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By (user no longer on site) OP   
19 weeks ago

Dom,domme,sub,or switch which one are you

I’m a switch

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Sub, cd, jock or naked, your choice.

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By *asterMeliodasMan
19 weeks ago

Newmill

Dom.

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By *ammy_xMan
19 weeks ago

Reading

Sub I think

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By *vaRose43Woman
19 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Switch but much more domme leaning

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By *otfunx1Man
19 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Sub x

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
19 weeks ago

Greater London

Bratty Sub, Switch but Domme leaning, or full-on Domme.

Depending on the company.

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By *yantico86Man
19 weeks ago

drumchapel

Switch

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
19 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Occasionally do Domme work but prefer to play with equals in my private life 💜

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By *ubmissive guyMan
19 weeks ago

Liverpool

sub

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By *ark eyesMan
19 weeks ago

city center

Dom leaning switch

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By *teveessexMan
19 weeks ago

essex

Switch depends on the situation

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By *olfandtazCouple
19 weeks ago

Bristol

I'm Dom, been on the scene for around 20yrs now give or take.

Taz is sub, she's dabbled before we met but is now getting into the swing of things.

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By *valiceslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

London

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
19 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"Occasionally do Domme work but prefer to play with equals in my private life 💜 "

Honeslty the only two people around me that have been doms have been catfishers, not long just reported one.

Maybe one day lol.

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By *valiceslutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

London

Switch …. Ideally love to fuck and be fucked … at the same time while all are kissing xxx delicious xx

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By *rangesmartieWoman
19 weeks ago

Devon

Submissive

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By *hastityPleasureGiverMan
19 weeks ago

Rotherham

Sub in full time chastity

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By *ersona101Man
19 weeks ago

Letchworth

Dom

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
19 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Occasionally do Domme work but prefer to play with equals in my private life 💜

Honeslty the only two people around me that have been doms have been catfishers, not long just reported one.

Maybe one day lol. "

I would not recommend fab for finding a Dom. I certainly would not take on a sub approaching me on here.

Get out to your local munches and events and meet people there 💜

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By *unx2019Couple
19 weeks ago

Moray

I'm the Domme, cucks my sexy sissy sub

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By *istress B and BrookeCouple
19 weeks ago

Newcastle

Switch and Sub

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
19 weeks ago

chichester

Sub - maybe equal I guess but not really a dom / sub person tbh

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By *_new_memberMan
19 weeks ago

Tewkesbury

Switch depending upon the situation.

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By *luesindminorMan
19 weeks ago

Birmingham

I’m Dom or equal. I find synergistically they tend towards the same thing in the longer term.

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By *andynecklaceWoman
19 weeks ago

Someplace

Switch

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Can switch but happier being sub

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By *winckle toesMan
19 weeks ago

norwich

Dom

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By *iss DevilWoman
19 weeks ago

Bedford

Switch. More domme than sub leaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Two switches here!

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By *witch Roy-MrsKarenCouple
19 weeks ago

york

We both Switch.

MrsKarens Is always Dom when at events.

Saves any problems with idiots.

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By *ee12367Man
19 weeks ago

sheffield

I love Femdoms

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By *ornyboi96Man
19 weeks ago

greenock

sub

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By *exandcoffeeWoman
19 weeks ago

Stamford

Sub but can switch

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By *ubmissivelyDerbyGuyMan
19 weeks ago

Nottingham

Submissive but do like to switch

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

sub

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By *zlakMan
19 weeks ago

Lowestoft

I'm sub with guys but can be sub or dom with women.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
19 weeks ago

Trowbridge

Domme

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Most definitely a Dominant don't mind agreed switch sometimes

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By *hat Couple Over ThereCouple
19 weeks ago

Doncaster

Mrs - I'm a sub but I do like to push back a little bit to enjoy the punishment so I guess you could call me a brat sub.

Mr is the dom.

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
19 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

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By *mfao88Man
19 weeks ago

north yorkshire

Sub.... occasional switch

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By *enelope2UWoman
19 weeks ago

Fife

I'm a sub to someone capable of being a legitimate dom..otherwise Im a ball buster and prefer nothing

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
19 weeks ago

south coast IOW

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
19 weeks ago

south coast IOW

Sub. Or nothing. But only to a genuine Dom not a selfish prat who calls himself Dom but wants to boss a woman around or humiliate her.

