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By *ames2602 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

whittle

This site just baffles me. You take a look at my profile, you send a wink. I look at your profile,great pics,vids. Reading your profile all things good,both looking for same thing. Last thing on profile is if we wink were interested. So I send you a message saying thanks ect, and how hot their profile is and what we could do for each other. All good so I thought then instant delete..

But you winked at me. As I said crazy site

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
11 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'm guessing that the person who winked didn't consult their partner before doing so and was overruled

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Herts

Did you message saying thanks etc also launch into sex talk? That might have put them off.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
11 weeks ago

Stourbridge

I’m sure that, like me, many others have had the same. Just put it down to experience.

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By *naswingdressWoman
11 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's possible your message put them off.

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

whittle


"Did you message saying thanks etc also launch into sex talk? That might have put them off. "

No,no sex talk,just general chat .

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By *rchitectMan
11 weeks ago

Dorchester

It’s a misconception that this site is an easy site to obtain sex. It’s way more complicated than that. Although everyone has an interest in sex and swinging it’s no different to walking up to someone in the street and expecting it.I know people do have meets but it’s definitely not a given that it will happen. It might well be a guy that was just playing with you and deleted you because he couldn’t go any further with it.

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

whittle


"It's possible your message put them off."

What, saying lovely profile, nice natural sexy pics, and general chat ect.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Herts


"Did you message saying thanks etc also launch into sex talk? That might have put them off.

No,no sex talk,just general chat ."

Ok it’s just when you said ‘ how hot their profile is and what we could do for each other’ I read that as it was sex content

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

whittle


"I'm guessing that the person who winked didn't consult their partner before doing so and was overruled "

I would guess this is so, would be nice if knew which partner looked m/f lol

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By *he Silver FuxMan
11 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"I'm guessing that the person who winked didn't consult their partner before doing so and was overruled "

All. The. Time.

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

whittle


"Did you message saying thanks etc also launch into sex talk? That might have put them off.

No,no sex talk,just general chat .

Ok it’s just when you said ‘ how hot their profile is and what we could do for each other’ I read that as it was sex content "

It's was more of commenting on things their looking for and that we could be looking for same. I see were that could read as sex content lol

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Frustrating is not even close more of endurance test.

My decision to stay I understand that.

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By *naswingdressWoman
11 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"It's possible your message put them off.

What, saying lovely profile, nice natural sexy pics, and general chat ect."

Not a clue. It's the conclusion I drew from what you said. They were interested - that's why they winked. You responded. They weren't interested anymore.

What changed? Your message.

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By *inks_apeyCouple
11 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It might be just something you said, a way you put something, spelling, text speak, whatever. Remember with couples you tend to have to appeal to two people as well, so may be that the other half didn't feel the same way. Not worth loosing sleep over.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
11 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I'm guessing that the person who winked didn't consult their partner before doing so and was overruled

I would guess this is so, would be nice if knew which partner looked m/f lol"

It wouldn't make you feel any better about it I don't think. It's often the woman who vetos contacts although not all the time

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

whittle


"It might be just something you said, a way you put something, spelling, text speak, whatever. Remember with couples you tend to have to appeal to two people as well, so may be that the other half didn't feel the same way. Not worth loosing sleep over. "

This could well be true,and most likely is, there was no text speak(as I know most don't like).

It's just frustrating as they made first contact, would be nice to message and say why instead of just blocking. But hey the show must go on.

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

whittle


"I'm guessing that the person who winked didn't consult their partner before doing so and was overruled

I would guess this is so, would be nice if knew which partner looked m/f lol

It wouldn't make you feel any better about it I don't think. It's often the woman who vetos contacts although not all the time"

Reason being (think it may make me feel better) I get a lot of contact from bi guys(as I'm bi) ,so would have made me feel better if I knew it was the lady who made the contact 1st. Just my thoughts

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
11 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I'm guessing that the person who winked didn't consult their partner before doing so and was overruled

I would guess this is so, would be nice if knew which partner looked m/f lol

It wouldn't make you feel any better about it I don't think. It's often the woman who vetos contacts although not all the time

Reason being (think it may make me feel better) I get a lot of contact from bi guys(as I'm bi) ,so would have made me feel better if I knew it was the lady who made the contact 1st. Just my thoughts "

Fair enough

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
11 weeks ago

Leeds

Sounds like they didn't like your message.

