FabSwingers.com forum: Single guys at Swinging Clubs

By *0X4 OP Man
26 weeks ago

Bedford

I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August.

What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended?

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

Mate it's definitely worth going to clubs, but go with the right attitude, treat it like going down the pub and having a social, don't get too pissed and don't have any expectations and you will have a great time,then if anything happens it's a bonus.

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By *luebell888Woman
26 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I always love to see single men at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
26 weeks ago

I’m new to fab and am thinking the same but tbh very nervous will need a drink first but not too many

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By *harAndBryCouple
26 weeks ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We go to clubs specifically for single guys - been days at VA where Char has had seven if them. Without single guys, we'd have no luck at clubs.

(Bry)

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
26 weeks ago

Next Door

Yes, single guys are a welcome addition to clubs, as long as they are respectful and don't follow women/couples everywhere.

Be near the social areas and talk to people.

What Woman Want profile hold events for non members of vanilla alternative club, so this could be a good starting point for you OP.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
26 weeks ago

Sheffield

Yes single guys are welcome at lots of events!

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By *nkedguy777Man
26 weeks ago

Manchester

As has already been said, just go with no expectations, treat it like a social and it's an absolute bonus if you end up having fun

I've been to quite a few clubs but unfortunately I've not been lucky enough to have any fun,but they have been great nights anyway, would of been even better if I'd of been lucky enough to have had some fun

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By *0X4 OP Man
26 weeks ago

Bedford

"Mate it's definitely worth going to clubs, but go with the right attitude, treat it like going down the pub and having a social, don't get too pissed and don't have any expectations and you will have a great time,then if anything happens it's a bonus. "
Thanks for the advice mate

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By *0X4 OP Man
26 weeks ago

Bedford

"Yes, single guys are a welcome addition to clubs, as long as they are respectful and don't follow women/couples everywhere.

Be near the social areas and talk to people.

What Woman Want profile hold events for non members of vanilla alternative club, so this could be a good starting point for you OP.

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I guess it's like being followed around by a zombie

Thanks for the advice with What women want profile, I'll look them up x

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By *orkshirecouple69 returnCouple
26 weeks ago

doncaster

My wife always looks for guys looking nervous and sat of their own at a club

We both vape and go into the smoking garden within 10 minutes she has invited single guys to come and sit with us

I’ve even known her to invite two

Within 20 minutes asking questions

She’s invited them to play with us

So don’t worry about going to a club alone! Someone will always find you

It’s the cocky guys who just walk up and down pestering people we don’t like in a club

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
26 weeks ago

Tamworth

Single men who are respectful and have good social skills are very welcome. By this I mean making conversation the same way you would at any venue, not following people around, not standing too close, not touching without being invited.

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By *hawslut_redemptionCouple
26 weeks ago

Minehead

"Single men who are respectful and have good social skills are very welcome. By this I mean making conversation the same way you would at any venue, not following people around, not standing too close, not touching without being invited. "

Crimson's advice is spot on

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By *0X4 OP Man
26 weeks ago

Bedford

"My wife always looks for guys looking nervous and sat of their own at a club

We both vape and go into the smoking garden within 10 minutes she has invited single guys to come and sit with us

I’ve even known her to invite two

Within 20 minutes asking questions

She’s invited them to play with us

So don’t worry about going to a club alone! Someone will always find you

It’s the cocky guys who just walk up and down pestering people we don’t like in a club "
Thanks for this too, I'm so not cocky so hopefully I'll be accepted

I'm feeling much more confident about going now

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By *0X4 OP Man
26 weeks ago

Bedford

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
26 weeks ago

Tamworth

That’s exactly the right approach.

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By *oxy jWoman
26 weeks ago

taunton somerset

if there were no single guys at clubs we would not go ... most of the guys in my little black book are from meeting in clubs ...

at the end of the day its tour choice on how you behave to how you get on if you become one of the guys who chase follow wank pester wont take no as a answer then it will be grim if your just a nice guy chatting and behaving then you'll be fine

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By *illjoyCouple
26 weeks ago

Newport

My missus had a few single guys in Darlaston last night, she loves them!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
24 weeks ago

Coventry

Do your homework on the club and be a decent human being. Fab itself is inhabited by many transitional and badly behaved men. That being so it pretty much results in (almost) all single men being treated like scum on Fab. At a good club (not all by any means!) you'll be treated as you deserve to be based on your approach. Be friendly, patient and not pushy. Don't follow people around the building - even if others do. Stay close to the bar and not in a corner and stare. At the bar you'll have people come and go. Some will totally ignore you in case they 'catch single guy disease' and won't even give you as much as a smile or _ello. Others WILL give you a chance if you behave well, but worth bearing in mind that it takes time to build a good reputation and seconds to badly damage it. Behave as you would in the best of social situations and just be nice and interesting to know. NEVER wander around a playroom desperately - don't get too close to people without invite in there and NEVER help yourself in any way.

Bear in mind you WILL be assumed to be bad news by a lot of people - couples in particular - no matter what you do, so you have to develop a somewhat thick skin. Don't let that damage your sensitivity to others body language and your perception of being unwelcome in any situation. Move away elsewhere if you sense negativity or hostility.

Ending on a very positive note I've taken the time to build a good reputation by focusing on being myself in the few clubs I now go to. As a result I have the best time among those who know me, both socially and in terms of play. It's WAY more of a positive experience than you'll ever get on Fab and you'll get to feel like you're part of a community. On here you're going to be treated like dirt, by all but a tiny percentage. That's soul-destroying and can be damaging mentally, so go to a good club event where guys ARE genuinely welcome and you'll be taken on face value. Make an effort in the way you present yourself and you've every chance of acceptance. The odds are completely the opposite of those on Fab.

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By *ihusband84Man
24 weeks ago

SHEERNESS

"We go to clubs specifically for single guys - been days at VA where Char has had seven if them. Without single guys, we'd have no luck at clubs.

(Bry)"

She's amazing can't believe you don't get loads of offers

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By *0X4 OP Man
23 weeks ago

Bedford

"Do your homework on the club and be a decent human being. Fab itself is inhabited by many transitional and badly behaved men. That being so it pretty much results in (almost) all single men being treated like scum on Fab. At a good club (not all by any means!) you'll be treated as you deserve to be based on your approach. Be friendly, patient and not pushy. Don't follow people around the building - even if others do. Stay close to the bar and not in a corner and stare. At the bar you'll have people come and go. Some will totally ignore you in case they 'catch single guy disease' and won't even give you as much as a smile or _ello. Others WILL give you a chance if you behave well, but worth bearing in mind that it takes time to build a good reputation and seconds to badly damage it. Behave as you would in the best of social situations and just be nice and interesting to know. NEVER wander around a playroom desperately - don't get too close to people without invite in there and NEVER help yourself in any way.

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By *uckslut and MCouple
23 weeks ago

Poole

Yes, single guys are very much needed at gg or gb nights. This is what we look for when we goto a club.

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By *ee And MikeCouple
23 weeks ago

Cannock

As a cuckold couple we do like to visit the odd club so Dee can play with single guys, perhaps two or three of them.

We like to chat and get to know guys first, we hate the ‘meerkats’ that follow you around, very off putting.

Our advice, just chat to couples or single ladies if there are any there and get involved that way rather than pestering people, which in our opinion doesn’t work.

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By *assageVirtuosoMan
23 weeks ago

SouthEast

"As a cuckold couple we do like to visit the odd club so Dee can play with single guys, perhaps two or three of them.

We like to chat and get to know guys first, we hate the ‘meerkats’ that follow you around, very off putting.

Our advice, just chat to couples or single ladies if there are any there and get involved that way rather than pestering people, which in our opinion doesn’t work."

"Meeekats" is such an appropriate word. I've used it previously too, despite others' preference to call them the "walking zombies".

