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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had a fairly blunt message off a lady of 60 today who asked why I'd set my upper age limit at 55 and didn't I think anyone older was up to it.

My response was to say, that I didn't think to leave it at 99 was appropriate or realistic, so I had drawn a line in the sand at 55, but was not against crossing it.

On the other end I am set at 18 as my lower limit, but realistically it should be more like 25, as I don't feel 18, 19, 20 or so, is appropriate either.

Where do you draw the age line and why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines 20 to 40 as ideally I am looking for men around 30. However so many change ages these days to fit its academic. That or some people have lived incredibly hard lives to be only 39 but look 55.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have an upper age limit and have all the "but I am a young xyz", with many set to lie about their age to suit then you have to draw a limit somewhere..and no not at 99!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines 18 - 70 - not for any perverted sexual reason - but i love chatting and dont feel i should restrict chat to anyone younger nor older and as i have never seen anyone on here older than 70 thought that was a good upper limit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have an upper age limit of 52 and we never get mail from anyone older than that.

We have a lower age limit of 40 and we get a lot of mail from people younger than that. sometimes a lot younger.

maybe older people are more inclined to read a profile.

Any mail we get from someone younger we tend to ignore because we assume they haven't.

Especially if they're 27

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

55 seems like a reasonable upper limit. I find limits like 57 odd though, as lets face it, the 3 year difference to 60 is hardly significant at that stage of maturity really.

Juat my opinion of course.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i set mine at 99 cos im 56 anyway i hate missing the 55 liits set here ...still if thats the preference set then thats that

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Id like to know why people feel the need to message and ask why.....Just because they not in your age preference!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My age limits are 34 - 50. I do get messages now and again from under the lower age limit. I just delete them. The 50 is because im going to be 50 this year and figured it made a little sense but I dont want to meet older than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi females...45-65 for us..we don't go for anyone younger than that.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

If you set it at 99....people think you will fk anything....

Just no pleasing some people....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found older guys who behave like teenagers and the reverse. I find age alone very difficult as a means to rule people in or out.

But I wouldnt generally find 18-25 mature enough ( there are exceptions, always) and over 70.

Most men I meet fall between the 35-60 age group though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got mine set at 18-60. The upper age limit is because i had to pick SOMETHING rather than leave it at 99 and look desperate.

The lower age limit is because i'm a perv, lol,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My age limits are 34 - 50. I do get messages now and again from under the lower age limit. I just delete them. The 50 is because im going to be 50 this year and figured it made a little sense but I dont want to meet older than that"

im in.yes.!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys under 33 are very immature. I may actually update my lower limit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

age us just a number isn't it?

At same time there has to b a limit as wouldn't want to have sex with someone who is immature n not discrete. Then again wouldn't want sex with a minger with not very nice face or body parts sagging or not working correctly

Anyone feel same??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I sent a really polite reply, she read it and ignored it

Everybody has their ranges for attraction -but few (I think) want to sleep with anyone younger than some of the food in their freezer, or someone closer to their parents age.

It's all about preference and attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id like to know why people feel the need to message and ask why.....Just because they not in your age preference!"

I guess because they think they can change your mind? Before the filters came in, I used to get lots of messages from lads in their 20's even though my profile clearly stated that I preferred my own age group

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"I had a fairly blunt message off a lady of 60 today who asked why I'd set my upper age limit at 55 and didn't I think anyone older was up to it.

My response was to say, that I didn't think to leave it at 99 was appropriate or realistic, so I had drawn a line in the sand at 55, but was not against crossing it.

On the other end I am set at 18 as my lower limit, but realistically it should be more like 25, as I don't feel 18, 19, 20 or so, is appropriate either.

Where do you draw the age line and why?"

If your age limit is 55 and she is 60....she would not be able to send you a message! or have I missed a trick somewhere? I sure cannot message people if they say max is 48.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a fairly blunt message off a lady of 60 today who asked why I'd set my upper age limit at 55 and didn't I think anyone older was up to it.

My response was to say, that I didn't think to leave it at 99 was appropriate or realistic, so I had drawn a line in the sand at 55, but was not against crossing it.

On the other end I am set at 18 as my lower limit, but realistically it should be more like 25, as I don't feel 18, 19, 20 or so, is appropriate either.

Where do you draw the age line and why?

If your age limit is 55 and she is 60....she would not be able to send you a message! or have I missed a trick somewhere? I sure cannot message people if they say max is 48."

