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"Evening all, just wanted to know if anyone else experiences this and if so how often ? My boyfriend and I have messaged quite a lot of single women on here and we do get left on read a LOT! We are never forward or pushy with our messages. Not to be big headed but I do not think we are an unattractive couple at all lol! Any advice on how to get more responses would be appreciated
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"Looking for sluts would put me right off, I'd probably block you if you messaged to be honest." I also thought this when I read their profile | |||
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"Looking for sluts would put me right off, I'd probably block you if you messaged to be honest." Sluts are fun though. | |||
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"Looking for sluts would put me right off, I'd probably block you if you messaged to be honest. Sluts are fun though. " I'm not a slut. | |||
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"Do you reply to every piece of junk mail that pops through your letterbox or every junk or otherwise unsolicited email you receive ?" This. Try being a man and having 97% of your messages unanswered, I’m sure you leave most of your inbox unreplied as well? | |||
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"Looking for sluts would put me right off, I'd probably block you if you messaged to be honest." Agree, and the rest has a rather negative vibe, I prefer a more fun read | |||
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"Looking for sluts would put me right off, I'd probably block you if you messaged to be honest. Sluts are fun though. I'm not a slut." You are on a swinging site, surely you must be 
We despair at this site sometimes.
Loving the single profile, just realised which half of the hot couple you are
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"Looking for sluts would put me right off, I'd probably block you if you messaged to be honest. Agree, and the rest has a rather negative vibe, I prefer a more fun read " I agree with that as well, profiles with loads of negative points listed just turn me straight off and I won't reply… Always makes me feel like you won’t be fun to spend time with | |||
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"Loving the single profile, just realised which half of the hot couple you are" Looked at her profile, but we have no interest as there are no pictures of the male of the couple... | |||
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"Loving the single profile, just realised which half of the hot couple you are Looked at her profile, but we have no interest as there are no pictures of the male of the couple..." .... Looked at her single profile then. I see plenty of her other half on the actual couples profile  | |||
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"Loving the single profile, just realised which half of the hot couple you are Looked at her profile, but we have no interest as there are no pictures of the male of the couple... .... Looked at her single profile then. I see plenty of her other half on the actual couples profile "And it’s said men don’t read profiles. The couples profile is literally on the second line of the bio  | |||
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"Loving the single profile, just realised which half of the hot couple you are Looked at her profile, but we have no interest as there are no pictures of the male of the couple... .... Looked at her single profile then. I see plenty of her other half on the actual couples profile "This | |||
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"Looking for sluts would put me right off, I'd probably block you if you messaged to be honest." True. "Slut" is not a very endearing term... However I think that the biggest reason you can't arrange things with a single woman is that they are simply flooded with messages, more so than couples. | |||
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All the advice we could give is just keep being yourselves and in the meantime just enjoy everything else fab has to offer. | |||
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"It’s not junk Mail though is it….." Neither is the Dominos menu that gets posted through my letterbox, but the window cleaning company flyer is. | |||
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"I can assure you I (the woman) take a lot of time to make an effort with people based on their profiles, there is no spamming involed but thanks for your input." Do you read their profiles thoroughly to see if they are compatible with yours? | |||
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"Looking for sluts would put me right off, I'd probably block you if you messaged to be honest." Same | |||
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we thought with it being a swinging site people wouldn’t take offence by it, we are a very open minded couple who enjoy name calling, we wouldn’t want another women in the bedroom who didn’t enjoy the same. | |||
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"Thank you! " If you don't click 'reply+quote' no-one will know who you are responding to | |||
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For the meantime can we ask that no other messages are posted in this forum as people are getting slightly defensive, thank you and happy fabbing! Xxx | |||