BTW, the Mayor of London , I call him the "Mayorkat".He truly looks like a meerkat but if he wasn't so hated by so many, I wouldn't made fun of him.

OP, very good advice here from couples and men with club experience. You look like a decent bloke , you'll be fine. Come back to tell us how it all went for you.

Best of luck!

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By *ittle big hornsMan
23 weeks ago

nerja

"My wife always looks for guys looking nervous and sat of their own at a club

We both vape and go into the smoking garden within 10 minutes she has invited single guys to come and sit with us

I’ve even known her to invite two

Within 20 minutes asking questions

She’s invited them to play with us

So don’t worry about going to a club alone! Someone will always find you

It’s the cocky guys who just walk up and down pestering people we don’t like in a club "

This really isn't the usual, as a single guy who is shy of approaching couple's.

I wish it was more common

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By *andPextraCouple
23 weeks ago

North West

Following a recent raft of poor experiences and people often asking for advice, here’s my ten pence worth for single male club etiquette, to increase your success.

I’m sure most of it has been said before, but-

Dont smell like a polecat (fella recently almost had one of those cartoon “auras” and flies following him. Think smelling like a farmyard) OR conversely drowned in aftershave (man made me sneeze uncontrollably

If you have feet or hands like the gruffalo cover them up or at least trim them.

Have clean nails- one man tried to chat me up looking like he’d done an oil change on a car. Do i want hands like that near me?

Dont see a couple/single lady and immediately start wanking. Extra minus points for doing it in the changing room whilst I’m getting changed OR winking at me

Don't follow people round like a lemming

Don’t beg/Don't tell me a tale of woe/don’t try guilt tripping me- It’s not a charity event

Take no for an answer graciously. Remember, it may be no for that night, not no forever if we see you again. Spit your dummy out and its never going to happen.

Successful single men tend to be polite, charming, interesting and have more chat then “do you come here often” immediately followed by “lets play”.

Put a bit of effort in.

Make of the above what you will, i’m sure people will agree and disagree in equal measure

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By *orny PTMan
23 weeks ago

Peterborough

Treat it like a solo visit to a snooker club.

Have a drink (be sensible), strike up a conversation when you can.

Be nice and like the snooker halls, respectfully watch the others playing and never ever wave your cue (cock) in someone's face, nor grab the balls (or any body part) mid play. This will end in tears.

Two key phrases "May I?" and "Room for a little one?" will serve you well, if you want to join in. No means no, yes means you've done something right.

Yup, this is patronising and tongue , but some guys just don't get it.

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By *atnayCouple
23 weeks ago

STEVENAGE

"Yes, single guys are a welcome addition to clubs, as long as they are respectful and don't follow women/couples everywhere.

Be near the social areas and talk to people.

What Woman Want profile hold events for non members of vanilla alternative club, so this could be a good starting point for you OP.

What Women want is the best event. Well, my fav anyway..

Great atmosphere, great ppl and perfect venue.

Deffo worth getting in touch with the hosts.

As others have said. Go with no expectation other than to mingle n chat with like minded ppl. Be yourself, be respectful and relax.

I often say to single guys. Clubs are perfect for starting out and as long as you know how to behave, always welcome. You'll get to meet and make connections with others and if your lucky get invited to play. Or, if your feeling a vibe and connection, ask them if they would like to play. Just be respectful. And don't be put off if the 1st visit was a social. Keep visiting.

I only have private meets with those I have met and spent time with in a club these days. Having already met them, I know the chemistry and connection is there means I know I'm not wasting any time and energy going through fab to try n find what I want. N

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By *0X4 OP Man
23 weeks ago

Bedford

Thanks for your fantastic advice. It has given me a bit more confidence with going to a club and given an insight into single male etiquette there. Definitely looks like going with the mindset of making contacts/networking is the key.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
23 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

It really all depends on your personality in clubs - if you’re the type that will proactively chat to people in pubs then you’ll be fine in clubs. If you stand there expecting someone to come over to you or you avoid eye contact then it’s least likely to happen.

You don’t need to be the life and soul but you need to be able to chat to people.

Also go with the intention of just making connections, even saying hi to people and coming across as friendly. If you don’t get asked to play this time, your actions may determine that you get considered next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Been to clubs as a single guy and couple.

Be polite, talk to folks and hang around bar/social areas and be approachable. Complements are always good.

Heard a term the weekend..."the wanking dead" don't be that.

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By *heeky_kikiWoman
23 weeks ago

Guisborough

I specifically go to clubs to meet single men.

But I like the ones who are confident enough to make conversation, not the ones that hide in a corner or just follow me around playing with their erection

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
23 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

To add to the excellent advice, take a wrist bag/pouch with jonnies that actually fit you (Theyfit.com is a good start). Nominal width is just as important as length. If you’re not used to wearing them, practice wanking in them (at home!) to keep hard. Skyns are great as they cover the bases for those who also have latex allergies/dryness.

Pouches of ph balanced lube are always very welcomed. I suggest pouches as they wrap around the wrist better.

Ask before escalating play not just starting it. And most importantly speak to both parts of the couple when entering conversations. The guy is just as important as the woman and often they’re there to add to their relationship not replace it, so don’t be that guy who thinks he’s going to rail the Mrs. like she’s never been railed before. You might be in for quite the surprise when Mr unzips.

Best of luck!!

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Always thought the same, would I be popular and wanted by some or waste of time and money!

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By *Silver-Man
23 weeks ago

Mold

Go, be social without expections. Approach and chat, use body language, act relaxed, dont be pushy, have fun

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
23 weeks ago

Hyde

Males are welcome in any club we have visited and from in our couple dynamic we do not mind approaches from single males, that isn't always the case people want different things… so don’t be disheartened by a no

For us what would work with us is a little banter to break the ice and if the conversation flows maybe ask what are you looking for… compliments are never unwelcome in our book (hint the f tend to spend a little time thinking about their hair, outfit)

Most of all have fun you get to see a room of sexy half naked people, some may even be fucking and we love it

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By *elloWoman
23 weeks ago

alpha centauri

I always enjoy meeting single men at clubs, I tend to approach the ones I'm interested in and engage them in a conversation.

They would be the ones who look comfortable and relaxed, not nervous and staring at every woman or following them around.

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By *uknfukCouple
23 weeks ago

Scotland north

We go to clubs as a couple for single men also been on my own as a man playing with couples. Found chatting and being friendly worked just fine both ways. Anyone who is clean friendly and makes an effort has made a good start. Biggest turn offs, wanking dead, stinky or dirty and those that touch without asking.

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By *aptain19725Man
23 weeks ago

Peterborough

Go but have no expectations treat it as going to the pub. Also be prepared to be not the only single male be brave and chat with others and don’t follow people around like your desperate.

Oh and one last thing be prepared to pay more than couples and single females to gain entry and also certain areas of the clubs singles can’t enter especially single males

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By *aytime78Man
23 weeks ago

HUDDERSFIELD

going to my first club www next week I was less nervous in iraq

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwichish

As everyone else has said, just be yourself, if yourself is a non threatening, non egotistical male who thinks that every woman in there is desperate to have sex with them.

Think going to a club/bar, putting on your best smile, and chatting to anyone and everyone about anything and everything, music, films, sports whatever with zero expectations of anything else happening. Don’t get hung up on your private life, don’t tell everyone about the clubs you have and haven’t been to, the experiences you have or haven’t had.

Don’t within ten seconds of sitting down next to us ask if someone is looking to play, if we were, we definitely aren’t now. Imagine being in a vanilla club and going up to a lady and saying, “do you think you’ll come back to mine later” and if they say no just moving on to the next person. Make the people you are interested in feel special, they will let you know if they are interested in playing. Have a chat for five/ten minutes if you like their vibe make an excuse to leave (off to bar/going toilet whatever) and say something like, “may see you around later”, their reply will probably tell you if they want to or not.

