FabSwingers.com forum: I have a problem...

Exmouth

I have a problem.....

The end....🤣

No...really...

Being a single guy, it's well known to be hard on here for meets etc.

Generally I see the advice is to go out to clubs and group socials etc. Which is all great advice.

The problem I have is that when it comes to group socials and/or clubs....on my own I would definitely have social anxiety and to date struggle to get through the...just go and do it.

When it comes to meeting normally, just a couple or another female etc, I don't have a problem with.

Does anyone have any advice that might help me to get replies to messages and or further.

I have had some.meets with females, but this was quite a while ago (years) and things have changed a lot for me, so looking to really get back into things, but....it's not working lol.

Any help or advice would be amazing 😁😘

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
13 weeks ago

Sunniest Exeter...

Ah yes, the ol'catch 22, can't got to socials due to anxiety, but anxiety won't be beaten until you go to social!

Do you go to other (non swingers) social events? Pub with friends, football match? If so, perhaps try the approaching a social or club on the same way (or the opposite advice to nerves at an interview, and imagine everyone fully clothed)

Try wearing something unique (maybe a sharp hat, or very unusual trousers) to get others to start the conversation (as opposed to it all being on you as a single guy)

Perhaps practice some opened ended questions to generate conversation. These questions start "How, who, what, why, where and when"

I am trying to avoid the usual advice offered to men of "get over it" or "man up"

This may help, but try to think about non swinger social situations that you have in your everyday life.

Hope it helps, buddy.

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By *od ThrusterMan
13 weeks ago

Newport Pagnell

Listen, I'm not exactly the oracle, but here's my two penn'orth:

1. No photos at all

2. Cannot accommodate

Both of these are likely to reduce the size of the pool you're fishing in. The first one you can certainly do something about.

On the plus side, your profile doesn't read as if you're a "fancy a fuck" type chancer but can make coherent conversation, so that's good.

Good luck.

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By *heOneAndOnly666 OP Man
13 weeks ago

Exmouth

Thank you both for your replies. I am just looking into the picture situation right now actually, as I did have a thought that having nothing on show is clearly an issue.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
13 weeks ago

Leeds

The pictures as already stated is a huge issue.

The socials are just a bunch of people in a pub/club there's no play it's general chit chat and getting to know people.

I went to my 1st club alone recently I have huge social anxiety but I did it & I will do again, sometimes you just have to put yourself out there.

Good luck

Mrs

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By *batMan
13 weeks ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Go to a social. I’m sure someone will make conversation with you rather than you having to make the first approach.

Gbat

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