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 . What makes an orgy old-fashioned?
what makes an orgy new-fashioned?
I'd hate to be at a new style doing old style things but I don't know the difference | |||
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"Been involved in plenty at Chameleons and definitely our favourite activity "Oh chameleons! Yes that bought a smile remember having a few there | |||
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Slight tangent but a party trend that started maybe 10(ish) years ago we don’t like is the “women strip to underwear at midnight” thing. Everyone seems to do that these days (with the obligatory “line the women up and bend over to take a photo of their asses”. Talk about putting the pressure on! 
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"Does it involve the hosts putting on a buffet with cheese and pineapple on a stick and bottles of Mateus Rose
Slight tangent but a party trend that started maybe 10(ish) years ago we don’t like is the “women strip to underwear at midnight” thing. Everyone seems to do that these days (with the obligatory “line the women up and bend over to take a photo of their asses”. Talk about putting the pressure on!
"They don't really do that do they? Like a cattle market. Might as well tap your ass with a brand to let everyone know you've been. Something else to put us off haha. Mrs x | |||
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"Private orgies are arranged for those that enjoy them and the thought of every one enjoying everyone is what makes it different. Does not suit everyone and that’s why it’s important for the host to find the right attendees. As for clubs please do not be put off as in a club you are under no pressure to play with any one you don’t want to. Clubs rarely hold orgies " Agree...the ones we've been involved in happened organically and often started with just the two of us but it doesn't stay like that for very long. | |||
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"Does it involve the hosts putting on a buffet with cheese and pineapple on a stick and bottles of Mateus Rose
Slight tangent but a party trend that started maybe 10(ish) years ago we don’t like is the “women strip to underwear at midnight” thing. Everyone seems to do that these days (with the obligatory “line the women up and bend over to take a photo of their asses”. Talk about putting the pressure on!
They don't really do that do they? Like a cattle market. Might as well tap your ass with a brand to let everyone know you've been.
Something else to put us off haha.
Mrs x"Yep! I *think* the trend started as this is something that happens at the Dutch Swinger Club Fun 4 Two and got introduced back here. A few of the paid/organised parties do this too. It just smacks of desperation and a need to “force the action” rather than let it flow. We used to be regulars at a very high end swinger party and they kept a purely social area where people were elegantly dressed but would pair up/group up and head to the bedrooms. One room would be the big orgy room (four beds pushed together) and others a bit more intimate. Far far sexier and always ended up in a debauched fun-filled night. | |||
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"We totally agree with you comment on women in a line up. The party we like is every one arrives at an agreed time and one time lol. Starting with drinks and nibbles to become acquainted and then everyone getting naked at the same time ready to have fun x" Everyone enjoys what they enjoy and there is no right or wrong way to run a party (apart from pressure or expectations that is). Personally we would not like the “everyone get naked at same time” as we want to play when we want to play not at some arbitrary time determined by others. That is NOT a comment on your parties as there will be many who love that set up. | |||
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"We are so lucky to have been in this wonderful lifestyle for a number of years now. The one thing that has over the years disappeared is the gathering of likeminded couples for old fashioned orgies. A gathering of likeminded couples happy to involve everyone present. Happy to be naughty and enjoy a gathering of sexy people. We would love to recreate or even join in with any other couples who like the same dynamic. Look forward to hearing from other like minded couples and hope to recreate the fun of the past x" It’s still a thing. Check parties in south coast  | |||
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"When you say 'involve everyone present", does that mean you have to fuck everyone present without choice? It's thoughts like this that have put us off from ever attending a club. Does that make me a 'swinging snob'? Mrs x" No means No. just like clubs no one is under pressure to play but good host makes sure there are enough likeminded people at the party so there is something for everyone and no one is left out. | |||
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"With regards to attraction in an orgy it’s more about a mind attraction than is some one short or someone tall or what dress size It’s about being with free minded people who enjoy sex. That can be a great attraction knowing every one is wanting to be naughty not sit back and undertake interviews and over think things. Indeed not for every one but so much fun with the right people x" We've not been in the lifestyle that long but what you describe... sort of fits with us, though we do vet here and wouldn't just have anonymous meets with single men but, having now been to a club twice, we do find their is an urge for the fun to happen. Our second was a bi night and the first couple of hours for socialising, we struggled with that bit and barely spoke to anyone but when the play area was opened and in turn, were in the mood ourselves... the mutual play as a couple and with another four or so gents casually joining in, along with another couple, was far more fun and thoroughly enjoyed. | |||