If you don’t get what you want so be it.

Don’t become a member of the following group.

If you are watching someone else have fun, don’t crowd them, don’t get too close, enjoy the show for what it is. Even wank if you want to, but again be respectful.

If you want an explanation of how not to do it….

Last club visit we had a guy come and stand way to close when I had M on spanking bench, he was upset that I asked him to move because I was worried I might catch him with the flogger.

Later same guy came and stood right next to bed that I was using for a wax session with M, I kept moving round to block him, he didn’t get message and moved again, he was wanking right next to bed and my kit bag was at risk of being covered if he had come.

He seemed totally oblivious to how off putting he was. I soon stopped the session, he asked “is that you done for the night” to which I replied “yes as you don’t seem to be able to give us any space” and he still continued to wank while trying to watch M still naked and while we were clearing up the wax.

Really annoyed me and still didn’t have a clue that he was the reason our session ended and that just because we were in a club he thought his behaviour was perfectly acceptable!

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By *elboy1957Man
23 weeks ago

Weston-super-Mare

Reading some of these comments ,makes me understand why guys get a bad name and puts me off going to clubs.

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By *ondonlad_88Man
23 weeks ago

Here and There...

Odd question... but are you allowed phones in the club? I'm on call a fair bit and just checking rules.

I assume not but thought I would check.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

We love single guys at clubs. Always respectful and great to talk to. I quite often chill with a beer while the Mrs heads off to a playroom with someone

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By *andy cane321Couple
23 weeks ago

Aylesbury

Greedy girls appointment single me an clubs. Just don't be one of the wanking dead and be respectable x

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By *pslad99Man
23 weeks ago

colchester

Just go with an open mind you might make friends more than having sex.

Bet attitude to have.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwichish

"Odd question... but are you allowed phones in the club? I'm on call a fair bit and just checking rules.

I assume not but thought I would check. "

Depends on the club. Some will make you out phones away at reception (they take them off you), others allow you to have them but if they are used to take pictures in any public areas you would be ejected swiftly

Personally I think most adults can be trusted and we often go to clubs that don’t ban phones so that we can take some pics of our scenes, but obviously we make sure no one else is in the shot or do it behind locked doors.

That said I understand why some clubs do.

As a small guide from our experience

Not allowed to carry (hand in or keeping room).

Xstasia

Club F

The Annex

Allowed to carry:

Penthouse Playrooms

Attic

Hellfire

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By *elloWoman
23 weeks ago

alpha centauri

"Odd question... but are you allowed phones in the club? I'm on call a fair bit and just checking rules.

I assume not but thought I would check. "

Abfabs you're not allowed the phones in the club but there is a little room in the women and couples changing/locker room where you allowed to use your phone , I guess there would also be one of these rooms in the male locker room too l, maybe

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By *ondonlad_88Man
23 weeks ago

Here and There...

Aww thanks. Just signed up for www at VA next week and due to be on call

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By *he SmithsCouple
23 weeks ago

East Devon & London

We find arranging to meet a guy at a club is a great filter in itself. If they don’t have the confidence to attend a club they aren’t going to have the confidence we are looking for as an addition to our fun.

When we are at a club an engaging attitude at the bar and a respectful one in play areas usually leads to a lot of fun for all…

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By *akeyFunTimesCoupleCouple
23 weeks ago

Mexborough

We are open to single guys in clubs or outside

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By *teve691000Man
23 weeks ago

West Midlands

I’ve been a couple of times and have had great fun.

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By * D 777Man
23 weeks ago

bathgate

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By * D 777Man
23 weeks ago

bathgate

always wanted to go an mingle an try a club in scotland where ever they are , tad nervous ,can meet people no problem i suppose once in nerves will go

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By *lfa RomeoMan
23 weeks ago

southeast , Herts, Beds

I went to a club once . I was invited by a couple and their female friend. I was so nervous, but had an amazing time, met and spoke to loads of people, then ended up back at the couples apartment for some fun.

I would definitely go again, and probably go on my own next time

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By *ondonlad_88Man
23 weeks ago

Here and There...

I have signed up for www as my first experience of a club.

Excited but also slightly unsure of protocol etc

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

When I go alone I go there to chat with couples/ladies, with no expectation of play. I never touch without asking, if the lady wants to play she will touch first. I do not follow people, do not wank, do not try to sneak a phone inside, and certainly do no stick my cock or fingers into the hand, mouth, vagina, or anus of anyone busy playing.

When we go as a couple, we usually go to couples-only clubs or parties, because single guys are just out of control and kill the vibe for us. If we want them, we know where to find them. Last week was a peak annoyance with single guys for us. We went to the mousse party in Cap and counted seven single guys in the pool alone all chancing it and trying to stick their fingers up my partners pussy. It's supposed to be a mixed couples'/single ladies' party only, I have no idea how they got in.

We had similar problems with single guys at the BDSM club there, we were in the middle of a hot session when one of the guys asked me if I'd let him stick his cock into her mouth. No, FFS, no! She's tied on a tall wooden bench, I am fucking her hard from behind and pulling with both my hand on the leash she's on. She's screaming and fighting me as she's having one orgasm after another. It's both hot and exhausting for both of us and you are not supposed to interfere, but the guy is trying anyway. I understand, she's beautiful, has great body, and looks really hot when we are having hard SM sex, but the first rule of watching an SM scene is you do not touch, do not interrupt. Alas, single guys do not get it. It really kills the fun and we have been avoiding clubs that allow single guys for over five years now. The last time we went to a club that allowed single "select, trusted gents" the guy went straight of her mouth as she was kissing me. He did not ask, just whipped his cock, grabbed her face, and rammed his cock into her mouth. He was surprised how much it hurt when someone bites on your cock hard.

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By *orny PTMan
23 weeks ago

Peterborough

"It really all depends on your personality in clubs - if you’re the type that will proactively chat to people in pubs then you’ll be fine in clubs. If you stand there expecting someone to come over to you or you avoid eye contact then it’s least likely to happen.

You don’t need to be the life and soul but you need to be able to chat to people.

She's right!

No two pubs are the same and neither are two nights at the same pub.

Clubs are just like that.

So try a club twice on different nights and see how the vibe is ....

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By *illiam26Man
23 weeks ago

Craigavon

I have always wanted to go to a club but never had the courage too xx

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By *rispyDuckMan
23 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I’ve heard single guys described as “the wanking dead”

haha

Why I’m not overly keen on going to a club. That’s 1 group I don’t fancy joining

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By *isterMrsSCouple
23 weeks ago

Staffordshire

You should definitely go, be respectful and chatty and you’ll have a good time, we’ve met some lovely single guys at clubs and had a very good night

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By *illiam26Man
23 weeks ago

Craigavon

Sorry about this but is it a invite only to the clubs as a single and what all happens feel abit nervous tbh could message me if u want to instead of here x

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
23 weeks ago

Northampton

"I have signed up for www as my first experience of a club.

Excited but also slightly unsure of protocol etc "

Check out the club website for general etiquette. I think there’s a group chat for WWW before the event where you can pitch questions.

Our advice is always the same; be a social butterfly, be remembered for good things, and don’t wank in the corner

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23 weeks ago

Attending a swinging club is the best place for a single male person to have a meeting and socialise with other swinging people. Of course if you’re confident and not shy to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Most are cattle markets where single men walk around like the living dead.

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By *ueens of the SceneWoman
23 weeks ago

Leicestershire

"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August.

What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended? "

Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after

We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend

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By *orny PTMan
23 weeks ago

Peterborough

"Most are cattle markets where single men walk around like the living dead."

...carrying a stiffie in their hands.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

"Most are cattle markets where single men walk around like the living dead.