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

whittle


"Sounds like they didn't like your message."

Lots have said this. Just thanking fir the wink,commenting on profile ect. So what bi couples who, wink and make 1st contact want in a 1st message from a bi guy.

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
11 weeks ago

Leeds


"Sounds like they didn't like your message.

Lots have said this. Just thanking fir the wink,commenting on profile ect. So what bi couples who, wink and make 1st contact want in a 1st message from a bi guy."

We can't really say without knowing your message.

Plus we don't know what they want.

Personally any sexual stuff in a 1st message gets blocked, cock pics blocked, other people will have other preferences.

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

whittle


"Sounds like they didn't like your message.

Lots have said this. Just thanking fir the wink,commenting on profile ect. So what bi couples who, wink and make 1st contact want in a 1st message from a bi guy.

We can't really say without knowing your message.

Plus we don't know what they want.

Personally any sexual stuff in a 1st message gets blocked, cock pics blocked, other people will have other preferences."

Just all frustrating and very confusing

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By *ir-March-a-lotMan
11 weeks ago

london

It happens to me all the time. I’ll send a message complimenting something on their profile with a face pic attached avoiding sexual talk. It tends to get read and deleted or no reply. I probably need a paper bag over my head but who cares just move on.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
11 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

sometimes chat doesnt mean up for a meet? I chat politely to the folk who engage with me, doesn't mean I want to meet up, just being sociable?

Also, I delete pms as a matter of keeping the profile manageable... if I didn't Id have way too many... deleting a message doesnt reflect on my thoughts about somebody!

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

whittle


"sometimes chat doesnt mean up for a meet? I chat politely to the folk who engage with me, doesn't mean I want to meet up, just being sociable?

Also, I delete pms as a matter of keeping the profile manageable... if I didn't Id have way too many... deleting a message doesnt reflect on my thoughts about somebody!"

It was delete and blocked. I was a social message, general chat. So don't know where I went wrong.

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By *4seven69Couple
11 weeks ago

Near Mansfield

The problem with text is that it can get read in any tone or manner (I find that emojis tend to help). I personally like to see a bit of personality put into messages too, I mean you've gotta stand out from the crowd, right?

Don't take it personally, it's a big pond. Chin up, be you! Good luck

Prinny x

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By *hunky GentMan
11 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Crazy.....

Crazy for feeling so lonelyyyyy

Crazy.....

Crazy for feeling so blueeeee

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By *ighugs69Man
11 weeks ago

Port Talbot

There's all sorts there and best not getting too hung up on some of the antics.

Had a picture fab from a couple account. Noticed because I get very few.

Checked out the profile and returned the compliment by Fab'ing one of theirs. The account then blocked me which I found rather amusing lol

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By *ames2602 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

whittle


"There's all sorts there and best not getting too hung up on some of the antics.

Had a picture fab from a couple account. Noticed because I get very few.

Checked out the profile and returned the compliment by Fab'ing one of theirs. The account then blocked me which I found rather amusing lol"

Exactly this. Always.

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By *bxanfCouple
11 weeks ago

Shadow Moses, Stourbridge

This is why we only wink when we both like the guy/couple and want to initiate contact.

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By *ny1localMan
11 weeks ago

READING


"There's all sorts there and best not getting too hung up on some of the antics.

Had a picture fab from a couple account. Noticed because I get very few.

Checked out the profile and returned the compliment by Fab'ing one of theirs. The account then blocked me which I found rather amusing lol"
had similar, returned the fab..didn't follow up with a message, as out of their profile range..I'm now blocked??

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