FabSwingers.com forum: Whats the view on cheating

By *ricktop1966 OP Man
32 weeks ago

colchester

Personally I dont really care, everyone is looking for something. Just curious how others into the fab world consider cheating.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
32 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

If they'll lie to their spouse, they'll lie to me.

So I'll pass

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By *JJ_6969Man
32 weeks ago

Aspull

If you cheat, you're a cunt. End of moral analysis

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By *olly MistlehoeWoman
32 weeks ago

Somewhere

There will be those that don't care so long as they're not directly involved.

Those who will very much care and not want to be involved.

Those who are lied to and will then be unimpressed as a result.

Oh, and those who get caught out and find themselves in a lot of trouble

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
32 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't care what other people do as long as they don't involve me.

If you don't care what people think why are you asking?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
32 weeks ago

North West

I won’t entertain or be part of it.

That’s not swinging to me.

Personally think it’s vile. But each to their own. I don’t go out my way to slate people doing it.

I’m sure cheaters don’t care for our opinion if they can do that to someone haha

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"If you cheat, you're a cunt. End of moral analysis "

Cunts have warmth and depth.

Cheaters have neither

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By *ilverfox for youMan
32 weeks ago

Hull

Are we also talking about women ?

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By *mber and FireCouple
32 weeks ago

Carmarthenshire

"If they'll lie to their spouse, they'll lie to me.

So I'll pass

This. Even if they tell us, they're still lying to someone who is supposed to be important to them - what's the incentive to believe them at all when it comes to other things they may say, promise or whatever.

You can't pick and choose honesty.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
32 weeks ago

Weymouth

"Are we also talking about women ?"

I don't think anyone's specified gender in their responses

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

They never prosper...

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
32 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Are we also talking about women ?

I don't think anyone's specified gender in their responses "

Nope.

Not a single person.

My comment was certainly meant to be absolutely non exclusive on gender.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

If their o/h doesn’t know… then I don’t want to know either.

Cheating is not something I want to be involved in.

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By *aughtystaffs60Couple
32 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It's very corrosive to a good relationship. Once trust is lost it is very hard to get it back.

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
32 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Don't have time for cheaters or those willing to engage with them - this applies to both men and women

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By *ricktop1966 OP Man
32 weeks ago

colchester

Pure curiocity. Simple as that

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
32 weeks ago

Bedale

It's a significant demerit for a potential playmate, but not always a decisive one.

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By *etal and KinkMan
32 weeks ago

Malice

When I started looking for someone to spend time with, the first woman I met told me her husband had a stroke and needed 24hr care. She loved him but he was a vegetable. She needed a companion and affection and he couldn't give it anymore.

I met another woman who's husband has no desire for her at all because he likes men. They haven't touched each other for years but feel too old to separate and start again.

I met another woman who lives with a man, and they have a kid, but she's closer to lesbian than bisexual and is torn because she feels she's living a lie.

My wife and I are together for the kids. She has a foreign passport and I'm her sponsor. If we divorce she leaves the country and the kids lose either their mother, or they lose decent education and healthcare.

Myself and the women I mention have nothing to offer a single person. We all come with unavoidable baggage. But none of us should live the time we have left sad and/or lonely. So we try to find people in similar situations on sites like this.

The line isn't always well defined.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"Personally I dont really care, everyone is looking for something. Just curious how others into the fab world consider cheating. "

Absolutely….

If they’ll cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you…

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By *uenevereWoman
32 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

I wouldn't knowingly have sex with someone who is cheating.

If your marriage isn't working, in my opinion, you should get out. If you genuinely love your partner, you wouldn't be on Fab actively looking to cheat.

Sex with others that you partner knows about and is happy with, is fine and part of swinging.

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By *essTTWoman
32 weeks ago

Birmingham

I'm not interested in the slightest in anyone who is cheating.

Seeing one off of a couple, which the other knowing is different

But the alternative? Nope not for me

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By *hortishblondeWoman
32 weeks ago

Essex

Everyone has their reasons I guess I don't judge I just know the same as someone else said in the forum if they lie to them they lie to you too...

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By *LiamMan
32 weeks ago

Midlands

Just remember when it finally comes to it they'll put themselves first. This includes husband/wives

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By *weetiepie99Woman
32 weeks ago

cardiff

There's never justifiable reasons to cheat, even though people make all sorts of excuses.

