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 but think our verifications say everything about how genuine we are and when it comes to meeting others we look at their verifications and the odd rime it's someone new without any we only do first time meets at clubs so no issues really | |||
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"Our profile is mainly run by myself (Mr) as people would still be waiting for a reply from christmas if Mrs was in charge of it lol but think our verifications say everything about how genuine we are and when it comes to meeting others we look at their verifications and the odd rime it's someone new without any we only do first time meets at clubs so no issues really "Would like to add Mrs is on here 4-5 times a day reads everything and has input on messages etc she just terrible at online chatting and dealing with the profile in general, she does like to Fab pics lol but that's just on fab in person she is the more chatty one and our play is led by her as I'm easy and laid back | |||
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"Our profile is mainly run by myself (Mr) as people would still be waiting for a reply from christmas if Mrs was in charge of it lol but think our verifications say everything about how genuine we are and when it comes to meeting others we look at their verifications and the odd rime it's someone new without any we only do first time meets at clubs so no issues really "Same with us, it's surprising how many people can't see the fact that we have multiple verifications from well verified couples that talk about us both and still insist that Lucy doesn't exist v_v | |||
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"Most of the admin is usually done by the male on couples accounts as single males usually try and just get straight into the female and get her to meet alone..." __ We are fortunate that, as a couple, we don't meet single profiles. So for us is just couple Vs couple. For you profile, must be difficult to navigate that, not always sure who's who and who's genuine. Even with our experience, sometimes some fake profiles get through our filters, so I sympathise with you. | |||
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"You can usually tell by the style of messaging if the woman is involved " Definitely this! A good way of spotting fake profiles as well. | |||
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We also look at other people's veris before we make a decision on whether or not to continue communication
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"I have of the years on this site chatted to a few couples that the profile is run my the male partner. Vast majority of them end up being the feeling that the male is the only active person and his Lerner is not even aware he is on here. So what have you all learned is the best way for you to ensure that you are chatting to a couple prior to a social or private meet?" We as couples to send a simple 30 second video saying hello, mentioning fab swingers and that they are looking forward to our up coming meet. Genuine people won't have an issue with this (we're happy to send videos like this). When the excuses Starr why they can't send a video then you know they are wasting your time xx | |||
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"I have of the years on this site chatted to a few couples that the profile is run my the male partner. Vast majority of them end up being the feeling that the male is the only active person and his Lerner is not even aware he is on here. So what have you all learned is the best way for you to ensure that you are chatting to a couple prior to a social or private meet? We as couples to send a simple 30 second video saying hello, mentioning fab swingers and that they are looking forward to our up coming meet. Genuine people won't have an issue with this (we're happy to send videos like this). When the excuses Starr why they can't send a video then you know they are wasting your time xx" As I said on another thread yesterday I've been here 8 years and I'm still waiting to chat to any woman who would be comfortable with a video chat. I'm one half of a couples profile here too and there's not a chance in hell we'll be sending a video like that or having a videochat with anyone. That doesn't make us any less genuine than those who do. | |||
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"I have of the years on this site chatted to a few couples that the profile is run my the male partner. Vast majority of them end up being the feeling that the male is the only active person and his Lerner is not even aware he is on here. So what have you all learned is the best way for you to ensure that you are chatting to a couple prior to a social or private meet? We as couples to send a simple 30 second video saying hello, mentioning fab swingers and that they are looking forward to our up coming meet. Genuine people won't have an issue with this (we're happy to send videos like this). When the excuses Starr why they can't send a video then you know they are wasting your time xx As I said on another thread yesterday I've been here 8 years and I'm still waiting to chat to any woman who would be comfortable with a video chat. I'm one half of a couples profile here too and there's not a chance in hell we'll be sending a video like that or having a videochat with anyone. That doesn't make us any less genuine than those who do. " Intresting, I'm curious why you wouldn't be comfortable sending a short video or having a 30 second video chat ? I'm not arguing, I'm genuinely intrested xx | |||
