FabSwingers.com forum: Struggling to get a meet!

By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

Anyone else struggling to get a meet? I’ve been verified on cam, but due to the amount of blokes on here, I can’t get an actual meet!!

Any tips?!

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By *uenevereWoman
23 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

OP you've only been on here 8 weeks.

I would suggest adjusting your expectations and writing more on your profile.

Women will usually look at a profile before deciding whether to respond to a message. Yours says very little, and you need to sell yourself.

Honestly, clubs and socials are often a better option than relying on Fab.

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By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

Thank you! Feedback on the profile is noted….. Will get onto it now!

I’m looking at going to a club in the next few weeks. Juggling kids and work is an issue in the evenings

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By *bi HaiveMan
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23 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Anyone else struggling to get a meet? I’ve been verified on cam, but due to the amount of blokes on here, I can’t get an actual meet!!

Any tips?!"

Do you think it's actually down to the amount of other blokes on here.....or something else?

Otherwise logic says every guy would be in the same boat as you and none of them would get a meet.

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By *heSchwingersCouple
23 weeks ago

Essex

Come on. No one actually meets from fab. We meet people through recommendations, clubs and socials. Then we keep in touch via fab. Very very few people have come into our lives from fab alone x

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By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

"Anyone else struggling to get a meet? I’ve been verified on cam, but due to the amount of blokes on here, I can’t get an actual meet!!

Any tips?!

Do you think it's actually down to the amount of other blokes on here.....or something else?

Otherwise logic says every guy would be in the same boat as you and none of them would get a meet. "

Good question! I guess I’m trying to see if others are struggling, but searching the forums, they don’t seem to be.

Feedback taken on profile, so I’ve updated. We’ll see!

Hopefully I’ll start to stand out more

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By *eaperCussionsMan
23 weeks ago

Coatbridge

"OP you've only been on here 8 weeks.

I would suggest adjusting your expectations and writing more on your profile.

Women will usually look at a profile before deciding whether to respond to a message. Yours says very little, and you need to sell yourself.

Honestly, clubs and socials are often a better option than relying on Fab."

Agree with the last sentence. Get yourself along to socials and clubs in your area. I wish I had done that when I first joined Fab.

Socials are fun and you can get to know the people there and if you share interests.

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By *ucka39Man
23 weeks ago

Newcastle

Hiya op

Amount of guys on here compared to women and couples it's not a ratio thing

Effort, creating the profile

Decent smartly dressed photos

Information within the bio that is going to grasp someone attention

Use as much as possible from the site, don't just rely on messages

Use the forum

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By *evergiveupMan
23 weeks ago

derbyshire

I think the word is - perseverance!

As a single guy on here you need to somehow make yourself interesting and also come across as worth meeting

It can be done - I am an old guy but I manage to meet and enjoy good times on fab

But I chat to people a lot on here and make myself available for meets etc

You need to work at it

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By *hunky GentMan
23 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

OP - if you're really struggling I could send you a couple of ladies from my harem.

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By *otsossieMan
23 weeks ago

local, but not too local

"OP - if you're really struggling I could send you a couple of ladies from my harem.

Hoi! You promised!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
23 weeks ago

Central

Townhouse isn't too far and has a phenomenal reputation. But research clubs to find those for your budget and service requirements.

It's not being a man that stops you, that's just a challenge to overcome. Read posts giving profile and strategy tips

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
23 weeks ago

Home

"Anyone else struggling to get a meet? I’ve been verified on cam, but due to the amount of blokes on here, I can’t get an actual meet!!

Any tips?!"
get yourself to a social it will help you get to know more people

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
23 weeks ago

Wirral.

Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink

Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...

Sorry. Got nothing else to add.

Good luck x

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By *hunky GentMan
23 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"OP - if you're really struggling I could send you a couple of ladies from my harem.

Hoi! You promised!"

You can have a couple of them too.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Been and came back on here a couple times detail profile loads of pics cam verified and I still got turned down more times then a thermostat so came back and kept it brief makes no difference

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By *ucka39Man
23 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Been and came back on here a couple times detail profile loads of pics cam verified and I still got turned down more times then a thermostat so came back and kept it brief makes no difference "

Hiya

Maybe add loads of photos over a period of time. Spreading this out when the site is more active

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By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

"Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink

Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...

Sorry. Got nothing else to add.

Good luck x"

I saw. You massive winker

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By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

Thanks for all the advice. All taken on board xx

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By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

"OP - if you're really struggling I could send you a couple of ladies from my harem.

Please do!

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
23 weeks ago

Wirral.

"Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink

Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...

Sorry. Got nothing else to add.

Good luck x

I saw. You massive winker

Granted, I'm a big gal. But "massive...."?

