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"My hubby knows I'm here he can see messages but doesn't really get involved..if your wife knows crack on if not your cheating" Amen 💋 | |||
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"I don't think it's a double standard at all Cheating is frowned upon Its just that most men are horny depraved fuckers that won't even entertain the idea of turning down some puss" This!!! It's still considered cheating but that's the nature of the beast and the world we live in!! | |||
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"My hubby knows I'm here he can see messages but doesn't really get involved..if your wife knows crack on if not your cheating" So still cheating then! Makes no odds just cos he knows! | |||
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"My hubby knows I'm here he can see messages but doesn't really get involved..if your wife knows crack on if not your cheating So still cheating then! Makes no odds just cos he knows! " Not if its the dynamic that they both agreed to | |||
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"Its just that most men are horny depraved fuckers that won't even entertain the idea of turning down some puss" which isn't at all gaslighting | |||
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"I hear you op. A few weeks back we literally had a thread from a man and one from a woman. Both secretly playing even though married. He was a piece of shit for cheating. Well said sir She was well within her right to do it. Basically....most women have morals and most men do not. " | |||
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"I hear you op. A few weeks back we literally had a thread from a man and one from a woman. Both secretly playing even though married. He was a piece of shit for cheating. Well said sir She was well within her right to do it. Basically....most women have morals and most men do not. " | |||
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"It's a huge double standard on fab. Women very rarely put threads up asking if what they're doing is wrong or trying to justify it though. However if they do mention that they're married playing away they're more likely to get sympathetic answers from both men and women. I always think the attitude is Man cheating = man's fault Woman cheating= man's fault. " Nailed it 👏🏾👏🏾 | |||
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"I think women are more likely to be encouraged for cheating here because the site is so loaded with men, most of whom presumably find it a turn on and have no moral issues with it. Obviously not you, fellow wise men of the forum!" Women treat cheating women much more gently, not all women I hasten to add. I have noticed that women will try and find out why another woman is cheating and sympathise with her. | |||
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"I always think the attitude is Man cheating = man's fault Woman cheating= man's fault." . To be fair though, it usually *is* the man’s fault either way. There’s another factor - women are usually much more discreet about it when they’re cheating. I know that’s a massive generalisation, but I speak from experience. | |||
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"I have permission but still treated like I'm cheating! It's a horrible double standard, man posts that he has a sexless marriage then he's the problem because he clearly only wants his wife for sex. But soon as a woman posts the same reason it's your husband is an arse and you should leave him. But what do I know as I'm just one of these Its just that most men are horny depraved fuckers that won't even entertain the idea of turning down some puss which isn't at all gaslighting " But isn't it mostly men that have that opinion considering that this site is majority men, I think your looking at the wrong demographic to get a clear idea on what MOST people think Also I don't think you know what gaslighting means | |||
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"I always think the attitude is Man cheating = man's fault Woman cheating= man's fault. . To be fair though, it usually *is* the man’s fault either way. There’s another factor - women are usually much more discreet about it when they’re cheating. I know that’s a massive generalisation, but I speak from experience. " Is it usually the man's fault? | |||
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"I have permission but still treated like I'm cheating! It's a horrible double standard, man posts that he has a sexless marriage then he's the problem because he clearly only wants his wife for sex. But soon as a woman posts the same reason it's your husband is an arse and you should leave him. " Yep. I've seen this in action with a couple I knew years ago. He had a much lower sex drive than her according to her, several of our mutual acquaintances actively encouraged her to seek sex elsewhere and congratulated her when she did. 🤷♀️ | |||
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"Is it usually the man's fault? " I think so. That’s why I said it.  | |||
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"Is it usually the man's fault? I think so. That’s why I said it. " ok. | |||
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"Also I don't think you know what gaslighting means" nailed it but realised just as I pressed post but as I cannot edit a post I had to go with it. | |||
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"I always think the attitude is Man cheating = man's fault Woman cheating= man's fault. . To be fair though, it usually *is* the man’s fault either way. There’s another factor - women are usually much more discreet about it when they’re cheating. I know that’s a massive generalisation, but I speak from experience. " I'd like to know why it's usually the man's fault? | |||
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"Also I don't think you know what gaslighting means nailed it but realised just as I pressed post but as I cannot edit a post I had to go with it. " Fair enough I'm a fucker for doing that aswell *press send* .... SHIT! | |||
