FabSwingers.com forum: How many messages

By *ay40x OP Man
26 weeks ago

Bromley

If you message someone on here and it goes unread how long do you leave it before messaging again or do you just give up and move on?

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By *ojo2joWoman
26 weeks ago

Penclawdd

"If you message someone on here and it goes unread how long do you leave it before messaging again or do you just give up and move on?"

If it’s unread, it’s unread for a reason.

If you messaged me a second time you’d go straight on the block list.

May sound harsh but that’s the reality.

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By *hat Couple Over ThereCouple
26 weeks ago

Doncaster

We read all our messages and reply with a polite thanks but if we don't engage after thats then its a hint.

We block when people won't leave us alone

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
26 weeks ago

Leeds

If there's been back & fourth chat then I'd maybe send another, if it was a 1st message that got ignored I wouldn't send any more.

They ain't interested.

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
26 weeks ago

Bourne lincs

I give up. Got to recognise the gen people. Messages mean nothing on here full of people looking at ur pics and perv

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By *aste-the-RainbowCouple
26 weeks ago

Worthing

We leave messages unread until we both have had a chance to read them. So it depends on how often we pop in. Also if we get multiple messages from someone we feel they are pushy and not someone we would want to meet so end up blocking.

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By *ak4uMan
26 weeks ago

chelmsford

"If there's been back & fourth chat then I'd maybe send another, if it was a 1st message that got ignored I wouldn't send any more.

They ain't interested."

If they don't read the message how do they know that they're not interested?

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By *aste-the-RainbowCouple
26 weeks ago

Worthing

"If there's been back & fourth chat then I'd maybe send another, if it was a 1st message that got ignored I wouldn't send any more.

They ain't interested.

If they don't read the message how do they know that they're not interested?"

Could have read it then changed it back to unread

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By *airybobMan
26 weeks ago

Telford

If it’s unread then leave it and move on , no point in pestering anyone

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By *ojo2joWoman
26 weeks ago

Penclawdd

"If there's been back & fourth chat then I'd maybe send another, if it was a 1st message that got ignored I wouldn't send any more.

They ain't interested.

If they don't read the message how do they know that they're not interested?"

Few ways.

From the profile picture (or lack of).

Can view a profile without opening a message, read profile, decide not interested,

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By *haggydogMan
26 weeks ago

Brooklands/London

Just move on.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
26 weeks ago

Wherever

In a (very) rare event I might miss a message or two.

Otherwise if you keep persistently messaging me, especially with ??? I’ll block you.

I didn’t respond for a reason.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
26 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

They may have read the message and then marked it as unread again.

I'd give it a good few weeks op, I block anyone who messages and then sends another one quickly.

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
26 weeks ago

manchester

"If you message someone on here and it goes unread how long do you leave it before messaging again or do you just give up and move on?"

We wouldn’t message again!

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
26 weeks ago

Leeds

"If there's been back & fourth chat then I'd maybe send another, if it was a 1st message that got ignored I wouldn't send any more.

They ain't interested.

If they don't read the message how do they know that they're not interested?"

1st thing when someone messages is to check out the profile, if it ain't for me the content of the message isn't either.

Also I mark back as unread.

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
26 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

if I send a pm and its not read or answered I leave it there.

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By *xfordjohnMan
26 weeks ago

Oxford

"if I send a pm and its not read or answered I leave it there."

Same here. If they don't respond first time, what's the point?

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By *ap-scarCouple
26 weeks ago

Sleaford

I will be honest, we are rubbish at messaging people back. It may say we are online but we are both signed in and bob in and out but messages generally we answer together. If yoh haven't read the profile and simply put a hi....to us that's no effort so unfortunately we do delete the messages just because we haven't got the time to reply to everyone that doesn't put the effort in

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By *d mirerMan
26 weeks ago

lost

Don’t check , and certainly never send a second . No good would come of it

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By *hunky GentMan
26 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I very rarely send a second message if the last one hasn't been read, even if it's to a fab friend or someone I've chatted to before.

