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When did choking become the norm?

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By *as1098 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

Sevenoaks

I know it's each to their own but why is choking now a thing? I find the concept quite aggressive and controlling and wouldn't put my hands to a woman's throat, even if she asked me

Allegedly stimulates/heightens the orgasm but it's a no from me.

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By *oxy jWoman
11 weeks ago

somerset

its not the norm ..nowhere near ...

its a control thing that done right with the right person of trust can be very hot ..

ive only ever allowed one guy to do it he gets it he know when and when not mind you ive know him 30yrs so trust is a big thing ...with a random no chance tho alot try as soon as their hands go on my throat i let then know its a no they try it again its meet over

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
11 weeks ago

Lincoln

Then don't do it, OP... 🤨

It's not a "norm", it's something consented to by both people and it looks hot so that's probably why you see a lot of it.

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By *inchyorksMan
11 weeks ago

huddersfield

Porn has a lot to answer for, conditioning people in sexual behaviour!

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By *ezandCCouple
11 weeks ago

Telford

We hate it, it happens too often in porn, making it seem acceptable. We also had head shoving, again we know there are those that like it but it appears to much.

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By *orphia2003Woman
11 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I don't think it's the norm. It's about consent between parties.

Maybe it's just the 'in' thing in porn at the moment.

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
11 weeks ago

Northern Ireland


"its not the norm ..nowhere near ...

its a control thing that done right with the right person of trust can be very hot ..

ive only ever allowed one guy to do it he gets it he know when and when not mind you ive know him 30yrs so trust is a big thing ...with a random no chance tho alot try as soon as their hands go on my throat i let then know its a no they try it again its meet over"

My partner and I attended a workshop. There's that and there's asphyxiation in the same ball park. Basically there are two elements. The physical feeling of breath restriction or reduced blood flow, and the power control dynamic that is psychological. Dont make any assumptions that the Top has no respect for the person recieving the choking or breathplay. It could be done as role play consented power play (Im gonna teach you a lesson) or it could be a scenario where the sub only gets inner peace in this way so the Top os facilitating out of love and kindness.

It is a kink that should be done only if you both want it, is pre-negotiated and you have discussed an exit strategy for if things go wrong.

As with any kink practice consent is key, education, reading up, attending talks and workshops all helps too

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By *issmorganWoman
11 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It's deffo not a norm for me op.

It's something that should be discussed and agreed to by all parties in advance.

If someone tried it on a meet, I'd be leaving.

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By *irty-pairCouple
11 weeks ago

South Essex

We enjoy it when playing together, but unless we’re with experienced kinksters who properly understand it, it’s a hard no with others.

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By *oupleSeducedCouple
11 weeks ago

Canterbury/Greenwich

Don't do choking but love blindfolds and restraints

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
11 weeks ago

Norwich

Looks pretty horrible to me. But each to their own if it’s consensual. Didn’t Michael Hutchence die trying it on himself?

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By *red and daphneCouple
11 weeks ago

in the middle

We enjoy it with each other, Daphne will lean into my hand giving her all the control.

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By *oxy jWoman
11 weeks ago

somerset


"its not the norm ..nowhere near ...

its a control thing that done right with the right person of trust can be very hot ..

ive only ever allowed one guy to do it he gets it he know when and when not mind you ive know him 30yrs so trust is a big thing ...with a random no chance tho alot try as soon as their hands go on my throat i let then know its a no they try it again its meet over

My partner and I attended a workshop. There's that and there's asphyxiation in the same ball park. Basically there are two elements. The physical feeling of breath restriction or reduced blood flow, and the power control dynamic that is psychological. Dont make any assumptions that the Top has no respect for the person recieving the choking or breathplay. It could be done as role play consented power play (Im gonna teach you a lesson) or it could be a scenario where the sub only gets inner peace in this way so the Top os facilitating out of love and kindness.

It is a kink that should be done only if you both want it, is pre-negotiated and you have discussed an exit strategy for if things go wrong.

As with any kink practice consent is key, education, reading up, attending talks and workshops all helps too"

not sure why you quoted me ??

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By *ighland couple 99Couple
11 weeks ago

Inverness

Quite enjoy it to be honest

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
11 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Porn would be the short answer.

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By *as1098 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

Sevenoaks


"Porn would be the short answer."

Exactly that. It does seem to be quite common in porn now.