No she shouldn't have been able to message him unless they have exchanged messages before the filters came in

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"I had a fairly blunt message off a lady of 60 today who asked why I'd set my upper age limit at 55 and didn't I think anyone older was up to it.

My response was to say, that I didn't think to leave it at 99 was appropriate or realistic, so I had drawn a line in the sand at 55, but was not against crossing it.

On the other end I am set at 18 as my lower limit, but realistically it should be more like 25, as I don't feel 18, 19, 20 or so, is appropriate either.

Where do you draw the age line and why?

If your age limit is 55 and she is 60....she would not be able to send you a message! or have I missed a trick somewhere? I sure cannot message people if they say max is 48.

No she shouldn't have been able to message him unless they have exchanged messages before the filters came in"

that makes sense thank you

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Mine is set at 30-45. 30 because I would feel uncomfortable with anyone younger than that. 45 because I prefer younger men.

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By *risboy69Man
over a year ago

Bristol

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Mine is 25 - 55 - 10 years younger because I couldn't do anything with someone where I am old enough to be their parent! Generally below 25 they are too immature, and shag hunters.

Up to 55 because more and more people are looking after themselves better and stay attractive for longer (slightly shallow) and because some older people are better at conversation, and more skilled. I tend to prefer older men (when I'm looking) and ladies any age as long as there is a spark there

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By *risboy69Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Mines similar to say 65 but it's more of a social thing to be honest.

That's not to say because your 35 I will meet you!!

Some of the older ladies are very attractive and maybe the so called younger ones should seek there advice and enquire what facial creams there using!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my limits are 45-85 as I enjoy meeting and chatting to mature people.85 is a bit high but it means I will maybe get people upper 70,s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mines similar to say 65 but it's more of a social thing to be honest.

That's not to say because your 35 I will meet you!!

Some of the older ladies are very attractive and maybe the so called younger ones should seek there advice and enquire what facial creams there using!!"

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"Mines similar to say 65 but it's more of a social thing to be honest.

That's not to say because your 35 I will meet you!!

Some of the older ladies are very attractive and maybe the so called younger ones should seek there advice and enquire what facial creams there using!!

"

I second that!!

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By *risboy69Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"Mines similar to say 65 but it's more of a social thing to be honest.

That's not to say because your 35 I will meet you!!

Some of the older ladies are very attractive and maybe the so called younger ones should seek there advice and enquire what facial creams there using!!

I second that!! "

Ha ha thought you might

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By *ondiniumCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

Most people stop actively swinging between 55-60.*

We've put our upper age limit as 50 because we don't want to meet anyone older than us (who would?!)

Nothing against the over 50's but some of them can look really old! lol

* All statistics have been made up on the stop and are based on no factual material whatsoever.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I have to say I'm amazed people actually take the time to write to people if they're excluded in any way shape or form! Talk about narcissism!

Equally, I don't know why people feel the need to justify their preferences to needy, entitled strangers outwith their criteria!

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

Mine is set at 35 to 65. I am 61 and am still active but I will always respect the age ranges of profiles I view and not contact them if mya ge is outside. I just wish more people would extend their ranges to include my age.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Id like to know why people feel the need to message and ask why.....Just because they not in your age preference!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is set at 35 to 65. I am 61 and am still active but I will always respect the age ranges of profiles I view and not contact them if mya ge is outside. I just wish more people would extend their ranges to include my age. "

I meet gentlemen of your age when I am looking and know lots of others that do. Pity you are so far away, hen xx

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton


"Mine is set at 35 to 65. I am 61 and am still active but I will always respect the age ranges of profiles I view and not contact them if mya ge is outside. I just wish more people would extend their ranges to include my age.

I meet gentlemen of your age when I am looking and know lots of others that do. Pity you are so far away, hen xx"

You are not kidding its a pity, judging by the picture that shows on here. I would have liked to see how much more of a pity it is, but your profile is hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to say I'm amazed people actually take the time to write to people if they're excluded in any way shape or form! Talk about narcissism!

Equally, I don't know why people feel the need to justify their preferences to needy, entitled strangers outwith their criteria!"

If only people focused on what could.be theirs, instead of what is never gonna be.....

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Id like to know why people feel the need to message and ask why.....Just because they not in your age preference!

