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By *ardleeds OP   Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds

So just wondering as anyone had a secret meet up with someone they swung with. Like two couples swap partners then they have a secret meet without the other half knowing. I'm guessing it must happen..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

East Sussex

According to some forum threads it does happen. It causes a lot of heartache and hurt

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By *herry delightWoman
20 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

One of the main reasons I stopped playing with couples was the hubby trying to get a secret meet and not understanding why I would say NO.

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By *ardleeds OP   Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds

Anymore views

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By *lik and PaulCouple
20 weeks ago

Flagrante

As swingers there's no need for any secrets.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

It happens. Those are people I prefer not to get involved with

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
20 weeks ago

Next Door

It happen lots. Can and does ruin relationships/people.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Anymore views"

What's your view?

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By *ardleeds OP   Man
20 weeks ago

Leeds

My view, well I think it must be very tempting for a number of reasons. And from the pms I'm getting it happend more than people think.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
20 weeks ago

East Sussex


"My view, well I think it must be very tempting for a number of reasons. And from the pms I'm getting it happend more than people think. "

I'm under no illusions as to how often it happen.

I can only think of one reason why people would want to meet secretly if they don't need to

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By *lik and PaulCouple
20 weeks ago

Flagrante


"My view, well I think it must be very tempting for a number of reasons. And from the pms I'm getting it happend more than people think.

I'm under no illusions as to how often it happen.

I can only think of one reason why people would want to meet secretly if they don't need to"

They're c**ts?

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
20 weeks ago

wonderland.


"So just wondering as anyone had a secret meet up with someone they swung with. Like two couples swap partners then they have a secret meet without the other half knowing. I'm guessing it must happen.."
it happens. I had it happen to me with a former partner...

Cali

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By *ikesEmBigMan
20 weeks ago

Herts


"So just wondering as anyone had a secret meet up with someone they swung with. Like two couples swap partners then they have a secret meet without the other half knowing. I'm guessing it must happen.."

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By *edVelvet XWoman
20 weeks ago

Here and there

The whole point of swinging as a couple is you can be open and honest about enjoying sex with others.

If swinging isn’t enough for someone then nothing and nobody ever will.

I cannot understand why anyone would feel the need to cheat in this lifestyle. Sadly quite a few do.

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By *wistedTooCouple
20 weeks ago

Frimley

Fuck that. We are open and honest about every meet and solo meets wise we are always excited for each other to have fun. Why would someone secretly do it? That’s awful.

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By *aughtyMarried1967Man
20 weeks ago

Wigston


"As swingers there's no need for any secrets."
. Very wise words

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By *owestoft ManMan
20 weeks ago

Lowestoft

I agree with most here, if in the Swinging Lifestyle with your partner then why have secret meets unless you aren't happy with that partner and wanting to move on. But then it's better to just come clean and break up.

On the other hand if partnered and the other doesn't want to be in a swinging lifestyle then secret meets is the way to go. Spoken to many people on this subject and it's very very possible, even normal, for one partner to be highly sexed and the other not And lol for them to be happy in their vanilla relationship but sexually need more. The problem though, is when the secret meets become a relationship and that is the beginning of disaster and hurt.

During the Ex wife and I swinging, we met with many married / partnered people and as far as we knew and some we still know, are continuing in a good strong relationship with their partners. It always made us laugh at those who say they would never meet with partnered singles as its wrong lol.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
20 weeks ago

Neath valley.


"The whole point of swinging as a couple is you can be open and honest about enjoying sex with others.

If swinging isn’t enough for someone then nothing and nobody ever will.

I cannot understand why anyone would feel the need to cheat in this lifestyle. Sadly quite a few do."

Agree totally with your take on this. If you are a cpl in the swinging lifestyle and you cheat then you will always cheat as one person is not and never will be enough for them. I think they are scum myself.

Mr

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By *achig11Man
20 weeks ago

Manchester

Paid the price

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
20 weeks ago

Neath valley.


"I agree with most here, if in the Swinging Lifestyle with your partner then why have secret meets unless you aren't happy with that partner and wanting to move on. But then it's better to just come clean and break up.

On the other hand if partnered and the other doesn't want to be in a swinging lifestyle then secret meets is the way to go. Spoken to many people on this subject and it's very very possible, even normal, for one partner to be highly sexed and the other not And lol for them to be happy in their vanilla relationship but sexually need more. The problem though, is when the secret meets become a relationship and that is the beginning of disaster and hurt.

During the Ex wife and I swinging, we met with many married / partnered people and as far as we knew and some we still know, are continuing in a good strong relationship with their partners. It always made us laugh at those who say they would never meet with partnered singles as its wrong lol."

Why does it make you laugh. We would never meet married lady or single guy ever.

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By *owestoft ManMan
20 weeks ago

Lowestoft


"Why does it make you laugh. We would never meet married lady or single guy ever."

So your choice is only other couples. Nothing wrong with that at all, each to their own swinging lifestyle. The laughing is about those couples or singles that state they will only meet singles if they are not partnered.

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By *hipdaleCouple
20 weeks ago

Greenhithe

And this is where it all goes seriously wrong , you need trust if your going to meet someone secretly then trust is out the window as you will always get found out as my ex did

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