FabSwingers.com forum: Looking for guys

By *orl1971 OP Couple
24 weeks ago

Glasgow

Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.

We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.

What do you do ?

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By *as0046Man
24 weeks ago

stourbridge

If you see someone you like, you should message them. No harm in trying to find what you want

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By *d4fun73Man
24 weeks ago

Shipley

Yeah usually at stupid times of the night! Mostly they are fantasists anyway

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By *luebell888Woman
24 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I don't hesitate to message men if they appeal to me. Life’s too short to sit on the fence.

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By *as0046Man
24 weeks ago

stourbridge

"I don't hesitate to message men if they appeal to me. Life’s too short to sit on the fence."

Fence! Would be a lovely view though

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By *imbob85Man
24 weeks ago

inverness

I would just message nothing ventured nothing gained

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By *couse oneCouple
24 weeks ago

Liverpool

They will find and message you don’t worry

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By *d4fun73Man
24 weeks ago

Shipley

"I don't hesitate to message men if they appeal to me. Life’s too short to sit on the fence."

If only there were more like you!

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By *omptationMan
24 weeks ago

liverpool

Personally I would prefer a couple to message me direct if they are interested

Nothing is ever guaranteed, but at least you've started the ball rolling

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By *zlakMan
24 weeks ago

Lowestoft

You should message them and they should ask your Do's and Dont's before you even think about meeting. If they don't respect your terms they don't deserve to meet either of you. X

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By *ondoner27Man
24 weeks ago

london

"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.

We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.

What do you do ? "

When I have been approached by couples it has started with them winking me and then us exchanging messages to explore compatibility

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.

We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.

What do you do ? "

We find them and contact them, then we know they’re what we’re after.

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By *etropolitainMan
24 weeks ago

Redworth Co Durham

If only lol

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By *oxy jWoman
24 weeks ago

taunton somerset

if i like someone them i would message first and on top i get lots of guys just messaging me too .. im only on fab for guys but its getting harder and harder as so many are porn obsessed or come acxross entitized that its rare now i find guys on fab its hard enough to find sexual attraction in the first place ... and then via messaging to realize just how childish or entitized they can be ... but its good in another way as it becomes very clear to avoid and block ...

it doesnt bother me because most of my meets come from other ways now days and i meet often

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By *hunky GentMan
24 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.

We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.

What do you do ? "

If I was local to you I'd be very happy to receive a message from you guys.

Go for it.

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By *revaunanceCouple
24 weeks ago

Exeter

"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile."

A bit of both tbh.

Like most couples, we get plenty of approaches, but for all the usual reasons we don't follow them all up.

Our success rate when we make the first move has been extremely low, guess we are just unlucky in that respect or aiming too high.

Don't be afraid to make the first move, what's the worst that could happen?

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By *vaRose43Woman
24 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Bit of both

If a profile catches my eye I’ll wink or fab some of the pics. I don’t often send a first message as the few times I have I was accused of being fake as apparently “women don’t do that here”

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By *ivingthegoodlifeMan
24 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.

We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.

What do you do ? "

Nothings ever a certainty. Don’t see why you wouldn’t dm someone. If the chemistry is right then alls good. If it’s not guys should be grown up enough to take a tanks but no thanks for what it is.

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By *uzySuzyCouple
24 weeks ago

Lytham St Annes

love recieving interesting messages

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By *as0046Man
24 weeks ago

stourbridge

"love recieving interesting messages

Really???

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By *hunky GentMan
24 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"love recieving interesting messages

That's me out then.

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By *r99mr99Man
24 weeks ago

Ealing

"I don't hesitate to message men if they appeal to me. Life’s too short to sit on the fence."

Sit on faces not fences

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By * D 777Man
24 weeks ago

bathgate

"I don't hesitate to message men if they appeal to me. Life’s too short to sit on the fence.

Sit on faces not fences

agreed

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By *ester.jamesMan
24 weeks ago

birmingham

"I don't hesitate to message men if they appeal to me. Life’s too short to sit on the fence.

Sit on faces not fences "

Amazing motto

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By *illiam26Man
24 weeks ago

Craigavon

"I don't hesitate to message men if they appeal to me. Life’s too short to sit on the fence."
wow absolutely stunning xx

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By (user no longer on site)
24 weeks ago

There comes a point on some profiles where you don't get much choice but to filter single guys out - so unless you are going message them first you will be lacking in communication abilities with that genre

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By *4bimMan
24 weeks ago

Farnborough Hampshire

"I don't hesitate to message men if they appeal to me. Life’s too short to sit on the fence."

Good

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By *orl1971 OP Couple
24 weeks ago

Glasgow

Thanks for the advice. Sounds like messaging guys first doesn’t generally make them assume they are ‘in there’

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
24 weeks ago

East Yorkshire

Mix of both get messages daily but we're also always looking see who's around xx

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By *nkedguy777Man
24 weeks ago

Manchester

Id love to receive a message of a couple If they were interested,I do often send a polite message to couples and women but unfortunately don't get many replies

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By *otwifeHusband888Couple
24 weeks ago

Within touching distance

"Couples or women. If you are looking for guys do you find them and contact them yourself or try to let them find you by maybe looking at their profile.

We find ourselves a bit reluctant to send the first message in case their expectations are too high in that they are guaranteed a sure fire meet and play. They’re not btw.

What do you do ? "

We get where your coming from. Mrs likes to be the one desired so making the first move feels weird to her.. Also most Guys take it as a sure thing like yiubsay and get a little cocky. That's off-putting, They then wonder why you went all quiet and its rude to say you look good but your a bit of a dickhead. It's quite the conundrum, lol

We tend to send a wink. If they respond great if not then hopefully someone else comes along. For every knobend there's a few decent guys too.

Ps it's worse when you go out your way to get childcare and arrange a meet for them so mysteriously vanish for a few days then message you back with the most random reason why they went quiet.

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By *ick1111Man
24 weeks ago

Near Spalding

It would be great to be contacted by more couples on here, just make your opening message welcoming, but explain that nothing is to be taken for granted until you’ve all chatted to each other...

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By *elboy1957Man
24 weeks ago

Weston-super-Mare

A wink is a good start

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By * D 777Man
24 weeks ago

bathgate

just message whats to lose ,nothing really all to gain

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By *iberius61Man
24 weeks ago

Pontefract

"...apparently “women don’t do that here”

I love hearing about things that women don't do

I'm pretty sure that I had a definite list when i was barely a tenager, the you meet some, and that list starts to shrink

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By *luebell888Woman
24 weeks ago

Glasgowish

"I don't hesitate to message men if they appeal to me. Life’s too short to sit on the fence.

Sit on faces not fences "

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By *oxy jWoman
24 weeks ago

taunton somerset

see the problem here is not that women dont message because they do the real problem is they are just not messaging you .... thats just the way it crumbles with so few women compared to men

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
24 weeks ago

South West London

Well theres many single men on the site so you should be spoilt for choice, in fact im sure thwy flooding your inbox

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