FabSwingers.com forum: friends before fun

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi peeps am i the only one who doesnt want to just jump into bed with every tom dick or harry??

i prefer to get to know the person a little bit before we go to bed for fun or anywhere else for that matter.

i get called a time waster is that what i am? i dont think so

opinions please guys

fallen xx xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't think your a time waster, I like you prefer to get to know someone first..... Is that frowned upon then?

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

we're all different and approach this thing called swinging in different ways.

as long as you are clear with people that that's what you like to do then you're not wasting anyones time ...the ones who do want to jump quickly can move on and find others who do, and those who like to get to know someone a bit more first can stay and chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If thats the way you prefer to do things, I cannot see a problem with - provided of course you make people fully aware of the fact when arranging meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with you, I need to have a rapport with people I play with. Also it takes time to develop a D/s relationship. That said I have played early but it's not been rewarding for me: not a turn on being with someone whose philosophy is 'every hole a goal'. My playmates are my friends makes it so much fun. As to being a time waster: no. You have to set the parameters of your meets. Some people meet and play they dont care, some like a slow build while others like to know the full name of their playmates. As long as you're honest in what you like it's down to others to accept or look elsewhere. All tastes catered for here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is quite clear as to what you're looking for, don't worry to much, you only have to say NO to some people nowadays to be called a timewaster.

never become desperate to suit others

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

i think you need to have some kind of initial contact with a prospective playmate,even if it'sjust a coffee over some small talk so you can find out if you are both suitable for each other, of course if thes that instant spark then hells bells you just go for it lol.

But like your self i like to take things a little slowat first and then see where it goes from there, butlike all things in the world of swinges, it's a case of each to their own and notwo people willgo about it in the sameway, ergo you'll always find someone who will lable the more causious of us as timewasters just because we like to take a while to get to know them before we fold back the bed sheets.

But as long as you are enjoying some fun and can disregard those who get the hump(mentally)( but not on the physical side) then heho all's well in the world lol

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By *ouvakMan
over a year ago

clacton on sea

"I'm with you, I need to have a rapport with people I play with. Also it takes time to develop a D/s relationship. That said I have played early but it's not been rewarding for me: not a turn on being with someone whose philosophy is 'every hole a goal'. My playmates are my friends makes it so much fun. As to being a time waster: no. You have to set the parameters of your meets. Some people meet and play they dont care, some like a slow build while others like to know the full name of their playmates. As long as you're honest in what you like it's down to others to accept or look elsewhere. All tastes catered for here

i think the key word hee is respect both for what you are and who you are, and if someone can't share or show that respect then they aren't worthy of your time or pleasure,,,,,, simple as really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you are a timewaster at all, just someone who is able to state their own needs and priorities.

More power to ya!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of the many peeps who offered to play with me, only a handful have been successful in becoming playmates.

So no, you are not alone

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I agree with posts so far - you're not a timewater at all!!! We do like to meet for a drink etc and prefer to have fun at home as it's more intimate and not rushed - however - at a club it's totally different - in certain situations you just see people you fancy and get it on straight away! Very different scenarios and both sexy in different ways! Z

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By *raceypCouple
over a year ago

south of sunderland

hi hun we like to get to no people befor we meet to xx

so that is not a timewaster to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you can answer that, we always arrange our meets on a "no strings" basis.

We know we are going to become friends but you need to get together before you can be sure the sexual chemistry is right for everyone present.

So sometimes we play sometimes we don't, we do not consider ourselves to be timewasters because we make it clear before we meet that this is how we think.

On the other hand if a person is all "yes yes yes I wanna play", "wow this will be a night for you to remember" etc then to a certain extent they could be classed as wasting peoples time if they then don't play, thing is tho everyone should still have the right to change thier minds.

That's why we stick to the "let's get together have some laughs and see if we are sexually compatible" and never promise sex to strangers.

If you meet on a similar basis to us then nobody has the right to call you a timewaster and has only themselves to blame for expecting more than was offered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everyone else has pointed out you're not time wasting however I'm not too sure about what your profile is trying to imply with you're not a slapper IM NOT GOING TO SUCK YOUR COCK ON FIRST MEET EITHER.(IM GET ASKED THIS ALOT) IM NOT A WHORE OR A SLAPPER. I do hope his doesnt mean you think that people who do are

CJ xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am "friends" with my FB and it makes for a better playtime.

We can chat and laugh and relax together as well as having good fun in the bedroom.

If i just wanted a shag, i would go to chams

I prefer the whole package.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Like everyone else has pointed out you're not time wasting however I'm not too sure about what your profile is trying to imply with you're not a slapper IM NOT GOING TO SUCK YOUR COCK ON FIRST MEET EITHER.(IM GET ASKED THIS ALOT) IM NOT A WHORE OR A SLAPPER. I do hope his doesnt mean you think that people who do are

CJ xx

not at all hun a lot of men talk to me and then as for a meet for coffee and a chat and say will you at least suck my cock the answer is no im not sayingppl who do play on first meet are slapper each to their own hun.

sorry if this offends anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with posts so far - you're not a timewater at all!!! We do like to meet for a drink etc and prefer to have fun at home as it's more intimate and not rushed - however - at a club it's totally different - in certain situations you just see people you fancy and get it on straight away! Very different scenarios and both sexy in different ways! Z"

clubs are different hun, you go to clubs to meet new peeps and have fun.

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