My 'sent' folder is almost full of yellow as it.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

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26 weeks ago

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By *erald 1999Man
26 weeks ago

carmarthen

If you have a message unread and its like 2 days, block them before they block you lol it works both ways if someone is not interested.....their loss ....

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
26 weeks ago

Reading

"If there's been back & fourth chat then I'd maybe send another, if it was a 1st message that got ignored I wouldn't send any more.

They ain't interested.

If they don't read the message how do they know that they're not interested?"

Most messages can be previewed leaves them on unread.

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By *Wnewbies 40Couple
26 weeks ago

Morecambe

Don’t seem to get message so don’t have to reply

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By *ophie SteveCouple
26 weeks ago

Bristol

We've just cleared our inbox of over 50 messages received over the last couple of weeks (we've been busy with normal life stuff so hadn't caught up for a while)

We only had time to reply to a few - mainly those who'd made more effort than "How's you?" or "Fancy a fuck?".

Just because we didn't reply, doesn't mean we wouldn't be interested another time, so would say don't block and if you fancy trying again in the future then go for it - it's impossible to keep track of everyone who messages us so no response doesn't necessarily mean no interest - it can just mean we're not free to engage/meet right now.

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By *ojo2joWoman
26 weeks ago

Penclawdd

"If you have a message unread and its like 2 days, block them before they block you lol it works both ways if someone is not interested.....their loss ....

Although 2 days might not be long enough for both halves of a couple to read.

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By *hunky GentMan
26 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

"If you message someone on here and it goes unread how long do you leave it before messaging again or do you just give up and move on?"

I don’t tend to double message!!

My thing is….if I’m left on read I will delete straight away!

If it’s been sat for a week as unread I’ll delete….i imagine that a message in a woman’s inbox for a week will be lost and never ever found

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
26 weeks ago

Tamworth

Never. No second messages. If they’re interested, they’ll reply to the first.

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By *ucka39Man
26 weeks ago

Newcastle

I just leave them as people have busy lives between fab and the norm and they do respond when they can

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By *oxy jWoman
26 weeks ago

taunton somerset

"I give up. Got to recognise the gen people. Messages mean nothing on here full of people looking at ur pics and perv "

being genuine means fuck all on here being genuine what does that even mean in a scene thats based on sexual attraction / personality / getting on ... being genuine being a good guy being a gentleman means nothing being any of them should be the norm ...

same goes for the guys who cry '' oh they ruin it for us good guys'' nope they dont just except the reason your getting no where is totally down to you ie nobody is interested ..yet stop blaming others cause its not them its you

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By *teveinYorkMan
26 weeks ago

Pocklington

Give up & move on

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Never double down on your messages. Just move on

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By *arkhelgaCouple
26 weeks ago

leeds

One message will doX

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By *agatoXXXMan
26 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

For 24 hours after their next login. After that, it's delete and block.

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By *aizyWoman
26 weeks ago

west midlands

If it is a first msg to someone, I send it and delete it from my sent, that way I don't know if its been read or not. I do sometimes take a while to read msgs, I don't always check my inbox I just come on here to use the forums, I never read a msg and leave it on read tho, I forget to answer if I do that!

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
26 weeks ago

Sheffield

We can miss messages or just get so busy we forget to reply so we don't mind a single chaser, but if its runs in 3, 4, or more then they go on the block list.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
26 weeks ago

Tamworth

"If it is a first msg to someone, I send it and delete it from my sent, that way I don't know if its been read or not. I do sometimes take a while to read msgs, I don't always check my inbox I just come on here to use the forums, I never read a msg and leave it on read tho, I forget to answer if I do that!"

I'm so glad it's not just me! Sometimes it takes me a few days to read a message and people have taken umbrage at that but it's just I get distracted by the forum or I'm busy with real world stuff.

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