FabSwingers.com forum: What makes you answer a message

By *lympique OP Man
20 weeks ago

newbury

Hi,

I wonder if you want to share what triggers you in a message/person to actually answer? I know first impression etc but if you need to define something what it would be?

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By *kyblue1878Couple
20 weeks ago

Southport

A message with some thought, substance, effort and something about you and why you're messaging us. Also, if there's no face pics on your profile then a face picture and full body image picture. If you don't sell yourself you are unlikely to get a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Their ability to read and comprehend as evidenced by being my type as defined in my verbose profile.

Sending a thoughtful message not one of those hi how are you?, care to chat?, faf?, are you free now? or similarly unique messages.

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By *JcuriousCouple
20 weeks ago

Derby

A thought out message that's not a long copy and paste nor a short "hey", includes face pictures and has a friendly vibe about it.

Miss S x

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By *he builder300Man
20 weeks ago

St Leonards

Would be nice to receive messages to answer. They are so few and far between.

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By *esthetic21Man
20 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

When the sender is good looking

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By *urchoicenowCouple
20 weeks ago

Ashford

Mostly the opportunity for sarcasm

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By *utcock99!Man
20 weeks ago

Pontefract

Something polite and friendly and which indicates the sender has a brain in their head!

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Well, being something better than the usual hi, how are you, u free now, kind of thoughtless dribble might avoid message going straight in the bin but alas, those are few and far between.

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By *hrimper36Couple
20 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

"Hi,

I wonder if you want to share what triggers you in a message/person to actually answer? I know first impression etc but if you need to define something what it would be? "

Nothing makes me answer a message I just do it out of common courtesy because we don’t get many and I have plenty of time so I answer all messages .

But to be honest most messages to us don’t really warrant a reply so I reply kind for kind.

For example how do you reply to a “nice tits” message?

No hi or _ello so they get a simple but effective “_ello and thanks”.

It’s fab and it’s fun.

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By *agatoXXXMan
20 weeks ago

Mordor

On the rare occasions I receive a message, I always reply, unless it's abuse or insulting. Fortunately, they are very rare.

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By *otwifeHusband888Couple
20 weeks ago

Within touching distance

Profile pic.

A message that was written specifically for us with a bit of substance. Not a copy and paste generic message you could ask anyone.

A face pic attached too always helps.

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By *WB85Man
20 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Usually boredom. Or someone that's really hot.

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By *obandruthCouple
20 weeks ago

wolverhampton

Politeness.

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By *haz46Woman
20 weeks ago

Stockport

asking or saying something unusual.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

East Sussex

If the person interests us. The message only needs to introduce themselves it's the profile that we look at

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By *ark n kimCouple
20 weeks ago

Durham

Usually a rubbish first message equals a rubbish profile.the two together get deleted.

You would think people are intelligent enough to put in a little effort.its a very crowded pool especially for single males,you get out what you put in.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Something to actually answer.

Or just boredom does it mostly on here.

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By *andPextraCouple
20 weeks ago

North West

Cut and paste stands out a mile. As do the generic “hi” brigade.

A message that either tells us something about them, especially if linked back to our profile to show they've read it, gets a reply.

I’d like to think i’m worth 30 seconds of effort.

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By *issmorganWoman
20 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I like their pics and they've written a decent bio

Or they've sent a well thought out message, with a bit of humour and that shows they're interested in me,rather than sending everyone within 40 miles a message.

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By *imply DeeWoman
20 weeks ago

Wherever

Usually something along the lines they treat me like an actual human being and not another hole.

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
20 weeks ago

Anyone that has clearly taken the time to read our profile, sends a face pic and expresses how much they like lasagne and garlic bread will get a response from us

Oddly, we’ve never found anyone worth responding too *sigh*

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By *e-funcoupleCouple
20 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

Someone that has clearly read our profile before sending a message.

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By *partharmonyCouple
20 weeks ago

Ruislip

It really is down to whether they say anything I want to reply to. "Hi" definitely doesn't. Having an interesting take on pre-Keynsian economics might.

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By *yeSureMan
20 weeks ago

Glasgow

On the whole, most messages are replied to. Purely because it’s common courtesy.

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By *rikki1967ukMan
20 weeks ago

peterborough

Courtesy. If precious time has been taken to contact or even negative reply given. I will reply, also to all genders

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
20 weeks ago

manchester

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
20 weeks ago

manchester

That they have read the profile

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By *ritIndianCoupleCouple
20 weeks ago

Midlands

We try to reply to all messages if we can apart from racist or abusive ones.

