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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just looking for opinions really, if someone you'd met before for fun then met someone you couldn't stand, would you still meet them again or would it matter enough that you'd rather not? Would you wonder about their judge of character or put it down to them seeing something in that person that you don't?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think the politics that comes into swinging because of warring fractions/dislikes and expecting/assuming others takes sides is a nightmare.

and usually the person stuck in the middle is dammed if they do, dammed if they don't...

if you are attracted to both parties, explain you are not getting involved and have fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sounds very rational to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i might be put off depends who it was and why i didnt like them.

though men meet women for sex not because she is a nice person, usualy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would still meet the original person ........ it's down to them who they meet ....... and none of my business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because I'm happy to meet some people and not others I wouldn't expect that to influence anyone else's decisions.

And if people choose to decide not to meet me based on interactions with others - that's entirely their choice too! I've yet to come across the situation - but that doesn't necessarily mean it hasn't happened - after all, they may not tell you why and use another 'explanation ' as to why they don't want to meet.

I imagine its easier for some to say "fuck no - you've met so and so" than for others, who may just prefer the "thanks but no thanks" line.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

If i didnt like the other woman because she was a skanky cum dripping wreck...NO!!

Other than that....wouldnt bother me

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Just looking for opinions really, if someone you'd met before for fun then met someone you couldn't stand, would you still meet them again or would it matter enough that you'd rather not? Would you wonder about their judge of character or put it down to them seeing something in that person that you don't? "

As far as I am concerned whoever they meet before or after me is absolutely none of my bloody business - just as who I meet would be none of theirs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the reasoning for not liking that person i think.

I don't know really if it was someone i really did not like maybe but not sure as it has not happened to me.

I would like to think it would not bother me and let them crack on with it....if i liked them and the meet was good,id just try not to mention it i think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i didnt like the other woman because she was a skanky cum dripping wreck...NO!!

Other than that....wouldnt bother me "

thats no way to talk about ma burd!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

In some instances... yes it would make me think twice or even put me off.

It would put me off totally if I knew they had willingly and knowingly met a 'high risk' player.

It would make me think twice if they were happy to meet someone who was an obvious fruit loop/bunny boiler/moron/twat just for the sake of a shag. I would wonder if I had misjudged their character.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few of my playmates meet and are friends with people I totally can not stand. As long as I'm not expected to be two faced and befriend them too I'm not fussed.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"If i didnt like the other woman because she was a skanky cum dripping wreck...NO!!

Other than that....wouldnt bother me

thats no way to talk about ma burd!"

Now you know why I wont meet ya!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I would still meet the original person ........ it's down to them who they meet ....... and none of my business "

This. They were attracted to me, so what if they were attracted to someone I didn't like?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would still meet the original person ........ it's down to them who they meet ....... and none of my business

This. They were attracted to me, so what if they were attracted to someone I didn't like? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would still meet the original person ........ it's down to them who they meet ....... and none of my business

This. They were attracted to me, so what if they were attracted to someone I didn't like? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i didnt like the other woman because she was a skanky cum dripping wreck...NO!!

Other than that....wouldnt bother me

thats no way to talk about ma burd!

Now you know why I wont meet ya!! "

she's dumped..her bj's were pish anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many times do we meet someone at a party who's a friend of a friend and dislike them. Doesn't mean we stop being friends with the first friend does it?

For me, as long as theyre not unclean or barebacking I don't care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only time I've avoided a meet because of someone else they have met is because the other person has bunny boiler tendencies and I can't be arsed with getting into the drama again!

Have thought about it before when someone has met anyone with bareback on their profile, but I guess so long as I'm taking my precautions I'm probably not at any extra risk as chances are some have played bareback without me knowing too?

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Just looking for opinions really, if someone you'd met before for fun then met someone you couldn't stand, would you still meet them again or would it matter enough that you'd rather not? Would you wonder about their judge of character or put it down to them seeing something in that person that you don't? "
i think u should trust your own judgement , but some people see things maybe you couldn't or vice versa ,but if u trust your own instinct you prob wont go far wrong.

but at the same time u don't like me at all, but there are people on here that do, some of which are your friends, does that make you wrong or them? i think we are all different and we all have it in us to decide for our selves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just looking for opinions really, if someone you'd met before for fun then met someone you couldn't stand, would you still meet them again or would it matter enough that you'd rather not? Would you wonder about their judge of character or put it down to them seeing something in that person that you don't? "

It would depend WHY I didn't like the next person they'd met.

OK, it might be someone who I think is physically unattractive..... no problem - I would still re-meet my friend (peeps all have different tastes about what is/isn't attractive).