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By *azmar62Couple
23 weeks ago

Hinckley

Be patient OP? Most people on here are not players. Only a very few actually are. We actually play and even we have trouble getting players. Disappointment is a big part of swinging.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
23 weeks ago

South West London

Most men on Fab struggle on Fab OP, just be yourself and you should be fine

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By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

"Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink

Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...

Sorry. Got nothing else to add.

Good luck x

I saw. You massive winker

Granted, I'm a big gal. But "massive...."?

Was meant to point out your perviness

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
23 weeks ago

Leeds

Getting meets on here isn't easy for anyone but more so for single guys.

Maybe have a look see if there's any local social events near you they are always great for meeting new people.

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By *punk n gushCouple
23 weeks ago

walmer

We're all in the same boat we get loads of offers when away on short breaks but our local area is a bit dry but then when you factor work family life etc it can be hard to arrange meets

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By *elboy1978Man
23 weeks ago

Fellgate

Your not the only one struggling to get a meet I am still trying to get my first meet

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By *abaFwonkleCouple
23 weeks ago

South Shields

"Come on. No one actually meets from fab. We meet people through recommendations, clubs and socials. Then we keep in touch via fab. Very very few people have come into our lives from fab alone x"

We've met loads of people just through Fab. Just takes a little effort.

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By *StepsAheadMan
23 weeks ago

Lancs

Ive struggled to get meets since ive been here then getting verified is even harder than finding a meet haha

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By *wosmilersCouple
23 weeks ago

Heathrowish

Go to clubs, socials and parties.

Don't expect to immediately have a lot of sex as that isn't the only aspect of swinging.

Once you start to get recognised socially, you may find opportunities arise.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
23 weeks ago

Kendal

"Anyone else struggling to get a meet? I’ve been verified on cam, but due to the amount of blokes on here, I can’t get an actual meet!!

Any tips?!"

Three main issues

1) Yes your're a bloke competing with thousands of others all vying for the same attention of couples and females which is a much smaller pool

2) Most couples do not want to meet single men, and women are often overloaded with messages as per point one so standing out from the crowd is imperative.

3) We've discovered there's loads on here who say one thing on their profile and then don't back it up. Seems a lot on here love the idea of swinging, sharing pictures etc but don't want to physically do it.

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By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

"Anyone else struggling to get a meet? I’ve been verified on cam, but due to the amount of blokes on here, I can’t get an actual meet!!

Any tips?!

Three main issues

1) Yes your're a bloke competing with thousands of others all vying for the same attention of couples and females which is a much smaller pool

2) Most couples do not want to meet single men, and women are often overloaded with messages as per point one so standing out from the crowd is imperative.

Thanks for the tips x

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By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

"Go to clubs, socials and parties.

Don't expect to immediately have a lot of sex as that isn't the only aspect of swinging.

Once you start to get recognised socially, you may find opportunities arise."

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By *picyvanilla82Woman
23 weeks ago

Southampton

You have to establish what do you expect from here.

Lifestyle is not ( for most) ons on short notice.

I'm a woman, and I rarely met, it takes months to finesse the expierience, agree to all important things find suitable date and time etc. Find suitable people, in the end I want the expierience to be absolute best, to add to my great espieriences and not to be a fuck and forgotten within a week.

If it is a hook up you are after, you might generally struggle.

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By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

"You have to establish what do you expect from here.

Lifestyle is not ( for most) ons on short notice.

If it is a hook up you are after, you might generally struggle. "

Thank you

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
23 weeks ago

Stoke

Yup... We're struggling to get a meet too for Saturday, no one so far floated our boat!!

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By *imply DeeWoman
23 weeks ago

Wherever

"Yup... We're struggling to get a meet too for Saturday, no one so far floated our boat!! "

Same here.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
23 weeks ago

Maidstone

Really struggling.

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By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

Everyone who is struggling is soooo far away!

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
23 weeks ago

Wirral.

"Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink

Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...

Sorry. Got nothing else to add.

Good luck x

I saw. You massive winker

Granted, I'm a big gal. But "massive...."?

Was meant to point out your perviness

I know

Perviness directly correlates with mass in this instance

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By *_welsh OP Man
23 weeks ago

Speke / Chester

"Your profile pics are great, OP. So much so that I winked you. And I rarely wink

Are you sending messages and getting no replies? If so, maybe adjust your approach...

Sorry. Got nothing else to add.

Good luck x

I saw. You massive winker

Granted, I'm a big gal. But "massive...."?

Was meant to point out your perviness

I know

Perviness directly correlates with mass in this instance

Good to know

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By *ick1111Man
23 weeks ago

Near Spalding

I’m trying to persevere and hope that one day it will happen.

I’m also getting in the mindset that I might need to attend one of the local clubs.........

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