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By *ylonlickMan
19 weeks ago

Liverpool

I’m submissive, could switch with the right person but love to serve and worship

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By *asterMeliodasMan
19 weeks ago

Newmill


"Sub. Or nothing. But only to a genuine Dom not a selfish prat who calls himself Dom but wants to boss a woman around or humiliate her. "

The ones who think it gets them auto-fealty or use it as a way to bypass boundaries are the worst.

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By *ty31Man
19 weeks ago

NW London

I'd prefer not to pigeon hole myself, if something looks fun or interesting to try I like to think I wouldn't try to attach a label to it

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By *ouise 555Woman
19 weeks ago

Dorchester

Definitely sub slightly needy but in the right hands owf x

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
19 weeks ago

Norwichish

M is sub, sometimes a bratty one

R (me) is pleasure dom

Profile pics and vids should give good idea.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
19 weeks ago

Chatham

Sub

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By *rishVikingMan
19 weeks ago

Shankill

Switch

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By *irmhandmancMan
19 weeks ago

Bolton

Dom

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By *ythenMan
19 weeks ago

North Co. Dublin

Switch

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By *ythenMan
19 weeks ago

North Co. Dublin

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By *ythenMan
19 weeks ago

North Co. Dublin

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By *ythenMan
19 weeks ago

North Co. Dublin


"Switch "

A man after my own heart

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By *ythenMan
19 weeks ago

North Co. Dublin


"Switch

A man after my own heart "

@irish Viking

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By *istressSubCuckMan
19 weeks ago

Winchester

Will switch with sub females but am sub otherwise, either as a sissy cuck or as a beta/gamma pup for breeding by bulls and alphas.

Wife is not sub but not especially domme either

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By *wingfun96Man
19 weeks ago

BRISTOL

Always dom, tried switching once and wasn't for me lol

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Oh, I'm on the fence on this one...

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By *orphia2003Woman
19 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Dom / Top

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By *iceboy200Man
19 weeks ago

Dagenham

S u b

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By *enninemarkMan
19 weeks ago

huddersfield/manchester

Switch with a leaning towards sub

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By *MandMMCouple
19 weeks ago

Welwyn garden city

If we are playing kinky, Domme and sub

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By *r K and Mrs LCouple
19 weeks ago

Leicester

We can play middle of the road if needed, but normally hubby is Dom but can switch for the right person or maybe couple, but wife is always sub.

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By *NLOS123Man
19 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I am a Dom. It does not define me or mean that everyone can bring that side out in me. I am happy to play vanilla. I need the mental connection more than the physical

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By *iss AtlantisWoman
19 weeks ago

Travelling

Full-time Domme.

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By *hilcarol89Couple
19 weeks ago

Warrington

I'm a sub

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By *astpoetMan
19 weeks ago

where the world takes me

Always a sub/bottom

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By *aidbacklover2021Man
19 weeks ago

perth

So many delightful subs .I relate to being a Dom though one of my fantasies is to be feminised and used by a Domme oone day x

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By *rishVikingMan
19 weeks ago

Shankill

Great thread

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
19 weeks ago

Naughty Lane

Switch...depending on situation really... but more leaning towards bratty sub...

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By *uskWandererMan
19 weeks ago

Ormskirk

Switch, completely depends on company.

I can go from extremely submissive to those who know how to make me submit. I used to be very Dom until too long of vanilla has taken the edge off me a bit.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
19 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

Sub. Ironically, I have a Domme’s body 🤣

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By *r and Mrs SexploitCouple
19 weeks ago

Pontypridd

Mr is Dom. Mrs is sub

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By *hatsthisMan
19 weeks ago

Newcastle

Sub , though i think there may well be a switch in there especially when it comes to spanking

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
19 weeks ago

Sheffield

Mr is a D type, Mrs is an s type. The Mrs has been known to switch it up but never with Mr, only ever s-type to him.

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By *hantelle-La-SlutTV/TS
19 weeks ago

South Birmingham

Sub sissy in chastity.

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By *issy4kinkTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Leeds

I can switch, but only looking to submit at the moment :D

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Northumberland

Naturally dom, but will switch for the right couple of lady.

