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By *irtyThirtyA OP   Woman
19 weeks ago

Cambridge

I dont get it with this site. 1 out of 2 men will ghost. You arrange stuff and set aside time. Then they dont turn up or ghost.

Feeling so frustrated as i love swinging in clubs. And on cam. But how is it this keeps happening. Even when we cam together plenty of times prior to arranging to meet.

Sorry needed a rant

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By *atonguyMan
19 weeks ago

Travelling


"I dont get it with this site. 1 out of 2 men will ghost. You arrange stuff and set aside time. Then they dont turn up or ghost.

Feeling so frustrated as i love swinging in clubs. And on cam. But how is it this keeps happening. Even when we cam together plenty of times prior to arranging to meet.

Sorry needed a rant "

Absolutely insane that they’d miss the opportunity with you. The same happens to me but more than half the time. Normally couples, but suspect the profile is just the guy getting some horny kicks from messaging.

Well if I’m ever in the SE I promise I’d show up.

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By *ricktop1966Man
19 weeks ago

colchester


"I dont get it with this site. 1 out of 2 men will ghost. You arrange stuff and set aside time. Then they dont turn up or ghost.

Feeling so frustrated as i love swinging in clubs. And on cam. But how is it this keeps happening. Even when we cam together plenty of times prior to arranging to meet.

Sorry needed a rant "

This is madness, i can certainly state id never ghost you. Id cum running . You look good enough to eat.

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By *andPextraCouple
19 weeks ago

North West

Id say 8 our of 10 single ladies ghost us eventually. Im guessing some weren’t actually ladies to begin with and some get so many offers the grass is permanently greener

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By *ed OpiumWoman
19 weeks ago

Never Never Land

i finding it happens more and more - they either stop contact a few days before - or the morning of, or even block you. I have had a couple not turn up - they ask for the meet - i suppose there is a lot of reasons, but a 'ive changed my mind' would do

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By *oxy jWoman
19 weeks ago

taunton somerset

if you keep getting messed around then you need to look at your own selection process as its not working for you ...

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By *irtyThirtyA OP   Woman
19 weeks ago

Cambridge

So true!! We even checked with allergies and stuff. Previous time we had even booked our hotel! We still used it as we couldnt get refund that late.

Feeling scorned so now for wine

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By *atonguyMan
19 weeks ago

Travelling


"So true!! We even checked with allergies and stuff. Previous time we had even booked our hotel! We still used it as we couldnt get refund that late.

Feeling scorned so now for wine "

Rant justified.

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
19 weeks ago

Norwich

Not just the men, I've been ghosted several times by women and couples, just a game with some, I'll always turn up

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

All genders ghost and for all sorts of reasons.

Messaging when horny, life just getting in the way or deciding you're not for them, having a wank and then looking at the price of petrol and deciding to watch telly, etc,

It would be nice if they told you so, but many don't wish to open up a chain of correspondence over it

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By *ravelling TogMan
19 weeks ago

sleaford

Yep unfortunately it's not just the guys. I think I've filled my ghosted bingo card including couples and singles.

Had the "come to this place and let me know when you're here and we will give you the full address" only to arrive and be ghosted.

But it's all part of the journey. Thankfully the genuine make up for it in my eyes.

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By *aprica2Couple
19 weeks ago

Addlestone

Probably because they have a Mrs since, since joining the site 99% of the bad one ruin it for probably some decent guys who can't get a look in.

We've always found the conversation directed at the Mrs and they just send some BS fantasy very rare they'll address both of us, alot of muppets ruin the point of this site

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By *rayheresnowMan
19 weeks ago

Cardiff

Why do people do it. Is it just the chase they get off on ?. It's hard enough for a male to get a offer well at my age it is.

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By *ather WickmasMan
19 weeks ago

The Continental

I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. But apart from one person who id met a couple of times, I’ve not been ghosted.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
19 weeks ago

Maidstone


"if you keep getting messed around then you need to look at your own selection process as its not working for you ...

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Nah I don't buy this. Some are incredibly good at coming across as genuine. I have come to expect they will disappear just before a meet these days.

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By *orningGlory555Man
19 weeks ago

Wells

I have attended 2 ‘gangbangs’ recently arranged by couples, the first one a couple of guys dropped out last minute and the second I was the only one to turn up. I felt sorry for the couple as they had booked the hotel and spent ages making plans only to be let down.

It frustrates me as it’s hard enough as a guy to find people without idiots making things even harder.

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By *r LickalotapussMan
19 weeks ago

London

Sad but true for so many.

Can see why many a fabster relies on veris to gauge credible people.

Disappointing but never judge yourself on others fallibilities.

Be awesome fabsters.

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By *orelloCouple
19 weeks ago

Hitchin

Jay from the inbetweeners springs to mind for quite a few on here!

We treat this as additive. Don't take things to heart and roll with it.

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By *oxy jWoman
19 weeks ago

taunton somerset


"if you keep getting messed around then you need to look at your own selection process as its not working for you ...

Nah I don't buy this. Some are incredibly good at coming across as genuine. I have come to expect they will disappear just before a meet these days. "

and thats fine after all we are all different before fab we was on the then big site we were messed around alot so when fab came along after about 6 months of still being messed around we took some advice from a few couples and changed the way we select our play mates and quite simply the messers disappeared i agree not 100% as there are some great liers on here .... the biggest change we did on this account and our couples account was pre block that got rid of a big chunk ....

but saying that now days most of my meets come from ''other'' ways and having a little black book full of contacts from 30 years +++ on the scene i guess alot of us dont rely on fab so properly dont see what alot of single women do see...

i hope things change for you as last thing this scene needs is more women getting put off ...

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By *ink vixenCouple
19 weeks ago

Medway

What’s the common factor here?

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