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"I have permission but still treated like I'm cheating! It's a horrible double standard, man posts that he has a sexless marriage then he's the problem because he clearly only wants his wife for sex. But soon as a woman posts the same reason it's your husband is an arse and you should leave him. Yep. I've seen this in action with a couple I knew years ago. He had a much lower sex drive than her according to her, several of our mutual acquaintances actively encouraged her to seek sex elsewhere and congratulated her when she did. 🤷♀️" Now I wonder what would have been said if it was the other way around. No doubt he'd be a pig for saying it. | |||
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"I have permission but still treated like I'm cheating! It's a horrible double standard, man posts that he has a sexless marriage then he's the problem because he clearly only wants his wife for sex. But soon as a woman posts the same reason it's your husband is an arse and you should leave him. But what do I know as I'm just one of these Its just that most men are horny depraved fuckers that won't even entertain the idea of turning down some puss which isn't at all gaslighting But isn't it mostly men that have that opinion considering that this site is majority men, I think your looking at the wrong demographic to get a clear idea on what MOST people think Also I don't think you know what gaslighting means" I go with what I see on the forum posts, and I what I mostly see is man says something both men and women rip into him. Woman posts and it's more sympathetic from both men and women. | |||
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"I have permission but still treated like I'm cheating! It's a horrible double standard, man posts that he has a sexless marriage then he's the problem because he clearly only wants his wife for sex. But soon as a woman posts the same reason it's your husband is an arse and you should leave him. Yep. I've seen this in action with a couple I knew years ago. He had a much lower sex drive than her according to her, several of our mutual acquaintances actively encouraged her to seek sex elsewhere and congratulated her when she did. 🤷♀️ Now I wonder what would have been said if it was the other way around. No doubt he'd be a pig for saying it. " He was selfish for having a lower sex drive. I suggested to her that she bought a vibrator but she wouldn't hear of it. I suggested that she stopped wearing a deeply unattractive onesie type thing to bed but she said it kept her warm. 🤷♀️ | |||
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"My hubby knows I'm here he can see messages but doesn't really get involved..if your wife knows crack on if not your cheating So still cheating then! Makes no odds just cos he knows! Correct which we have Not if its the dynamic that they both agreed to" | |||
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"I have permission but still treated like I'm cheating! It's a horrible double standard, man posts that he has a sexless marriage then he's the problem because he clearly only wants his wife for sex. But soon as a woman posts the same reason it's your husband is an arse and you should leave him. But what do I know as I'm just one of these Its just that most men are horny depraved fuckers that won't even entertain the idea of turning down some puss which isn't at all gaslighting But isn't it mostly men that have that opinion considering that this site is majority men, I think your looking at the wrong demographic to get a clear idea on what MOST people think Also I don't think you know what gaslighting means I go with what I see on the forum posts, and I what I mostly see is man says something both men and women rip into him. Woman posts and it's more sympathetic from both men and women. " Because 'some' men will see it as a means to make that person look bad in the hope of elevating their status and improving their chances with the women on site, and 'some' other men will just see it as a potential target for their affections. I'm not sure whether women in general will be more sympathetic to cheating women or not. I guess it will depend on their own viewpoint and personal experiences. I've no opinion on anyone cheating bar having no desire to meet them and help them achieve their goals, whether they're male or female. People do what people do. I just worry about my own life. What they do doesn't impact me at all. | |||
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"...is this not double standards" Yup, deal with it  | |||
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"My hubby knows I'm here he can see messages but doesn't really get involved..if your wife knows crack on if not your cheating So still cheating then! Makes no odds just cos he knows! " No...cheating involves lieing and deceit...if the other partner knows there's no deceit involved. | |||
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"Why is it a sin when a married or attached guy comes onto fab looking for discreet fun and women won’t entertain it but when it’s a women the goal posts get moved out the way and it becomes ok is this not double standards . " It’s only double standards if the same person calls a married man playing away a “cheating scumbag, think of your poor wife!” and a married woman playing away “oh you go girl, empower yourself!”…. 
As you’re clearly bi OP, and have veris to the fact, I would suggest you continue to meet other bi men to fill your needs which aren’t being met at home. I can guarantee, the ratio of bi men looking for discreet, no strings fun far outweighs the number of attached ladies looking for similar in here…..  | |||
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"It's a huge double standard on fab. Women very rarely put threads up asking if what they're doing is wrong or trying to justify it though. However if they do mention that they're married playing away they're more likely to get sympathetic answers from both men and women. I always think the attitude is Man cheating = man's fault Woman cheating= man's fault. " Pretty much nailed it there | |||
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