Love it though when it's just go with the flow and it's equal enjoyment ,

Xx

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By *ittleshit-SteveMan
19 weeks ago

Devon

Sub leaning switch 😊

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By *ambertMan
19 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Switch

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By *avexxMan
19 weeks ago

cheshire

dom

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By *iberius61Man
19 weeks ago

Pontefract

Top

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By *heTattooedDomMan
19 weeks ago

Winnersh

I’m a Dom / Top

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By *luttTV/TS
19 weeks ago

Duns

Big time sub

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Sub -though I have switched in the past submissive is my default

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By *lutty_FetgeekWoman
19 weeks ago

Wallasey

sub

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
19 weeks ago

Birmingham

Domme leaning Switch

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By *efinitelymaybelookingWoman
19 weeks ago

fabulous land

Switch I guess... I'm very submissive until someone shows weakness ha ha

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By *ickingdelightMan
19 weeks ago

Cotswolds

Switch, but playing as a sub with a domme is almost impossible

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By *iberius61Man
19 weeks ago

Pontefract


"Switch I guess... I'm very submissive until someone shows weakness ha ha "

Lol...that's called a brat

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By *quirrel!Man
19 weeks ago

Nearby

Mainly subby!

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Sub

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By *ensualgent38Man
19 weeks ago

London & Edinburgh

Instinctively dom. both sensual and kinky. It’s all about what scenario turns on my sub. That’s when BDSM sparks fly for me. There is one special lady in the world I have submitted to, and those glorious experiences have given me a deeper understanding of the joys of domination.

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By *quirrel!Man
19 weeks ago

Nearby

Wait - did you say sub? - I’m defo a dom then!

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By *ilthycouple24Couple
19 weeks ago

Glasgow

Dom chloe is a sub

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By *orkshire UnicornWoman
19 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Switcheroo depending on the partner 😈😇

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By *istressmystiqueeWoman
19 weeks ago

Bournemouth

Domme. Always

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By *Silver-Man
19 weeks ago

Mold

Depends on who my partner is, I can switch

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By *moothandslimMan
19 weeks ago

North Walsham

Sub for both.

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By *ogerroger69Man
19 weeks ago

West Yorks

Sub

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By *tongue_4_bbwsMan
19 weeks ago

Bewdley

I'm a pleasure top - so technically a dom, but it's not about *my* pleasure

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By *hatsthisMan
19 weeks ago

Newcastle

Isn't this a great interesting thread

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By *ongAndThick123Man
19 weeks ago

Leeds

Mostly Dom, but experimenting with the idea of being sub…

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By *aveJones76Man
19 weeks ago

Rotherham

Definitely sub, not a domme thing about me.

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By *tella AsteriaWoman
19 weeks ago

South West


"Dom,domme,sub,or switch which one are you

I’m a switch "

Always submissive

Active sub not lazy sub

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Sub here at your feet

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By *atexbound_scotMan
19 weeks ago

Livingston

Always sub to guys

Happy to switch with gals

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By *eaSlutsCouple
19 weeks ago

Glasgow

Both total switches here

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By *emdomCouple2024Couple
19 weeks ago

dudley

Both are switches but have our preferred style of play xx

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By *ympha LuxuriaWoman
19 weeks ago

La La Land

Preferably more Dom with the ladies, but can be switch if the mood takes me

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By *irty Boy-123Man
19 weeks ago

wirral

Submissive. I just love the female form and love to please and make my partners happy.

I'm also a bull for my Mistress and for couples.

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By *andPextraCouple
19 weeks ago

North West

Switch

Equally enjoy being in charge and doing as I'm told.

Depends on play partner, the dynamic, and personalities. i get different “rewards” from both

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By *omvampmMan
19 weeks ago

gillingham

In the right dynamic and after developing the trust and understanding most definitely Dom but it is not a prerequisite x

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By *H-XXIIIMan
19 weeks ago

Gander

Dom, my natural tendency.

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By *oxy jWoman
19 weeks ago

taunton somerset

i look for assertive guys as dom like many other tags go to peoples heads i dont meet subs at all and i totally avoid switch to me your one or the other not both but then i dont do the roleplay / fantasy world i just do real fun

#justmyopinion

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By *indMasterUKMan
19 weeks ago

All over England

Dom. Always.

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By *wabathMan
19 weeks ago

Bath

Submissive here, with both ladies and couples

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By *emboy AlexMan
19 weeks ago

Chadderton, Manchester

Submissive but I heavily prefer to be the top funnily enough.

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By *otBunsHunWoman
19 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Mostly sub. Occasionally switch.