...carrying a stiffie in their hands."

That’s optional

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By *ueens of the SceneWoman
23 weeks ago

Leicestershire

"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August.

What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended? "

Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after

We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend

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23 weeks ago

"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August.

What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended?

Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after

We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend

But you have a financial interest in single guys attending your events?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
23 weeks ago

Tamworth

"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August.

What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended?

Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after

We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend

But you have a financial interest in single guys attending your events?"

Only respectful ones though. The type who touch without asking, silently follow people round or get too close put people off from attending - word soon gets round.

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By *ostguy321Man
23 weeks ago

Princes Risborough

I'm keen to try the clubs too, its that initial hurdle of walking in that's daunting. Hoping to try when back from holidays

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwichish

"I’ve heard single guys described as “the wanking dead”

haha

Why I’m not overly keen on going to a club. That’s 1 group I don’t fancy joining

It’s really easy to not be one.

Not a fan of the “wanking dead” as a phrase as it does depend on the attitude and expectation of the wanker.

There are those who stand close to you, having a wank from their scruffy boxers who think that because they have decided to get it out so close to you you will be only too pleased to give it a rub for them or let them join in.

There are also the voyeurs, they are not the same, they are not actually looking for anything, they enjoy watching and having fun on their own.

After our last visit to a club I (Mr) have decided that any guy who does the former will get a simple question from me…”do you want help with that”…if they say yes I am going to reach for their cock and see how quickly they back away.

PS my guess is clubs with membership and vetting of single guys are less likely to have single guys with bad reputations, thing is you are going to have to wait a while to make the membership for some of those clubs or the parties as they only let a certain number of guys pre book.

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By *oiluvfunMan
23 weeks ago

Penrith

I’ve been to several clubs as a single guy OP, and based on my experiences, I would never recommend them to a mate.

You can see from my verifications, that I am a well-thought of person in face to face meetings through Fab, and have built a nice group of friends I meet regularly with, from my years of being in Fab.

I thought the club scene would be an interesting ‘extra’ to this fun side to life, and whilst I can say I’ve experienced an ‘alternative’ evening or two, I cannot honestly say I felt genuinely welcome as a guy on his own. On threads like these, it always makes me wonder how I managed to miss all those who comment how much they want to see single guys in clubs lol…..

I do say, if you’re looking to meet women, you’ll have more opportunities in your local Wetherspoons, and I stand by that, again, based on my experience of the clubs scene. That’s 8 clubs, to a total of 19 visits btw….

The golden rule, for single guys visiting swinger clubs; go with a female friend.

Good luck if you do go fella

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23 weeks ago

"I’ve been to several clubs as a single guy OP, and based on my experiences, I would never recommend them to a mate.

The golden rule, for single guys visiting swinger clubs; go with a female friend.

Good luck if you do go fella

Single Male members probably are subsidising these establishments. Wanking dead made me chortle!

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By *oiluvfunMan
23 weeks ago

Penrith

"I’ve been to several clubs as a single guy OP, and based on my experiences, I would never recommend them to a mate.

The golden rule, for single guys visiting swinger clubs; go with a female friend.

Good luck if you do go fella

Single Male members probably are subsidising these establishments. Wanking dead made me chortle!"

Nobody can argue the ‘penis pound’ doesn’t subsidise these establishments, and the ‘wanking dead’ do exist mate, I have seen them, they are not difficult to spot, and therefore avoid.

I just wish I could have made some genuine connections with all these ever so friendly, “we welcome single guys” clubs people. Fab is so much easier to find, and meet likeminded fun seekers, and I don’t have to travel miles, or pay gender-biased fees to do so

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23 weeks ago

"I’ve been to several clubs as a single guy OP, and based on my experiences, I would never recommend them to a mate.

The golden rule, for single guys visiting swinger clubs; go with a female friend.

Good luck if you do go fella

Single Male members probably are subsidising these establishments. Wanking dead made me chortle!

Nobody can argue the ‘penis pound’ doesn’t subsidise these establishments, and the ‘wanking dead’ do exist mate, I have seen them, they are not difficult to spot, and therefore avoid.

Until covid I was a regular club attendee as a single chap. Never quite joined the wanking dead fraternity but I understand where you are coming from or at least where the wanking dead were!

The club scene has for me lost its appeal in so far as age has probably excluded me from the mix as there are lots of younger more buff models for others to choose to be invited into a private room at the top of the stairs!

That said my experience suggests that most single chaps in clubs are polite respectful and reserved in their interactions. Am I looking through rosed coloured spectacles?

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By *rispyDuckMan
23 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"I’ve heard single guys described as “the wanking dead”

haha

Why I’m not overly keen on going to a club. That’s 1 group I don’t fancy joining

It’s really easy to not be one.

Not a fan of the “wanking dead” as a phrase as it does depend on the attitude and expectation of the wanker.

There are also the voyeurs, they are not the same, they are not actually looking for anything, they enjoy watching and having fun on their own.

Cheers for in insightful feedback

I really do fancy trying out a club 1 day but the mixed feedback I hear from friends & club reviews has been a turn off. And fact I do well meeting outside clubs

I’ve not really seen the massive appear of attending. But to tick off the bucket list I will take the plunge as proceed as advised by the masses

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
23 weeks ago

Thurrock

It’s all about how you interact and present yourself. We’ve been to clubs with single guys present and there’s nothing more off putting then them being close to you and just leering especially without saying anything, sometimes a simple smile and _ello goes a long way. On the opposite side chatty guys who make an effort to interact and are clear on what they are looking for makes a lot of difference.

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By *onLicksMan
23 weeks ago

Worthing

Went to bghs this weekend for the first time in a few years and yes it was "definitely" worth my time.

I had no preconceptions as had never seen anything there before. Just went to be naked and enjoy the atmosphere which it definitely provided... ??

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By *teveanddebsCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwich

Not going to list loads of "don'ts" but I would suggest deciding on a club and going to their nearest local social first, it gives you a head start on knowing a few people when you get to the club.

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By *B1010Couple
23 weeks ago

sheffield

Mrs loves playing with single guys . Advice - don’t follow round. Talk and get to know people . Mrs always gets put off by pushy arrogant men. But those who talk and charm win

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23 weeks ago

As a single guy, it’s always nice knowing we’re welcome. I stand by life morals which is born from respect. Respect privacy, be normal, don’t be a stalker, defo no touching without an invite. Generally not being a dick.

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
23 weeks ago

Scarborogh

"Not going to list loads of "don'ts" but I would suggest deciding on a club and going to their nearest local social first, it gives you a head start on knowing a few people when you get to the club. "

This is great advice, came on here to say the same thing. Going to a social first will take the pressure off as few opportunities for play. Mrs SW

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By *0X4 OP Man
23 weeks ago

Bedford

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By *0X4 OP Man
23 weeks ago

Bedford

I didn't know that this happened...makes perfect sense really, now that I'm thinking!

Are these unofficial socials? Will the club itself usually know the details of where & when?

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23 weeks ago

"Odd question... but are you allowed phones in the club? I'm on call a fair bit and just checking rules.

I assume not but thought I would check. "

Only if you want to phone a friend?

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwichish

I didn't know that this happened...makes perfect sense really, now that I'm thinking!

Are these unofficial socials? Will the club itself usually know the details of where & when?"

Think they mean just social meets close to where the club is, in vanilla settings (pubs/bars etc). Normally a fair few advertised in meets/events.

Doesn’t guarantee that those attending socials will be at clubs, we tend to travel out of area for clubs, but in places where they have a lot of clubs (midlands you lucky buggers) there will probably be a fair few in attendance at both.

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By *iss DevilWoman
23 weeks ago

Bedford

I didn't know that this happened...makes perfect sense really, now that I'm thinking!

Are these unofficial socials? Will the club itself usually know the details of where & when?"