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"Evening all, just wanted to know if anyone else experiences this and if so how often ? My boyfriend and I have messaged quite a lot of single women on here and we do get left on read a LOT! We are never forward or pushy with our messages. Not to be big headed but I do not think we are an unattractive couple at all lol! Any advice on how to get more responses would be appreciated
Rant over x"Some of The women I’ve met on here are interested in being a part of a couples fun but if their message filters let single men message, they can get overwhelmed. One woman I met would have hundreds of messages a day so I was really lucky to be able to stay in touch. I would imagine they bulk read messages and then sometimes, the ones from couples get lost amongst all the other messages they get. Or maybe some are here to just dip their toe in the water and getting the may of the land before messaging people back. I doubt it’s personal. I may be wrong though. | |||
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"It’s not junk Mail though is it….." To you, perhaps not, but to others, perhaps it is exactly that. Try to lose the attitude that everyone should like you and be gagging to meet you because it simply doesn't work that way, despite your perceptions. | |||
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"Evening all, just wanted to know if anyone else experiences this and if so how often ? My boyfriend and I have messaged quite a lot of single women on here and we do get left on read a LOT! We are never forward or pushy with our messages. Not to be big headed but I do not think we are an unattractive couple at all lol! Any advice on how to get more responses would be appreciated
Rant over x"I find it helps to delete all messages once sent,they still arrive in their inbox but then they are forgotten about by you,till they reply and if they dont you will be none the wiser or worried about it  | |||
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"There’s literally nothing in my original post that suggests ‘attitude’ - I was simply asking for advice in a polite manner so stop running your mouth." Ooo but there's a bit of an attitude in your response there though | |||
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"There’s literally nothing in my original post that suggests ‘attitude’ - I was simply asking for advice in a polite manner so stop running your mouth." To me, your general demeanour, combined with your profile, suggested that you thought everyone should be falling at your feet. You asked for advice, and I gave you advice - blunt and straight to the point, now if you can't hack that, without accusing me of 'running my mouth', once more that just stinks of 'attitude' | |||
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"Well I’m not just going to let people speak to me like that !" But I just did ! Attitude again. How people post on here can reveal a lot about themselves without even realising. | |||
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"I'm a bloke on Fab, so I haven't got a clue. "Being nice is always a good option though | |||
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"I'm a bloke on Fab, so I haven't got a clue.
Being nice is always a good option though "Well. I try. But it's my typing finger that gets me into trouble.  | |||
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"I'm a bloke on Fab, so I haven't got a clue.
Being nice is always a good option though
Well. I try.
But it's my typing finger that gets me into trouble. "Shhhhhhh | |||
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"I'm a bloke on Fab, so I haven't got a clue.
Being nice is always a good option though
Well. I try.
But it's my typing finger that gets me into trouble.
Shhhhhhh "See what I mean.  | |||
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"There’s literally nothing in my original post that suggests ‘attitude’ - I was simply asking for advice in a polite manner so stop running your mouth." I will just pop a link to the forum rules on here for you, in case you missed them. https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules | |||
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"There’s literally nothing in my original post that suggests ‘attitude’ - I was simply asking for advice in a polite manner so stop running your mouth." Oh dear | |||
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"Is this a bad time to ask for a blowjob? "Never a bad time to ask, | |||
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"Is this a bad time to ask for a blowjob?
Never a bad time to ask, "Your place or mine? | |||
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"Loving the single profile, just realised which half of the hot couple you are Looked at her profile, but we have no interest as there are no pictures of the male of the couple... .... Looked at her single profile then. I see plenty of her other half on the actual couples profile
And it’s said men don’t read profiles. The couples profile is literally on the second line of the bio "Honestly I despair! | |||
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"Looking for sluts would put me right off, I'd probably block you if you messaged to be honest. Sluts are fun though. I'm not a slut. You are on a swinging site, surely you must be
We despair at this site sometimes.
