask them if they're sure they want to go through with it first

Nope, still as guilty as them "

Damn! There's my holiday fund down the drain

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By *londebiguyMan
18 weeks ago

Southport

It's her situation.

She had a choice.

She has to accept her own responsibility.

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By *londebiguyMan
18 weeks ago

Southport


"People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

Thank you. That is what I thought but do not like when people hurt. Not sure what else could have done

You could have refused to meet her knowing she was cheating on her husband "

He gave her that option.

Not his responsibility if she is in that situation.

Maybe she loves drama.

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By *rgasmicChemistryCouple
18 weeks ago

east coast


"Personally I wouldn't meet anyone cheating & it's the risk you take.

This is fun & hurting people isn't fun.

Mrs "

High 5 to this X J

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
18 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"At least absolutely no regrets on latest meet. Great fun. Another coming soon. Faith restored"

What another thread, can't wait for part 2 of the husband, went psych and chopped of my balls...

Mr

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By *parkle1974Woman
18 weeks ago

Leeds


"People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

Thank you. That is what I thought but do not like when people hurt. Not sure what else could have done

You could have refused to meet her knowing she was cheating on her husband

He gave her that option.

Not his responsibility if she is in that situation.

Maybe she loves drama.

"

Typically someone thinking with what's between their legs rather than what's between their ears

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
18 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

Thank you. That is what I thought but do not like when people hurt. Not sure what else could have done

You could have refused to meet her knowing she was cheating on her husband

He gave her that option.

Not his responsibility if she is in that situation.

Maybe she loves drama.

"

It kinda is his responsibility as well, he has enabled the cheating just as much as her, and entertained it, simply cuz he was getting his dick wet, and probably thought there would be no cum.back on him

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Was she meet verified on here?

To me it sounds like she got cold feet and didn’t want to go through with it.

Is she still active on the site?

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London

Sorry if I have offended anyone. We all enjoyed and this site is about this sort of thing. I know others think otherwise and understand that

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"Was she meet verified on here?

To me it sounds like she got cold feet and didn’t want to go through with it.

Is she still active on the site?"

Yes she had two verifications. She did meet me. As said I was very careful to make sure she wanted to do this and ask her what she liked or not. It was a few days after she said she should not have done. Not sure what else could have done although as some said maybe should not have met her unless her hub knew. Would she have told truth about that?

She has hidden her profile now

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By *umagain58 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

London


"People have a habit pf blaming everyone else but themselves.

You were even considerate enough to ask her if she really wanted to go through with this. You did nothing wrong, in my book.

My 2c.

Thank you. That is what I thought but do not like when people hurt. Not sure what else could have done

You could have refused to meet her knowing she was cheating on her husband

He gave her that option.

Not his responsibility if she is in that situation.

Maybe she loves drama.

It kinda is his responsibility as well, he has enabled the cheating just as much as her, and entertained it, simply cuz he was getting his dick wet, and probably thought there would be no cum.back on him

Mr "

Absolutely I have responsibility. What does not seem right is she said all my fault. At the time she was very willing to do this and encourage me. Yeah maybe could have resisted

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