Mrs

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By *ornycouplepzCouple
20 weeks ago

here and there

Being able to read our profile ,and the ability to string a sentence together x

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By *arylRMan
20 weeks ago

East Anglia

Somebody sending me one does it for me.

What I reply with depends on how polite they were

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By *ighland couple 99Couple
20 weeks ago

Inverness

We try and respond to all of them but it’s not always possible. x

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By *itygamesMan
20 weeks ago

if the female says id like to suck your cock i tend to reply

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By *ighly SexedMan
20 weeks ago

Peterborough

A message………

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
20 weeks ago

Next Door

If a message from a forum post, I will reply.

If they have read my profile, send a decent message and have a good bio/pictures themselves then I do reply.

I don't reply to messages like "hi, nice undies, how are you finding the site, had fun recently"

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By *ellhungvweMan
20 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I don't reply to messages like "hi, nice undies, how are you finding the site, had fun recently""

Is that because you are never wearing any so you know for a fact they haven’t read your profile?

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By *ssexBlkMaleMan
20 weeks ago

Essex

Courtesy is what will make me reply as they’ve taken the time and effort and courage to message so even if it’s going to be a polite decline I’ll always message back to someone whose messaged me

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By *100Man
20 weeks ago

Essex

Mostly I reply to a polite sexy message it’s nice to chat with other people but some that need an urgent blow job usually get a polite no thank you and wish them luck with their search

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I look at the profile before I read the message..

1) having a profile picture that is not a dick

2) having pictures on profile that are not all dicks

3) having something written in the profile

4) being within my location range

5) being able to accomodate

And then I read the message. Showing some charm, intelligence and not

A) FAF

B) Are you free now

C) Hi

D) How are you?

E) Can I ask you a question?

And no dick pics in the message.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
20 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

The ones we delete are ones where we know from that message or profile pic we aren’t going to connect at all.

Dick pics, one liners, ‘hi’, can I ask you a question? messages just get deleted.

If there’s some thought gone into the message then we’ll reply.

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By *herry delightWoman
20 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

They have to be local and not use a word that is written on my profile.

The only exceptions are the odd few that in response to forum threads.

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By *avrick180Man
20 weeks ago

Pontypool/Torquay

If I get one lol

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By *adbod7519Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds

They show they’ve read my profile and have attached a face pic if there isn’t one on their profile

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
20 weeks ago

Next Door

I don't reply to messages like "hi, nice undies, how are you finding the site, had fun recently"

Is that because you are never wearing any so you know for a fact they haven’t read your profile?"

I wear them occasionally. You need to look at my pictures and you will see that I own and wear them

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Getting one

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
20 weeks ago

Herts

It doesn’t read like copy paste spam, it has something to say which enables a conversation, not written like the author lives with his mum and watches porn all day.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Manners. A simple hi how you is politness and an open question to get the conversation started. Things will naturally progress from there.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
20 weeks ago

Maidstone

Nice pictures that I find attractive. That's it. I don't really care what the message is as long as it isn't anything offensive.

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By *ycanNightsMan
20 weeks ago

Workington

A reasonably polite message that is clearly not a generic to everyone thing and shows some considered effort...will get a response of some kind

Anything else can get in the bin.

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By *esthetic21Man
20 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

"Cut and paste stands out a mile. As do the generic “hi” brigade.

A message that either tells us something about them, especially if linked back to our profile to show they've read it, gets a reply.

I’d like to think i’m worth 30 seconds of effort.

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I'm in the hi brigade

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By *elloWoman
20 weeks ago

alpha centauri

There is no logic to who I reply to, it's totally random.

I currently have 360 unread messages and I will probably respond to about a tenth of them

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I always reply to a message, when people have taken the time to write one it feels the right thing to do to respond, if it’s a simple thanks but no thanks

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By *weetkitten65Woman
20 weeks ago

Halifax

Humour

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By *ardfun10Man
20 weeks ago

banbury

Always answer messages

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By *assy LassieWoman
20 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

A decent profile

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By *uliette500Woman
20 weeks ago

Hull

It's not just the message. I check a profile before I even read the message if they are not for me or it's a poor profile with no pics and no bio I don't even bother with the message.

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By *otlips322020Woman
20 weeks ago

Liverpool

A recent face picture defo gets a reply of me ! Half of you guys get blocked cos you send pictures that are a few years old which drives me insane cos I’ve asked for a recent picture.

X x

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