FabSwingers.com forum: Do your kids know your a swinger?

By *ondonpride69 OP Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

All 3 of ours do, it's something we both discussed about being open and honest with our children. In fairness, they didn't judge us, they just wanted reasuring that we were happy (which we were/are.

It's got to that stage where they kids want to see where we go, one has already been. Having a birthday party for our youngest(21st) at the VA on 27th April. Would you ever take your kids even for the social asspect to a swingers club?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

My daughter does....

My son doesnt...

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

" Would you ever take your kids even for the social asspect to a swingers club?"

No..

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By *ondonpride69 OP Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"My daughter does....

My son doesnt..."

Do you think your son would see the same as your daughter? Our son took it the best to be honest.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"My daughter does....

My son doesnt...

Do you think your son would see the same as your daughter? Our son took it the best to be honest."

Dont think my son would be bothered, just never had reason to tell him...

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

My daughter knows because last New Year she asked us where we were going....

I knew she wouldnt know what CJ's was so I told her we going to club called CJ's in town.....

Next day she asked me..."Whats a greedy girl"?

She only went online to check out this club!!

She thought a greedy girl was a woman that ate too much!! LOL

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

My daughter is fully aware of what I do. She is adult enough to handle it at 31.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"My daughter is fully aware of what I do. She is adult enough to handle it at 31."

Agree...

Mine is 27

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All 3 of ours do, it's something we both discussed about being open and honest with our children. In fairness, they didn't judge us, they just wanted reasuring that we were happy (which we were/are.

Wow, 3 kids all past their teens and your looking amazing

Lucky hubby!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't got kids but if I did I wouldn't tell them

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

Hope fully not.

if they go on our computer fab is the most looked web page so any thing is possible

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Noooooo my girl is only 11 def not a conversation we'll be having anytime soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Would you ever take your kids even for the social asspect to a swingers club?"

No! Never! That's our time and our circle of friends

Billy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My two adult kids know, my youngest doesn't.

I feel no need to take them to clubs or open up any more to them. I don't ask about their sex life they have no need to know more about mine.

After all they know I have had sex or they wouldn't be here .... no need for them to know anything more though.

Each successive generation think they invented sex, let them invent group sex and kinks for themselves.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

No. And god forbid they ever flux out...

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I wouldn't dream of telling my kids all about my sex life. Just as i wouldn't dream of wanting to know about theirs when they are old enough to have one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our 3 kids are still to young to even have that conversation with. Don't think I would tell them later either, this is our private time and I don't think they even want to hear about their parents sexlife;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When ours are older we will NOT be telling them. They have no need to know the details of our sex lives so why would we tell them?

On a related note, if either of our parents felt the need to discuss their sex lives with us,we would find it uncomfortable.

It is nothing to do with us being ashamed or prudish, we just think that there are somethings that should be private between parents and children.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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"When ours are older we will NOT be telling them. They have no need to know the details of our sex lives so why would we tell them?

On a related note, if either of our parents felt the need to discuss their sex lives with us,we would find it uncomfortable.

It is nothing to do with us being ashamed or prudish, we just think that there are somethings that should be private between parents and children."

I think anyone that sits their kids down and tells them about their sex life is wrong....

But if my kids found out, and 1 of them has....I wont deny it and I sure as hell dont discuss it with them....

Gawd, she would be horrified if i did!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always had an open honest relationship with my mum and could talk to her about anything but she never just told me things if i asked about stuff she would be honest. i would like to think i would be like that with my children when i have them. if they ever asked or found out i would be honest but would not just sit them down and say 'guess what im a swinger' lol

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"When ours are older we will NOT be telling them. They have no need to know the details of our sex lives so why would we tell them?

On a related note, if either of our parents felt the need to discuss their sex lives with us,we would find it uncomfortable.

It is nothing to do with us being ashamed or prudish, we just think that there are somethings that should be private between parents and children.