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"Still trying to understand why this approach is “old fashioned orgies”? I (Mr) have been swinging since 1999 and this (what sounds like) free for all approach has never been a thing. There is an implication that you are expected to fuck anyone in attendance? Surely, regardless for how relaxed and up for it you are, there is still an element of personal taste? What if the host has a wider definition of what is attractive then you do? Or am I missing the point?" No we do not think you are missing any point and has been said previously it’s all up to the individuals invited. Obviously you would decline an invite to such a gathering and that is fine no one would be offended. The reference to old fashioned is going back to pre 2010 when there was no pocket Computors and people made contact on site to have fun. No picture collectors. No “line ups “ required No need to follow the now norm of how manny verifications can we get from socials just to call ourselves swingers. Orgies were just fun gatherings of full swap fun with like minded people. When was the last time anyone was invited to such a fun gathering ? | |||
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"We are lucky enough to be invited to small private events which turn quickly into afternoons of debauchery. "Oh lucky you. Wish we were closer x | |||
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"When you say 'involve everyone present", does that mean you have to fuck everyone present without choice? It's thoughts like this that have put us off from ever attending a club. Does that make me a 'swinging snob'? Mrs x No means No. just like clubs no one is under pressure to play but good host makes sure there are enough likeminded people at the party so there is something for everyone and no one is left out. " Could not have said that better x | |||
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"We are so lucky to have been in this wonderful lifestyle for a number of years now. The one thing that has over the years disappeared is the gathering of likeminded couples for old fashioned orgies. A gathering of likeminded couples happy to involve everyone present. Happy to be naughty and enjoy a gathering of sexy people. We would love to recreate or even join in with any other couples who like the same dynamic. Look forward to hearing from other like minded couples and hope to recreate the fun of the past x It’s still a thing. Check parties in south coast "We’ll tag us in if you think we would fit x | |||
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"Our kinda fun " Will keep that in mind for sure x | |||
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"We are so lucky to have been in this wonderful lifestyle for a number of years now. The one thing that has over the years disappeared is the gathering of likeminded couples for old fashioned orgies. A gathering of likeminded couples happy to involve everyone present. Happy to be naughty and enjoy a gathering of sexy people. We would love to recreate or even join in with any other couples who like the same dynamic. Look forward to hearing from other like minded couples and hope to recreate the fun of the past x It’s still a thing. Check parties in south coast
We’ll tag us in if you think we would fit x"Of course. Info sent | |||
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"Still trying to understand why this approach is “old fashioned orgies”? I (Mr) have been swinging since 1999 and this (what sounds like) free for all approach has never been a thing. There is an implication that you are expected to fuck anyone in attendance? Surely, regardless for how relaxed and up for it you are, there is still an element of personal taste? What if the host has a wider definition of what is attractive then you do? Or am I missing the point? No we do not think you are missing any point and has been said previously it’s all up to the individuals invited. Obviously you would decline an invite to such a gathering and that is fine no one would be offended. The reference to old fashioned is going back to pre 2010 when there was no pocket Computors and people made contact on site to have fun. No picture collectors. No “line ups “ required No need to follow the now norm of how manny verifications can we get from socials just to call ourselves swingers. Orgies were just fun gatherings of full swap fun with like minded people. When was the last time anyone was invited to such a fun gathering ? " Ah ok and yes I agree with that. I think there are more poseurs than before, more wannabes than before, more people who don’t actually understand swinging, etc. The “scene” has definitely changed over the 25 years I have been in it with an increase in casual sexers who call themselves swingers but don’t get it! | |||
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"Still trying to understand why this approach is “old fashioned orgies”? I (Mr) have been swinging since 1999 and this (what sounds like) free for all approach has never been a thing. There is an implication that you are expected to fuck anyone in attendance? Surely, regardless for how relaxed and up for it you are, there is still an element of personal taste? What if the host has a wider definition of what is attractive then you do? Or am I missing the point? No we do not think you are missing any point and has been said previously it’s all up to the individuals invited. Obviously you would decline an invite to such a gathering and that is fine no one would be offended. The reference to old fashioned is going back to pre 2010 when there was no pocket Computors and people made contact on site to have fun. No picture collectors. No “line ups “ required No need to follow the now norm of how manny verifications can we get from socials just to call ourselves swingers. Orgies were just fun gatherings of full swap fun with like minded people. When was the last time anyone was invited to such a fun gathering ? Ah ok and yes I agree with that. I think there are more poseurs than before, more wannabes than before, more people who don’t actually understand swinging, etc. The “scene” has definitely changed over the 25 years I have been in it with an increase in casual sexers who call themselves swingers but don’t get it!" Well we agree on all the above Maybe we have more in common than may first have seemed ? | |||
