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By *ornycouple25200 OP Couple
42 weeks ago

London

How did people take next steps?

Hotwife loves attention, loves taking photos, loves being watched and I know would absolutely love being with other men once she started.

But struggling to get her to take the next step due to nerves etc.

Anyone any suggestions on potential building blocks to begin with?

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By *oralltherightreasonsCouple
42 weeks ago

WELLINGBOROUGH

Maybe get to know someone and build up a friendship and trust by chatting socialising and then maybe taking it further,

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I was a couples first third. She was also reticent for a while, but there is nothing better than good communication from all parties. We started by getting to know each others for a bit, got comfortable with being naked around each other, later upgraded to some soft touching and when she felt ready we got to business. You got to give time to some things in life no need to rush. Communicate, connect and act

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"Maybe get to know someone and build up a friendship and trust by chatting socialising and then maybe taking it further, "

This 👆🏻

I’ve been a couples first extra and I took months to make everyone at ease and be comfortable. The chat wasn’t sexual, it was more like friends talking.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I think you just need to chat with likely men, go at your own pace and do not be rushed into anything that makes you uncomfortable.

Social non pushy meets to gauge attraction and suitability, and just enjoy the journey

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By *icecouple561Couple
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42 weeks ago

East Sussex

"How did people take next steps?

Hotwife loves attention, loves taking photos, loves being watched and I know would absolutely love being with other men once she started.

But struggling to get her to take the next step due to nerves etc.

Anyone any suggestions on potential building blocks to begin with?"

How do you know that she'd absolutely love it. You don't get her to take the next step, she takes it herself or not if she doesn't want to

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By *portinglegendMan
42 weeks ago

Stamford

What about a guy just watching you two play together initially?

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
42 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Hey OP

Our first steps were visiting a club.

We didn't play with anyone else, but watched and soaked up the atmosphere - it was a brilliant way of entering the lifestyle for us.

S xx

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
42 weeks ago

Wales/ All over UK

"Hey OP

Our first steps were visiting a club.

We didn't play with anyone else, but watched and soaked up the atmosphere - it was a brilliant way of entering the lifestyle for us.

S xx"

I’d echo this, clubs are a perfect way of trying things out without pressure or expectation of anything happening

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"How did people take next steps?

Hotwife loves attention, loves taking photos, loves being watched and I know would absolutely love being with other men once she started.

But struggling to get her to take the next step due to nerves etc.

Anyone any suggestions on potential building blocks to begin with?"

I'm only surmising as I've not been in your position but does she know why she gets too nervous? Is she as into it as you or going along to please you?

When I first dabbled with my partner, it was after a prog on TV and we spoke about it a lot first.

When we did start playing, it was baby steps and always her preference.

The speed of the convoy always goes at the speed of the slowest ship and we both knew I'd be like a kid in a sweetshop so the pace and direction was dictated by her.

I had to reign myself in a lot, even making a effort to not bring it up and only talk about it until she didn't want to.

It was probably a year before we went to a club (in Dunstable as I recall) and even the first time it was just to see.

But it was worth the patience. When she'd worked herself out snd what she wanted, she was insatiable. Something incredibly sexy about having your woman tell you we were going away for the weekend and I needed to take her shopping for something sexy.

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