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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't take this as a way for me to be ranting on or moaning about meets etc on here, this is just purely a question to people out there:

If someone contacted you, and you replied to them saying they are very attractive and so on but they are too young, what are your reasons? The way I see it is, if we're both the legal age, we find each other attractive, and who knows, we could get along really well, why should age determine if you chat/meet them from there on?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

P.s remember, i'm not having a rant haha

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Some of us just prefer a certain age group....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don't find young guys sexually attractive, I can look at someone in their early 20s and think, year hes a good looking lad but I wouldn't fancy him in a way I wanted to have sex with him, that baby face look just does nothing for me at all, in the same way I wouldn't meet a guy 50+ as I don't find older guys sexually attractive either

Its just about attraction for me not age, if I fancied someone I would chat with a view of meeting regardless of age its just very unlikely its going to be a young guy as that's not what attracts me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

suppose its just peoples preferences, you cant please everyone unfortunately

good luck with your search

xx

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By *aith boyMan
over a year ago

Worthing

if you find them attractive go with it. one end.. they have to be legal.. other end... they should really have a pulse....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's totally fair enough, I just think, if i thought someone was attractive, I wouldn't then determine it on age, although I do personally have limits, which I suppose others do too

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Age would only be part of it for me. Younger men are less reliable, not as good at conversation, and tend to not be able to hide their disappointment well when I turn up. Having said that, if one approached me at a swinger club my towel would be off quick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Age would only be part of it for me. Younger men are less reliable, not as good at conversation, and tend to not be able to hide their disappointment well when I turn up. Having said that, if one approached me at a swinger club my towel would be off quick. "

see now I find clubs totally different, I have played with a 19 year old in a club but theres no way id meet someone that age on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Again, totally fair enough, but it's a bit harsh branding all young guys under that impression, don't get me wrong, most young guys probably aren't genuine etc but not all of are like that

I'd like to think I can hold a conversation and actually phrase a sentence together haha

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

agree attraction is the key, someone can be in your age range but you're not interested, or at the edge of it you fancy them like mad, you've just got to go with what you fancy

assuming that's not a sheep or something like that obviously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess its a head thing. And what i mean by that is, some people may want to actually have a conversation with their sex partner. And that means maybe having the same interests, hobbies and maybe even circle of friends. Hope that made sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Again, totally fair enough, but it's a bit harsh branding all young guys under that impression, don't get me wrong, most young guys probably aren't genuine etc but not all of are like that

I'd like to think I can hold a conversation and actually phrase a sentence together haha "

but are you good with your tongue, that's what we really want to know lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Age would only be part of it for me. Younger men are less reliable, not as good at conversation, and tend to not be able to hide their disappointment well when I turn up. Having said that, if one approached me at a swinger club my towel would be off quick.

see now I find clubs totally different, I have played with a 19 year old in a club but theres no way id meet someone that age on here "

The problem with one on one meets with the younger gent is that we both know they want to go, but are too polite to say so. Whereas at a party or club we can pull our pants up, say 'have fun', and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guess its a head thing. And what i mean by that is, some people may want to actually have a conversation with their sex partner. And that means maybe having the same interests, hobbies and maybe even circle of friends. Hope that made sense?"

Yeah I agree to a certain degree, but going off age can't determine whether you have common interests or not surely?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Again, totally fair enough, but it's a bit harsh branding all young guys under that impression, don't get me wrong, most young guys probably aren't genuine etc but not all of are like that

I'd like to think I can hold a conversation and actually phrase a sentence together haha "

But how would I know that? I am afraid that you are disadvantaged by your peers, as most of them aren't as eloquent as you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Again, totally fair enough, but it's a bit harsh branding all young guys under that impression, don't get me wrong, most young guys probably aren't genuine etc but not all of are like that

I'd like to think I can hold a conversation and actually phrase a sentence together haha

but are you good with your tongue, that's what we really want to know lol"

Hmm, would I seem too cocky and like typical guys by saying "YEAH" haha, i'll go with... You'd have to find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess its a head thing. And what i mean by that is, some people may want to actually have a conversation with their sex partner. And that means maybe having the same interests, hobbies and maybe even circle of friends. Hope that made sense?

Yeah I agree to a certain degree, but going off age can't determine whether you have common interests or not surely?"