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"Old style turn over and go to sleep, New style, go out for pizza and don't come back " You missed out on one the other week, hopefully next time. | |||
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"With regards to attraction in an orgy it’s more about a mind attraction than is some one short or someone tall or what dress size It’s about being with free minded people who enjoy sex. That can be a great attraction knowing every one is wanting to be naughty not sit back and undertake interviews and over think things. Indeed not for every one but so much fun with the right people x" I miss that kind of thinking, I used to go to house partys where they would happen more often or not. Xx | |||
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"With regards to attraction in an orgy it’s more about a mind attraction than is some one short or someone tall or what dress size It’s about being with free minded people who enjoy sex. That can be a great attraction knowing every one is wanting to be naughty not sit back and undertake interviews and over think things. Indeed not for every one but so much fun with the right people x I miss that kind of thinking, I used to go to house partys where they would happen more often or not. Xx" I agree not everyone wants to play with everyone but I go to play. I did go to one where only two people play, me and my partner, kind of defeats the object of going. | |||
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"With regards to attraction in an orgy it’s more about a mind attraction than is some one short or someone tall or what dress size It’s about being with free minded people who enjoy sex. That can be a great attraction knowing every one is wanting to be naughty not sit back and undertake interviews and over think things. Indeed not for every one but so much fun with the right people x I miss that kind of thinking, I used to go to house partys where they would happen more often or not. Xx I agree not everyone wants to play with everyone but I go to play. I did go to one where only two people play, me and my partner, kind of defeats the object of going." I do agree there is too much over think things and interviews. It's about enjoying the moment and going with the flow xx | |||
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"With regards to attraction in an orgy it’s more about a mind attraction than is some one short or someone tall or what dress size It’s about being with free minded people who enjoy sex. That can be a great attraction knowing every one is wanting to be naughty not sit back and undertake interviews and over think things. Indeed not for every one but so much fun with the right people x I miss that kind of thinking, I used to go to house partys where they would happen more often or not. Xx I agree not everyone wants to play with everyone but I go to play. I did go to one where only two people play, me and my partner, kind of defeats the object of going. I do agree there is too much over think things and interviews. It's about enjoying the moment and going with the flow xx" So agree. Pity we missed out on your previous party. Keep us in mind for future fun x | |||
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"Still trying to understand why this approach is “old fashioned orgies”? I (Mr) have been swinging since 1999 and this (what sounds like) free for all approach has never been a thing. There is an implication that you are expected to fuck anyone in attendance? Surely, regardless for how relaxed and up for it you are, there is still an element of personal taste? What if the host has a wider definition of what is attractive then you do? Or am I missing the point?" We agree with all your posts and hold similar views. It would not seem plausible to fancy everyone in the room. I'm not taking 'one for the team' to keep anyone happy or to commit to the 'atmosphere' of an event. If I don't fancy you, don't come near me with that. It just sounds strange, giving up your consent to ensure everyone 'gets a go". Nope not for us. By the way first time we've looked at your profile, looked and commented on loads of your posts but never looked at 'you' before. Very hot we must say, Mrs x | |||
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"Still trying to understand why this approach is “old fashioned orgies”? I (Mr) have been swinging since 1999 and this (what sounds like) free for all approach has never been a thing. There is an implication that you are expected to fuck anyone in attendance? Surely, regardless for how relaxed and up for it you are, there is still an element of personal taste? What if the host has a wider definition of what is attractive then you do? Or am I missing the point?We agree with all your posts and hold similar views. It would not seem plausible to fancy everyone in the room. I'm not taking 'one for the team' to keep anyone happy or to commit to the 'atmosphere' of an event. If I don't fancy you, don't come near me with that. It just sounds strange, giving up your consent to ensure everyone 'gets a go". Nope not for us. By the way first time we've looked at your profile, looked and commented on loads of your posts but never looked at 'you' before. Very hot we must say, Mrs x" Well thank you for your views and input. It’s nice to have a spectrum of different views and we know the format is not for everyone. Thanks for looking at us and your kind comment on our profile. We have sent you a mail x | |||