It is normally just Fab users who organise socials, not clubs. But saying that, as far as I'm aware, Penthouse Playrooms in Dunstable organises social events regularly, I think on a Thursday evening? Not every Thursday though.

Also, there is a very well organised and attended Bedford Social organised by Holy Fuck Sticks Batman, next one in November. I'd suggest contacting them, if you're interested, to see if they still have any spaces left for single men (those go very fast). And there is an organised group visit to Vanilla Alternative afterwards, for those who wish to attend.

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By *estYorkshireGentMan
23 weeks ago

Leeds

Definitely worth attending!!

I was a regular as part of a couple but going alone terrified me haha. I bit the bullet and went on my own, had a really good time and met some great people!

Go with no expectations other than having a good time socially and you’ll get on great

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
23 weeks ago

tf1

I go to clubs for single guys. It’s really quite simple.

Don’t be a creep.

You could be gorgeous and buff but act entitled and you will get nowhere.

And just remember a lot of us single ladies are friends, we look out for each other, we talk, we have WhatsApp groups where we share info about guys that are pushy,, arseholes, rude etc. piss one of us and you ruin your chances with the rest of us.

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By *atnayCouple
23 weeks ago

STEVENAGE

"I have signed up for www as my first experience of a club.

Excited but also slightly unsure of protocol etc "

Hi N here. If its your 1st time at WWW, you should have received an invite to a telegram chat for it. It's a great ice breaker and chance to get to make connections, so deffo worth joining. Just be warned, it gets busy and hard to keep up with lol. If you haven't been added, message hosts and they will add you on. There's also a social the night before. Message me and I'm happy to share details.

As many have already said. Go with no expectations, be yourself, polite, respectful and approachable. Www loves single guys and welcome them. Lots of couples looking for you and single ladies too.

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By *atnayCouple
23 weeks ago

STEVENAGE

"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August.

What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended?

Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after

We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend

I attended your last Sheer Indulgence night a couple of weeks ago. I went without hubby and had a great evening. Met two lovely single guys who are a tag team.. Both very respectful, polite, non pushy and I had a great evening. We chatted in the bar for some time before play. And they were exactly how single guys should behave. They had the right attitude and respect to others.

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By *oiluvfunMan
23 weeks ago

Penrith

"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August.

What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended?

Absolutely it’s worth single gents going to club events , though it depends what you hope for from a swing club night out , gents who fit the bill as it were are very much sought after

We genuinely seek great , well verified gents for our event , I hope it feels worth it to those who attend

All I’ve ever hoped for, when I’ve visited a swinger club, is to feel welcome, and potentially meet some friendly people genuinely interested in a new face to the club.

Perhaps it’s time to look further afield, than the NW/NE…..

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By *wisted999Man
23 weeks ago

North Bucks

Very worth single men going. Me and the the FWB have been going to a fair few single men nights this year.

Our observations if you put the effort in to be friendly sociable and presentable in the social areas then it pays dividends.

If the approach is to follow people round frantically jerking off under your towel and lurk over people then not so much. I am not sure about others but we find that approach irritating and comes across as you lack something about you.

Just our take.

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
23 weeks ago

near you...

We actually enjoy talking to and playing with single guys at clubs. I find it refreshing to hit on cute and fit men as iong as they are funny and not idiots too. Lx

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By *afetyFirstCouple
23 weeks ago

Durham

Don't mind single guys in clubs, we don't go looking for them but as long as they are respectful we are more than happy to chat/ socialise with men.

The Mrs has a very particular taste when it comes to single guys and we are yet to find anyone that fits her bill..we live in hope

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By *randmrs69twoCouple
23 weeks ago

Abergele

Exactly that, we hated our only mixed club night visit, really put us off , we have stuck to couples and single fem nights only. Can be be very intimidating when they are in pack hunting mode.

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By *elshnewbies69Couple
23 weeks ago

cardiff

That is awful

we want to attend a club but hearing stories like that is massively off putting and IS R.a.p.e, I know if that happened to me then my husband would soon be trying to take his head off his shoulders. Respect and common decency go a long way

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
23 weeks ago

Thurrock

Don’t be put off, couples and single ladies nights are a different atmosphere

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwichish

"That is awful

The staff at clubs we have been to will always deal with the very minority of problem guys.

Also all clubs make it very clear CONSENT is key. Think there are normally only a couple of rooms where you give up that right. The dark room, male glory holes and grope boxes. They are designed for those who want that. Female glory holes are generally different as your partner can stand on one side and control the crowd. Again if overwhelmed just stop whatever is happening and call for staff.

Also most other guests will also be willing to help by getting staff for you.

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By *ark n kimCouple
23 weeks ago

Durham

Couldn't agree more.

We like to see single guys at clubs.but as has been said don't have any expectations.

Just go and chat to people normally,like you would in your local.the only difference is you will probably be semi naked and surrounded by people in lingerie or semi naked.

But it's a great place to meet people with similar interests and make connections.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

Exactly that, we hated our only mixed club night visit, really put us off , we have stuck to couples and single fem nights only. Can be be very intimidating when they are in pack hunting mode. "

Agreed 100%.

Despite being a single guy myself I've seen this in certain clubs in the past. As a result I no longer attend places where this happens. That being so the last time I witnessed it was at Xtasia, where the security guys (very friendly and professional) dealt with it immediately.

Any guy worth his salt won't want anything to do with the kind of morons who are disrespectful and/or don't know how to behave in social situations. Far too many are tolerated in clubs. The clubs who do never see my money again.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"I go to clubs for single guys. It’s really quite simple.

Don’t be a creep.

You could be gorgeous and buff but act entitled and you will get nowhere.

Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"As a single guy, it’s always nice knowing we’re welcome. I stand by life morals which is born from respect. Respect privacy, be normal, don’t be a stalker, defo no touching without an invite. Generally not being a dick. "

Love this - absolutely on the money!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwich

I didn't know that this happened...makes perfect sense really, now that I'm thinking!

Are these unofficial socials? Will the club itself usually know the details of where & when?"

They may do but just look for socials in the general area

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By *teveanddebsCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwich

Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation. "

You think they don't?

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By *mmaleiaWoman
23 weeks ago

Trowbridge

There never seems to be enough single guys at Jaydees, I must try other clubs!!!!

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By *orny PTMan
23 weeks ago

Peterborough

"I'm keen to try the clubs too, its that initial hurdle of walking in that's daunting. Hoping to try when back from holidays "

Choose a single guy friendly and club, then tell them that you are shy. Ask to be introduced to the regulars...

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By *orny PTMan
23 weeks ago

Peterborough

Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation.

You think they don't? "

They don't share that with us blokes

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"There never seems to be enough single guys at Jaydees, I must try other clubs!!!!"

I tried there quite some time ago. I stayed by the bar and tried to be sociable in a relaxed kind of way and got pretty much ignored by what seemed like a very clicquey and insular group that were there. It was quite a while ago mind you. It felt really good to start with as the staff on the door were very welcoming, but that's where it ended.

Ended up leaving relatively early feeling a bit shit. Never had that at Libs or Purple Mamba.

May need to give it another try.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation.

You think they don't? "

I have no clue, but you only tend to hear the bad stories about single guys - never the good ones......and there are plenty of great guys among the badly behaved morons. I know quite a few from Libs.

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By *iss DevilWoman
23 weeks ago

Bedford

"There never seems to be enough single guys at Jaydees, I must try other clubs!!!!

Ended up leaving relatively early feeling a bit shit. Never had that at Libs or Purple Mamba.

May need to give it another try. "

Bar area at Jaydees is never the best place to socialise. The music is already playing and there isn't that much space there. Kitchen is much better, or the social room, or the massive hot tub

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By *ragonbaitCouple
23 weeks ago

Reading and Aberdare

We’ve had mixed experience of single guys.