I think anyone that sits their kids down and tells them about their sex life is wrong....

But if my kids found out, and 1 of them has....I wont deny it and I sure as hell dont discuss it with them....

Gawd, she would be horrified if i did!

My 'child' is very much an adult. I certainly did not 'sit down' and tell her. It simply came out in conversation. She knows I meet men off the net but that is about it. I see no problem with that - and so much the better if someone does confront her after seeing me online on whatever site (I am on a few) to tell her. At least she will be able to say she knows and be cool about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of ours found out and promptly told his brothers and sisters. At the time we deleted our account.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Im with you 100% on this one....

People seem to think our children are just that, children...

Both mine are adults...

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

In my 30s when I was single and clubbing she never knew what I was up to. She was far too young to know.

However, we have a very close, open and honest relationship. So discussing sexual matters is never an issue. And she knows she can come to me as a reasonable, and non-judgemental, sounding board.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

My daughter knows. It comes in handy to have someone who knows when I am meeting someone off here, and she makes sure I have condoms

I understand people wanting to keep it to themselves but me and her have a pretty close relationship and discuss things that me and my mum never could.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"My daughter knows. It comes in handy to have someone who knows when I am meeting someone off here, and she makes sure I have condoms

I understand people wanting to keep it to themselves but me and her have a pretty close relationship and discuss things that me and my mum never could."

Quite! In fact, my daughter is also on a number of sites - a fact I found out when we were having a discussion. She has seen one guy a number of times for social meets but is inviting him to her place tonight. She isn't interested in doing what I do but doesn't want a relationship. I think she's looking for a 'friend with benefits' but not really interested in lots of men.

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By *ondonpride69 OP Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"When ours are older we will NOT be telling them. They have no need to know the details of our sex lives so why would we tell them?

On a related note, if either of our parents felt the need to discuss their sex lives with us,we would find it uncomfortable.

It is nothing to do with us being ashamed or prudish, we just think that there are somethings that should be private between parents and children.

I think anyone that sits their kids down and tells them about their sex life is wrong....

But if my kids found out, and 1 of them has....I wont deny it and I sure as hell dont discuss it with them....

Gawd, she would be horrified if i did!

Do i go into the ins and outs no. (tony by the way), If i'm not honest with my kids (ok adult kids) how can i ever expect my kids to be honest with me. works out both ways in my book. One of them Found out by mistake, cleo left the computer on. It was far better to "cough up" than to lie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do hope not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My adult children do, my younger ones do not, my 15 year old I think may have worked out what xotix is though. As apparently one of her friends parents go. She hasn't asked me direct.

My older daughter did decide to come along to a club and it was very difficult. Made life complicated. Thankfully she hasn't been swinging for a while now.

I will not deny it, but it's a lifestyle choice and that's all they need to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine do not know.

But I believe in each to their own. If someone feels they can talk to their adult children about things and have a safety net with them by saying they are meeting someone than thats a great relationship to have. I just prefer mine not to know

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By *o drama queenWoman
over a year ago

Abergele

"Nope. I wouldn't dream of telling my kids all about my sex life. Just as i wouldn't dream of wanting to know about theirs when they are old enough to have one!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Our kids are in their twenties. If either of them needed to know we would tell them but I can't think of how that would arise.

We discuss sex in general with them but allow them their privacy just as they allow us ours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My youngest is 28 and we enjoy a close and open relationship but never would I feel the need to tell her or her older sisters private details about my sex life....why would I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My son does, all he said to me was that my partner was to keep me safe and be safe myself and always put boundaries in place!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine dont know. Dont really want them to.

Im sure they have their own fun. They dont need to know about mine

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By *coobyroo218Couple
over a year ago

Guernsey

I think if she ever asked we would be truth full as we have been about everything else in life.