Just be open/honest. Give your partner/husband/wife the option to get out if they want to, instead of all the lies and betrayal and deceit

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By *ricktop1966 OP Man
32 weeks ago

colchester

Fair play. Sometimes in life things arent straight forward

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By *parkle1974Woman
32 weeks ago

Leeds

Swinging is all about honesty....

Cheating is not being honest (especially doing it behind a partners back)

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By *ellhungvweMan
32 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Cheaters always bring drama. I don’t do drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

If you’re swinging and still feel the need to cheat then as I’ve said before, no one will ever be enough.

I’m talking from experience. Thought I had an amazing relationship and we enjoyed this lifestyle together with few boundaries.

Sadly even they were too much for him and lines were crossed.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
32 weeks ago

Maidstone

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
32 weeks ago

Maidstone

"When I started looking for someone to spend time with, the first woman I met told me her husband had a stroke and needed 24hr care. She loved him but he was a vegetable. She needed a companion and affection and he couldn't give it anymore.

I met another woman who's husband has no desire for her at all because he likes men. They haven't touched each other for years but feel too old to separate and start again.

I met another woman who lives with a man, and they have a kid, but she's closer to lesbian than bisexual and is torn because she feels she's living a lie.

The line isn't always well defined."

Well said. This really isn't always a black and white situation. I don't have a stock answer to this for that reason. I really don't feel like it's my place to judge on this.

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By *ricktop1966 OP Man
31 weeks ago

colchester

I think you are right. Lifes full of complication. Everyone has a story. Its a big question and I intentionally put it to provoke reaction. Great to here peoples veiws.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

As expected, the reaction you will get is mostly from those who are strongly against it.

Whilst those who are not will remain silent for fear of being called a cunt and suffer the wrath of those with a different moral compass.

Therefore not exactly a true reflection of what happens in the real world.

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By *ricktop1966 OP Man
31 weeks ago

colchester

Thats to the point. Fair play.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

"Swinging is all about honesty....

Cheating is not being honest (especially doing it behind a partners back)"

This

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
31 weeks ago

chichester

You’ll never know with single people in a club …

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By *reen as JadeCouple
31 weeks ago

Cheshire

Why cheat when we come on here x

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
31 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Its a deal breaker for me.

I'm half a couple and I'd hate it done to me, so wouldn't help anyone else do it

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By *heBlowinsCouple
31 weeks ago

West Cork

We certainly don't judge - we've both cheated on past partners (when we were very young but still)...

But as for meeting cheaters here, we're much the same as many of the people on this thread. How and why should we trust what they say to us?

On the other hand, we genuinely feel bad for some who feel "trapped" and wish to explore fantasies and kinks that they feel they could never communicate to their partner. Not everyone cheats because they love the thrill of infidelity. We don't meet attached people without consent but can still sympathize with some.

We wish everyone could have the freedom to discuss and explore what they wish to. If they can't, that's a good indicator they may be in the wrong relationship

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By *ampire69Man
31 weeks ago

Birmingham West Midlands

We are humans therfore we are biologically chances and predisposed to cheating it's in our DNA, each to ther own I don't judge, enjoy have fun your a long time dear life is short enjoy

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By *oan of DArcCouple
31 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Just remember when it finally comes to it they'll put themselves first. This includes husband/wives"

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As will most people

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By *oomlMan
31 weeks ago

Fareham

If you cheat it follows that you are a liar. I don't want to be involved with liars. Nor do I want to be a part of ruining a relationship.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
31 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Personally I dont really care, everyone is looking for something. Just curious how others into the fab world consider cheating.

Absolutely….

If they’ll cheat with you, they’ll cheat on you…"

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I don't want a relationship with anyone I meet through this lifestyle, so they'll never be in a position where they can cheat on me. I don't ask anyone about their previous encounters or expect any exclusivity to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

Cheating wifes are the biggest turn on

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
31 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"We are humans therfore we are biologically chances and predisposed to cheating it's in our DNA, each to ther own I don't judge, enjoy have fun your a long time dear life is short enjoy"

Wanting and having multiple sexual partners does not have to involve lying to and cheating on someone you supposedly care about

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By (user no longer on site)
31 weeks ago

I don't want to have ANYTHING to do with cheaters!

