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By *ndymanchester1 OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

Think I have heard it all, cpl have meet tonite, I wink, they wink, I message with they say 'dont meet NON smokers' lol anyone heard better?

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Think I have heard it all, cpl have meet tonite, I wink, they wink, I message with they say 'dont meet NON smokers' lol anyone heard better?"
What wrong with not wanting to meet smokers ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont meet peeps who dont meet non smokers

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By *ndymanchester1 OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

Wasnt did want to meet a smoker, they didnt meet NON Smokers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had messages off a couple in fab they we ask if they are free to meet they say yes we reply ok when and then they don't answer at all so bloody frustrating

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"Wasnt did want to meet a smoker, they didnt meet NON Smokers lol "
AH ok i misread well i guess its just down to personal preferancees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasnt did want to meet a smoker, they didnt meet NON Smokers lol "

And?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one last week who was dog sitting for his mum,I kid you not!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I smoke, so i prefer to meet smokers.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to smoke (still do sometimes), I don't mind meeting smokers or non smokers.

That being said, I hate smokers that haven't bothered to at least brush their teeth after a fag...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasnt did want to meet a smoker, they didnt meet NON Smokers lol "
if they were smokers, perhaps they'd feel uncomfortable around non smokers or maybe feel they don't want to have to refrain from smoking so they don't upset you. Either way, it's called preference and just move on. Don't let it bother ya

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By *ndymanchester1 OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

I not having a dig at smokers, I live with family of them lol just think it very lame excuse, why people not be straight ( and that not a dig at sexuality either lol )

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"I not having a dig at smokers, I live with family of them lol just think it very lame excuse, why people not be straight ( and that not a dig at sexuality either lol ) "

Why you think it was just an excuse??

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By *ndymanchester1 OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

If they were so keen on not meeting non smoker, would they not of looked on profile before winking?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Winking doesnt necessary mean they want to meet....

But I know what you mean...

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London


"I smoke, so i prefer to meet smokers.....

"

preferring to meet smokers, so you can have a fag with them is one thing - would you not meet anyone who doesn't smoke? I get the OP's point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arranged a meet with a woman off here once, then she messaged on the day of the meet to say she had found someone closer best thing about it was that she messaged me the next day to tell me he didn't show

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I must admit I think it's a strange one but it takes all sorts. Will non smokers be the new pariahs of fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they were so keen on not meeting non smoker, would they not of looked on profile before winking? "

Perhaps they were hoping you would 'light up' their evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are non smokers but if the couple are hot and smoke its fine by us

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By *ndymanchester1 OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

Hey, like the tought of being a pariah!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't meet anyone who wanted to meet us !(delivered in the style of groucho marx)

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"I smoke, so i prefer to meet smokers.....

preferring to meet smokers, so you can have a fag with them is one thing - would you not meet anyone who doesn't smoke? I get the OP's point. "

Its not about having a "fag" with them and everything to do with what I prefer...

I get what the OP is saying, but he assumed it was just an excuse....

Could be that they really do not meet non smokers....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had one last week who was dog sitting for his mum,I kid you not! "

Stealing that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had one last week who was dog sitting for his mum,I kid you not! "

Had you barking up the wrong tree then?

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By *ndymanchester1 OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

Does cat sitting for mum work you think, or is dog sitting best?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We won't meet non smokers as we both smoke a lot and meet at our house. we wouldn't want to feel uncomfortable in our own home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had 1 a few months ago,his 17 year old daughter was ill..... was a bit strange that he was only 23

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By *ndymanchester1 OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

Can only imagine he bottled it or time waster, otherwise he mad lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a non-smoker and met up with this guy, we were just chatting for a bit abt ourselves and then he said you dont meet smokers? so I said no, he then said well I smoke bit but you never guessed. I had no idea he smoked, so it can be covered up by teeth cleaning etc. My reason is not just because I dont like it, but cant go home smelling of smoke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get excuses , just ignored , which is so rude

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London


"I smoke, so i prefer to meet smokers.....

preferring to meet smokers, so you can have a fag with them is one thing - would you not meet anyone who doesn't smoke? I get the OP's point.

Its not about having a "fag" with them and everything to do with what I prefer...

I get what the OP is saying, but he assumed it was just an excuse....

Could be that they really do not meet non smokers...."