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By *as1098 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

Sevenoaks

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
11 weeks ago

Northern Ireland


"its not the norm ..nowhere near ...

its a control thing that done right with the right person of trust can be very hot ..

ive only ever allowed one guy to do it he gets it he know when and when not mind you ive know him 30yrs so trust is a big thing ...with a random no chance tho alot try as soon as their hands go on my throat i let then know its a no they try it again its meet over

My partner and I attended a workshop. There's that and there's asphyxiation in the same ball park. Basically there are two elements. The physical feeling of breath restriction or reduced blood flow, and the power control dynamic that is psychological. Dont make any assumptions that the Top has no respect for the person recieving the choking or breathplay. It could be done as role play consented power play (Im gonna teach you a lesson) or it could be a scenario where the sub only gets inner peace in this way so the Top os facilitating out of love and kindness.

It is a kink that should be done only if you both want it, is pre-negotiated and you have discussed an exit strategy for if things go wrong.

As with any kink practice consent is key, education, reading up, attending talks and workshops all helps too

not sure why you quoted me ??"

Yes sorry that was a mistake. What I said was not directed at you personally

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By *altandPepper24Couple
11 weeks ago

Liverpool

Wait till you get to grips with cnc

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By *woCherriesCouple
11 weeks ago

Abergele

When it felt good

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By *ortyairCouple
11 weeks ago

Wallasey

Any guy who tried to ch@ke me would find their balls in a vice like grip, twisted until their ball bag felt it was about to explode and then I'd start to pull as hard as I could.

I want to be fuck not fight. I do both hard, you have been warned....

Mrs x

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By *weetkitten65Woman
11 weeks ago

Halifax


"I know it's each to their own but why is choking now a thing? I find the concept quite aggressive and controlling and wouldn't put my hands to a woman's throat, even if she asked me

Allegedly stimulates/heightens the orgasm but it's a no from me."

Totally agree with you.

As you say each to their own, but it's a definite no from me too.

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By *inky Bear and VicsCouple
11 weeks ago

Northern Ireland


"Any guy who tried to ch@ke me would find their balls in a vice like grip, twisted until their ball bag felt it was about to explode and then I'd start to pull as hard as I could.

I want to be fuck not fight. I do both hard, you have been warned....

Mrs x"

I agree and what you are talking about is not consented. If someone did that its actually assault. You would possibly take this to the police, or you could do if you wanted to.

Consent is key. People do choose to play this way responsibly.

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By *ortyairCouple
11 weeks ago

Wallasey


"Any guy who tried to ch@ke me would find their balls in a vice like grip, twisted until their ball bag felt it was about to explode and then I'd start to pull as hard as I could.

I want to be fuck not fight. I do both hard, you have been warned....

Mrs x

I agree and what you are talking about is not consented. If someone did that its actually assault. You would possibly take this to the police, or you could do if you wanted to.

Consent is key. People do choose to play this way responsibly.

"
People like Steven Milligan and Michael Hutchenson? Mrs x

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By *agnarXXXMan
11 weeks ago

edinburgh

“Porn has a lot to answer for, conditioning people in sexual behaviour!”

Yes, it does. It’s not something I’m into, but if all the participants are genuinely into it and consenting, I don’t have a problem with others being into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Remember the first girl that asked me to donit her I panicked thinking what if I do it to hard and she reports me or I leave a mark ha ha

But since then more have asked to be than I thought would

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By *ellinever70Woman
11 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I think anyone playing this way should probably be aware of the 'we can't consent to this' campaign

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By *hePleasurerMan
11 weeks ago

Cheshire

It's thankfully not the norm, though you'd be forgiven for thinking so - it's something that has grown out of online porn addiction, especially among more immature young men who no longer find "regular" sex stimulating enough. It is never ok to do this to someone who hasn't explicitly agreed to it, and even then it needs care and constant attention to the other person. In other words, it needs trust and time to develop, which tends not to appeal to the "instant gratification" crowd.

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By *otty BikerMan
11 weeks ago

Warrington


"I know it's each to their own but why is choking now a thing? I find the concept quite aggressive and controlling and wouldn't put my hands to a woman's throat, even if she asked me

Allegedly stimulates/heightens the orgasm but it's a no from me."

Blame porn, and the "acceptable" portrayal of this kind of thing as the "norm"...

It's a no from me for sure !

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By *olimgenguyMan
11 weeks ago

Walsall

Choking is really good if boundaries are agreed, this is an area where experience counts, unfortunately some people see it in porn and try and recreate it in real life.

It takes care and attention and also aftercare is so important.

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By *lkGuyMagic24Man
11 weeks ago

Chislehurst

People blame porn for everything these days

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By *younaughty2Man
11 weeks ago

preston

I've know a few women who like it, one I didn't do it enough so she tried choking me in that moment lmao, does trying to gag on my dick count? To be honest it's not something that turns me on but what they like I will try give

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By *he 1 2 watchWoman
11 weeks ago

Birmingham

Definitely not for me… you’d have to have a lot of trust in the other person to even attempt it…. Think a lot of it comes from porn.

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