Would not tell her outright as no need too, what we do is our business till she needs to know different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mind don't and to be honest I don't understand why anyone would tell their kids who they do and don't shag, that's not me saying people shouldn't just as a mother I cant understands why you would, I cant imagine sitting my kids down and telling them I shag random strangers off internet sites, its just not a conversation that I associate ever having with my children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone on Fab knows I'm a swinger...

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

my son is aware I'm on this site, he saw the site on my laptop, but isn't aware who/when/if I meet anybody. He knows I chat to people and thats all he needs to know for now x

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By *eekenderzCouple
over a year ago

London

Me & Mr Weekenderz are fairly open about what we do and many of our friends know. However, my kids are still only 10 and 13 and the one thing I worry about is that they get a sniff of what's going on, misunderstand it and reach the conclusion that one of us is having an affair. And then get their knickers in a twist about it but bottle it up. So I'm being as careful as I can, but with email, web, WhatsApp, text - it's quite difficult to be 100% covert....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh i would die if mine found out, they think im a nun. lol

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

No they dont nor will they ...they are my children and o dont discuss my sex life with them nor would i expect them to discuss theirs with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh i would die if mine found out, they think im a nun. lol

haha mine are the same, I split from their dad 4 years ago and they honestly think I havnt had sex in that time

my eldest keeps trying to set me up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. It's not something i would discuss with them either!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh i would die if mine found out, they think im a nun. lol

haha mine are the same, I split from their dad 4 years ago and they honestly think I havnt had sex in that time

my eldest keeps trying to set me up lol"
lol

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

Our children range from 13 to 7, so no they don't know. I doubt we'll ever tell them, but never say never. However our daughter found Friskys naughty party dresses. She said to me I hope you don't let mummy go out dressed like that...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own, but personally think that hosting a 21st party for your son in a swinging cub is crossing way too many boundaries...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Each to their own, but personally think that hosting a 21st party for your son in a swinging cub is crossing way too many boundaries...

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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Gotta laugh at the ones saying " will not discuss our/my sex life with them"...

Its nothing to do with discussing your sex life!

My daughter knows. Do we sit and talk about our sex lives? NO, we bloody dont!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My eldest knows, but we don't discuss details. But she does like to know where I'm going and who with, and also wants a text when I get home to know that I'm back safely

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Gotta laugh at the ones saying " will not discuss our/my sex life with them"...

Its nothing to do with discussing your sex life!

My daughter knows. Do we sit and talk about our sex lives? NO, we bloody dont!!

why laugh? Your meets have nothing to do with your sex life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope my son don't but he only ten so no need to tell him

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By *amieandjulieCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

No chance.

Our sex life is ours !!

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By *amieandjulieCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Each to their own, but personally think that hosting a 21st party for your son in a swinging cub is crossing way too many boundaries...

Couldn't agree more.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i dont have kids but if i did i cant see any reason to tell them, just as i havent told my mum or dad.

i certainly couldnt se me arranging a party at a swingers club for my kid. most wouldnt want to be seen clubbing with their mum and dad, let alone be seen shagging by them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours kids two young but when they older enough I dont know if we would tell them they don't need to know its our time but if they ever asked don't know what I say but got loads of time to think about it x

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

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why laugh? Your meets have nothing to do with your sex life?"

Eh???

The Q was...Do your kids know? (them knowing about it doesnt mean you talk to them about it)

NOT...Do you discuss your sex life with your kids?

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Nope she's only 12 although she did find the site on the iPad one day as the crafty bleeder had hacked the pincode for it!! I told her I was doing research for work and she believed me!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"All 3 of ours do, it's something we both discussed about being open and honest with our children. In fairness, they didn't judge us, they just wanted reasuring that we were happy (which we were/are.

I'm very close to my children.

However, they do not know my net worth, they don't know how much money I have in the bank, they don't know how many times a day I evacuate my bowels, they do not know if I've had sex since divorcing their father.

My daughters are 21, 25 and 30, married or with partners and I don't know, or want to know, about their sex lives.

For my family we have self imposed boundaries and believe our "private" life is just that.