However, if they had subsequently met someone who I felt was morally or intellectually repulsive, then yes, I would start to have doubts.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I know for a fact that no matter how hot a guy is or how much fun we had playing previously, once I know they have fucked/tongued someone who insists on bareback and has verifications stating that their holes have graciously received more jizz deposits than a sperm bank, the thought of kissing the guy and sucking his cock makes me shudder (not in a good way). Knowing that thought will be in the back of my mind, I am sure I would not be able to relax and be spontaneous…..in which case I see no point meeting them again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just looking for opinions really, if someone you'd met before for fun then met someone you couldn't stand, would you still meet them again or would it matter enough that you'd rather not? Would you wonder about their judge of character or put it down to them seeing something in that person that you don't? i think u should trust your own judgement , but some people see things maybe you couldn't or vice versa ,but if u trust your own instinct you prob wont go far wrong.

but at the same time u don't like me at all, but there are people on here that do, some of which are your friends, does that make you wrong or them? i think we are all different and we all have it in us to decide for our selves "

Actually that's a very reasonable answer thank you x

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"I know for a fact that no matter how hot a guy is or how much fun we had playing previously, once I know they have fucked/tongued someone who insists on bareback and has verifications stating that their holes have graciously received more jizz deposits than a sperm bank, the thought of kissing the guy and sucking his cock makes me shudder (not in a good way). Knowing that thought will be in the back of my mind, I am sure I would not be able to relax and be spontaneous…..in which case I see no point meeting them again."
doesn't the op read more personality traits, then physical mistermeaners i wouldn't wanna meet bare backers but if i found someone to be ok and liked them and my friend couldn't stand them i wouldn't change how i felt because of that

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Just looking for opinions really, if someone you'd met before for fun then met someone you couldn't stand, would you still meet them again or would it matter enough that you'd rather not? Would you wonder about their judge of character or put it down to them seeing something in that person that you don't? i think u should trust your own judgement , but some people see things maybe you couldn't or vice versa ,but if u trust your own instinct you prob wont go far wrong.

but at the same time u don't like me at all, but there are people on here that do, some of which are your friends, does that make you wrong or them? i think we are all different and we all have it in us to decide for our selves

Actually that's a very reasonable answer thank you x"
x

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

It goes against the general consensus on this thread but yes it would affect the way I felt towards the person. In a way you are not only shagging the person you're with but also everyone they have shagged. Now generally you wouldn't know who they had shagged so who cares, but if I knew the person had been with someone I could not stand I wouldn't be able to get that out of my head.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"I know for a fact that no matter how hot a guy is or how much fun we had playing previously, once I know they have fucked/tongued someone who insists on bareback and has verifications stating that their holes have graciously received more jizz deposits than a sperm bank, the thought of kissing the guy and sucking his cock makes me shudder (not in a good way). Knowing that thought will be in the back of my mind, I am sure I would not be able to relax and be spontaneous…..in which case I see no point meeting them again."

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By *eaverfeverCouple
over a year ago

nr Manchester


"In some instances... yes it would make me think twice or even put me off.

It would put me off totally if I knew they had willingly and knowingly met a 'high risk' player.

It would make me think twice if they were happy to meet someone who was an obvious fruit loop/bunny boiler/moron/twat just for the sake of a shag. I would wonder if I had misjudged their character.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look, don't ask and don't care. Seems a bit 'school playgroundish' - not your mate/in my gang etc.

On the other hand sometimes verifications have put us off an initial meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know for a fact that no matter how hot a guy is or how much fun we had playing previously, once I know they have fucked/tongued someone who insists on bareback and has verifications stating that their holes have graciously received more jizz deposits than a sperm bank, the thought of kissing the guy and sucking his cock makes me shudder (not in a good way). Knowing that thought will be in the back of my mind, I am sure I would not be able to relax and be spontaneous…..in which case I see no point meeting them again."

Think to that extent I would look elsewhere for fun. Guess I was thinking more along the lines of I always assume the guys I'm playing with have played bare at some point and so insist on condoms but yeah if I knew they'd played with someone who maybe took part in bareback gangbangs regularly then I'd probably add them to my avoid list!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I know for a fact that no matter how hot a guy is or how much fun we had playing previously, once I know they have fucked/tongued someone who insists on bareback and has verifications stating that their holes have graciously received more jizz deposits than a sperm bank, the thought of kissing the guy and sucking his cock makes me shudder (not in a good way). Knowing that thought will be in the back of my mind, I am sure I would not be able to relax and be spontaneous…..in which case I see no point meeting them again.doesn't the op read more personality traits, then physical mistermeaners i wouldn't wanna meet bare backers but if i found someone to be ok and liked them and my friend couldn't stand them i wouldn't change how i felt because of that "

Sometimes I just don't see the point in being the 'better person'. It's just a shag, there are other options. Why go to the effort of overlooking something when you can just fuck someone else?Having said that of all the swinging site people I have ever encountered (in a cyber way) I doubt the number of those I really can't stand gets out of single figures. To get on the list I've really got to find their character as a whole undesirable.

