FabSwingers.com forum: Abide for someone just entering the scene

Norwichish

"21 year old man who wants to enter the swinger scene what’s the first step"

Go to some socials or clubs.

I will say you will probably be on the younger side for a lot of the clubs we have visited, although I struggle to age people these days, I look at “youngsters” at clubs and think they are in their 20’s but turns out they may be 30

There are some clubs that run under 35 nights also socials that do the same.

There is only one way to find out if you like the scene and that is to go join in. Closest to London that we have been to would be Penthouse Playrooms although I think they have a fairly strict single guy policy. A club you have more chance of getting in (especially at the moment after it reopened and is super busy) would be The Attic in Derby, although it’s very busy and may be a bit much for a newbie.

By *rsKOTCTWoman
24 weeks ago

Leeds

I'd he joins here he shouldn't have much expectation, he'd be too young for many & men outweigh couples and ladies by far, it's hard for blokes especially younger ones.

As the profile above stated maybe social events and clubs maybe a bit better.

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
24 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't think there's a first step as such.

I'd say have a think about what your expectations are, read the forums and decide if they're achievable. Then take it from there.

If clubs or socials aren't something that interest you, you will need to try and connect with people on here. That can take time and patience.

Good luck

By *isstinseltoesWoman
24 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

The one bit of advice I'd give, if you're going to use just fab, is to manage your expectations.

It can take some men months to get that first meet.

So make sure your profile is the best you can make it, with varied pics and a bit about what you are into and would offer any meets.

You do need to stand out, due to the amount of men on here.

If you're open to doing other things away from fab,see if there are any local socials and go along to one. They're a great way to meet other people.

Always read profiles and only message those who you think you're a good fit for or genuinely interested in.