FabSwingers.com forum: How to stand out

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do I stand out so that a lady will get in touch with me so I'm not just getting lost in an endless barrage of cock pics and "hi wann fuck" s as I imagine that's probably a problem on here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I looked at your profile earlier actually and thought it was a bit different to lots of others. This was brought to you courtesy of nobleedinhelpatall.com

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and why not take the plunge and get in touch with a few ladies?

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By *hinaManMan
over a year ago

Twickenham

At least you are photo verified but it might be worth going to the chat rooms to try and get verified by cam too (the verifier can also write feedback).

I think it makes it just that bit easier for single guys to get a meet if you have been verified with the green tick. Happy Easter and good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have but not getting much replies I fear a lot of mail is just getting dismissed as junk. Also a lot of profiles just contain what they're not looking for and nothing about the actual person so no idea what to strike up a conversation about. It's pretty frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks man, happy Easter to you too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Says your straight but your tv/cd as friends could be confusing to some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Makesure your settings allow other users to see that you've had a peek. Fab their pics. Cast your net in a little more subtle way?! Its unobtrusive, and you can show interest in those you like the look of

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

"How do I stand out so that a lady will get in touch with me so I'm not just getting lost in an endless barrage of cock pics and "hi wann fuck" s as I imagine that's probably a problem on here."
with that hair id say u stand out already dude

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

"I have but not getting much replies I fear a lot of mail is just getting dismissed as junk. Also a lot of profiles just contain what they're not looking for and nothing about the actual person so no idea what to strike up a conversation about. It's pretty frustrating."

Those profiles that just go on about who they won't meet are pretty dull aren't they, and negative; but why would you want to meet up with them? There have to be plenty of others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I dunno maybe I'm just not doing it right ha ha.

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

"I dunno maybe I'm just not doing it right ha ha."

Well as you probably realise, it's pretty hard for any single guy. But perhaps also add a less idiosyncratic paragraph saying what you're after. Good to avoid the usual bull, but perhaps don't be zealous about it. And I think a body-pic goes along the way (tasteful if possible).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"with that hair id say u stand out already dude

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd remove the 'insane' bit and put 'eccentric' instead.

You've got a couple of fans in Eastbourne.....

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By *illyDudeMan
over a year ago

norh east

Be articulate, be polite, be persistent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly be yourself dude you appear to have buckets of personality so let the ladies see that in your messages

As for the profiles full of do not wants. .. they have probably had to deal with hundreds of messages from people that don't match what they are looking for so if you come across a profile like that and you are none of the things they don't want guess what. .... you are what they are looking For

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"How do I stand out so that a lady will get in touch with me so I'm not just getting lost in an endless barrage of cock pics and "hi wann fuck" s as I imagine that's probably a problem on here."

You have to find your unique selling point,, you know you best, no one can tell you about yourself,, once youve found that if its what others want youll have some great times,,, if your selling point does'nt stand out from the crowd,, you ll find it very tough,,

Start looking for your usp,, whichever way it goes have fun

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'd remove the 'insane' bit and put 'eccentric' instead.

You've got a couple of fans in Eastbourne.....

lol the poor chap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also change your status....no one likes a moaner

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do I stand out so that a lady will get in touch with me so I'm not just getting lost in an endless barrage of cock pics and "hi wann fuck" s as I imagine that's probably a problem on here."

Come to Northern Chat. Bring the hair!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ha ha ok I will.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You do seem a different to most, but the key is in sharing your uniqueness, your swinging relevance, as well as your sexual compatibility, all in a short space.

I'd say your profile needs more relating to your sexual qualities, and diminish the proportion of stuff about south park etc, which many could find of disinterest to them. Once it's biased towards sexual chemistry, then it's likely to be more revealing of what others are more likely to want to know and see.

I'd suggest photos be up to date, so that we can see who we might meet today, and also have a range of them, so that we get a good feel for your physical attributes and attractiveness.

It's likely to be a numbers game, as there are so many single guys, competing for a smaller crowd of others. Coupled with the more appropriately matched contacts that you make, email etc, then potential success is likely to increase. No effort, eg, mails = likely failure to be satisfied.

Keep working on your profile, and change it over time to match your progress. Whilst some mention your friends, then I can only say that I am a friend to many, of all sexes, and it does not relate to who I've fucked with. Likewise, at swinging clubs, I socialise with everyone, not just with those that have sexual attraction.

You could meet others socially, that way you could be verified in person, which would count for more than a virtual verification etc. Try out clubs, if you can, as you'll meet some great people.

Good luck!!

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