I think it can

for example im 37 and your 23, seriously what would be have in common?

that's just an example by the way lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Again, totally fair enough, but it's a bit harsh branding all young guys under that impression, don't get me wrong, most young guys probably aren't genuine etc but not all of are like that

I'd like to think I can hold a conversation and actually phrase a sentence together haha

But how would I know that? I am afraid that you are disadvantaged by your peers, as most of them aren't as eloquent as you. "

That's my point, if you find someone attractive enough to meet, but are too young, give them chance to prove they're mature/genuine and see if they can hold a conversation etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guess its a head thing. And what i mean by that is, some people may want to actually have a conversation with their sex partner. And that means maybe having the same interests, hobbies and maybe even circle of friends. Hope that made sense?

Yeah I agree to a certain degree, but going off age can't determine whether you have common interests or not surely?

I think it can

for example im 37 and your 23, seriously what would be have in common?

that's just an example by the way lol"

We could both have a passion for wildlife/walking/swimming/fashion Not saying that we do, but how do you know without giving them the chance to prove anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age is but a number as long as you are both consenting adults I don't see a problem. Think someone young enough to be my daughter is not for me personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the things that puts me off very young folk is the need to add haha at the end of sentences

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"That's totally fair enough, I just think, if i thought someone was attractive, I wouldn't then determine it on age, although I do personally have limits, which I suppose others do too "

This is the upteenth thread from a young man with HIS age preferences questioning others about theirs!

Why?!!

Focus on those seeking your age group: no one has to justify their preferences!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why your even bothered, there are plenty of young women on here so if older women think you are to young just meet younger ones, why waste your time on someone whos not interested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the physical attributes of a young guy I find so attractive.. Smooth, fit, slim, fresh look also find them eager and keen.

With older guys I also find they use the experience scenario.. But it just seems they think they know it all, but they don't know me and take offence if I suggest to do something a lil differently.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One of the things that puts me off very young folk is the need to add haha at the end of sentences "

I mainly do that just to make sure everyone knows i'm not being serious or moody when I say certain things

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Again, totally fair enough, but it's a bit harsh branding all young guys under that impression, don't get me wrong, most young guys probably aren't genuine etc but not all of are like that

I'd like to think I can hold a conversation and actually phrase a sentence together haha

But how would I know that? I am afraid that you are disadvantaged by your peers, as most of them aren't as eloquent as you.

That's my point, if you find someone attractive enough to meet, but are too young, give them chance to prove they're mature/genuine and see if they can hold a conversation etc. "

I can usually tell by swapping messages on here. Like NN, I don't meet for coffee only - I meet to shag. And what would happen if we're both sat there bored?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To paraphrase your OP... 'IF' we're both the legal age, 'IF' we find each other attractive, and who knows, 'IF' we get along really well, why should age determine if you chat/meet them from there on?

In short, no.

If.... you both agree on your 'ifs', then it's entirely up to YOU - no one else.

But if the other person has preferences on age, which they are perfectly entitled to, then realistically you are wasting your time trying to convince them otherwise...

Seek out those who have age preferences that include you...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't understand why your even bothered, there are plenty of young women on here so if older women think you are to young just meet younger ones, why waste your time on someone whos not interested?"

Yeah i agree with you, I was just wondering if there were any particular/common reasons to it, this post wasn't aimed to be a rant or a moan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You bored of chatting to me already OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's totally fair enough, I just think, if i thought someone was attractive, I wouldn't then determine it on age, although I do personally have limits, which I suppose others do too

This is the upteenth thread from a young man with HIS age preferences questioning others about theirs!

Why?!!

Focus on those seeking your age group: no one has to justify their preferences! "

If you don't want to talk about your prefences and don't want to join in the discussion on a thread.. Just pass it by.

And in fairness the last few days I've seen a few threads about older people and upper age limits

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not trying to persuade anyone or pressure them if they have age limits, when someone replies saying you're too young etc I simply reply "Thanks for the reply, happy swinging"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You bored of chatting to me already OP? "

Just doing some research

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its just sexual preference. some people are attracted to younger some arnt

Its also about what you feel comfy with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's totally fair enough, I just think, if i thought someone was attractive, I wouldn't then determine it on age, although I do personally have limits, which I suppose others do too

This is the upteenth thread from a young man with HIS age preferences questioning others about theirs!

Why?!!

Focus on those seeking your age group: no one has to justify their preferences! "

Why? Because he's a young guy trying to get his head around how this strange little world works. I was no different at his age, but in those days with no internet, I had to ask real people.

Still had to ask what must have appeared to them some very naive questions..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I can usually tell by swapping messages on here. Like NN, I don't meet for coffee only - I meet to shag. And what would happen if we're both sat there bored?"

