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By *f ya want OP   Man
11 weeks ago

Rothwell

Had been talking to a T girl for a few weeks. Nearly met up when we first started chatting but it fell through. Had another chance yesterday so made sure it happened. Was really excited. Went to her hotel room, she answered the door and was just not what I had in mind at all. Tbf the pics weren't very clear on the profile, but still, I just couldnt go through with it. I went into the room and said hello, before saying I had left something in my car. I left and then blocked them. I feel pretty bad about it, and a bit of a coward. I'm trying to make myself feel better by remembering this is just a hook up site, and I imagine she got the message. Was I a bit too harsh?

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By *erry2020888Man
11 weeks ago

stockport

i have had a couple awkward meets, think they are part of it

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By *pen4funwithuMan
11 weeks ago

Nr Brighton

This is one of the scary things about meeting. There is a real person on the other end of all the sexual excitement and sometimes it isn't the right person. You could always message and explain.

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
11 weeks ago

Chester

Awkward meets are sometimes part of this life; it’s how you deal with them that matters. If it was the other way round, do you feel that you’d be ok with what happened?

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Agreed that these things can happen but I guess you need to think how it left them feeling. Particularly as they may have their own insecurities/feelings/body hang ups.

I've previously just politely made my reasons to leave, not feeling it today for example..

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
11 weeks ago

Sheffield

What happened to just been honest, I get they might not have been but why couldn't you be?

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By *ornym66Man
11 weeks ago

Col /ips

I had this all looked good on profile when I got there I let suck me off and swallow then I left

We talked prior saying wot we would do but he ho you love & learn

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By *erry2020888Man
10 weeks ago

stockport

people often turn out to be different to profile and chat when actually met

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By *r99mr99Man
10 weeks ago

Ealing

It sometimes happens that people aren't what they look like, and you can't fake attraction. But surely being honest and saying look I don't think this is what to was expecting is better than disappearing and leaving them wondering. Even if they knew you were making an excuse it's still horrible.

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By *alloSpaceboyMan
10 weeks ago

Carmarthen

I think this is why a pre-meet/ drink/ coffee is always a good thing beforehand.

Allows both parties to suss whether their online expectations have been met, and also allows an opportunity to set parameters.

Appreciate this can take away from the exciting immediacy of a hook-up but can make things more pleasant and relaxed come the fun.

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By *luebell888Woman
10 weeks ago

Glasgowish

Yes, I think it was harsh. The least you could have done was to apologise and then left. Maybe in future you should do a social so as not to find yourself in that position again.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts

Sorry you treat someone like shit and now you want to be told it’s ok?

When someone does this to you don’t come on here whining about it.

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By *issmorganWoman
10 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Yes it was harsh in my opinion and she probably won't feel great about what's happened.

This is why I'd only meet socially first, that way if there's no mutual attraction, you can walk away without all that awkwardness.

I think people forget, hook up site or not, that others are people with feelings.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Central

Nothing is guaranteed and consent can be withdrawn at any point.

It's normal to learn from our experience, so - if you can improve anything, then implement that before your next encounter.

It's probably better to be honest about your intent and plans. Issues and changes to plans can happen with any type of person/gender.

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By *ervent X KissMan
10 weeks ago

Portsmouth


"Sorry you treat someone like shit and now you want to be told it’s ok?

When someone does this to you don’t come on here whining about it. "

That’s very true.

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By *uskWandererMan
10 weeks ago

Ormskirk

I won't dog pile telling you what you did wasn't cool.

You know it wasn't otherwise you wouldn't have posted here asking if it wasn't ok.

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By *orthern BeardMan
10 weeks ago

Banbury

This is why sometimes I prefer a social or a coffee first.

However, I’d have the politeness to just explain they weren’t for me. Wouldn’t do a runner

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By *nkedguy777Man
10 weeks ago

Manchester

Definitely not right at all,as people have said if it happened to yourself I don't think you'd feel very good about the situation

You could of simply said sorry you're just not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Who paid for the hotel?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Herts


"Who paid for the hotel? "

OP said ‘went to her hotel room’.

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By *lack beauty 35Woman
10 weeks ago

South west

I wonder how the lovely lady felt and especially with the thread you've made

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By *olfandtazCouple
10 weeks ago

Bristol

As been said, it was quite harsh treating someone like that.

They paid for the hotel room, you could of said a dozen things rather than just running and blocking.

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By *WB85Man
10 weeks ago

Staffordshire

This is exactly why I always meet somewhere public first and don't go straight to a hotel.

It's far easier to walk away when it's made clear it's only a social.

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By *oxy jWoman
10 weeks ago

somerset


"Sorry you treat someone like shit and now you want to be told it’s ok?

When someone does this to you don’t come on here whining about it. "

agree with this ...

the correct way to go would have been to say sorry and that youve changed your mind ...everyone has the rights to change their mind at any point...

if some one turns up to a meet and dont match the pics they sent then im upfront blunt n honest and call the meet off their are far to many on here using photo filters / apps old holiday pics old old pics thinking that they will get away with its nope its a instant deal breaker for me i alaway tell them to send up to date pics if not dont bother

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By *end1Man
10 weeks ago

southend on sea


"Sorry you treat someone like shit and now you want to be told it’s ok?

When someone does this to you don’t come on here whining about it. "
absolutely agree with you on this.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
10 weeks ago

Stoke

Always meet in an open bar/coffee shop, you can just have one drink then make your excuses to leave if it's not right!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
10 weeks ago

chichester

why I always have a video call before even meeting ... I want to see what someone looks like visually and if I like them and them me ...

fot me it just cuts out the time wasting

yes it was spineless OP and weak .. do better next time with just saying to someone ., sorry changed my mind ..

I have walked out of meets with couples before as I didn't like the vibe after a few minutes of meeting them in person ... better to just be blunt

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
10 weeks ago

Sheffield

I’d be gutted if someone did that to me. This is why it’s best meeting socially first. X

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By *Silver-Man
10 weeks ago

Mold

You took the cowards way out and now your asking for justification?

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By *ickie76XXXMan
10 weeks ago

dartford

So OP you went purely on the fact they didn’t match your expectations looking wise? Surely you had chatted previously and got on hence why you arranged to meet but when you did you didn’t even give them a chance to show you their personality?

As the post above says they left because the vibe wasn’t right which is understandable and correct but they still excused themselves and that wasn’t based on how they looked it was the situation and attitude of the people.

How do you think they feel? They might have been the nicest person you have ever met for all you know.

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By *batMan
10 weeks ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Not how I hope I would deal with it. It was a bit cruel if I'm honest.

Gbat

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By *haled_az_aqMan
10 weeks ago

colchester

would've been way better to say ' i am sorry but i don'nt think we are a match " and explain before you left. sometimes blunt but truthful is better than avoiding the awkward situation.

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