FabSwingers.com forum: deleting messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Why bother checking?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Eh? I'm lost, they've read it, replied to it and then deleted it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it all the time. I don't like an untidy boxes.

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I delete and just keep the last one x

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Sometimes, i tidy up my inbox. If you think that is hiding something, then we have officially reached a new low on fab.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I admit it! I'm hiding my OCD as I don't like to have more than a few messages in my inbox. Sorry!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nothing to hide for us we get so many we delete most at end of day, we dont check to see what others have done to or sent ones, upto them

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I'm always deleting mine. Read or not. Lol. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages."

If you don't keep on top of your in-box the older messages quickly disappear out of view and you have to delete newer messages in order to get the older ones back in view.

As one OP said; why bother checking. Also if a reply and delete gets you wondering what happens if they read and delete without replying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like efficiency to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?"

Why wouldn't you delete it if you've read and replied? What possible value would there be in keeping it? What could they be hiding and from who? If you reply, it just shows up in the message thread anyway...

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By *H.coupleCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?"

not really, it just keeps a tidy inbox. we need to have a good flush of ours come to think about it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?"

In general no, we delete and just keep the last one for reference if need be.

But sometimes the gentleman of a couple will send messages of a sexual nature that he presumably doesn't want his partner to see and will delete just those leaving the other more general ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?"

If you have upgraded you can see previous messages anyway so no need to keep them! Don't take offence by it!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Eh? I'm lost, they've read it, replied to it and then deleted it? "

Oh, and I just bulk delete every once in a while, nothing to read into that either, apart from I don't have OCD

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?"

I delete mine no point keeping them once youve read them. And if you are messaging one person back and forth in the same message subject you can read the previous ones. I save mine if I want to show my mate a pic of a guy to get her opinion or just to show her message for opinion also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you leave messages on long enough they vanish eventually anyway ........ I know cos daily my inbox is becoming less n less of unread messages from weeks ago lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?"

I do this. It saves space and helps me keep track. I also do it with my sent box too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?

You show your mate other people's pics that they've sent you in good faith?

Bit naughty don't you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to have messages i could delete! Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just some peeps are tidy ye messy pup lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Most its asking certain things we like which are on our profile and what we really enjoy but some are out and out males which are supposed to be couples

Just annoying really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?

Does she scuttle off mysteriously for a couple hours after you've shown her them?

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?"

Simplest answer is there will be some who have something to hide but most probably just delete the message. I tend to leave them, helps when someone msgs so I can remember who they are or if they pee'd me off before

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

My replies are normally "No thanx"

So I delete so they dont think im reconsidering...

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

"My replies are normally "No thanx"

So I delete so they dont think im reconsidering...

Sometimes replyings the worst thing you can do... replied to someone saying "not interested" and going by their logic that meant I was interested because I replied lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My replies are normally "No thanx"

So I delete so they dont think im reconsidering...

Sometimes replyings the worst thing you can do... replied to someone saying "not interested" and going by their logic that meant I was interested because I replied lol"

So, when that lass the other day told me 'get to fuck ya ugly bastard' it actually means i'm still in with a chance?

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I delete and just keep the last one x"

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"My replies are normally "No thanx"

So I delete so they dont think im reconsidering...

Sometimes replyings the worst thing you can do... replied to someone saying "not interested" and going by their logic that meant I was interested because I

replied lol

So, when that lass the other day told me 'get to fuck ya ugly bastard' it actually means i'm still in with a chance?

Lol yes she's only playing hard to get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just delete in bulk now n then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My replies are normally "No thanx"

So I delete so they dont think im reconsidering...

Sometimes replyings the worst thing you can do... replied to someone saying "not interested" and going by their logic that meant I was interested because I

replied lol

So, when that lass the other day told me 'get to fuck ya ugly bastard' it actually means i'm still in with a chance?

Lol yes she's only playing hard to get

Lol

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"My replies are normally "No thanx"

So I delete so they dont think im reconsidering...

Sometimes replyings the worst thing you can do... replied to someone saying "not interested" and going by their logic that meant I was interested because I replied lol

So, when that lass the other day told me 'get to fuck ya ugly bastard' it actually means i'm still in with a chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read, reply, save the ones I want to keep, then do a tidy up every few days by deleting the others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people should get out more

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?"

what would they have to hide?

i delete my read ail because i have read it. why would i want to keep it?

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

I do a bulk delete every coupla days to tidy up, any I want to keep have already been saved.

But I have had the male half of a couple send me a few sexy messages that he deleted my replies to (all innocent, I promise) and kept the bland ones, I am guessing to hide from the Mrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?"

No, they're just using the site the way that suits them..... like we all do.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

It's called freedom of expression...I delete for several reasons; when the message is gibberish, bland, boring, and from someone I don't fancy and finally cos I like to keep a clean house,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont get this..if u have a reply thats a bloody bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone reads my message abd deletes with no reply i assume they not interested and move on

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Sometimes, i tidy up my inbox. If you think that is hiding something, then we have officially reached a new low on fab."

Don't you believe it, there's more craziness to come I'm sure!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

" I save mine if I want to show my mate a pic of a guy to get her opinion or just to show her message for opinion also."

You're discreet then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I save mine if I want to show my mate a pic of a guy to get her opinion or just to show her message for opinion also.

You're discreet then!

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has an issue with this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do a bulk delete every coupla days to tidy up, any I want to keep have already been saved.

But I have had the male half of a couple send me a few sexy messages that he deleted my replies to (all innocent, I promise) and kept the bland ones, I am guessing to hide from the Mrs.

I've had this too. Probably what the OP means...

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i like tight empty boxes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I delete and just keep the last one x"

This.

Are you expecting your messages to be kept for audit purposes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?"

Nope, I do this all the time as I literally have dozens of messages a week so my inbox would be blocked if I didnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always delete after replying... I only ever keep the last message if i'm actually having a conversation and its not a one off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always delete after replying... I only ever keep the last message if i'm actually having a conversation and its not a one off."

Same here, though we'll save some before deleting.

We often think that the worst thing about Fab is the 'Sent Messages' feature. It encourages some people to agonise over what's been done with their message. Personally, we never look at ours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do as cant keep up SO just like new mail there ....... if I wish to keep I save . Its not rude at all I say cant mail all back in my profile .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering and want peoples feelings about this.

What do you think when you send a message to someone and they read it and then reply then delete the messages.

Do they have something to hide or what ?"

No - in the case of 'single' women, they get so many messages, I'm not surprised they have to have a good clear out or keep mail boxes clear

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