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By *issHottieBottie OP   Woman
over a year ago

Kent

I don't get a huge amount of messages from couples but the odd one I do is usually written as if it is from both parties 'we saw your profile...'

Lately I've had the odd message from a couple but its from the male half, no mention of the female even though the profile doesn't mention meeting alone, they are looking for MFF.

So just wanted to ask the couples.. When selecting people to message how do you go about it? Wait till you are together? Or are you confident enough that you're taste in play mates will be ok with the other half? And would you always message the recipient as though the message was coming from you both?? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to show the other who we're interested in before messaging people and initial message is from us both, any responses though we tend to sign off with who is actually responding.

Paul xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had that the other day, I replied back and said who am I talking to? Both or male and female?

He said the male and I said well if I can't talk to you both then not interested, he said well she's hardly one here

I just deleted and blocked

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By *hris N KateCouple
over a year ago

Gainesville

I typically use I if my other half hasnt seen the profile and we if she has. Once we chatted a bit its obvious which they are talking too, Kate is clearly different in how she talks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get quite a lot of messages from couples, I just assume its the guy as I just don't see female halfs if couples messaging women, I think the MFF thing is more a mans thing, I just say I don't meet couples some leave it at that some try to talk me into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get quite a lot of messages from couples, I just assume its the guy as I just don't see female halfs if couples messaging women, I think the MFF thing is more a mans thing, I just say I don't meet couples some leave it at that some try to talk me into it"

+1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nearly always me ( Lucy ) that does the messaging, but we would have both looked at the profile before hand and Luke always reads the messages... If we are arranging a meet we will both chat on the phone just to clarify that we are actually a couple and that I am not just a single fem pretending to be a couple!!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I have a couples profile and it is me that does the mailing....

My OH wouldnt dream of mailing anyone without asking me 1st....

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By *e ja vue 2Couple
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

we both have fab on our phones and check for messages seperatly, but only ever answer them when sat together, unless its a simple message of no thanks then we tend to state who was typing

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

OH normally looks first from our couples profile, shows me their profile and we either agree to make contact or not. If we do then he will normally write the message, I'll make changes if it doesn't sound right and then we send it. Sometimes it's me but we always put the name of which one writes it first.

With this profile I'll read all messages and say yes or no but it's not necessarily me who writes the thanks but no thanks message. Hubby always looks at those I may like the look of and he will say yes or no if he doesn't like the look of them. Any contact after that is from me except when I tell the potential meet to arrange via hubby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoever sends message puts name first but always from both of us. If I send I put from luci & gio but always leave messages sent or received for both of us to read. We discuss the fem sent Mail to or mail received from what interests are n if seen on cam etc. If wont cam we presume guy .... Block them or if say want fun times but waste our time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get a huge amount of messages from couples but the odd one I do is usually written as if it is from both parties 'we saw your profile...'

Lately I've had the odd message from a couple but its from the male half, no mention of the female even though the profile doesn't mention meeting alone, they are looking for MFF.

So just wanted to ask the couples.. When selecting people to message how do you go about it? Wait till you are together? Or are you confident enough that you're taste in play mates will be ok with the other half? And would you always message the recipient as though the message was coming from you both?? Xx "

when getting mails or even meeting others in eprson at club, it's generally 99% of the time the MALE driving the interest.

We've even had the females admitting to us, they are doing it to keep their man happy and they aren't even into girls or wanting to swap - that is where lots of alcohol come into the equation.

Be wary of most couples profiles and always socially meet up and read body language (if you can) to get the jist of any couples motives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never sent the first message to anyone

When replying tend to switch between 'I' and 'we' - depends if it's discussion related to 'us' or if it's general chit chat which becomes more personal.

If we were to send a message first I think we would have discussed it together first, unless it was for a ladies only meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Intial mail is usually signed off with both of our names, after that its however has sent the mail... xx Elle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get a huge amount of messages from couples but the odd one I do is usually written as if it is from both parties 'we saw your profile...'

Lately I've had the odd message from a couple but its from the male half, no mention of the female even though the profile doesn't mention meeting alone, they are looking for MFF.

So just wanted to ask the couples.. When selecting people to message how do you go about it? Wait till you are together? Or are you confident enough that you're taste in play mates will be ok with the other half? And would you always message the recipient as though the message was coming from you both?? Xx

when getting mails or even meeting others in eprson at club, it's generally 99% of the time the MALE driving the interest.

We've even had the females admitting to us, they are doing it to keep their man happy and they aren't even into girls or wanting to swap - that is where lots of alcohol come into the equation.

Be wary of most couples profiles and always socially meet up and read body language (if you can) to get the jist of any couples motives.

"

Just do a girls phone call

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i get msgs(amazing eh), and yes I might have approached them, but it is obviously my actual meet interest is with a female presence...instead..u end up realizing she(if she's ever on) has barely any knowledge of fab or the conversations.