Personally, I don't see how involving your children in your sexual activities equates to being "open and honest".

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"When ours are older we will NOT be telling them. They have no need to know the details of our sex lives so why would we tell them?

On a related note, if either of our parents felt the need to discuss their sex lives with us,we would find it uncomfortable.

It is nothing to do with us being ashamed or prudish, we just think that there are somethings that should be private between parents and children."

People after my own heart.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

"Mind don't and to be honest I don't understand why anyone would tell their kids who they do and don't shag, that's not me saying people shouldn't just as a mother I cant understands why you would, I cant imagine sitting my kids down and telling them I shag random strangers off internet sites, its just not a conversation that I associate ever having with my children"

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"When ours are older we will NOT be telling them. They have no need to know the details of our sex lives so why would we tell them?

On a related note, if either of our parents felt the need to discuss their sex lives with us,we would find it uncomfortable.

It is nothing to do with us being ashamed or prudish, we just think that there are somethings that should be private between parents and children.

I think anyone that sits their kids down and tells them about their sex life is wrong....

But if my kids found out, and 1 of them has....I wont deny it and I sure as hell dont discuss it with them....

Gawd, she would be horrified if i did!

Whenever my children have a problem or just want comfort they come to me and their dad.

I've written many times on these forums about the relationship I have with my ex husband, how we and the girls still enjoy days out and they're 21, 25 and 30. We've never missed a birthday, graduation etc. I have two stepsons 36 and 37 whose mum died in February. My girls and their partners all visited her before she died and attended her funeral. The boys came for dinner a few weeks ago: I'm rather proud of us as a family.

We've managed to raise five happy, confident, intelligent, loving kids between the three of us without the need to discuss our sex lives: ever!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"My youngest is 28 and we enjoy a close and open relationship but never would I feel the need to tell her or her older sisters private details about my sex life....why would I?"

I struggle to understand the need to share your sex life with your kids too.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

^^^^^This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally am with you on this one ... What would their friends say ? Soon be around all the parents talk of the town comes to mind and everyone knowing your business ... I'm just private and have respect for myself and my kids I suppose. My youngest being 21 this year I wouldn't let it even cross my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No my sex life is Private and I wouldn't dream of asking them a out theirs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did my reply to this yesterday, but actually found myself thinking about it last night and needed to add to it.

I can not imagine ANY situation where i would dream of being in a sex club with either my parent or offspring - or any other family member to be honest.

Do either yourselves or your kids play whilst at the club? does it not make things very awkward at least?

also, if you are hosting your sons 21st birthday the the club, does that mean other friends and family will also be attending?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're pretty certain our boys know. In fact our eldest asked us not to speak about our "hobby" when he wanted us to meet his girlfriend's parents, they're a bit posh, lol.

He wasn't more specific so maybe he wants to keep Kate's involvement in the ladies darts team, a secret

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By *tu and ChezCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire

my older children know! my daughter who is 20 asked me if i was bi and when i asked why she said a freind saw my profile on fab (which looking back was probably a bluff) so i didnt deny it but she said im happy if u are and thinks its great i have the confidence to do it......my other son who is 22 suspected we went to rude parties as he put it they joked around in front of my younger two who are 14 and 15 so i guess they know too as well but they dont say anything.

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By *ust_for_laughsCouple
over a year ago

Hinckley

"my older children know! my daughter who is 20 asked me if i was bi and when i asked why she said a freind saw my profile on fab (which looking back was probably a bluff) so i didnt deny it but she said im happy if u are and thinks its great i have the confidence to do it......my other son who is 22 suspected we went to rude parties as he put it they joked around in front of my younger two who are 14 and 15 so i guess they know too as well but they dont say anything. "

We're fairly sure the 30 year old knows and isn't bothered, the 28 year old doesn't know and would be horrified, the 18 year old is blissfully unaware !

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"When ours are older we will NOT be telling them. They have no need to know the details of our sex lives so why would we tell them?

