FabSwingers.com forum: Thoughts on too many verifications?

By *asy-tiger OP Man
23 weeks ago

Ringwood | Bournemouth | Poole

Is it possible to be too genuine and overly verified? Asking for a friend?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

A friend of mine has over 300. People who are put off by that wouldn't be compatible with her anyway

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By *ilverfox for youMan
23 weeks ago

Hull

Good point .your probably right !especially when it comes to sti probability

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
23 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Good point .your probably right !especially when it comes to sti probability "

Yes.

Because people who have that much sex tend to be utterly unaware of their risk profile and just crack on as if they're probably fine

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By *ittlebirdWoman
23 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

I’m sure it is to some people OP. You just need to ask “your friend” if they’re his/her kind of people

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By *ittlebirdWoman
23 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Good point .your probably right !especially when it comes to sti probability

Yes.

Because people who have that much sex tend to be utterly unaware of their risk profile and just crack on as if they're probably fine

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By *icecouple561Couple
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23 weeks ago

East Sussex

Too genuine? I do don't think that's possible really.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Depends if there are alot of social meets and how long they have been on fab. If someone goes to alot of clubs, socials and parties they will meet more people..... if they've been in here 10 years.

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By (user no longer on site)
23 weeks ago

Generally speaking most people that do so much of this get tested regularly. We only BB with people we know and are also tested regularly and test ourselves.

There are plenty of vanillas out there dropping chlamidyia all over the place

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By *asy-tiger OP Man
23 weeks ago

Ringwood | Bournemouth | Poole

Very true - I’m tested every three months and play safe unless with trusted partners or if pre tested and arranged. Far too risky out there. But plenty of opportunities to have fun so I try and take opportunities when they arise and fit the right kind of filth x

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By *asy-tiger OP Man
23 weeks ago

Ringwood | Bournemouth | Poole

Was that sarcasm lol as I would say that people who do play and swing regularly are pretty responsible with getting checked etc as they play a fair amount! I know I do regularly even if still playing safe x

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
23 weeks ago

Herts

Too genuine? Like almost full circle into not genuine? I don’t get it.

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By *DI SocialsWoman
23 weeks ago

York

I e friends with 400 + many repeat fabbers and many Socials. So not always sex

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By *asy-tiger OP Man
23 weeks ago

Ringwood | Bournemouth | Poole

"Too genuine? Like almost full circle into not genuine? I don’t get it. "

Haha true but yeh I meant as in everyone looks for genuine people that actually meet but if you meet too much it can count against you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

I got told I had too many veris. I told them I’d been on here over 7 years and at least half were club or social meets, so to do the math. There was about 60 in total. I’ve now hidden some, cause unfortunately some people don’t bother reading them and just judge.

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By *ensherman333Man
22 weeks ago

Newcastle/Durham

It’s a red flag to me , means to me you’d probably shag neighbours dog and cat and budgie.

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By *ensherman333Man
22 weeks ago

Newcastle/Durham

"I got told I had too many veris. I told them I’d been on here over 7 years and at least half were club or social meets, so to do the math. There was about 60 in total. I’ve now hidden some, cause unfortunately some people don’t bother reading them and just judge. "

I’d say a three figure sum is a lot,

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By *issmorganWoman
22 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It depends on the nature of the veries and how close they are together.

If someone was meeting a different person for sex everyday, then yes it would put me off, as I'd feel like I'd be just another number.

I'd they had lots of veries, but many were over a space of time or social ones, then no it wouldn't.

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By *unchalMan
22 weeks ago

Dartford

"A friend of mine has over 300. People who are put off by that wouldn't be compatible with her anyway

I love the idea that people have that many verifications. Almost makes me feel slightly virginal.

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By *oleene HoneybeeWoman
22 weeks ago

on the naughty side of the street

Is this the new slut shaming.....

So how many is to many?

Ive got quite a few as I've been on fab and part of the scene since 2016.

I ensure to have regular testing but also practice safe sex policy

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By *unchalMan
22 weeks ago

Dartford

"Too genuine? I do don't think that's possible really.

I think you can be too genuine. I’ve spent a lifetime in pursuit of genuineness, in as much as I want to feel what I feel and relate to people with an honest consistency that is based on what I feel, and think, of course. It gets me in a lot of trouble!

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By *unchalMan
22 weeks ago

Dartford

"Is this the new slut shaming.....

So how many is to many?

Ive got quite a few as I've been on fab and part of the scene since 2016.

I ensure to have regular testing but also practice safe sex policy "

It’s a version of the internet obsession about ‘body count’ and it is used to shame women, in particular, quite a lot.

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By *.S..Man
22 weeks ago

wolverhampton

Each to their own

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
22 weeks ago

Bedale

Depends on context and timeframe.

For us, if you have 300 but it's clear that a large number are social, accrued over a long time in the lifestyle, and are spaced in a way that doesn't arouse suspicion we aren't likely to consider it much of a merit or demerit really.