Last visit ended very positively.

Before though in Xtasia we didn’t have a great time due to over pushy and disrespectful “men”

Guys your behaviour is up to you.

H (m)

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By *axim3840Man
23 weeks ago

Hackney

Yes … I go to clubs and don’t drink too much and be social and chat and you may get lucky. I have been.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"There never seems to be enough single guys at Jaydees, I must try other clubs!!!!

Ended up leaving relatively early feeling a bit shit. Never had that at Libs or Purple Mamba.

May need to give it another try.

Bar area at Jaydees is never the best place to socialise. The music is already playing and there isn't that much space there. Kitchen is much better, or the social room, or the massive hot tub

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Thanks for that. Never easy on a first time visit as you're always an 'unknown', but it's the first time I've ever had the experience of being totally alone all night. Been reticent to return as a result. I know many will just think 'typical single bloke', but I'm a fairly regular visitor to Libs due to it being on my doorstep and have always felt welcome there. Appreciate it takes time to get known though.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"We’ve had mixed experience of single guys.

Last visit ended very positively.

Before though in Xtasia we didn’t have a great time due to over pushy and disrespectful “men”

Guys your behaviour is up to you.

H (m) "

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By *itygamesMan
23 weeks ago

"I'm looking at attending a club when I get back from my holiday this year probably around late August.

What I'm thinking is...is it worth single guys going to clubs? Are we looked at as unwanted? Any male friendly clubs recommended? "

go jaydeees , its near you

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By *ragonbaitCouple
23 weeks ago

Reading and Aberdare

"We’ve had mixed experience of single guys.

Last visit ended very positively.

Before though in Xtasia we didn’t have a great time due to over pushy and disrespectful “men”

Guys your behaviour is up to you.

H (m)

A simple “may I” goes a long way, respectful men are always welcome to say _ello.

We don’t expect touching etc without asking, and certainly anyone who doesn’t understand no aught to be removed from the club.

Otherwise our last review of hellfire complimented the single men for their respect.

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By *iren!!Woman
23 weeks ago

Coventry

A small piece of advice for single guys at clubs is to talk to each other too. I'll often walk past a couple of guys chatting and gives us ladies some clues if you're fun and friendly before approaching. It's hard to shine standing by yourself, so find yourselves some buddies to have a laugh and some banter with.

People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx

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By *estMidsHotwifeCouple
23 weeks ago

Near Malvern

We love single guys, but it's off putting when some start to just stalk around the place without ever chatting to anyone x

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"We love single guys, but it's off putting when some start to just stalk around the place without ever chatting to anyone x"

The absolute worst, along with guys following, or going into a playroom and wanking, thinking that's a really good idea in order to impress!

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"A small piece of advice for single guys at clubs is to talk to each other too. I'll often walk past a couple of guys chatting and gives us ladies some clues if you're fun and friendly before approaching. It's hard to shine standing by yourself, so find yourselves some buddies to have a laugh and some banter with.

People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx"

Great shout - I've made a good few male friends - some single, some part of a couple - this way. It's not just about getting laid. Some guys don't get that.

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By *rumguy1982Man
23 weeks ago

Birmingham

Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male..

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male.."

Do it - but don't go just because a place is on your doorstep. Go because you've done your homework and the place fits with the kind of environment you want to be in....everywhere's different. I've never looked back since starting to go to Libs. A good club is fantastic for single guys, IF you behave with class. It's also not the desert Fab can be.

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By *ragonbaitCouple
23 weeks ago

Reading and Aberdare

"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male.."

Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely.

If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread.

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By *iss DevilWoman
23 weeks ago

Bedford

"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male..

Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely.

If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread.

Sadly, the guys who really do need to know that and take that advice to heart don't read forum

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male..

Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely.

If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread.

Sadly, the guys who really do need to know that and take that advice to heart don't read forum

Very true!

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23 weeks ago

"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male..

Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely.

If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread.

Without single guys making a disproportionate contribution to the running costs of these establishments you’d have nowhere to go.

That said there is no excuse for inappropriate or unacceptable behaviour.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwichish

"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male..

Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely.

If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread.

Without single guys making a disproportionate contribution to the running costs of these establishments you’d have nowhere to go.

That said there is no excuse for inappropriate or unacceptable behaviour."

Going to stick up for the clubs a bit here….

I see this claim regularly about single guys funding the running costs but it just doesn’t add up.

Most clubs only let a certain number of guys based on their own ratio. Many are couples/single ladies only on Saturday nights and some on both nights.

The disparity in price isn’t huge given supply and demand, more single guys want to go to clubs than single women, so women get in cheaper to help balance the numbers and allow more single guys in.

Clubs want single guys (and all guests) to behave themselves, and yes I know not all guys are alike but in our experience there are two types of issues that arise at clubs, couples arguing/falling out with each other and leaving early, and guys pestering or worse.

If the price is set at a level where a guy won’t want to risk being thrown out then hopefully most (and the majority do) will behave not wanting to waste their hard earned cash on a half hour in a club where they couldn’t keep their hands to themselves and end up being thrown out.

But I don’t think single guys subsidise clubs far from it as is seen by the amount of clubs that don’t allow single guys, or only on one night a week. If they were so desperate for the income they would charge less and have more of them in.

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23 weeks ago

"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male..

Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely.

If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread.

Without single guys making a disproportionate contribution to the running costs of these establishments you’d have nowhere to go.

That said there is no excuse for inappropriate or unacceptable behaviour.

Going to stick up for the clubs a bit here….

I see this claim regularly about single guys funding the running costs but it just doesn’t add up.

Most clubs only let a certain number of guys based on their own ratio. Many are couples/single ladies only on Saturday nights and some on both nights.

The disparity in price isn’t huge given supply and demand, more single guys want to go to clubs than single women, so women get in cheaper to help balance the numbers and allow more single guys in.

How much do you as a couple pay for membership of a club?

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwichish

How much do you as a couple pay for membership of a club?"

Zero for the Attic (that’s same for everyone). Think the Blackpool clubs are similar.

Others it depends, we don’t join them on first visit unless it’s reasonable. So only go to the nights where membership isn’t required or isn’t prohibitive to the cost of the night.

So we joined Xstasia, and yes it’s a lifetime membership for £20 i think, maybe £30. And I know all clubs are different and some are annual for single guys.

But again it’s their decision and they’ve made that decision for a reason not necessarily financial.

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23 weeks ago

How much do you as a couple pay for membership of a club?

Zero for the Attic (that’s same for everyone). Think the Blackpool clubs are similar.

Others it depends, we don’t join them on first visit unless it’s reasonable. So only go to the nights where membership isn’t required or isn’t prohibitive to the cost of the night.

So we joined Xstasia, and yes it’s a lifetime membership for £20 i think, maybe £30. And I know all clubs are different and some are annual for single guys.

But again it’s their decision and they’ve made that decision for a reason not necessarily financial."

Let me tell you as a pretty seasoned club goer the membership charge got a single bloke is between £50 and £75 plus entrance fee. On subsequent visits that entrance fee is double the cost of a couple and treble that of a single lady if they are charged at all.

Without single guys these clubs don’t stack up. With regards to etiquette and behaviour I refer you to my previous comments.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"Im glad someone has posted this as im wondering the same, i live literally 15 mins from Xtasia and ive not been brave enough to go get as il be going as a single male..

Our experience of the single guys in Xtasia was bad enough for us not to go back there. I know we’ve only been once but it put us if the club completely.

If you go be respectful and follow all the tips on this thread.

Without single guys making a disproportionate contribution to the running costs of these establishments you’d have nowhere to go.

That said there is no excuse for inappropriate or unacceptable behaviour.

Going to stick up for the clubs a bit here….

I see this claim regularly about single guys funding the running costs but it just doesn’t add up.

