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By *CLCPLUK OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gateshead

Hi all!

Just wondering what you opinion is on having an ex as a fuck buddy. I love the idea of my gf fucking other guys (have had one 3sum on here and that's all) but she has to be in the 'right' mood which isn't alot

She has had an ex messaging her a bit latley and she tells me everything. The messages have started to get a bit naughty now and they both want to fuck each other.

Just wanted to hear ur thoughts on an ex as a fuck bud? I do really like the idea of it as I know she wud b happy meeting him alone then coming home and showing pics/telling me all about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally think in your situation if you are happy with it then let her do it. But if you're worried about her getting her feelings back for an ex then you should tell her. Communication is the best way. Aslong as both parties know its just sex

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

So long as he's not looking for anything more and they're both able to maintain a sexual relationship without old feelings/issues getting involved than sure, go for it.

- Amy. x

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

It'll all end in tears! Sorry but it will. Keep and ex as an ex. You can still be friends but don't have any kind of sexual element to it. It has the potential to become seriously messy.

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By *CLCPLUK OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gateshead

Truthfully I think it's a bit of a turn on known he is an ex. At least it means she will be at ease with him, and not be too nervous! I'm hoping after she does it she might be more open to doing it with guys on here (as long as she has fun.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Hi all!

Just wondering what you opinion is on having an ex as a fuck buddy. I love the idea of my gf fucking other guys (have had one 3sum on here and that's all) but she has to be in the 'right' mood which isn't alot

She has had an ex messaging her a bit latley and she tells me everything. The messages have started to get a bit naughty now and they both want to fuck each other.

Just wanted to hear ur thoughts on an ex as a fuck bud? I do really like the idea of it as I know she wud b happy meeting him alone then coming home and showing pics/telling me all about it. "
or not comming home to you at all if its rekindled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It'll all end in tears! Sorry but it will. Keep and ex as an ex. You can still be friends but don't have any kind of sexual element to it. It has the potential to become seriously messy."

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree with the people saying it's all going to end badly.

If there has been feelings there in the past then sex rekindles all that, you will end up losing her to the ex.

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By *CLCPLUK OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gateshead

Thanks guys. Seems some very mixed opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An ex is an ex for a reason.......

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Id be well pissed if my OH wanted to fk his ex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit differnet having sex with an ex than guys like you say on here op, guys on here she's not had a past with, I'd stay well clear and myself would think there's still something between her and her ex

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By *CLCPLUK OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gateshead


"Bit differnet having sex with an ex than guys like you say on here op, guys on here she's not had a past with, I'd stay well clear and myself would think there's still something between her and her ex "

The only problem is that setting up a meet with a random kind of turns her off. My thinking was is she met this ex (by the way they where together about 10years ago) she might be more open to others on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what if he as a bigger cock than you .....will that make you jealous ????

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By *CLCPLUK OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gateshead


"what if he as a bigger cock than you .....will that make you jealous ???? "

Of course (but in a good way!) lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is only going to lead to trouble... How come she in touch if its Ten years ago...

You are going to be played like a violin...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what if he as a bigger cock than you .....will that make you jealous ????

Of course (but in a good way!) lol "

But ...what if she prefers his again and again ?????

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

Not a good idea

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By *CLCPLUK OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gateshead


"what if he as a bigger cock than you .....will that make you jealous ????

Of course (but in a good way!) lol

But ...what if she prefers his again and again ????? "

Well I do very much like the idea of being a cuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy Hunting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's only going to end in tears, there is too much history and emotion there, and to be honest if my misses was getting texts off her ex saying he wanted to fuck her I'd tell him to fuck off personally, but its your bat and ball at the end of the day. Just think its a badddd idea buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An ex is an ex for a reason......."

yes but the reason is not always one of sexual compatibility.

I split from gf 18 months ago due to pressure from my children but still had sexual relationship through most of last year. I split from my wife 4 years ago but we now meet occasionally (we didn't during relationship with gf). We were and still are very sexually compatible and as we are both single at the mo then why not?

As long as all parties are aware of the boundaries then sex with ex partners can work out fine BUT in the OPs situation I would be worried that the emotional candle would be re-lit and would consider those circumstances too risky.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Tears. This will end in them.

Just saying.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"The only problem is that setting up a meet with a random kind of turns her off. My thinking was is she met this ex (by the way they where together about 10years ago) she might be more open to others on here"

See, now, I'm sorry but that rings alarm bells... x

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By *CLCPLUK OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gateshead

I'm guessing its all about trust really

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Your reasons seem to be a) you like the idea of being a cuckold and b) it might make her more accepting of meeting strangers.

Your thought process is flawed.

Talk to her and find out what she wants, discuss what you want and then work out what both of you want for your relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your reasons seem to be a) you like the idea of being a cuckold and b) it might make her more accepting of meeting strangers.

Your thought process is flawed.