If the guy doesn't find those same characteristics undesirable, I would likely question my assessment of his character.

But the bigger questions is.... why do I even know who he's been fucking? The way it has come to my attention may be far more off-putting than the person they've humped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of guys ive looked at and/or had as friends at some point, I remember have met a certain lady from here and I looked at her profile and did wonder why? Also, a guy I used to cam with met this couple and again I wondered why?!! I asked him he said it was just sex, but I thought he should have had some respect for himself, didnt tell him that though

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"I know for a fact that no matter how hot a guy is or how much fun we had playing previously, once I know they have fucked/tongued someone who insists on bareback and has verifications stating that their holes have graciously received more jizz deposits than a sperm bank, the thought of kissing the guy and sucking his cock makes me shudder (not in a good way). Knowing that thought will be in the back of my mind, I am sure I would not be able to relax and be spontaneous…..in which case I see no point meeting them again.doesn't the op read more personality traits, then physical mistermeaners i wouldn't wanna meet bare backers but if i found someone to be ok and liked them and my friend couldn't stand them i wouldn't change how i felt because of that

Sometimes I just don't see the point in being the 'better person'. It's just a shag, there are other options. Why go to the effort of overlooking something when you can just fuck someone else?Having said that of all the swinging site people I have ever encountered (in a cyber way) I doubt the number of those I really can't stand gets out of single figures. To get on the list I've really got to find their character as a whole undesirable.

If the guy doesn't find those same characteristics undesirable, I would likely question my assessment of his character.

But the bigger questions is.... why do I even know who he's been fucking? The way it has come to my attention may be far more off-putting than the person they've humped."
well put x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know for a fact that no matter how hot a guy is or how much fun we had playing previously, once I know they have fucked/tongued someone who insists on bareback and has verifications stating that their holes have graciously received more jizz deposits than a sperm bank, the thought of kissing the guy and sucking his cock makes me shudder (not in a good way). Knowing that thought will be in the back of my mind, I am sure I would not be able to relax and be spontaneous…..in which case I see no point meeting them again."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a 'friend' on here that used to make fun of who other people had met. She used to meet one guy and she was always going on at him for meeting women that in her opinion were 'mingers' -her word, not mine. I deleted my account to get away from her.

There's nowt as queer as folk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a 'friend' on here that used to make fun of who other people had met. She used to meet one guy and she was always going on at him for meeting women that in her opinion were 'mingers' -her word, not mine. I deleted my account to get away from her.

There's nowt as queer as folk. "

There's a few on here like that believe me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a 'friend' on here that used to make fun of who other people had met. She used to meet one guy and she was always going on at him for meeting women that in her opinion were 'mingers' -her word, not mine. I deleted my account to get away from her.

There's nowt as queer as folk.

There's a few on here like that believe me! "

Yeah I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it wouldn't bother me who others have met. I only care about what happens and how I interact with that person. I would hope that some discretion would be used.

I have to be honest and say that its one of the downsides of playing with other forum members. You get this in relation to your friends list too and I think its rather childish if someone decided not to befriend me because one of their other friends didn't like me.

But people are fickle at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No it wouldn't bother me who others have met. I only care about what happens and how I interact with that person. I would hope that some discretion would be used.

I have to be honest and say that its one of the downsides of playing with other forum members. You get this in relation to your friends list too and I think its rather childish if someone decided not to befriend me because one of their other friends didn't like me.

But people are fickle at times "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just looking for opinions really, if someone you'd met before for fun then met someone you couldn't stand, would you still meet them again or would it matter enough that you'd rather not? Would you wonder about their judge of character or put it down to them seeing something in that person that you don't? "

Yes of course,you only swing with them you can't expect to control who they meet when its not you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like who I like and dislike who I dislike other peoples opinions are largely meaningless and very unlikely to influence that.

The one exception is someone trying to turn me against someone i like or telling me I'm wrong about someone i dislike without a bloody good reason. I don't need people like that around me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like who I like and dislike who I dislike other peoples opinions are largely meaningless and very unlikely to influence that.

The one exception is someone trying to turn me against someone i like or telling me I'm wrong about someone i dislike without a bloody good reason. I don't need people like that around me."

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"In some instances... yes it would make me think twice or even put me off.

It would put me off totally if I knew they had willingly and knowingly met a 'high risk' player.

It would make me think twice if they were happy to meet someone who was an obvious fruit loop/bunny boiler/moron/twat just for the sake of a shag. I would wonder if I had misjudged their character.

"

Well said...In agreement...

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