Most clubs only let a certain number of guys based on their own ratio. Many are couples/single ladies only on Saturday nights and some on both nights.

The disparity in price isn’t huge given supply and demand, more single guys want to go to clubs than single women, so women get in cheaper to help balance the numbers and allow more single guys in.

Sorry, but you're (almost) completely wrong. It's a common argument from couples who enjoy the benefits of clubs wanting/needing their demographic there more than any other.

Almost every point in your argument, while in defence of the clubs benefits couples, so it naturally follows that many couples will want the status quo.

I know many good guys who will no longer attend a club where they're disrespected from the get go. That leaves those clubs to replace them with less well-behaved/unknown men, who are only there to 'get laid', rather than those who buy into the lifestyle. Personally I've stopped attending six of the eight clubs I used to frequent. Those clubs will never see the colour of my money again - and they report more issues with single guys than others. This is largely due to entitlement of classless guys who believe they've 'paid for' more than just entry. I sincerely hope they continue to have those issues, unless they rethink their business plans.

The club events I now regularly attend at the remaining clubs screen single guys well before a first visit, during their first few nights attending and ban those who misbehave - including single women and couples. Clubs who just want the money will never do this - and both they and those who are effectively subsidised will continue to get what they (don't) pay for. Ripping men off creates entitlement among those who aren't committed to the lifestyle and in turn make for bad nights at those clubs. Good guys won't want to be around that behaviour, so will go elsewhere.

......and the disparity in price IS huge. It makes no sense for two people to enter for way less than the price of one.

Liberty Elite now have a Sunday event where everyone pays the same - i.e. couples pay twice as much as a single male/female and as a result people still go. It's also a beautifully chilled event.

I bet many couples won't go to a club where THEY pay twice as much as a single guy - AND would be affronted at doing so. Entitlement exists in all demographics, just in different ways.

In the end the bottom line is that you get what you deserve in a club. Screen guys better and you get quality re-attenders who's reputations are sound.

Keep ripping us off and we'll vote with our feet, leaving you with unknowns/occasional or entitled, badly behaved single guys.

To give final proof the places I go now have a lot more single ladies attending, because they know they're safe- and surrounded by gentlemen.

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By *emurewifeCouple
23 weeks ago

Leeds

"We find arranging to meet a guy at a club is a great filter in itself. If they don’t have the confidence to attend a club they aren’t going to have the confidence we are looking for as an addition to our fun.

When we are at a club an engaging attitude at the bar and a respectful one in play areas usually leads to a lot of fun for all…"

Totally agree.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

When we are at a club an engaging attitude at the bar and a respectful one in play areas usually leads to a lot of fun for all…

Totally agree."

Seconded!

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By *emurewifeCouple
23 weeks ago

Leeds

W is fond of another gent joining us for a MFM.

We prefer to find guys via their profile on Fabs first of all, but (as it says clearly on our profile the first meet is always at a club). This first filtering allows us to interface with a guy who most nearly meets Ws wants and preferences.

However, no matter who we are conversing with we always give the same disclaimer "We neither give nor expect any promises of play". So we could meet up with a guy in a club after chatting on Fabs and something isn't quite right so it goes no further. Of course he could find us not what he wants either.

So then we'd say thanks but no thanks politely and either leave the club or talk to others there in the hope of finding a more suitable partner.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"W is fond of another gent joining us for a MFM.

So then we'd say thanks but no thanks politely and either leave the club or talk to others there in the hope of finding a more suitable partner."

As a single guy who started off on Fab as part of a couple I'd absolutely endorse this.

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By *4FantasyCouple
23 weeks ago

Spalding

When we go to clubs it is in the hope of meeting a couple or a single guy or a mixture

. I (Kaz) takes the lead if I see a guy that catches my eye and we make contact. The type of guys we like are around our own age group, looking like they have made an effort and smelling gorgeous. If they are in tracksuits or scruffy clothes thats an absolute no go..to be honest we would avoid any establishments that would allow this. I love male scents..an aphrodisac for me

so great hygeine and a lovely male scent is a must to grab my attention. The guy needs to be friendly and not too pushy..it is a balance to get the right vibe for all of us.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
23 weeks ago

Coventry

"When we go to clubs it is in the hope of meeting a couple or a single guy or a mixture

so great hygeine and a lovely male scent is a must to grab my attention. The guy needs to be friendly and not too pushy..it is a balance to get the right vibe for all of us. "

Sounds like the perfect approach. For me as a single guy I think we (men) need to make an effort to impress, which means making an effort. That's why I don't go to 'dress down' clubs. It's nice to be able to feel good, rather than stand there in a towel.

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By *oomlMan
23 weeks ago

Fareham

Never been to a club but considering it.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
22 weeks ago

tf1

"I go to clubs for single guys. It’s really quite simple.

Don’t be a creep.

You could be gorgeous and buff but act entitled and you will get nowhere.

Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation. "

Errr we do. I never said we didn’t.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
22 weeks ago

Coventry

"I go to clubs for single guys. It’s really quite simple.

Don’t be a creep.

You could be gorgeous and buff but act entitled and you will get nowhere.

Shame women don't have groups that share info. about the good guys! That would be a revelation.

Errr we do. I never said we didn’t. "

No you didn't.

It was my assumption, based purely on 'feel'.

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By *oiluvfunMan
22 weeks ago

Penrith

People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx"

Hahaha! Invariably, the times I’ve been to clubs, I’ve ended up chatting with other single guys in there, because nobody else was chatting with them either. It’s interesting to hear other single guy perspectives on a particular club, if they are a regular there, you get an unbiased opinion, rather than the ‘sales pitch’ reviews in here…..

Always amusing to me, of all the clubs I’ve been to, I’ve never met any of the effervescent contributors in here, or the self-proclaimed “friendly regulars” who look for new faces in their local clubs, to help them feel welcome, and bring fresh people in to the scene. When I recount my experiences however, all I get is “Meh! Just another single guy who didn’t get his dick wet”……..

What I like about using Fab is; I’m treated as an equal in here, unlike in a club setting, where a single guy has so many hoops to jump through, before being accepted in to ‘The Circle of Trust’. It’s a wonder any bother in the first place…..

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
22 weeks ago

Coventry

People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx

Think you may be onto something in some respects - it's been noticeable that less singles are going to the places I frequent over the last few months, both male and female. Wonder how the so-called friendly faces will react when their memberships and entrance fees go through the roof once they've frozen out the singles once and for all.

It's my strongest opinion that very few of these 'friendly, welcoming faces' actually exist. It's delusional and an act. I've seen people who proclaim themselves to be so, ignore newbie faces all the time - never something as even looking in their direction, unless they want to pounce on them for their own ends.

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22 weeks ago

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
22 weeks ago

Scarborogh

People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx

Hay it’s not just the singles that get ignored at a new club.

We’ve been to clubs and the clique brigades are in. Hay it’s life, we have met fantastic people in clubs and it starts with a chat.

My biggest thing with single males in clubs is the following around and not chatting. You’re more likely to get action by talking than following wanking. You lads pay top price on entrance (don’t agree with the differential between S/F and S/M but not my rules) I’d have thought chatting nicely is the better approach. Not my money but worth a thought.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
22 weeks ago

Coventry

People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx

Hay it’s not just the singles that get ignored at a new club.

We’ve been to clubs and the clique brigades are in. Hay it’s life, we have met fantastic people in clubs and it starts with a chat.

Mr"

I was very lucky when I first got into the lifestyle as I was part of a couple, with her being tall, blonde and gorgeous, so needless to say we weren't short of attention. When I rejoined as a single guy I got lucky again in that a group of fabulous ladies brought me into their group straight away - and I've never looked back. As a result I'm extremely aware if new people and absolutely make a beeline to make them welcome, then.leavethem to go their own way after introducing them to a few people. I also see many people act like new folks aren't there. Like you I'd agree that's not just single fellas, but couples and single ladies too. At the same time plenty of people say they make others welcome and/or are approachable, but it's just noise without action, with them literally ignoring newbies. It's my belief that we should ALL do our bit once we're established ourselves. We were all new once.

