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"Sounds like you too deep into feelings with her but again if you think something is not right with him then that’s priority " I know I'm deep in feeling with her we are getting married . it's never been an issue before my feelings for her have always been the same | |||
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"Trust your gut and talk to her about it " something I will do, wasn't sure if I'm being a dick. wondering if anyone else has had this | |||
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"What was different about this occasion?" it was at a new social in a new area, I think as well he didn't speak with me or really acknowledge me, she had a brief chat with him night before in another social and said it was awkward . | |||
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"What was different about this occasion? it was at a new social in a new area, I think as well he didn't speak with me or really acknowledge me, she had a brief chat with him night before in another social and said it was awkward ." Do you think it was because he didn't speak to you, you felt ignored and sidelined? If anyone ignores either of us we don't engage with them on any level | |||
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" Do you think it was because he didn't speak to you, you felt ignored and sidelined? If anyone ignores either of us we don't engage with them on any level" probably most everyone we've engaged with we both got to know socially. it could be quite possible it's be cause he was a complete stranger and did t get a chance to weigh him up. | |||
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"think you need to sit down and talk either set the rules again or take a break... remember only the strongest relationship survive swinging you both need to be on the same page or cracks appear and cracks become breakdowns of relationships been swinging with hubs 30 plus years we are always talking so we are alway on the same page it never affects our relationship everything we do is consented both between us and who ever else ... jealousy has no place in swinging some will disagree with that some will say its even important most of those no longer swing or together .... talk talk and talk some more" I will talk to her for sure we have great communication, we are not taking part in the lifestyle super regular only when our normal lives allow. I just wanted to be sure what I was feeling was jealousy or me being pissed off at the situation . I appreciate your advice | |||
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"I haven't been through it op, but I'm half a couple and if someone ignored me and made a beeline for my other half, I'd probably feel a bit peed off too. Talk to her though, just explain how it made you feel, don't bottle it up and let it cause any resentment between you both. " | |||
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"I haven't been through it op, but I'm half a couple and if someone ignored me and made a beeline for my other half, I'd probably feel a bit peed off too. Talk to her though, just explain how it made you feel, don't bottle it up and let it cause any resentment between you both. " my main thing is respect , I can't stand if someone disrespects me or my OH , maybe I felt a little disrespected in this . | |||
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" Do you think it was because he didn't speak to you, you felt ignored and sidelined? If anyone ignores either of us we don't engage with them on any level probably most everyone we've engaged with we both got to know socially. it could be quite possible it's be cause he was a complete stranger and did t get a chance to weigh him up. " You may never know why it wasn't for you, but your feelings are never just to be brushed aside. Sometimes people or situations just aren't right. I'd be inclined to think it was the exclusion.. I'd not like that at all myself Talk to your lady...and I don't think it's jealousy at all | |||
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"She's met him before and said it was awkward. And then you saw them meeting again and this time they are kissing. So it could be its not sitting right because it's the opposite of what you expected. And it's not really jealousy but the perceived contrast between what way you thought she would react and the way she acted. Or was the kiss more on his side than hers, and she was 'giving in'. That's not right either. You have a right to have your own limits and they can change as they butt up against new circumstances and feelings. Be open and honest. I'm sure you will be. " yeah she met him in a social night before and said the conversation was awkward one word replies back and forth. I was late to social so again didn't get to interact. the kissing was consensual both sides the next night. maybe you are right , maybe its just not sitting right for some reason . on my way home now to talk about it | |||
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"hi all, just to update, sat speaking with the OH, and told her my issue and how I was feeling. we have changed a few rules to accommodate my current feelings. all is good thank you for all your advice and input ." Glad you have sorted it. Sometimes some people you just don't vibe with and it feels off, I think it's normal, well it is for me anyway. | |||
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"hi all, just to update, sat speaking with the OH, and told her my issue and how I was feeling. we have changed a few rules to accommodate my current feelings. all is good thank you for all your advice and input ." This shows the strength of your relationship that you can communicate, adapt and amend. | |||
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"hi all, just to update, sat speaking with the OH, and told her my issue and how I was feeling. we have changed a few rules to accommodate my current feelings. all is good thank you for all your advice and input . This shows the strength of your relationship that you can communicate, adapt and amend. " Agree whole heartily with this,communication is key. Glad to hear you got it all worked out. | |||
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