Loving the single profile, just realised which half of the hot couple you are
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"Loving the single profile, just realised which half of the hot couple you are Looked at her profile, but we have no interest as there are no pictures of the male of the couple..." Try looking at the couples profile maybe? Why would I have pics of my man on my singles profile where I meet alone? Don't worry the no interest is both ways, save you th search | |||
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I despair at the reading abilities on here. | |||
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"Try looking at the couples profile maybe? Why would I have pics of my man on my singles profile where I meet alone?" You're pretty famous for your position on couples profiles with no pictures of the guy, so couldn't resist the admittedly weak joke! | |||
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"Looking for sluts would put me right off, I'd probably block you if you messaged to be honest. Sluts are fun though. I'm not a slut." No sex before marriage and all that jazz eh | |||
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"Looking for sluts would put me right off, I'd probably block you if you messaged to be honest. Sluts are fun though. I'm not a slut. No sex before marriage and all that jazz eh" A woman can enjoy sex, even if not married, and still object to the term slut Imagine that | |||
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"Just coming on here again to say not once did we expect people to be ‘falling at our feet’ - that is NOT what I was implying on my original post. I’ve had some very lovely replies with genuine advice (thank you!) and some not so lovely. Mainly from the 50+ year old Karen’s of Fab. It seems people are willing to dish out snotty comments, but god forbid I give them back I suddenly have an ‘attitude’ lol. This has actually resulted in me temporarily hiding our profile, which I did not want to do but unfortunately Fab doesn’t have the option of deleting a forum. Thank you again to everyone who has been sincere and for anyone else who doesn’t have anything nice to say, please don’t say anything. I will not be making further comments. Roxy x" A 'delete my forum post' option would be good on here sometimes but you could click on the 'report' option and ask the forum mods to delete it for you, I'm sure that once you explain that as you're unhappy with the advice you've received on your post asking for advice they would have deleted it for you, before you decided to come on and call the ladies 'karens' , name calling might be your thing but its not for everyone | |||
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"Just coming on here again to say not once did we expect people to be ‘falling at our feet’ - that is NOT what I was implying on my original post. I’ve had some very lovely replies with genuine advice (thank you!) and some not so lovely. Mainly from the 50+ year old Karen’s of Fab. It seems people are willing to dish out snotty comments, but god forbid I give them back I suddenly have an ‘attitude’ lol. This has actually resulted in me temporarily hiding our profile, which I did not want to do but unfortunately Fab doesn’t have the option of deleting a forum. Thank you again to everyone who has been sincere and for anyone else who doesn’t have anything nice to say, please don’t say anything. I will not be making further comments. Roxy x A 'delete my forum post' option would be good on here sometimes but you could click on the 'report' option and ask the forum mods to delete it for you, I'm sure that once you explain that as you're unhappy with the advice you've received on your post asking for advice they would have deleted it for you, before you decided to come on and call the ladies 'karens' , name calling might be your thing but its not for everyone " Heavy on the "advice you've received on your post asking for advice" | |||
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"Happens so often on this site, I’ve been on here over 10 years and I would say 95% of the messages I send stay on read, pretty used to it now. I actually think it’s quite rude not to reply, even a thanks but no thanks is polite in my book. Rant over… happy fabbing! " Imagine if you had 150 thanks but no thanks messages to send. | |||
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"Happens so often on this site, I’ve been on here over 10 years and I would say 95% of the messages I send stay on read, pretty used to it now. I actually think it’s quite rude not to reply, even a thanks but no thanks is polite in my book. Rant over… happy fabbing! " We tried that. Unfortunately when we block single men (usually after a skinful of messages that weld my legs shut) people we have replied “no thank you” too can circumvent the filter and still be a PITA. So our default is set to don't reply unless interested, or there is a specific reason to respond (say thank you for a nice compliment for example) | |||
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"...It's when you send so many messages and they don't even get opened is when it gets frustrating..." Several people have told me that they look at the profile first and if it doesn't interest them then there's no point in reading the message. Seems fair to me. I can see if you get a lot of messages, why read them, then go look at the profile and discover that actually you're not interested? | |||
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"...It's when you send so many messages and they don't even get opened is when it gets frustrating... Several people have told me that they look at the profile first and if it doesn't interest them then there's no point in reading the message. Seems fair to me. I can see if you get a lot of messages, why read them, then go look at the profile and discover that actually you're not interested?" Yes I completely agree, but alot of profiles have it where when they look at your profile you won't see that theyve looked, again if I see that they looked at my profile and I dont get a reply then I'll take it as a not interested | |||
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