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By *xydadbodMan
22 weeks ago

Milton keynes

Oh definitely go.. just remember to go with an open mind and don't go with the expectation to play.. just be polite and be yourself and have fun.. anything else that happens there, that's a bonus.. its a great way to meet new people as well.

My first time going was nerve wrecking and I did think of turning around to going home a few times driving to the club but I'm glad I didn't as I ended up having a great time. Have never looked back since

Just remember that no two nights will be the same so see how your first one goes, get a vibe what's it like and if you enjoy yourself, book yourself another trip afters

Good luck OP.. hope your first time goes well

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By *oober698Man
22 weeks ago

Lincoln

"We go to clubs specifically for single guys - been days at VA where Char has had seven if them. Without single guys, we'd have no luck at clubs.

(Bry)"

Your an amazing couple, anyone would be lucky to meet you both in my opinion.

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By *oiluvfunMan
22 weeks ago

Penrith

People are drawn to positive people so always keep conversation light and fun and you shouldn't go far wrong xx

Hay it’s not just the singles that get ignored at a new club.

We’ve been to clubs and the clique brigades are in. Hay it’s life, we have met fantastic people in clubs and it starts with a chat.

Mr"

The difference with being ignored as a couple by the EGOF’s (they don’t like the term cliques) and regulars is; at least you have each other to chat with. The walls close in on you very quickly as a solo guy, when you can get any chat going.

I’ve never been ignored when part of a couple, but often felt like I was wearing Harry Potter’s cloak of invisibility when in by myself. I’m the same ‘me’ in either case though…..

I get the “no two nights are the same”, but if you went to a greengrocer, and they sold you rotten veg, would you go back for more……?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
22 weeks ago

Coventry

Simply from a former single guy (who still on occasion goes alone) yes good single guys are always wanted at clubs.

There's almost a myth that single guys are not welcome and just cash cows. I think this comes from jaded attitudes of some guys who've not thrived in that environment and also the reactions/commentary of people who've had bad experiences of single guys. But good single guys are very much wanted and welcome. People often forget there are lots of women and couple (bi and Straight) who seek or exclusively seek single guys. Especially a lot of single ladies who mainly/exclusively seek single guys. A lot of single ladies don't want to be a unicorn or couples play thing. So personally I believe there's plenty of opportunity for the right guys in a club (especially demanding on event/day/party).

As to if a club works for you as an individual that's another question. People genrally don't just fall on your lap. A lot depends on your interpersonal skills and ability to read the room. Repect, being able to initiate a good conversation and not being a creep goes a long way. So does a good sense of humour and a nice smile (in my opinion). And remembering to always look clean, fresh and smelling great (which should go without saying).

Clubs don't work well for some guy. However I know guys who do really well. They are rarely 6ft+, crafted bodies with huge dicks. They tend to be just normal everyday guys of all ages with those persons qualities above.

Plus a good club is a great night out with like minded people even if you don't hook up. And there's always some hot things to see that you just don't see in vanilla venues.

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By *interflingMan
22 weeks ago

london

Go regularly as a single guy. We definitely have our purpose!

Would just say, try to be friendly and engaging and not look upon every woman as instantly wanting to fuck with you and you’ll be golden and have a good time.

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By *hosetwo200Couple
22 weeks ago

Leeds

What a great thread, and lots of great advice!

We'll be back in the local clubs after summer, get out there and enjoy yourself OP!

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By *orny PTMan
22 weeks ago

Peterborough

"We’ve had mixed experience of single guys.

Last visit ended very positively.

Before though in Xtasia we didn’t have a great time due to over pushy and disrespectful “men”

Guys your behaviour is up to you.

H (m)

A simple “may I” goes a long way, respectful men are always welcome to say _ello.

We were in Chams once and I had a nice play with the female half of a couple, that woman said to another couple, entering the room "Beware if he says, may I?", giggling with a very naughty-post-orgasm grin on her face.

These two words are my go-to.

Proof that word of mouth is a real thing in clubs

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
22 weeks ago

Central

Absolutely essential for many. Go for the facilities and social engagement. Research the best club for you, including costs, facilities and events.

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By *ark n kimCouple
22 weeks ago

Durham

For us single guys in clubs is a very good thing.

We have been to quite a few clubs and only ever had one small issue.

A couple of guys thought it would be ok to touch without asking.it was mid play.

Once told they immediately backed off.

But I am very good at policing such things,kim has full trust in me to do so.

But saying that we have found.most single guys very respectful at the clu s we have been too.

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By *as1373Couple
22 weeks ago

Taupo, New Zealand & Persian Gulf

As has been said a few times, it’s about personal preference. My wife prefers couples only and is put off by single guys. We’ve had a few annoying experiences of unwanted approach, the wanking dead and starers.

Also some clubs don’t clamp down on the ‘followers’ and this sets a bad tone. It’s our choice and we are happy to stick to environments we enjoy.

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By *ysonfuryMan
22 weeks ago

Stockport

I tend not to go to clubs now if I'm going as a single guy. I'm never sure whether I'm mithering if I approach a single lady or a couple. I am a single guy but if tne number of single guys in clubs is managed to a degree I don't that better. Still love a club visit but only if I'm going with someone now. Happy fabbing everyone

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By *oiluvfunMan
22 weeks ago

Penrith

"I tend not to go to clubs now if I'm going as a single guy. I'm never sure whether I'm mithering if I approach a single lady or a couple. I am a single guy but if tne number of single guys in clubs is managed to a degree I don't that better. Still love a club visit but only if I'm going with someone now. Happy fabbing everyone "

Very similar here mate, I doubt I will ever visit another club as a solo guy.

I am revisiting a NW club soon, that I’ve been to before solo, but this time going as a couple, and will report back honestly, without bias, how I/we get on…..

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
22 weeks ago

chichester

If you’re a single guy that is bi. Just to a gay sauna club indeed. Much easier and better recepted

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By *oiluvfunMan
22 weeks ago

Penrith

"If you’re a single guy that is bi. Just to a gay sauna club indeed. Much easier and better recepted "

Why would a bi guy need to go to a gay sauna? I’m straight, yet I get offers from bi/gay and ‘Fab straight’ guys daily in here. Bi guys must be having the best time in Fab….

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By *ope_kisses22Couple
22 weeks ago

Hyde

Shame you say you won't be going back.

We personally love being spoken to and approached by single guys. So many don't and just stay lurking or the opposite and hope following a couple around will work.

For us... chat to us at the pool table, laugh and I think a clear yes or no is asking what they're looking for or even if they fancy a play now or later.

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21 weeks ago

"As a cuckold couple we do like to visit the odd club so Dee can play with single guys, perhaps two or three of them.

We like to chat and get to know guys first, we hate the ‘meerkats’ that follow you around, very off putting.

Our advice, just chat to couples or single ladies if there are any there and get involved that way rather than pestering people, which in our opinion doesn’t work.

"Meeekats" is such an appropriate word. I've used it previously too, despite others' preference to call them the "walking zombies".

BTW, the Mayor of London , I call him the "Mayorkat".He truly looks like a meerkat but if he wasn't so hated by so many, I wouldn't made fun of him.

OP, very good advice here from couples and men with club experience. You look like a decent bloke , you'll be fine. Come back to tell us how it all went for you.

Best of luck!"

Why on earth would you bring your Tommy Robinson politics on here? He is an elected Mayor, meaning majority of those who voted, voted for him so he is not hated by everyone! Next time please leave your Cult disciple politics out of this page

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