I understand it's about what one prefers. and I understand, as everyone always says on here, it's all about preferences. but I think it's also interesting, sometimes, to discuss reasons for preferences, like discussing reasons for taste in art. not always of course; we don't have the time or inclination for that. but I thought that having a cigarette (sorry for using a rather outdated term) during the meet would be the reason.

if the reason is fear of feeling uncomfortable in one's own home, that's also understandable - although the potential meet should have noticed that the other smokes; and many non-smokers either were once smokers or occasional smokers, and wouldn't mind the smoke.

it might well not just be an excuse, but it seems many people here have their doubts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy tell me he was ill (10mins before we were due to meet i may add) Then about 3 hours later he sent me a text saying the guys in the pub have gone off to a club so can he come round after all... My reply was Fuck and off!! Funny he never messaged me again!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I find it funny as in my experience, my profile states I am a smoker, I am very considerate (I like to think) and always clean teeth and use mouthwash before they come in, as well as dousing the house in air freshener!! But they all follow me into the kitchen when I try and leave them in a fresh smelling living room, so I can have a smoke, no idea why, maybe because by that time we're naked, what do you think?

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Weird we dont mind meeting smokers but its their personal preference i guess!

Weve had a few now, the usual i dont have the car today/now (usually an hour before). Second most common is theyve had road accident on the way to us and then their grandmother is ill and they need to go take care of her or granny has died 20 mins before.. (we get loads of grandmothers dying too now that i think about it ).

Mrs xx

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

I once had a single woman who i was due to meet, change her mind because when i had rung her to confirm details on her mobile, she had a knock at her door as she was talking to me.

This was apparently a sign i that couldn't be trusted as she believed in coincidences. She ignored my(perfect 5 star feedback on the other site im on)and gave that as the reason she had changed her mind. I actually burst out laughing on the phone as she was telling me this, as it was the worst excuse ive ever heard.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"I once had a single woman who i was due to meet, change her mind because when i had rung her to confirm details on her mobile, she had a knock at her door as she was talking to me.

This was apparently a sign i that couldn't be trusted as she believed in coincidences. She ignored my(perfect 5 star feedback on the other site im on)and gave that as the reason she had changed her mind. I actually burst out laughing on the phone as she was telling me this, as it was the worst excuse ive ever heard. "

Dont get this......

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By *ndymanchester1 OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

Unless someone is tieing me down sat on my chest and blowing smoke smoke in my face I dont see whatthe problem is......... what the hell am I saying, can a kind smoker please offer up that sscenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had one last week who was dog sitting for his mum,I kid you not!

Had you barking up the wrong tree then? "

what a waste of wood...

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone


"I once had a single woman who i was due to meet, change her mind because when i had rung her to confirm details on her mobile, she had a knock at her door as she was talking to me.

This was apparently a sign i that couldn't be trusted as she believed in coincidences. She ignored my(perfect 5 star feedback on the other site im on)and gave that as the reason she had changed her mind. I actually burst out laughing on the phone as she was telling me this, as it was the worst excuse ive ever heard.

Dont get this...... "

Neither did i. Basically i had previously phoned her on her mobile to chat to her, and at the same time her landline phone rang, so she said she'd ring back Anyway we had arranged a meet, and i was ringing the day before to confirm it, and she had a knock at the door at the same time as i was chatting to her on the phone.

Cut a long story short, i got a message saying she had changed her mind about meeting because everytime i rang her, something happened(knock at door, phone call etc), and to her this was a sign that im not to be trusted.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"I once had a single woman who i was due to meet, change her mind because when i had rung her to confirm details on her mobile, she had a knock at her door as she was talking to me.

This was apparently a sign i that couldn't be trusted as she believed in coincidences. She ignored my(perfect 5 star feedback on the other site im on)and gave that as the reason she had changed her mind. I actually burst out laughing on the phone as she was telling me this, as it was the worst excuse ive ever heard.

Dont get this......

Neither did i. Basically i had previously phoned her on her mobile to chat to her, and at the same time her landline phone rang, so she said she'd ring back Anyway we had arranged a meet, and i was ringing the day before to confirm it, and she had a knock at the door at the same time as i was chatting to her on the phone.