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By *abuma65Man
19 weeks ago

Gloucester

Mmm in sub mood tonight

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By *li57123Man
19 weeks ago

Berkshire

Sub

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By *issJo555Woman
19 weeks ago

Surrey

Dom Switch

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By *mudge1995Man
19 weeks ago

Hull

I am sub but find it very hard to find Dommes to play with

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By *hil911Man
19 weeks ago

Solihull

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By *hil911Man
19 weeks ago

Solihull

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Dom but interested in trying sub

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By *aprica2Couple
19 weeks ago

Addlestone

Both switch

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By *rishVikingMan
19 weeks ago

Shankill

Switch

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By *winckle toesMan
19 weeks ago

norwich

Dom

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By *iverscuMan
19 weeks ago

Berkshire

Sub if I'm dressed but switch if I'm not

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By *ensualMan
19 weeks ago

Sutton

In this area people have different views, and definitions can be broad. However, I do feel that porn stereotypes has shaped how a lot of people see and define BDSM and kink.

People self define themselves as dom,switch or sub, but they don't explain what they mean when they apply the term dom, switch or sub, as the terms are broad.

My understanding is that merely being assertive, or ripped, toned and confident inside or outside the bedroom does not make a person "a Dominant". In the same way merely being available for sex or following the lead of a confident person to have sex does not make someone 'a submissive'.

There is a view that where arousal and sex is the goal this is hedonistic behaviour, which falls into the category of bedroom bondage or sexual kink. The aim of the play is arousal that will end in sex, and not for the innate pleasure those roles bring without sex.

Clearly there is nothing wrong with sex play. But I would suggest clarity is needed. As some people use "dominant and submissive" where people seek a power exchange relationship where the goal is a relationship. They don't want multiple random sexual relationships and see a D/s relationship as special.

To aid clarity stating whether someone is a "pleasure dom/sub" or a "power exchange dom/sub" would help.

Additionally the doms should state their skills. Are they handy with whips rope, floggers,wax etc.

I am not saying being a pleasure dom/sub is better than being a power exchange dom/sub, I am just saying they are different experiences and clarity helps set expectations.

Also, it may be that many people calling themselves"subs and doms" are actually "Tops and bottoms".

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago


"In this area people have different views, and definitions can be broad. However, I do feel that porn stereotypes has shaped how a lot of people see and define BDSM and kink.

People self define themselves as dom,switch or sub, but they don't explain what they mean when they apply the term dom, switch or sub, as the terms are broad.

My understanding is that merely being assertive, or ripped, toned and confident inside or outside the bedroom does not make a person "a Dominant". In the same way merely being available for sex or following the lead of a confident person to have sex does not make someone 'a submissive'.

There is a view that where arousal and sex is the goal this is hedonistic behaviour, which falls into the category of bedroom bondage or sexual kink. The aim of the play is arousal that will end in sex, and not for the innate pleasure those roles bring without sex.

Clearly there is nothing wrong with sex play. But I would suggest clarity is needed. As some people use "dominant and submissive" where people seek a power exchange relationship where the goal is a relationship. They don't want multiple random sexual relationships and see a D/s relationship as special.

To aid clarity stating whether someone is a "pleasure dom/sub" or a "power exchange dom/sub" would help.

Additionally the doms should state their skills. Are they handy with whips rope, floggers,wax etc.

I am not saying being a pleasure dom/sub is better than being a power exchange dom/sub, I am just saying they are different experiences and clarity helps set expectations.

Also, it may be that many people calling themselves"subs and doms" are actually "Tops and bottoms"."

When I saw you had posted I just knew we were in for a lecture on the subject

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By *aughty2yorksCouple
18 weeks ago

Leeds

Mrs sub, Mr switch

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By *aveJones76Man
18 weeks ago

Rotherham

100% sub!

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Naturally gravitate towards being submissive but think in reality I’m more a switch

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By *bonyGoddessNyxWoman
18 weeks ago

Nottingham

Domme, but occasionally a rope bottom for a very select few

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By *eviantDelightsMan
18 weeks ago

London/Cambridgeshire

Generally, I consider myself a switch, and it very much depends on who I’m interacting with and the feeling I get between us. However, I did start off my explorations as more sub and probably still find that a little easier headspace.

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Switch

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By *loss aka Miss JonesWoman
18 weeks ago

south coast IOW


"Sub. Or nothing. But only to a genuine Dom not a selfish prat who calls himself Dom but wants to boss a woman around or humiliate her.

The ones who think it gets them auto-fealty or use it as a way to bypass boundaries are the worst."

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By *atandasmileMan
18 weeks ago

Edinburgh


"Sub. Or nothing. But only to a genuine Dom not a selfish prat who calls himself Dom but wants to boss a woman around or humiliate her.

