FabSwingers.com forum: Meet and play

By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

Is it what most of us looking for on here?

I don't get these "we need to get to know you before we meet"

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By *oxy jWoman
35 weeks ago

somerset

if you dont get it then this lifestyle is clearly not for you this is not a free sex for all lifestyle attraction in a must getting on to a big deal to...

if you looking to turn up play and go home maybe a lady of the night is for you theres no free sex here

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
35 weeks ago

Sheffield

For myself no, and lots I know aren’t into that no.

If that’s not your thing it just means your aren’t compatible, it’s no biggie.

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By *ucka39Man
35 weeks ago

Newcastle

Prefer the premium style

Social, enjoy the company and adds that extra bonus when it leads to SEX

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By *ucka39Man
35 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Prefer the premium style

Social, enjoy the company and adds that extra bonus when it leads to SEX

Chemistry is important

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By *ortney CocksWoman
35 weeks ago

"if you dont get it then this lifestyle is clearly not for you this is not a free sex for all lifestyle attraction in a must getting on to a big deal to...

if you looking to turn up play and go home maybe a lady of the night is for you theres no free sex here"

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By *urvy ClarissaWoman
35 weeks ago

wigan

I obviously can’t speak for all women but I have no desire to feel like a free pro***tute.

I need a connection and chemistry to go down the sex route and if I’m not feeling it or someone is just wanting to meet without seeming interested, I’d rather find something to watch on Netflix!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Prefer the premium style

Social, enjoy the company and adds that extra bonus when it leads to SEX

Chemistry is important "

Of course chemistry is important. I am talking about people who wants to know more same time you can tell they will never meet just waste a time. I am up for meet or social meet and play. That is best way to get to know someone.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
35 weeks ago

your head

"Is it what most of us looking for on here?

I don't get these "we need to get to know you before we meet""

You don't have to get it, there's not a rule book to any of this. People do what works for them

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
35 weeks ago

Northampton

We meet and play. We’ve no interest in the coffee meet vetting interview approach.

We meet in clubs and like meeting similar people to us.

We’ve met people along the way and have continued to build on our meet. Some we’ve never seen again.

We believe it’s your own unique Fab journey, play safe and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I'm not a sex worker giving out free shags for charity.

There has to be some chemistry and interest in the person/ persons I have sex with. An ability to have a fun conversation in-between the sexy stuff is helpful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"Is it what most of us looking for on here?

I don't get these "we need to get to know you before we meet"

You don't have to get it, there's not a rule book to any of this. People do what works for them

Prefer to be blocked then waste my time

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
35 weeks ago

Yorkshire

You're going to meet a variety of differing people on here with a differing level of expectation.

If you want a no nonsense, get down to business meet then go to a club - this is where the majority of quick meets happen.

We all make our own paths in this lifestyle - make yours

S xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
35 weeks ago

"OP

You're going to meet a variety of differing people on here with a differing level of expectation.

If you want a no nonsense, get down to business meet then go to a club - this is where the majority of quick meets happen.

We all make our own paths in this lifestyle - make yours

S xxx"

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By *aomilatteCouple
35 weeks ago

Midlands

"Is it what most of us looking for on here?

I don't get these "we need to get to know you before we meet""

We're not into the message ping pong that many are into. We've spoke to people for 3 minutes in a club then gone into a playroom. We've played without exchanging a word but don't make a habit of it

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By *naswingdressWoman
35 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's not what I'm looking for. People are individuals and are all looking for different things.

The people who look for meet and play immediately tend to be off-putting to me - I like to be treated with more humanity than a fleshlight.

Profiles will often give a sense of what people are looking for, and in seeking someone you're not going to win them all. Perhaps consider your selection criteria?

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By *inge84Woman
35 weeks ago

RCT

I prefer to get straight to the play. I don't always have time and am not into small talk especially if I've invited someone over.

Sexual chemistry obviously but don't really do socials.

If I get on with a person and it continues then great if it's just fuck then go that's fine too.

I don't even always ask their name haha bit that's how I like it sometimes

Each to their own

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By *issmorganWoman
35 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

No & that just shows me we'd not be compatible.

I'd rather sort myself out than meet someone without any kind of connection.

Be open to the idea that this is a lifestyle for many and the way they meet might not be the way you do op.