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"I have of the years on this site chatted to a few couples that the profile is run my the male partner. Vast majority of them end up being the feeling that the male is the only active person and his Lerner is not even aware he is on here. So what have you all learned is the best way for you to ensure that you are chatting to a couple prior to a social or private meet? We as couples to send a simple 30 second video saying hello, mentioning fab swingers and that they are looking forward to our up coming meet. Genuine people won't have an issue with this (we're happy to send videos like this). When the excuses Starr why they can't send a video then you know they are wasting your time xx As I said on another thread yesterday I've been here 8 years and I'm still waiting to chat to any woman who would be comfortable with a video chat. I'm one half of a couples profile here too and there's not a chance in hell we'll be sending a video like that or having a videochat with anyone. That doesn't make us any less genuine than those who do. Intresting, I'm curious why you wouldn't be comfortable sending a short video or having a 30 second video chat ? I'm not arguing, I'm genuinely intrested xx " For exactly the same reasons I don't send facepics on fab. I've had my facepics and personal details shared on chatgroups by others and had complete strangers walk up to me at socials saying that they recognised me from my pic in the groupchat even though I haven't been in any group or shared a pic in more than 4 years. The same rules apply on the couples account and we don't give out phone numbers or names to people we don't already know really well and know we can trust. If others don't agree with that approach then we aren't compatible so that in itself is a good filter. | |||
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"Verifications, non negotiable video chat with all parties present and social." Agreed. We do exactly the same. | |||
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"Ask to meet for a coffee. " Why anyone would meet without a social first I have no idea...or maybe some people don't like coffee | |||
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"I have of the years on this site chatted to a few couples that the profile is run my the male partner. Vast majority of them end up being the feeling that the male is the only active person and his Lerner is not even aware he is on here. So what have you all learned is the best way for you to ensure that you are chatting to a couple prior to a social or private meet? We as couples to send a simple 30 second video saying hello, mentioning fab swingers and that they are looking forward to our up coming meet. Genuine people won't have an issue with this (we're happy to send videos like this). When the excuses Starr why they can't send a video then you know they are wasting your time xx" ___ And I bet you find so many people that give excuses to send you a video, right? We we would be one of those fake profiles and timewasters. No way we would make a video with our faces in it saying openly to the entire world we are swingers and share it with someone else who we have not met before. I sense many genuine people would give similar excuses the same kind we would give you. | |||
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"Verifications, non negotiable video chat with all parties present and social." __ Seems to be working well for you, your last verification was from a webcam meet more than 3 years ago. Looks like non negotiable video chat with all parties present is the sure fire way to vet people with a genuine interest to meet. | |||
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"I have of the years on this site chatted to a few couples that the profile is run my the male partner. Vast majority of them end up being the feeling that the male is the only active person and his Lerner is not even aware he is on here. Why so aggressive ? at no point did I say you were a fake profile or time wasters. I simply said this is what we do, if that's not what you do then fair enough. Jeez guys, it's just a chat, we are all aloud different opinions. peace & love, we're in the same community. Sarah So what have you all learned is the best way for you to ensure that you are chatting to a couple prior to a social or private meet? We as couples to send a simple 30 second video saying hello, mentioning fab swingers and that they are looking forward to our up coming meet. Genuine people won't have an issue with this (we're happy to send videos like this). When the excuses Starr why they can't send a video then you know they are wasting your time xx ___ And I bet you find so many people that give excuses to send you a video, right? We we would be one of those fake profiles and timewasters. No way we would make a video with our faces in it saying openly to the entire world we are swingers and share it with someone else who we have not met before. I sense many genuine people would give similar excuses the same kind we would give you." | |||
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"I have of the years on this site chatted to a few couples that the profile is run my the male partner. Vast majority of them end up being the feeling that the male is the only active person and his Lerner is not even aware he is on here. So what have you all learned is the best way for you to ensure that you are chatting to a couple prior to a social or private meet? We as couples to send a simple 30 second video saying hello, mentioning fab swingers and that they are looking forward to our up coming meet. Genuine people won't have an issue with this (we're happy to send videos like this). When the excuses Starr why they can't send a video then you know they are wasting your time xx As I said on another thread yesterday I've been here 8 years and I'm still waiting to chat to any woman who would be comfortable with a video chat. I'm one half of a couples profile here too and there's not a chance in hell we'll be sending a video like that or having a videochat with anyone. That doesn't make us any less genuine than those who do. Intresting, I'm curious why you wouldn't be comfortable sending a short video or having a 30 second video chat ? I'm not arguing, I'm genuinely intrested xx " I wouldn't send some stranger a video mentioning I'm a swinger which they can keep hold of. It's easy enough to judge real people on here I've never felt the need to video call anyone. However we were once called fakes for not wanting to video call a couple we had no interest in
I think our verifications speak for themselves I don't need to video call & wouldn't.
To add the admin here via inbox is 95% me the Mrs, forums it's both.