I guess because they think they can change your mind? Before the filters came in, I used to get lots of messages from lads in their 20's even though my profile clearly stated that I preferred my own age group"

All hail the filters! Even though some men have contacted random men in my age limit asking them to pass on a message on their behalf as they're outside my filters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm plain awkward... For single guys upper age is 30 although I don't really go over 25 but have stretch the limit to 30.. And that's why its a strict 30

As for fems and couples I have 55, don't want higher than that and doubt I would go much with those over 50 anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is set at 35 to 65. I am 61 and am still active but I will always respect the age ranges of profiles I view and not contact them if mya ge is outside. I just wish more people would extend their ranges to include my age.

I meet gentlemen of your age when I am looking and know lots of others that do. Pity you are so far away, hen xx

You are not kidding its a pity, judging by the picture that shows on here. I would have liked to see how much more of a pity it is, but your profile is hidden.

"

Just having a bad time with illness, and was still getting loads of messages, so decided to hide it. Nowt to hide here really.

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton


"Mine is set at 35 to 65. I am 61 and am still active but I will always respect the age ranges of profiles I view and not contact them if mya ge is outside. I just wish more people would extend their ranges to include my age.

I meet gentlemen of your age when I am looking and know lots of others that do. Pity you are so far away, hen xx

You are not kidding its a pity, judging by the picture that shows on here. I would have liked to see how much more of a pity it is, but your profile is hidden.

Just having a bad time with illness, and was still getting loads of messages, so decided to hide it. Nowt to hide here really. "

Ooohh! I just worked out how to view your pictures. While I was there, I fabbed a couple. Hope you are better soon and able to travel to Hampshire!!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"

Nothing against the over 50's but some of them can look really old! lol

"

I've always preferred older men: my ex-husband is 10 years older but looks mid-40s, but I've reduced my age range as I too have found some of the over 50s looking really old!

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I have age range i prefer but who says people are putting there correct age!..get lots of young guys messaging me but prefer over 28!

Having said that met a guy few weeks back and went to chams perfect gentleman,we got on so well everyone we spoke to thought we'd been together ages as we had such good chemistry..he was only just 25

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is 30 -65 and I will not go outside those limits. I would just ignore anyone who expected me to justify my age preferences!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our age range is 18-50 we are 30/31 and thought it was quite a reasonable and realistic age range for us to meet people. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is set at 35 to 65. I am 61 and am still active but I will always respect the age ranges of profiles I view and not contact them if mya ge is outside. I just wish more people would extend their ranges to include my age. "

I'm sorry, but why should they do that?

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton


"Mine is set at 35 to 65. I am 61 and am still active but I will always respect the age ranges of profiles I view and not contact them if mya ge is outside. I just wish more people would extend their ranges to include my age.

I'm sorry, but why should they do that? "

So I get to meet them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is set at 35 to 65. I am 61 and am still active but I will always respect the age ranges of profiles I view and not contact them if mya ge is outside. I just wish more people would extend their ranges to include my age.

I'm sorry, but why should they do that?

So I get to meet them? "

But they don't want to meet you...

So are you saying that people should change their preferences just to suit you and your needs?

By the way...the rolling eyes were unnecessary...I understood what you meant-I just wondered if you might be able to enlighten me as to what would be in it for them...not you...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mine is set at 30 to 70 because I genuinely prefer older than me,I am thinking of increasing lower age to 45, a lot younger has never been a turn on for me but wow an older woman still gives me the hots still and am approaching 51 very soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id like to know why people feel the need to message and ask why.....Just because they not in your age preference!

I guess because they think they can change your mind? Before the filters came in, I used to get lots of messages from lads in their 20's even though my profile clearly stated that I preferred my own age group

All hail the filters! Even though some men have contacted random men in my age limit asking them to pass on a message on their behalf as they're outside my filters! "

I've never had that but I did once have a guy change his date of birth to contact me due to the filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine is set at 35 to 65. I am 61 and am still active but I will always respect the age ranges of profiles I view and not contact them if mya ge is outside. I just wish more people would extend their ranges to include my age.

I'm sorry, but why should they do that?

So I get to meet them?

But they don't want to meet you...

So are you saying that people should change their preferences just to suit you and your needs?

By the way...the rolling eyes were unnecessary...I understood what you meant-I just wondered if you might be able to enlighten me as to what would be in it for them...not you..."

I get that with the distance thing on my profile, constantly being contacted by guys well over the hour and I did once ask a guy what made he so special and so much better than the rest that I should waive my distance criteria for him, funnily enough he couldn't say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I have mentioned before on similar threads, age limits are the one criteria on a profile that i don't tend to pay as much attention to, simply because so many people are so flexible with it.

I'm 22, and have had meets with those saying no under 35s, and i will often get messages from those that have actually blocked people my age.