I dont mean it ion a bad way, but men are men, whether they are cpls or not...some people end up believing the hype that an attached man must have more decency than a single one..its a total pile of shite...FACT!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually chat together swap over. have conversations . works well. Although, have been set up by a guy pretending to be a couple. If in doubt Phone contact and speak to both party's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (mrs) does all the messaging on the account.. We have to agree though we find it usually is solely the male half who messages us :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We tend to show the other who we're interested in before messaging people and initial message is from us both, any responses though we tend to sign off with who is actually responding.

Paul xx"

Same here!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's nearly always me ( Lucy ) that does the messaging, but we would have both looked at the profile before hand and Luke always reads the messages... If we are arranging a meet we will both chat on the phone just to clarify that we are actually a couple and that I am not just a single fem pretending to be a couple!! "
we do the same thing or cam with them together

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I (Mrs B) send 99% of messages as I generally spend more time on here. But Mr B has always seen the profile beforehand and it is a joint decision to message.

Will always sign it from both of us.

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

I will message too.......so it seems the assumption that its always the male half is wrong, lots of ladies have replied they do. I would sign from both of us too.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (the female half) do most of the mailing but he does mail sometimes too. We say "we" are looking but usually say on the mail to let people know which of us sent it.

We both read the mails and decide jointly who we will meet.

It's always a joint decision. If we're not both happy then we say so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will message too.......so it seems the assumption that its always the male half is wrong, lots of ladies have replied they do. I would sign from both of us too.

A"

Having read the whole thread and knowing the shocking small % of site users on the forum

My profile states NO Couples, no marrieds playing solo etc... so all the messages I get from couples

When ever I've bothered to ask (say 60 ish times) in the last year then shock horror, female half 'is at work' 'is asleep' is 'out with her fb' etc etc etc.

And that's why my profile states what it does.

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa


"I will message too.......so it seems the assumption that its always the male half is wrong, lots of ladies have replied they do. I would sign from both of us too.

A

Having read the whole thread and knowing the shocking small % of site users on the forum

My profile states NO Couples, no marrieds playing solo etc... so all the messages I get from couples

When ever I've bothered to ask (say 60 ish times) in the last year then shock horror, female half 'is at work' 'is asleep' is 'out with her fb' etc etc etc.

And that's why my profile states what it does. "

Maybe that's more telling that the fact is a lot of single males pretend to be a couple.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id buy that, if my profile allowed newbie and non verifieds to contact me.

All the profiles were very well veri'd and oddly had only pictures of women

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

We know in terms of looks or by content of profile who we'd both be interested in chatting to. Often together when we message/reply. It goes from there, Que sera sera x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find every 1 thinks they are talking to the female. and the mrs dont know prob wanking. So we dont bother with them and just go eurekas most of the time. Fed up with all the wasters on er. Dave xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our couples profile, BigTed will do the messaging, then i will get a call to say "Can you please ring this lady" It's the best way to do it.

But we did have one where every time i phoned he answered and there was always a reason why she wasn't in the house....Deleted and blocked

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

It is always me, David on the tinternet......

Soozy is too busy with shifts and she is sooo not a PC person .... she trusts my judgement, but will always have the last say.....

Got to also say...we look at people's preferences... And if we're out of their age group or body type preference.....we will never message..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my other half never chats on here and yes i know what he wouldnt like so i have full charge, i do tell him and show pics before i ever arrange a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also its quite good fun to pretend im the male for a while if i get the can i cum n fck you now msgs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is how it works for us...

Step 1 (male's job): Spend many hours carefully researching and preparing a shortlist of potential profiles, and then present this to the female.

Step 2 (female's job): Quickly decimate shortlist, leaving perhaps one - if we're lucky.

Step 3 (joint job): Send message.

*Charlie*

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield


"This is how it works for us...

Step 1 (male's job): Spend many hours carefully researching and preparing a shortlist of potential profiles, and then present this to the female.

Step 2 (female's job): Quickly decimate shortlist, leaving perhaps one - if we're lucky.

Step 3 (joint job): Send message.

*Charlie*"

Spot on...

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I get quite a lot of messages from couples, I just assume its the guy as I just don't see female halfs if couples messaging women, I think the MFF thing is more a mans thing, I just say I don't meet couples some leave it at that some try to talk me into it"

MFF is only 'very much a man's thing' if you are meeting the wrong couples. With us, and very much suspect most genuine couples, it's very much a both of us thing.

If you spend any time here, you'll notice that most of the threads on Fab from couples asking about meeting women are posted by women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get quite a lot of messages from couples, I just assume its the guy as I just don't see female halfs if couples messaging women, I think the MFF thing is more a mans thing, I just say I don't meet couples some leave it at that some try to talk me into it

MFF is only 'very much a man's thing' if you are meeting the wrong couples. With us, and very much suspect most genuine couples, it's very much a both of us thing.

If you spend any time here, you'll notice that most of the threads on Fab from couples asking about meeting women are posted by women."

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

It's almost always me (fem) who sends our messages

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