Yeah that's fair enough, I was just saying, some don't swap a few messages (Not that they have to)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not trying to persuade anyone or pressure them if they have age limits, when someone replies saying you're too young etc I simply reply "Thanks for the reply, happy swinging" "

At least you've got manners..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - would you meet a 61 year old?

You have stated your preferences and others will have theres. Focus on those who's preferences include you not exclude you.

On line preferences have to be based on generalisations an we all fall foul of them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Again, some people may be getting mixed up, I'm not trying to make people give me reasons to why they don't want to, it was merely a question, if they want to answer it, fine thanks, if not, fair enough, everyone to their own

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP - would you meet a 61 year old?

You have stated your preferences and others will have theres. Focus on those who's preferences include you not exclude you.

On line preferences have to be based on generalisations an we all fall foul of them"

I don't know, it would depend on whether I found that 61 year old attractive, and if I did, I'd then have to see how we got on as we spoke, personality and getting on with someone is a big thing for me, that's what i'd judge it off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not trying to persuade anyone or pressure them if they have age limits, when someone replies saying you're too young etc I simply reply "Thanks for the reply, happy swinging"

At least you've got manners.. "

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"

I can usually tell by swapping messages on here. Like NN, I don't meet for coffee only - I meet to shag. And what would happen if we're both sat there bored?

Yeah that's fair enough, I was just saying, some don't swap a few messages (Not that they have to)

"

I am afraid you'll just have to get used to it. You might be the best shag they'll have this year, but if they choose not to meet due to their preferences (and they may use age as an excuse. Its easier to say you're too young than you don't do it for them) then that's the way it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"its just sexual preference. some people are attracted to younger some arnt

Its also about what you feel comfy with"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I can usually tell by swapping messages on here. Like NN, I don't meet for coffee only - I meet to shag. And what would happen if we're both sat there bored?

Yeah that's fair enough, I was just saying, some don't swap a few messages (Not that they have to)

I am afraid you'll just have to get used to it. You might be the best shag they'll have this year, but if they choose not to meet due to their preferences (and they may use age as an excuse. Its easier to say you're too young than you don't do it for them) then that's the way it is."

That's fair enough, this forum got heated quickly when it wasn't aimed to

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"

I can usually tell by swapping messages on here. Like NN, I don't meet for coffee only - I meet to shag. And what would happen if we're both sat there bored?

Yeah that's fair enough, I was just saying, some don't swap a few messages (Not that they have to)

I am afraid you'll just have to get used to it. You might be the best shag they'll have this year, but if they choose not to meet due to their preferences (and they may use age as an excuse. Its easier to say you're too young than you don't do it for them) then that's the way it is.

That's fair enough, this forum got heated quickly when it wasn't aimed to "

LOL this didn't even get lukewarm compared to some of the posts in the Lounge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I can usually tell by swapping messages on here. Like NN, I don't meet for coffee only - I meet to shag. And what would happen if we're both sat there bored?

Yeah that's fair enough, I was just saying, some don't swap a few messages (Not that they have to)

I am afraid you'll just have to get used to it. You might be the best shag they'll have this year, but if they choose not to meet due to their preferences (and they may use age as an excuse. Its easier to say you're too young than you don't do it for them) then that's the way it is.

That's fair enough, this forum got heated quickly when it wasn't aimed to

LOL this didn't even get lukewarm compared to some of the posts in the Lounge. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want to get my stretch marks ands saggy bits out infront of a young guy, I prefer men more my own age who understand im going to be less than perfect, I think young lads have the fantasy of older women and have the image of Pamela Anderson in their head, you know sexy hot MILF when in reality your probably going to get the likes of me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An example.

I met a 22yo lass the other week. After a good 3-4 hours of some strenuous activity, (and i feckin mean STRENUOUS) all i wanted was a good, hot mug of horlics. But noooo, she wanted another game of naked twister! I was fucked! LITERALLY!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP - would you meet a 61 year old?

You have stated your preferences and others will have theres. Focus on those who's preferences include you not exclude you.

On line preferences have to be based on generalisations an we all fall foul of them

I don't know, it would depend on whether I found that 61 year old attractive, and if I did, I'd then have to see how we got on as we spoke, personality and getting on with someone is a big thing for me, that's what i'd judge it off"

But your profile says an upper limit of 60 - Why not say 65 just in case there is the odd 61 year old you'd love to meet?

The point I'm making is that we all draw a line somewhere. And those that set their preferences at 25 may well get on with you but assume that in the main they wouldn't with someone of your age.

We (as I suspect is the case fo many on here) go outside our age preferences but generally they reflect our preferences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" LOL this didn't even get lukewarm compared to some of the posts in the Lounge.