Cut a long story short, i got a message saying she had changed her mind about meeting because everytime i rang her, something happened(knock at door, phone call etc), and to her this was a sign that im not to be trusted. "

Ah ok..............got it!!!

Yeah, thats bad LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my case there were no excuses, the couple who were coming to may place sent me a text message at the time they were due to arrive saying "Can't make it!", never heard from them again.

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London


"Wasnt did want to meet a smoker, they didnt meet NON Smokers lol "

that's called personal preferancees rather then an excuse respect peoples wishes and move on

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By *HAEDRUS2013Man
over a year ago

LONDON


"We are non smokers but if the couple are hot and smoke its fine by us "

Alot of these problems would not happen if peeps met first at socials, whether one on one or the group stuff. So much easier to suss out attraction and handle nerves at a social.

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By *he full worksCouple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

A couple told us it was snowing when it wasn't lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe the couple misread your profile to start? So what.. At least they told u straight off and didn't leave u waiting to meet

Everyone has a choice to say no for whatever reason.

They clearly don't ever want to meet u so get over it

Nothing like rejection to bring out the claws

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By *ndymanchester1 OP   Man
over a year ago

salford

Think a lot of people here missing the point, really dont mind rejection, sex without the 'click' not worth it. Totally agree everyone has a choice, no question, my point is why do people make daft, stupid, so obviously false excuse rather than just say no thanks. Cant be easier through messaging surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I not having a dig at smokers, I live with family of them lol just think it very lame excuse, why people not be straight ( and that not a dig at sexuality either lol ) "

the thing been they were very straight with you so really cant see your problem, they made it clear they only want to meet smokers, cant see why you would want to start a thread about it.

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London


"Think a lot of people here missing the point, really dont mind rejection, sex without the 'click' not worth it. Totally agree everyone has a choice, no question, my point is why do people make daft, stupid, so obviously false excuse rather than just say no thanks. Cant be easier through messaging surely "

or come up with an excuse you'll believe, at least. it's only respectful.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

That's nothing. I got cancelled on because he said, no word of a lie, he had a sore lip!!

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

I had one who was "helping his brother to move his bed" - text came thru while I was already at the meeting place and he expected me to hang around for "a couple of hours" till he was finished!!! Errrrr.....NO! Lol

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Think a lot of people here missing the point, really dont mind rejection, sex without the 'click' not worth it. Totally agree everyone has a choice, no question, my point is why do people make daft, stupid, so obviously false excuse rather than just say no thanks. Cant be easier through messaging surely "

Sorry but in ur opinion it was a false excuse , a lot of smokers prefer not to meet non smokers so they can if they wish light up and feel comfortable about doing so , the point being its a real reason to them , you just have to accept it , there are many many reasons people give that are far more verging on false than wont meet a smoker or non smoker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh holy Moses you look nothing like the picture you sent me on fab". "Excuse me I need the ladies" " oh damn just come on my periods another time maybe"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

best excuses, after days of phone sex and texting 'lost my phone' followed by meeting for coffee, which he did and apologising 'no, he would never mess me about'

Next thing he's cancelling because 'he's not ready for fun' ???and he has two 'meets' verifications on his profile already? Having a laugh if you ask me.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


""Oh holy Moses you look nothing like the picture you sent me on fab". "Excuse me I need the ladies" " oh damn just come on my periods another time maybe" "

Being on a period is a perfectly valid excuse. I don't mind playing when on but a lot of guys do not like it and I have no problem with that. But I always warn them as I do not want to waste anyone's time. That way they can make a choice. Whichever way they decide I do not mind.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"best excuses, after days of phone sex and texting 'lost my phone' followed by meeting for coffee, which he did and apologising 'no, he would never mess me about'

Next thing he's cancelling because 'he's not ready for fun' ???and he has two 'meets' verifications on his profile already? Having a laugh if you ask me."

I've had similar. In fact, if they INSIST that they are not a timewaster then, in my experience, they usually are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

thats like saying we dont meet guys that wash their cocks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had many excuse, my ex has dumped my kid on me, my car has broke down, my friends gran died, my friends have come round, my flatmate is here so I dont want to meet or my mum has shown up or needs me to do something,and the best one was I have bought some flat pack furniture and need to build it wtf? also had the dont want to meet anymore as I have started to see someone, only to still see them on here and trying to arrange meets x

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