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"We would love one x " Would love to involve you two x. DM us let’s make this happen x | |||
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"This is how I got in to my first swinging situation, a party at uni that escalated into an orgy/free for all" Tightly tangeled up organic flowing free 4 all pleasure feast with nobody left out Who could ask for more? So happy orgies | |||
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"Been involved in plenty at Chameleons and definitely our favourite activity "Is that round bed still there? | |||
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"When you say 'involve everyone present", does that mean you have to fuck everyone present without choice? It's thoughts like this that have put us off from ever attending a club. Does that make me a 'swinging snob'? Mrs x" To quote Zammo, "Just Say No". | |||
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"Private orgies are arranged for those that enjoy them and the thought of every one enjoying everyone is what makes it different. Does not suit everyone and that’s why it’s important for the host to find the right attendees. As for clubs please do not be put off as in a club you are under no pressure to play with any one you don’t want to. Clubs rarely hold orgies Agree...the ones we've been involved in happened organically and often started with just the two of us but it doesn't stay like that for very long." The ones that happen "naturally" can be darned thrilling... | |||
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"Been years since we got involved in an orgy last one was about 8 cpls 1 lady and a few single men use to be great fun but nowdays tbh so many talk the talk but don't walk the walk arranging anything is pointless unfortunately " That’s true on here it’s just talk for vast majority. That’s why we rely more on our friends and contacts we have | |||
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"I just couldn't do it personally, I want to be attracted to the person I'm having sex with and that's not guaranteed in this situation, I can't do the whole sex thing without some kind of connection." That’s fair enough. Most parties not full on orgies. We always like to chat before what like or not. Agree having some connection makes it more fun | |||
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"Stood the sidelines and watched, maybe next time. " Expect you got invites to join | |||
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"Been years since we got involved in an orgy last one was about 8 cpls 1 lady and a few single men use to be great fun but nowdays tbh so many talk the talk but don't walk the walk arranging anything is pointless unfortunately " maybe we should get together and organise one ? | |||
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"We love an orgy. Sometimes it just happens at a club. Probably not often enough though!" Well if you two are up for an orgy let’s arrange one x | |||
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"Stood the sidelines and watched, maybe next time. " Well we are thinking of arranging one but no standing on the side lines ? You fancy joining us ? | |||
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"See my pics x" Very nice do you have a play partner | |||
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"See my pics x Very nice do you have a play partner " I do yes | |||
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"See my pics x Very nice do you have a play partner I do yes " Send us a DM to connect and let’s see if the four of us can connect | |||
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"We are so lucky to have been in this wonderful lifestyle for a number of years now. The one thing that has over the years disappeared is the gathering of likeminded couples for old fashioned orgies. A gathering of likeminded couples happy to involve everyone present. Happy to be naughty and enjoy a gathering of sexy people. We would love to recreate or even join in with any other couples who like the same dynamic. Look forward to hearing from other like minded couples and hope to recreate the fun of the past x" The perfect old-fashioned orgy would be a mass pile.Of tightly tangled up naked pile of super horny bodies all going at everybody at once. Enjoying being involved in everybody's intercourse as the furious fucking picks up faster and faster everbody switching around & around that's how we did it in the free love 60s | |||
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"Exactly. Our view of an old fashioned orgy is every one enjoying all partaking rather than separating off . Everyone being open minded to play and enjoy " You too sexy folks are so perfect for us all to bang away with the more partners each and every one of us try out the better | |||
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"Been involved in plenty at Chameleons and definitely our favourite activity "We go have too, the round room and other large room were always good for a bit of group fun. The cinema room was good too although you did take your life in your hands in there to a degree! It did seem that normal levels of permission and consent could be suspended at time! Haven't been for years as we feel we are too old and don't want to be the sad wrinkles sitting in the corner perving. An over 55's orgy we would be up for but would need plenty of rest breaks and a ready supply of Viagra and ibuprofen. Probably more the ibuprofen! | |||
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