On a related note, if either of our parents felt the need to discuss their sex lives with us,we would find it uncomfortable.

It is nothing to do with us being ashamed or prudish, we just think that there are somethings that should be private between parents and children."
I agree with you - there some (natural) boundaries and this is one of them. That said, my children are aware that I am, they are also aware that I dont agree with swinging until one's kids are older or before having them in the first place. Other than that, we dont discuss it though.

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By *adyH and GrissomCouple
over a year ago

Llantarnum

One of our sons knows, because he's got the habit of dropping in unexpectedly so will txt beforehand to check we're free so he doesn't walk in and see us in a very compromising position lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When ours are older we will NOT be telling them. They have no need to know the details of our sex lives so why would we tell them?

On a related note, if either of our parents felt the need to discuss their sex lives with us,we would find it uncomfortable.

It is nothing to do with us being

ashamed or prudish, we just think that there are somethings that should be

private between parents and children."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot associate with this as I don't have kids so all I can proffer is my experience as a son.

My parents know I sleep with women and men - beyond that they do not need to know the details of my sex life and sexual exploits.

The reason they know is because I tired of answering 'leading questions' and true to form, once they got the answers they sought (or didn't) the questions stopped.

By contrast, I have never felt the need to know about my parents sex lives either as a couple or as singles.

Obviously they have one (or have had one), but that is their business and not mine.

They are my Mum and Dad and that is want to see them as now and how I would like to remember them - as wholesome as apple pie even if that isn't / wasn't the case.

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By *exy6768Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"My youngest is 28 and we enjoy a close and open relationship but never would I feel the need to tell her or her older sisters private details about my sex life....why would I?"

I so agree, all ours are grown up with kids of there own but I would not tell them what goes on.....no need , but everyone to there own

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By *exy6768Couple
over a year ago

manchester

^^^^^This!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My youngest is 28 and we enjoy a close and open relationship but never would I feel the need to tell her or her older sisters private details about my sex life....why would I?

I so agree, all ours are grown up with kids of there own but I would not tell them what goes on.....no need , but everyone to there own

I have to be honest I don't get this close and open relationship with my kids comment, I am very close to my girls, we go out for meals together, we go shopping together I do not however tell them who I meet for sex or where I find them and I do not feel this makes the relationship with my kids any less close than someone who does feel the need to share these details with their kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they know nothing,. Only the people who have recognised me on.here know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My kids dont know and wouldnt tell them or take them to a club if I ever went. They are adults but still a no go area for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why the fuck would you discuss stuff like this with ya kids?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why the fuck would you discuss stuff like this with ya kids?"

cause they have a close relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My (mr) step son (from ex)knows...he lives with me and is now 18 closer to the missus lol, my daughters 12 and I just tell her I'm going out to a club with a big hot tub to chill for the evening lol, but when she is older i don't think I would hide it from her, I try to have a open door with my kids where they feel comfortable enough to tell me anything and everything that way I can advise them, it's only fair for that to work both ways and they know they wouldn't shock me haha, I wouldn't take em to a club though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Would you ever take your kids even for the social asspect to a swingers club?

No! Never! That's our time and our circle of friends

Billy"

Thats exactly how we feel billy... heck my kids range 22-9!! Dont wish any to know....

Elle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"can't believe some of this shit,mick philpott would be proud ha

why would someone who burnt down a house and in the process kiled 6 children be linked to people telling their kids they swing??

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is that all you know about that lowlife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't got kids but if I did I wouldn't tell them "

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Can I just throw in this ...

There is "telling" and tehre is "telling".

One refers to older ie grown up kids being aware that parents have a "different" sex life (ie my kids) and the other is about in my view very inappropriate crossing of boundaries. Hope that helps the discussion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now this is such an interesting topic! Well, the people who are taking it seriously anyway!