Cheaters = lying = mistrust = broken heart

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By *entleman of FortuneMan
31 weeks ago

Hull

I personally don't , I've been cheated on and while it's not cool it didn't bother me. My situation ATM is a complicated one but not really. I have a FB it's purely a fab thing, she stopped playing with others so I've done the same out of respect, but we aren't a couple we're both on fab and while it's deeper than a fab thing it's not a relationship as neither of us want that, but because she's not playing with anyone else I don't feel right about it either.

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By *inkyisfunukMan
31 weeks ago

Birmingham

I’ll freely admit that I find the idea of having sex with a cheating wife a turn on.

Everyone has their reasons for being here, I try not to judge. But everyone also have their opinions, so if it’s not for them, that’s fine too. We’re all different…

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By *j555Couple
31 weeks ago

Huntingdon

We only meet in clubs with "single" guys and then generally gg events so don't ask relationship status.

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By *otwife and sexy beastCouple
31 weeks ago

rochester

Unless it's with full consent, then someone is going to get hurt. So, it's not really a road we want to be going down.

Being caught up in someone else's "domestic" is a massive turn-off, for us anyway.

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By *hipdaleCouple
31 weeks ago

Greenhithe

Can read a married man like a book on here and there are so many who sat they are single but are married some are up front majority are not , we don't play with married men or couples who are playing away from there partners not for us but each to there own

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By *ear in the chairMan
31 weeks ago

yeah there

Much prefer ENM where no one is lied to or decieved. No looking over ones shoulder.

But then, there's plenty of both men and women on here who aren't honest and that's a them issue.

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By *amieXLMan
31 weeks ago

chester

I don’t mind - some woman will seek out if they aren’t getting what they need at home , not my business , however kids involved etc if I had prior knowledge I would avoid x

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
31 weeks ago

Greater London

If the individual does not respect their partner enough to have honest conversations how can we trust they will have respect for us, our relationship and Marriage?

People will do what they want but we would not become engaged with that “dynamic”. Swinging for us is about honesty and communication being the fundamentals. And yes that goes for any or all not just males.

Sarah xx

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By *itonthesideWoman
31 weeks ago

Glasgow

I met another woman who's husband has no desire for her at all because he likes men. They haven't touched each other for years but feel too old to separate and start again.

I met another woman who lives with a man, and they have a kid, but she's closer to lesbian than bisexual and is torn because she feels she's living a lie.

The line isn't always well defined."

Lets number those examples 1-4. In both 2 and 4 the discussion has already happened that you are together for practical terms only so why lie. Example 3 how does meeting a single man help someone who thinks they are a lesbian?

At the end of the day the line is well defined. The reasons for crossing it might be multiple and complicated and not for someone to judge til they walk a mile in the shoes or whatever.

but convincing yourself that the line is fluid is delusion

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By *andC1000Couple
31 weeks ago

Ashford

"Just remember when it finally comes to it they'll put themselves first. This includes husband/wives"

Sadly too true. Wives/husbands will always be second best when it comes to sex with cheaters. Having been on the receiving end it’s really demoralising and confidence shattering when they won’t touch you or make any form of sexual contact because they’ve fucked someone else on the way home from work than make the effort with someone they supposedly love

Tell tale signs always there, the cum filled pants, locations switched off and always defensive or dismissive

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By *hatChattyGuyMan
31 weeks ago

folkestone

"Just remember when it finally comes to it they'll put themselves first. This includes husband/wives

Tell tale signs always there, the cum filled pants, locations switched off and always defensive or dismissive "

Exactly this, it can be devastatingly soul destroying, and the bonus of feeling like such a fool for seeing the signs, suspecting, but convincing yourself othrrwise, that they wouldn't cheat and you should have trust and faith your partner

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By *4bimMan
31 weeks ago

Farnborough Hampshire

never cheated.

been cheated on.

walked away each time without saying a word and cut all contact.

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By *elboy1978Man
31 weeks ago

Fellgate

Not bothered if a woman wants to cheat let her

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By *adbod44Man
30 weeks ago

Leeds

My wife and I recently separated. She had been secretly fucking someone for over 5 years.

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By *azmar62Couple
30 weeks ago

Hinckley

Swinging is a form of legalised cheating, only you fuck in front of your partner and not behind there backs.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
30 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Swinging is a form of legalised cheating, only you fuck in front of your partner and not behind there backs. "

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So nobody's actually being cheated

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By *ddfellowMan
30 weeks ago

Newferry, wirral

bothers me not, not here for relationships.

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