The ones who think it gets them auto-fealty or use it as a way to bypass boundaries are the worst.

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I've never really been sure what defines a genuine dom, but I'll have a go here at saying what I think. At least something that I think should be a core part of it.

I've always thought that one of the biggest things you are doing as a dom is exploring your sub's desires: get inside their head; find out what makes them tick; find their most deep seated wants and needs which cannot be satisfied within normal sex.

And then you give them those experiences. You make them feel exactly the way that they want and need and crave.

There's more: about how easy or hard this might be to do, or about how well your desires as a dom match your sub's; skills and equipment and knowledge. Or a dozen other things. But I think I would put that one thing above at the core.

Anyway, to bring this around to the comment I'm responding to - no I don't think the kind of selfish prats you're describing are good doms at all. They're like the polar opposite of that core principle.

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By *ikramMan
18 weeks ago

stockport

Until now was perfectly in the middle, but now exploring my sub side

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By *gp_sub01Man
18 weeks ago

Manchester (Malaga)

Definitely a sub

Dream is to be thoroughly used and abused by a couple from here

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By *unforall23Man
18 weeks ago

Midlands

Switch it up, best of both worlds

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By *orders-cplCouple
18 weeks ago

middx cpl

deffo more a sun love knowing my place xx

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By *b9012Man
15 weeks ago

Gunnislake

I’m submissive

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By *obbiKentMan
15 weeks ago

maidstone

Switch, all about what we each need

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By *adDesiresMan
15 weeks ago

Fleet

As I'm currently exploring I consider myself a switch.

Feel the persona which stands out depends on the connection I have with someone.

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By *inkycreamCouple
15 weeks ago

manchester

Masochist, but flip with the girls simply curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

Female Domme xx

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By *usyBusyElfWoman
15 weeks ago

Brum

Sub leaning switch x

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By *hil911Man
15 weeks ago

Solihull

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By *hil911Man
15 weeks ago

Solihull


"Sub leaning switch x"

Need a test subject? Ha

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
15 weeks ago

Wherever

Total switch.

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By *r99mr99Man
15 weeks ago

Ealing

Dom but would love to explore my switchy or sub side

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
15 weeks ago

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I'd find it boring if I or gf played one way, Its switch all the way for me

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By *abyC-OldskoolCouple
15 weeks ago

Somerset

Sub Dom lifestyle.. always 1 in the collar.switch but very far from vanilla

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By *rincess_nikki_transgurlTV/TS
15 weeks ago

salford

Very sub but can be sadistic Domme.

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By *punk n gushCouple
15 weeks ago

deal

Male is dom

Female sub

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By *uscious_Lady1Woman
15 weeks ago

Norwich

Definitely switch

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By *icentiousCouple
15 weeks ago

Up on them there hills

Sensual assertive with the right connection.Dom in a playful mode.

L is a switch and and cannot stand submissive men.

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By *isub85Man
15 weeks ago

Bracknell

Sub. And bi here

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By *our TV fantasyTV/TS
15 weeks ago

Waterloo, Liverpool


"Dom,domme,sub,or switch which one are you

I’m a switch "

Very much all.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
15 weeks ago

Home

Switch here

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
15 weeks ago

Sheffield


"Dom,domme,sub,or switch which one are you

I’m a switch "

Not a sub.

Don't tend to think of myself as a Dom.

Learning about rigging.

Although lots of people disagree. Apparently something to do with my voice and shoulders.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

I’m a switch which can but some people off, I get why, but depends on my mood, best of everything really.

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By *omRachCouple
15 weeks ago

Wirral


"Switch but much more domme leaning "

Something very very sexy about a domme lady.

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By *omRachCouple
15 weeks ago

Wirral

Rach & I (it's fair to say) are both submissive in nature (sexually)

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By *iren_66Couple
15 weeks ago

stoke on trent

Switch - more Domme though

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By *leanor1717Woman
15 weeks ago

Gillingham

I'm 100% switch, love the ebb and flow of dominance and the tussle for power

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago


"I'm 100% switch, love the ebb and flow of dominance and the tussle for power "

Not what you mean I know but I love a full on physical tussle for dominance. A battle of the sexes to achieve total supremacy.

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By *eedsortingMan
15 weeks ago

Radley

Naturally tend towards the more submissive - for what is worth

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By *inkster seekingMan
15 weeks ago

Ponty

I have done both when I discovered BDSM a very long time ago. Of the too I must prefer to be controlled and used as a sub

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

Dom

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