Last year I went to a club and was told that a certain (beautiful) young girl working there was the owners daughter... Now I wanted to talk to her all day and night (and ever since!!), but I could just not get out of my head that her parents were the owners of a swingers club and they had her working!! I found it really off putting! I just found it really strange. I've always had very strict parents who would be 100% against sites like this and even though I am in here... That was one rebellious action too far!!!

I blabbering now... But yeah I think it's a little strange!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Can I just throw in this ...

There is "telling" and tehre is "telling".

Absolutely. Both my children know as I didn't want them to find out from someone or something else. I've heard many a tale of people ending up in A&E, one in fetish gear, for my liking. I live on my own and am single, I imagined a conversation something along the lines of;

Nurse: Here are your mothers belongings

Son: What the fuck?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i dnt know, i dont even know if they were swiners or not. did you know him personally?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I am really confused as I simply don't get the connection between Philpott and his crime and "normal" swingers.

I guess the whole issue was brought up through the discussion of whether people tell their kids or not.

Kids are kids until they are 18 years old or so states the law. End of.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Can I just throw in this ...

There is "telling" and tehre is "telling".

Nurse: Here are your mothers belongings

Son: What the fuck?"
At last - phew

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Can I just throw in this ...

There is "telling" and tehre is "telling".

Nurse: Here are your mothers belongings

Son: What the fuck?"

lol! I guess many a child has had a shock going through deceased parents possessions, I know ours will be surprised by our photo albums

. Hope they sit back and say "bloody good on them"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have kids and personally dont think I ever would. The way I look.at it is I never ever wanna know bout my parents behind closed doors antics and would be mortified if they discussed it with me even at 32!! Dont wanna know. If they are happy that's all that counts. Dont need to know further or details.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I cannot associate with this as I don't have kids so all I can proffer is my experience as a son.

My parents know I sleep with women and men - beyond that they do not need to know the details of my sex life and sexual exploits.

The reason they know is because I tired of answering 'leading questions' and true to form, once they got the answers they sought (or didn't) the questions stopped.

By contrast, I have never felt the need to know about my parents sex lives either as a couple or as singles.

Obviously they have one (or have had one), but that is their business and not mine.

They are my Mum and Dad and that is want to see them as now and how I would like to remember them - as wholesome as apple pie even if that isn't / wasn't the case."

You don't need to be a parent to have an opinion.

As a parent I want my children to see me as wholesome as apple pie to the point they think I found them under a mulberry bush after being dropped off by a stork!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"My youngest is 28 and we enjoy a close and open relationship but never would I feel the need to tell her or her older sisters private details about my sex life....why would I?

I so agree, all ours are grown up with kids of there own but I would not tell them what goes on.....no need , but everyone to there own

I think it's said by some to convey a superior approach to parenting. Look at me, I'm so liberal and proud of my promiscuous, hedonistic lifestyle I can tell my kids, whether they wish to know or not.

Implying those of us with boundaries we don't wish to cross are stuffed shirts for denying our offspring the salacious details of our couplings with strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My kids are both adults and absolutely no way would I discuss my sex life with them or any details in relation to swinging. Whilst I openly admit I'm a hypocrite, I would not promote swinging to my boys as I would be aghast if they wanted to do it.

The two of us are reliving our youths, midlife crisis kind of thing I guess, doing crazy and outrageous things in this bizarre hobby we are enjoying now. My boys are young and impressionable, both having fun going to clubs, being with mates, buying mods for cars, going on holiday with mates, the eldest saving and waiting for his new home to be built. This is what I believe youngsters should be doing, not going to sex clubs copping off with middle aged couples, getting involved in gangbangs, etc. Whilst in type I've made swinging sound seedy and of course I know it isn't as I've discovered some wonderful things about it. But I'm older, had the knocks in life, lost that naivety, have a better understanding of human relationships and I'm emotionally stable to deal with it. And I struggle with some aspects of it at my age so don't want that kind of lifestyle for my kids at this point in their young lives.