If you have 70 and have only been on the site 6 months, all are play and all are crude; we're probably going to suspect we wouldn't connect with you as you're probably looking for high throughput low investment which isn't our style.

But, neither of those are conclusive. Our pants have been charmed off unexpectedly by all kinds of people

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By *oxy jWoman
22 weeks ago

somerset

no such thing as to many or to little some off use have been on this scene for years ..me 30 years plus ... i have no clue how many men and women ive had fun with but its alot ...

its swinging its what it is if someone is not happy with how often others meet then they are on the wrong scene in the first place sex with other is what its all about if thats everyday then fill your boots with zero fucks of what other think

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By *oleene HoneybeeWoman
22 weeks ago

on the naughty side of the street

"Is this the new slut shaming.....

So how many is to many?

Ive got quite a few as I've been on fab and part of the scene since 2016.

I ensure to have regular testing but also practice safe sex policy

It’s a version of the internet obsession about ‘body count’ and it is used to shame women, in particular, quite a lot. "

Yes exactly

How many actually count?

I always reply when a guy asks about body count....

If they don't make me cum

Do I have to count them

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
22 weeks ago

Sheffield

No….doesn’t bother me. Easily done if you go to clubs and are socials.

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By *ellhungvweMan
22 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"Is this the new slut shaming.....

So how many is to many?

Ive got quite a few as I've been on fab and part of the scene since 2016.

I ensure to have regular testing but also practice safe sex policy

It’s a version of the internet obsession about ‘body count’ and it is used to shame women, in particular, quite a lot.

Yes exactly

How many actually count?

I always reply when a guy asks about body count....

If they don't make me cum

Do I have to count them

If they make you cum 3 times then is that 3 veris?

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By *KBiMale2023Man
22 weeks ago

WEDNESFIELD, WOLVERHAMPTON

All depends on how regular the verifications are, i.e. Every other day etc

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By *eyond PurityCouple
22 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

So if you don’t display verifications are you a virgin or something?

We have a friend who goes to clubs Friday and Saturday every week. Doesn’t show any veri’s.

The verification count means nothing and if people use it against you then they aren’t the right people for you.

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By *orthern BeardMan
22 weeks ago

Banbury

Someone told me last week I had too many. They’re not really close together and I’ve been here 7 years or so.

Thought they would be more happy knowing I’m a good catch

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By *idnightMischiefMan
22 weeks ago

London

Verifications don't necessarily equate to conquests.

Some people prefer to keep their activities private while some people get shitloads of verifications just from social or webcam activity.

There's a woman I know, who used to be on here, and had very few verifications, but her actual body count was way over 5000. : o

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By *hunky GentMan
22 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

It's been mentioned that I have a lot (for a guy), but when you see how many are purely social then there's not so many.

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By *DI SocialsWoman
22 weeks ago

York

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By *aughtyTwosomeCouple
22 weeks ago

Kent

We have 37 but not many of them we have actually played with, most we've just met socially at a club

So lots of verifications don't have to mean lots of partners or increased sti risk.

For us it's loads of pictures of unprotected sex with loads of different people normally in a short space of time, that's what puts us off

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By *ark n kimCouple
22 weeks ago

Durham

We really like the social aspect,so most of ours are from socials.

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By *ent in BlackMan
22 weeks ago

Silsden

"Is it possible to be too genuine and overly verified? Asking for a friend?

It doesn’t matter if you have thousands. It makes no difference to me.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
22 weeks ago

Dartford

Not all our veris are from people we have had sex with, just saying x

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
22 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

"We have 37 but not many of them we have actually played with, most we've just met socially at a club

So lots of verifications don't have to mean lots of partners or increased sti risk.

For us it's loads of pictures of unprotected sex with loads of different people normally in a short space of time, that's what puts us off

I agree with you, most people on Fab take their sexual health seriously.

They use protection and get regular STI checks, you’re more likely to catch something from a random hook up in a club!!

If I see bareback threads or know certain people who do BB i will check their profile and verifications and block them.

I know some people do BB with people they know but that’s not for me and I don’t judge as it’s their choice.

Just like it’s my choice to use protection.

If there is more meet verifications than I can vet me personally would just block unless i know them from the forum or such.

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By *ony MannMan
22 weeks ago

New York City New York USA

I use protection, but I have a friend I made on here that I am bb with, I don't think I have too many verifications

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
22 weeks ago

Scarborogh

"We really like the social aspect,so most of ours are from socials."

Here with you on socials, we have loads of veris. We do probably 6 socials a year and club. We also do PDI once a year and can rack up quite a few over the week.

We love to chat and socialise, bars, beach and clubs but don’t play with everyone.

We know people that are our most weekends playing but they only have 40ish veris but know it’s a lot more.

We like to see the veris summery as that shows the veris are genuine.

In the end it’s a number we can show 40 and hide the V/S and that makes us ok. I’d rather be genuine.

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