"

Haha Really? Not a huge poster when it comes to forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An example.

I met a 22yo lass the other week. After a good 3-4 hours of some strenuous activity, (and i feckin mean STRENUOUS) all i wanted was a good, hot mug of horlics. But noooo, she wanted another game of naked twister! I was fucked! LITERALLY!! "

Ain't life a bitch sometimes..... ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An example.

I met a 22yo lass the other week. After a good 3-4 hours of some strenuous activity, (and i feckin mean STRENUOUS) all i wanted was a good, hot mug of horlics. But noooo, she wanted another game of naked twister! I was fucked! LITERALLY!!

"

And then you woke up

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I wouldn't want to get my stretch marks ands saggy bits out infront of a young guy, I prefer men more my own age who understand im going to be less than perfect, I think young lads have the fantasy of older women and have the image of Pamela Anderson in their head, you know sexy hot MILF when in reality your probably going to get the likes of me lol"

^^^^ This, definitely. I hate seeing their little faces drop.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't want to get my stretch marks ands saggy bits out infront of a young guy, I prefer men more my own age who understand im going to be less than perfect, I think young lads have the fantasy of older women and have the image of Pamela Anderson in their head, you know sexy hot MILF when in reality your probably going to get the likes of me lol"

Hahah Maybe so, maybe not, as you all say it depends on the person

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" But your profile says an upper limit of 60 - Why not say 65 just in case there is the odd 61 year old you'd love to meet?

The point I'm making is that we all draw a line somewhere. And those that set their preferences at 25 may well get on with you but assume that in the main they wouldn't with someone of your age.

We (as I suspect is the case fo many on here) go outside our age preferences but generally they reflect our preferences."

Yeah i do agree with you, everyone does draw a line somewhere and everyone has their own line that they either like or don't like to cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi iam 65 in two weeks time and still find it amazing that younger women fancy a night out with me.

Most of the anwers have already been noted.

Conversation, respect, a fab dinner all leading to play after.

Please keep them coming. I am having the time of my life!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An example.

I met a 22yo lass the other week. After a good 3-4 hours of some strenuous activity, (and i feckin mean STRENUOUS) all i wanted was a good, hot mug of horlics. But noooo, she wanted another game of naked twister! I was fucked! LITERALLY!!

And then you woke up "

Oops, i'm bad! Just checked my very, she is 23yo!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"That's totally fair enough, I just think, if i thought someone was attractive, I wouldn't then determine it on age, although I do personally have limits, which I suppose others do too

This is the upteenth thread from a young man with HIS age preferences questioning others about theirs!

Why?!!

Focus on those seeking your age group: no one has to justify their preferences!

Why? Because he's a young guy trying to get his head around how this strange little world works. I was no different at his age, but in those days with no internet, I had to ask real people.

Still had to ask what must have appeared to them some very naive questions.."

and there we have it, well said. Youth is not a crime we were all young once and needed to learn. The people who end up knowing the most are the ones who ask the most questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't want to get my stretch marks ands saggy bits out infront of a young guy, I prefer men more my own age who understand im going to be less than perfect, I think young lads have the fantasy of older women and have the image of Pamela Anderson in their head, you know sexy hot MILF when in reality your probably going to get the likes of me lol"

Oo trust me a lot of young guys love the wobbly bits XD

Infact the first young guy I met was so hot and admitted he could pull hot young girls.. But a bbw woman like me was his fantasy.. And he just adored all my rolls infact noone has made me feel sexier or more at ease than he did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's totally fair enough, I just think, if i thought someone was attractive, I wouldn't then determine it on age, although I do personally have limits, which I suppose others do too

This is the upteenth thread from a young man with HIS age preferences questioning others about theirs!

Why?!!

Focus on those seeking your age group: no one has to justify their preferences!

Why? Because he's a young guy trying to get his head around how this strange little world works. I was no different at his age, but in those days with no internet, I had to ask real people.

Still had to ask what must have appeared to them some very naive questions..

and there we have it, well said. Youth is not a crime we were all young once and needed to learn. The people who end up knowing the most are the ones who ask the most questions "

Well said

I do find the young guys can it a bit rough in here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers for everyone's feedback anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am 29 years older than you, think about it, way to much of a gap, not for me, I prefer people my own age as age is a big factor for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't want to get my stretch marks ands saggy bits out infront of a young guy, I prefer men more my own age who understand im going to be less than perfect, I think young lads have the fantasy of older women and have the image of Pamela Anderson in their head, you know sexy hot MILF when in reality your probably going to get the likes of me lol"

Absolutely right too

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