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"I have of the years on this site chatted to a few couples that the profile is run my the male partner. Vast majority of them end up being the feeling that the male is the only active person and his Lerner is not even aware he is on here. So what have you all learned is the best way for you to ensure that you are chatting to a couple prior to a social or private meet?" You'll find that many Men of the couples will interact with you without the Woman's knowledge. If they're graphic messages it's probably the Man. If they mention penis size it's probably the Man. Many Men on here will message and comment on the forum pretending to be a Woman. You can often tell by the content or their profile. If you get to meet the couple you'll soon get an idea if she was involved in the messages. We've met couples and the Woman had no idea they'd messaged us. | |||
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"I'm really not sure why people get so aggressive ? .I simply said this is what we do, if that's not what you do then fair enough. Jeez guys, it's just a chat, we are all aloud different opinions. peace & love, we're in the same community. Sarah" __ Really sorry if my reply came as aggressive. Can't see how it is, but in any case not my intention. Peace and Love. xx My point is/was that, yes you can use your method for vetting but in the same post you imply that everyone who does not comply with that demand is by default non genuine, a timewaster, and any reasons to avoid it must therefore be an excuse. Basically, you leave no option for genuine people who do not want video images of them in other people's hands to prove they are genuine. For example, many people here have a large number of verifications with a genuine trail. Can't see the point of asking them for a video. Hope this does not sound aggressive, lol xx | |||
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"I have of the years on this site chatted to a few couples that the profile is run my the male partner. Vast majority of them end up being the feeling that the male is the only active person and his Lerner is not even aware he is on here. So what have you all learned is the best way for you to ensure that you are chatting to a couple prior to a social or private meet?" Check verifications. How long have they been on FAB have they been verified as a couple on a real meet. If on FAB over a year, no meets, probably not going to happen. | |||
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"I'm really not sure why people get so aggressive ? .I simply said this is what we do, if that's not what you do then fair enough. Jeez guys, it's just a chat, we are all aloud different opinions. peace & love, we're in the same community. Sarah __ Really sorry if my reply came as aggressive. Can't see how it is, but in any case not my intention. Peace and Love. xx My point is/was that, yes you can use your method for vetting but in the same post you imply that everyone who does not comply with that demand is by default non genuine, a timewaster, and any reasons to avoid it must therefore be an excuse. Basically, you leave no option for genuine people who do not want video images of them in other people's hands to prove they are genuine. For example, many people here have a large number of verifications with a genuine trail. Can't see the point of asking them for a video. Hope this does not sound aggressive, lol xx" Perhaps I miss understood. I'm reading/writing in my second language. You points are are fair, and it's something we'll consider next time we're vetting people. Sarah xx | |||
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"Verifications, non negotiable video chat with all parties present and social. __ Seems to be working well for you, your last verification was from a webcam meet more than 3 years ago. Looks like non negotiable video chat with all parties present is the sure fire way to vet people with a genuine interest to meet." As we live abroad now and fab is not particularly useful for international meets. | |||
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"I'm really not sure why people get so aggressive ? .I simply said this is what we do, if that's not what you do then fair enough. Jeez guys, it's just a chat, we are all aloud different opinions. peace & love, we're in the same community. Sarah __ Really sorry if my reply came as aggressive. Can't see how it is, but in any case not my intention. Peace and Love. xx My point is/was that, yes you can use your method for vetting but in the same post you imply that everyone who does not comply with that demand is by default non genuine, a timewaster, and any reasons to avoid it must therefore be an excuse. Basically, you leave no option for genuine people who do not want video images of them in other people's hands to prove they are genuine. For example, many people here have a large number of verifications with a genuine trail. Can't see the point of asking them for a video. Hope this does not sound aggressive, lol xx Perhaps I miss understood. I'm reading/writing in my second language. You points are are fair, and it's something we'll consider next time we're vetting people. Sarah xx" __ Thanks for the DM, much appreciated. I feel we are on the same page  | |||
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"Verifications, non negotiable video chat with all parties present and social. __ Seems to be working well for you, your last verification was from a webcam meet more than 3 years ago. Looks like non negotiable video chat with all parties present is the sure fire way to vet people with a genuine interest to meet. As we live abroad now and fab is not particularly useful for international meets." __ I sympathize with that. I (Mr) have had a couple of successful meets while on trips abroad, but it rarely works. Swingers abroad keep hitting the "who's near" button in Fab, and sometimes we get messages from couples that would never message us if we were both in the UK, so it is usually the wrong city, wrong timing, schedules do not match, work/plans commitments, etc etc. And that's when dealing with genuine profiles, must be even harder for you to vet profiles with little or no verifications. If either of you needs to travel far for a potential play meet, it makes sense to ask for a video call, because the option of a quick social down the local pub that most of us in the UK have, it is not there available for you. | |||
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"I'm really not sure why people get so aggressive ? .I simply said this is what we do, if that's not what you do then fair enough. Jeez guys, it's just a chat, we are all aloud different opinions. peace & love, we're in the same community. Sarah" Amehn sis  | |||
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