Talk to her and find out what she wants, discuss what you want and then work out what both of you want for your relationship."

very good advice here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all!

Just wondering what you opinion is on having an ex as a fuck buddy. I love the idea of my gf fucking other guys (have had one 3sum on here and that's all) but she has to be in the 'right' mood which isn't alot

She has had an ex messaging her a bit latley and she tells me everything. The messages have started to get a bit naughty now and they both want to fuck each other.

Just wanted to hear ur thoughts on an ex as a fuck bud? I do really like the idea of it as I know she wud b happy meeting him alone then coming home and showing pics/telling me all about it. "

all sounds a bit complicated to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hope the ex is aware he's having his filthy pics given to the OP....

imagine a man doing that with a woman and she didnt know...

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

My only concern would be a rekindling of the romance they once had and you end up with nothing... I think I'd avoid an ex, they are 'ex' for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bad idea. Bad, bad idea. If he's an ex then there will be feelings involved.

But I guess it depends on their relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doomed .. Doomed .. Its all doomed !!

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By *eal_Dick_TurpinMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"Hi all!

Just wondering what you opinion is on having an ex as a fuck buddy. I love the idea of my gf fucking other guys (have had one 3sum on here and that's all) but she has to be in the 'right' mood which isn't alot

She has had an ex messaging her a bit latley and she tells me everything. The messages have started to get a bit naughty now and they both want to fuck each other.

Just wanted to hear ur thoughts on an ex as a fuck bud? I do really like the idea of it as I know she wud b happy meeting him alone then coming home and showing pics/telling me all about it. "

Google "beta orbiter" then look in the mirror...

seriously dude, you and her is sand running out of a glass, and the only one who apparently cannot see it is you.

so, you have seen *some* text messages, and you assume this is all, and you assume this ex is the only one, you have no basis for this assumption.

just saying, this is going to hurt you a lot more if you carry on with this all milk and honey attitude to her.

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Writing on wall...

Exes have history ...if you're not careful you will end up as the ex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you let her do it be careful fella ex's are ex's for reason and if there is unfinished business you could get hurt just be careful and tread carefully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her if you want her to meet guys off this site arrange social meets first so she gets to know potential play mates. Going to an ex is moving backwards not forwards. You want a clean slate as a swinging partnership not the potential of secrets. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh the thrill of being chased. Everybody loves that feeling. And for it to be an ex. What a sweet way to kick his arse. Whether it be to scratch an itch. Or as I say to kick his arse. It's dangerous ground for all concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An EX is an EX for a reason!

I wouldn't bother it'll not work out and end in tears!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all!

Just wondering what you opinion is on having an ex as a fuck buddy. I love the idea of my gf fucking other guys (have had one 3sum on here and that's all) but she has to be in the 'right' mood which isn't alot

She has had an ex messaging her a bit latley and she tells me everything. The messages have started to get a bit naughty now and they both want to fuck each other.

Just wanted to hear ur thoughts on an ex as a fuck bud? I do really like the idea of it as I know she wud b happy meeting him alone then coming home and showing pics/telling me all about it. "

The fact he is an ex means there was an emotional relationship there and it will carry a risk the intimacy may rekindle it leaving you high and dry. Work out if the risk and the potential pitfalls are worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An EX is an EX for a reason!

I wouldn't bother it'll not work out and end in tears!"
It won't end well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stock up on tissues

Not likely to end well !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't go there. Cant see it ending well at all.

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I play privately with an ex. My partner wasn't sure how she'd feel the first time but she let me try and she got quite excited about it in the end. Although it's not possible to do now, we were also both planning to swing with my other ex, right back when we started swinging.

It depends on your relationship with your ex partners (for me we've always remained solid friends) and also whether your current partner feels threatened by the relationship. If they do, it's not worth it. The same goes for any meet your partner isn't comfortable with though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It'll all end in tears! Sorry but it will. Keep and ex as an ex. You can still be friends but don't have any kind of sexual element to it. It has the potential to become seriously messy."

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"An ex is an ex for a reason......."

Exactly what I was gonna say

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By *ovebigwomenMan
over a year ago

ballymena

i wudnt let her near him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Turns me on mate. My wife tells me all about her sex sessions with her ex he was a big guy down below I'm small so a big turn on. Would I like her to fuck him too right but I would have to be there

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

The danger is that with an ex emotions can become involved. That's when it gets difficult!

He may think it is so much more than sex. Trust me, I know from experience .... Phone calls in the middle of the night to both my mobile and landline are very annoying, as are emails to me in work.....

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By *CLCPLUK OP   Couple
over a year ago

Gateshead


"The danger is that with an ex emotions can become involved. That's when it gets difficult!

He may think it is so much more than sex. Trust me, I know from experience .... Phone calls in the middle of the night to both my mobile and landline are very annoying, as are emails to me in work..... "

Don't worry the ex knows that I like her fucking other guys, and that's why she wants to meet him

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