The reason that most people seem to be listing for having their lower limits is maturity. Whilst I typically haven't found age and maturity to be linked too strongly on this site (some of the most immature responses and posts are often from the elderly), I do understand where you are coming from.

I always take it as a massive compliment when older members tell me that they enjoy and find it easy to talk to me, and that they wouldn't have expected to be able to relate to someone my age.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I had a fairly blunt message off a lady of 60 today who asked why I'd set my upper age limit at 55 and didn't I think anyone older was up to it.

My response was to say, that I didn't think to leave it at 99 was appropriate or realistic, so I had drawn a line in the sand at 55, but was not against crossing it.

On the other end I am set at 18 as my lower limit, but realistically it should be more like 25, as I don't feel 18, 19, 20 or so, is appropriate either.

Where do you draw the age line and why?"

Mine are set as they are because I want something in common with people I have sex with. Saying that, my profile puts in a proviso, so I am flexible.

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By *huckandchaseCouple
over a year ago

st albans

Think age is a number, some people look 60 + when 40 others over 60 look good,

Yes i would fuck george Clooney and my partner Helen Mirren or Joanne Lumley !!

Would rather see if I fancy them before looking at age !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer 30-50 but that's not set in stone if the chemistry is there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy is sexy, I think it depends on the person rather than their age. I get told I look younger than my age so it depends on their look rather than what's on their birth certificate.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Sexy is sexy, I think it depends on the person rather than their age. "

Truth!

We were only talking about this yesterday, some people turn heads however old they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Part of the reason I joined Fab is in the hope of meeting older ladies. I have always had a thing for the cougar. To date, the oldest person I have been with is 47, but I would not rule out older. Regarding younger, it depends how mature they are, but realistically under 25 is probably not going to interest me. I find most early 20s women cannot hold a candle to those in their 40s. Think my ideal range is 35 - 45. I love it that there are so many older women on here that love a bit of young meat, but am exasperated to find many more block younger guys. In a way, in today's ageist culture, I find it commendable that the ladies of Fab have not succumbed to the idea that younger is better. However I would prefer it if some gave younger guys a look in too. I find I am often too old for some at 30, but too young for others

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Part of the reason I joined Fab is in the hope of meeting older ladies. I have always had a thing for the cougar. To date, the oldest person I have been with is 47, but I would not rule out older. Regarding younger, it depends how mature they are, but realistically under 25 is probably not going to interest me. I find most early 20s women cannot hold a candle to those in their 40s. Think my ideal range is 35 - 45. I love it that there are so many older women on here that love a bit of young meat, but am exasperated to find many more block younger guys. In a way, in today's ageist culture, I find it commendable that the ladies of Fab have not succumbed to the idea that younger is better. However I would prefer it if some gave younger guys a look in too. I find I am often too old for some at 30, but too young for others "

So you can have an age limit and preferences but you're exasperated others have too because it excludes you?!!

Right...gotcha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Part of the reason I joined Fab is in the hope of meeting older ladies. I have always had a thing for the cougar. To date, the oldest person I have been with is 47, but I would not rule out older. Regarding younger, it depends how mature they are, but realistically under 25 is probably not going to interest me. I find most early 20s women cannot hold a candle to those in their 40s. Think my ideal range is 35 - 45. I love it that there are so many older women on here that love a bit of young meat, but am exasperated to find many more block younger guys. In a way, in today's ageist culture, I find it commendable that the ladies of Fab have not succumbed to the idea that younger is better. However I would prefer it if some gave younger guys a look in too. I find I am often too old for some at 30, but too young for others "

Why is it exasperating? Really you need to concentrate on sticking with what you can get and not worrying about those you cannot.

Incidentally true cougars prefer those in their 20's, guess being 30 now makes you too old for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know, right? By a cougar's standards I may as well be a decrepit OAP.

As for sticking with what you can get. Everyone is entitled to their preference and to set whatever limits they like, but what exasperates me is when those limits are in place due to the idea that young = immature. I am all for preference, people can do what they like, prejuduice or supposition sits less well with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know, right? By a cougar's standards I may as well be a decrepit OAP.

As for sticking with what you can get. Everyone is entitled to their preference and to set whatever limits they like, but what exasperates me is when those limits are in place due to the idea that young = immature. I am all for preference, people can do what they like, prejuduice or supposition sits less well with me. "

So, when you said earlier that "women in their early twenties can't hold a candle to women in their forties" isn't prejudiced in your eyes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people age well and some age badly. I have age boundaries but they're definitely not as strict as other preferences.