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By *issmorganWoman
35 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Like someone said above, a club might suit you well if you want to get down to it, without trying to get to know someone first.

People are different and so their preferences will be too.

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By *parkle1974Woman
35 weeks ago

Leeds

Sounds like you need clubs OP

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By *ucka39Man
35 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Prefer the premium style

Social, enjoy the company and adds that extra bonus when it leads to SEX

Chemistry is important

Well I prefer to at least get to know someone, a conversation on the same page (connection) chemistry plays a part... People can have both but still not compatible with it leading no further as there needs to be an attraction

It can play differently depending upon how the conversation flows with skipping social as the conversation has been pretty deep

I just take it with a pinch of salt

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By *ucka39Man
35 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Sounds like you need clubs OP "

Hiya

What may I need

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By *parkle1974Woman
35 weeks ago

Leeds

"Sounds like you need clubs OP

Hiya

What may I need

I think you need a little gathering amongst friends

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By *oxyBabes36Couple
35 weeks ago

Urmston

I’m picky about the shoes I wear, so you can imagine how picky I am about the men I’m prepared to sleep with. Always socials first then maybe another social but I’m not a “meet now” person and I wouldn’t put out for anyone without intense connection or chemistry.

You definitely should try a club and go from there, but even in clubs women/men may still expect some sort of conversation before hand and even then, they can still say “No Thanks”

Vix

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By *lue NotebooksCouple
35 weeks ago

Merseyside

I like both tbh. Meet and fuck. Meet and have a coffee and chat and fuck. Or just meet for social

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By *eroLondonMan
35 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Is it what most of us looking for on here?

I don't get these "we need to get to know you before we meet""

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Finally! Someone talking sense! You're the huckleberry I've been sêêking all these months when every time I wax lyrical about how this place is the veritable Pot Noodle™. Just add powdered water to boiled water to reconstitute some water and then add to the Pot Noodle™ — hey presto! InstantShag™®©.

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By *ucka39Man
35 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Sounds like you need clubs OP

Hiya

What may I need

I think you need a little gathering amongst friends

I'm still gathering you seem an ideal candidate

we wouldn't need anyone else

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
35 weeks ago

Coventry

Personally from experience I think it's a mix and depends a lot of mood, environment and the others involved. However the common denominator is some mutual attraction and chemistry. Be it instant or form over a bit of getting to know each other. It's not about just having sex with people for the sake of it.

Normally we have a few drinks with people and get a vibe for them and build some chemistry first. Some people its built up slowly after we've bumped into them a few times on different nights. However not always. A great example of the opposite that's happened with us was a couple who just come joined us while we were having sex who didn't really speak English. However they didn't need to. There was just this sort of instant chemistry and the communication was great despite the language barrier. It was all very hot and worked well. And we've found in the club environment sometimes this just happens with the right people.

As long as there is attraction and chemistry the rest will work it's self out in its own time. Be it in bed together 5 mins later, after a few drinks or after a few social encounters/meets first.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
35 weeks ago

chichester

I have had meets with barely any chit chat always at saunas / clubs / nude beach like cap dagde though

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
35 weeks ago

Portstewart

"Is it what most of us looking for on here?

I don't get these "we need to get to know you before we meet""

Perhaps it's the fact that most don't want some random trying something that isn't to the couples liking and it's a lot to do with attraction too. If there's no attraction then there's no chance your joining us

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By *ellhungvweMan
35 weeks ago

Cheltenham

OP there are different groups of people on the site. There are women and couples who just enjoy the physical act of sex. They are not looking for a deep and meaningful relationship, they have that in other parts of the their life and this part is just so that they can enjoy themselves without any hang ups or drama. Of course they want to get to know you but that is not why they are here.

There are other people who are looking for that relationship and the sex is almost incidental.

Both are fine but the way you interact with them, if you decide to interact at all, will be different. Personally I just want to find people who are pleasant, relaxed and drama free. People who want something more are not for me as I can’t give it to them and a long requirements list of social dates is a good filter for me to avoid them.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
35 weeks ago

Weymouth

"Is it what most of us looking for on here?

I don't get these "we need to get to know you before we meet"

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
35 weeks ago

Weymouth

Whilst we don't get to know everyone to the same degree, we've tried to do spontaneous meets and it just didn't work for us

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