I would never promote swinging clubs or hold parties there and invite my kids. Neither would I ever introduce swinging couples to my kids.

There are some people that go out clubbing and drinking with their kids, I don't agree with that either. I have of course had conversations about sex with my boys, but these are conducted in an educational way from questions they've asked and its talked about in broad terms and never personal.

My kids are not my mates and I will always have a parent / child relationship with them, even when the eldest is 50 and I'm 72

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"Implying those of us with boundaries we don't wish to cross are stuffed shirts for denying our offspring the salacious details of our couplings with strangers.

...and implying that in telling our children we are swingers equates to telling them every selacious detail says we are without parenting skills and morals?

My children know I swing. They do not know what I actually do and I would not tell them if they asked but I have debunked the stereotypical image of swingers.

There are plenty of people out there who live a swinging lifestyle and don't even realise that's what it's called. In the city my daughters lives in, there are a proliferation of nightclubs that hold fetish type evenings on a milder scale and there are plenty who indulge who don't call themselves swingers.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Implying those of us with boundaries we don't wish to cross are stuffed shirts for denying our offspring the salacious details of our couplings with strangers.

...and implying that in telling our children we are swingers equates to telling them every selacious detail says we are without parenting skills and morals?

My children know I swing. They do not know what I actually do and I would not tell them if they asked but I have debunked the stereotypical image of swingers.

Read the comments from parents who talk about their sex lives and then compare them to those that don't!

Those that don't mainly state they don't think it's appropriate for them. Those that do add something along the lines "we are honest and open with our kids and have good relationships, therefore..."

Why the need to add that?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I have gone through the thread twice and apart from the OP who talks about the birthday celebration, I can't see where anyone had said they talk about what actually goes on in their sex life, other than that they swing.

Could you point one example out for me please?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I have gone through the thread twice and apart from the OP who talks about the birthday celebration, I can't see where anyone had said they talk about what actually goes on in their sex life, other than that they swing.

Could you point one example out for me please?"

There's a lot of judgement here. I have no problem my daughter knowing what I do but,obviously, details are private and will remain so. She has no need, nor any desire to know, and I have no need or desire to tell. And she is an adult of 31 so hardly an impressionable child. If people choose to keep that part of their lives from their children, that is their choice. I choose not to.

At least one person on here has said that their children found out! I did not want my child finding out for herself. Much better if it came from me. It's not as if I am doing something shameful.

So much for sexual liberation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one knows that I swing, well......apart from you lot of course.

No one from my day to day life, I should say.

I kinda like it that way. Its my secret.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"No one knows that I swing, well......apart from you lot of course.

No one from my day to day life, I should say.

I kinda like it that way. Its my secret.

I don't like secrets. They have a tendency of rearing their ugly heads and biting you on the arse.

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By *ovkid66Man
over a year ago

Warwick

At thus moment in time I wouldn't ever dream of telling my four, they are G13,B9,B6 and G5, I have cannot accom on my profile for just that reason. Want to keep here and home totally separate, but as per It is difficult to arrange meets, as either people think you have a partner that your not telling about, ( which I don't) or the timing issues are off, I'm a normal guy who enjoys normal things and some not so normal, I'm honest and genuine but definitely want to keep home and here separate.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Could you point one example out for me please?

At least one person on here has said that their children found out! I did not want my child finding out for herself. Much better if it came from me. It's not as if I am doing something shameful.

So much for sexual liberation!"

I'm inclined to agree with what you say. However I don't see that children have any right to judge parents on their sex life just as I hope parents woudln't judge their kids, so phrasing it as "finding out" implies to me that there is something shameful or secret that you woudl want to keep from them. If my kids found out I would just shrug my shoulders and smile, tell them it is none of their business and carry on, just as they would do with me if I stumbled across information about their sex lives.

If you want your kids to know good, if you don't good as well

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

and trust me when tidying up I have often found information pertaining to their sex lives

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