Mainly because we won't be the same age all our lives!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I know, right? By a cougar's standards I may as well be a decrepit OAP.

As for sticking with what you can get. Everyone is entitled to their preference and to set whatever limits they like, but what exasperates me is when those limits are in place due to the idea that young = immature. I am all for preference, people can do what they like, prejuduice or supposition sits less well with me. "

Sometimes young does = immature, and that's from a woman who is happy to meet young men. In my opinion they struggle to converse and find it hard to hide their disappointment when I turn out to be a typical mid 40s woman and not Julia Roberts or Michelle Pfeiffer. However I'll overlook that for their stamina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put mine at 18 to 70, never expecting an 18 year old to be here. 70 because there can be few on here over that and 99 looked desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does an 18 year old do if, like so many others, they done want to meet anyone older than themselves?

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

MrsH has set hers at 40, we often get messages saying why as MrH is over 40.. she says that is the reason why.. she has an older guy at home and fancies something different. It is all about choice I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when we first started on fabs i was looking around my own age range 45-50 but found that i didnt fancy any of them much! then started getting msgs from guys 25-38 and ive never looked back lol

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By *obnessMan
over a year ago

york

I put 50 to 70 but that was because i am 60 . Have met ladies in their forties and one who was nearly my age. Once we had broken the ice I dont think anybody was aware of age.

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By *eekenderzCouple
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know, right? By a cougar's standards I may as well be a decrepit OAP.

As for sticking with what you can get. Everyone is entitled to their preference and to set whatever limits they like, but what exasperates me is when those limits are in place due to the idea that young = immature. I am all for preference, people can do what they like, prejuduice or supposition sits less well with me. "

It isn't just immaturity though is it, some don't want to meet someone the same age as their kids and some of us feel more comfortable with our own age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah you are of course right. If that is the case, then it is understandable x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have mine at age 20 to 60 because i think some men over 60 might have erection problems and they usualy prefer women who are much younger than myself, a lot of men who say they are in their sixties look 70 anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does an 18 year old do if, like so many others, they done want to meet anyone older than themselves? "

Go to the local nightclub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know, right? By a cougar's standards I may as well be a decrepit OAP.

As for sticking with what you can get. Everyone is entitled to their preference and to set whatever limits they like, but what exasperates me is when those limits are in place due to the idea that young = immature. I am all for preference, people can do what they like, prejuduice or supposition sits less well with me.

Sometimes young does = immature, and that's from a woman who is happy to meet young men. In my opinion they struggle to converse and find it hard to hide their disappointment when I turn out to be a typical mid 40s woman and not Julia Roberts or Michelle Pfeiffer. However I'll overlook that for their stamina. "

I used to be a one minute man in my early career!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I honestly struggle to understand why people make such a song and dance about people NOT interested in them and the preferences of others instead of concentrating on those that might be!

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway


"Most people stop actively swinging between 55-60.*

We've put our upper age limit as 50 because we don't want to meet anyone older than us (who would?!)

Nothing against the over 50's but some of them can look really old! lol

* All statistics have been made up on the stop and are based on no factual material whatsoever.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"I honestly struggle to understand why people make such a song and dance about people NOT interested in them and the preferences of others instead of concentrating on those that might be! "

Seems a lot more people can't handle rejection than we are mad to believe on here

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

I find it difficult to choose age limits because people vary so much, some people don't look or act their age so everyone needs to be treated individually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can sort by age, why not size? A slim fit 55 year old could be better than a huge 45 yo? Or is size taboo?

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By *aidbackcplMan
over a year ago

blackpool


"I find it difficult to choose age limits because people vary so much, some people don't look or act their age so everyone needs to be treated individually."

well said guys , we prefer to base our choice on the people rather than age .

be they older or younger than us , although the older bit is getting harder lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know, right? By a cougar's standards I may as well be a decrepit OAP.

As for sticking with what you can get. Everyone is entitled to their preference and to set whatever limits they like, but what exasperates me is when those limits are in place due to the idea that young = immature. I am all for preference, people can do what they like, prejuduice or supposition sits less well with me. "

it's not prejudice or supposition-it's experience and an informed choice based upon that...i work with lots of younger people...do i find i have anything in common with the vast majority of them? No...do i enjoy spending time with them outside of work socializing with them? Not generally...do I find any of them attractive enough to want to fuck them? Not at all...is my time precious enough to not bother spending time with people I'm not particularly interested in? Absolutely...will i lose any sleep over missing an apparent opportunity for the sexual nirvana most seem to promise if i just lay aside my apparent prejudice? Not one wink...

I fucked guys in their 20's when i was in my 20's...i think I'll pass on repeating the experience thanks...

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I know as I get older....the limit gets lower

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Ours is set at 18-50.

Personally I'm not that interested in anyone under 23/24, or over 45 as I prefer to play around my own age, but there may be someone or a couple that we get on well with and are interested in meeting, so I've given us a little more leeway.

I will chat to people older than that though, but perhaps not with a view to meeting.

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By *ussypussWoman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo

Having just hit 45 (omg, am I THAT old???) I do prefer to meet people around my own age therefore my upper limit is set at 52 and until very recently my lower limit was 38.

Thing is, I still get messages from guys in their 20s and I find that a little disconcerting as it feels like entertaining the idea of doing anything sexual with someone this young would be like doing it with my own children ... yuk.

I thought about putting the age filters on then realised that I do have some friends on here who fall outside my 38 limit, so I've changed it to 33 to encompass those lovely people and set the filter but I am still somewhat apprehensive about meeting anyone quite that young, I don't want to be perceived as a cougar so I will chat with those under 38 but make it clear that I won't meet with them.

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"Mines 18 - 70 - not for any perverted sexual reason - but i love chatting and dont feel i should restrict chat to anyone younger nor older and as i have never seen anyone on here older than 70 thought that was a good upper limit "

I am 72 and still going strong. I will stop swinging when they put me in a box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having just hit 45 (omg, am I THAT old???) I do prefer to meet people around my own age therefore my upper limit is set at 52 and until very recently my lower limit was 38.

Thing is, I still get messages from guys in their 20s and I find that a little disconcerting as it feels like entertaining the idea of doing anything sexual with someone this young would be like doing it with my own children ... yuk.

I thought about putting the age filters on then realised that I do have some friends on here who fall outside my 38 limit, so I've changed it to 33 to encompass those lovely people and set the filter but I am still somewhat apprehensive about meeting anyone quite that young, I don't want to be perceived as a cougar so I will chat with those under 38 but make it clear that I won't meet with them. "

If you have exchanged messages with someone, they can still message you even if they are outside your filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it matters what your age is as long as there is Mutual attraction!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a similar message last night from a couple in their early 50's asking why I didn't think her husband was good enough...which was followed up with a dig about my weight. Love how I'm not allowed to want to meet people around my own age but she's allowed to shun me for my size. What makes me laugh is if I'm too fat to play with them why do my age preferences matter!

I have occasionally played outside my preferred age range which is why I haven't set age as a filter, but she was trying to convince me I should change my preferences because she enjoyed playing with older men. She was even telling me that if she see's me in a club we will be discussing it further...there is no discussion to have as regardless of her opinion my turns ons aren't going to change after a chat!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I had a similar message last night from a couple in their early 50's asking why I didn't think her husband was good enough...which was followed up with a dig about my weight. Love how I'm not allowed to want to meet people around my own age but she's allowed to shun me for my size. What makes me laugh is if I'm too fat to play with them why do my age preferences matter!

I have occasionally played outside my preferred age range which is why I haven't set age as a filter, but she was trying to convince me I should change my preferences because she enjoyed playing with older men. She was even telling me that if she see's me in a club we will be discussing it further...there is no discussion to have as regardless of her opinion my turns ons aren't going to change after a chat! "

There will always be people whose sense of entitlement outweigh their manners. I probably would have ended the conversation after the first message though - my preferences, my choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a similar message last night from a couple in their early 50's asking why I didn't think her husband was good enough...which was followed up with a dig about my weight. Love how I'm not allowed to want to meet people around my own age but she's allowed to shun me for my size. What makes me laugh is if I'm too fat to play with them why do my age preferences matter!

I have occasionally played outside my preferred age range which is why I haven't set age as a filter, but she was trying to convince me I should change my preferences because she enjoyed playing with older men. She was even telling me that if she see's me in a club we will be discussing it further...there is no discussion to have as regardless of her opinion my turns ons aren't going to change after a chat!

There will always be people whose sense of entitlement outweigh their manners. I probably would have ended the conversation after the first message though - my preferences, my choice."

Normally I would have ignored but I was bored and she provided a distraction for a short time...although I must admit not for long! Ihink part of me was a little curious though to see why she was so concerned about the preferences of someone she implied neither her or her husband would have any interest in playing with. She was ultimately told to go away and play her way and leave me to play how I wanted to though

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