FabSwingers.com forum: Why are most swingers overweight?

By *alentTease OP Man
39 weeks ago

Birmingham

Why are so many people in a dangerous weight category?

Ladies seem to specify what they want in a man, and their lists can be overwhelming.

Most men would like to have sex with a normal weight lady.

Health is important and also most men find slimmer ladies more attractive.

Before you all get angry. Look at the media and who is considered more attractive. Also when you walk around in public. Who will your eye be drawn too?

Overweight or normal weight ladies....

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By *parkle1974Woman
39 weeks ago

Leeds

What is a "normal weight"???

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
39 weeks ago

Cumbria

"What is a "normal weight"???"

Exactly what I was going to ask.

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By *andyel73Man
39 weeks ago

Leyland

Surely it's the connection with the person that matters not the kg

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
39 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

My bmi says overweight. My waist to height ratio says dangerously underweight. I like my curves and have a bit of jiggle in the right places.

Appealing to the majority of men isn't high on my priorities list.

Especially on here

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By *ustincider888Man
39 weeks ago

Preston Ish

Define overweight?

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By *FeistyxWoman
39 weeks ago

Glasgow

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Isn't it that almost 75% of the population is now overweight or obese?

Which would make being overweight normal.

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By *ustincider888Man
39 weeks ago

Preston Ish

I love a curvy lady as much as a slim one, it's about that ooooompfff and sex appeal that the individual has to catch my eye

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By *eliWoman
39 weeks ago

I'm not sure OP but three months ago you weren't that bothered by it.

It might be because the average woman is overweight. I'm not angry, nor am I the sort of woman who has a list of demands for a man. I am fat. Aware of that. Working on it.

Hope you get the answer to your questions soon anyway Op.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

When is curvy now obese? Just saying. I get killed for this but hey ! There some fat people on here nowadays!!!!

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By *LiamMan
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"Define overweight? "
being too heavy for their height.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
39 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Why are so many people in a dangerous weight category?

Ladies seem to specify what they want in a man, and their lists can be overwhelming.

Most men would like to have sex with a normal weight lady.

Health is important and also most men find slimmer ladies more attractive.

Before you all get angry. Look at the media and who is considered more attractive. Also when you walk around in public. Who will your eye be drawn too?

Overweight or normal weight ladies.... "

I'd be curious as to how you come to any of those conclusions. Especially the repeated use of the word 'most'.

I've seen and met swingers of all shapes and sizes.

I've had partners ranging from a size 10 to size 22.

I know men who are more attracted to curvier women than slim.

What the media decides is 'attractive' doesn't concern me at all.

And when out in public the first thing that dictates whether I find someone attractive or not isn't body size or bmi. My eye is drawn by more than that.

But good luck with your thread OP.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
39 weeks ago

Middle England

We've been to several BBW events they are so popular the single men usually end up on a waiting list; contrast that against your 'most men find slimmer' comment...

I'm not sure if you actually believe the premise of your post or are just trying to play devil's advocate.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I think the real question is why do people think they have the right to comment on other people's bodies. If it's not for you, move along.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
39 weeks ago

Southampton

"Define overweight? being too heavy for their height."

I'm too short for my BMI

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
39 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Define overweight? being too heavy for their height.

I'm too short for my BMI

Height doesn't help. BMI really does not scale appropriately at all

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By *lhr1061Man
39 weeks ago

Warwickshire

Seeing as the curvy women appreciation thread is on part 9, I think the OP has got his research a little wrong.

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By *moothstaffspeepsCouple
39 weeks ago

Stafford

I think it’s a British thing we’ve spent thousands of hours on naturist swinging and bi beaches in Europe and you see far healthier people. We’ve been to Chameleons 3 times and most couples we saw were in fact clinically or dare I say morbidly obese. Quite off putting actually so we stick to the beaches of Europe.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
39 weeks ago

Cumbria

BMI s just one tool used for defining a healthy weight, and it’s a blunt tool. In general it’s pretty good but there are a lot of very healthy people whose BMI would declare them overweight.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
39 weeks ago

Southampton

"Define overweight? being too heavy for their height.

I'm too short for my BMI

Height doesn't help. BMI really does not scale appropriately at all

I'm not a big ( pardon the pun ) believer in BMI.... i was just poking fun at myself

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By *ootyfruityCouple
39 weeks ago

andover

Fab should be a fun place to boost confidence, to show people they are beautiful however they look. NOT body shaming

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Surprising how many muscly people we have in our population.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I assume OP would turn down the chance to play with Sazz then...

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By *iss.BellaWoman
39 weeks ago

Wales

Normal weight ladies

Good luck OP.

I'm off to go find myself a chubby chaser to cheer myself up

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
39 weeks ago

Cumbria

"I assume OP would turn down the chance to play with Sazz then...

I’m not sure the OP has had a lot of opportunity to turn anyone down in the last couple of years.

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By *ereforagoodtime83Man
39 weeks ago

I think OP you might have confused what you like with others personal preference.

Some of my best nights have been with the curviest of women.

For me, it's all in the attitude and of I'm attracted to you then it's on.

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By *ithereQCouple
39 weeks ago

dumfries

I'm proud of my curves op and as much as you may not believe I get meny compliments a day off meny different people you don't like it just walk on by

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By *atcherwankerMan
39 weeks ago

Birmingham

I'm always amazed how many doctors with magical powers there are on the internet, who can accurately assess a complete stranger's health just by looking at a photograph of their tits.

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By *ustincider888Man
39 weeks ago

Preston Ish

"I'm proud of my curves op and as much as you may not believe I get meny compliments a day off meny different people you don't like it just walk on by "

You look wonderful

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By *punkyMcFuckKnuckleMan
39 weeks ago

Glasvegas/Kilmarnock

Bring on the chubby bunnies.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Reading this while eating my McDonald's breakfast. Best hit the gym after else this guy will never meet us!

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By *r-8-BBCMan
39 weeks ago

LONDON

Got my popcorn ready

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By *ractorlad3800Man
39 weeks ago

derbyshire

How rude OP

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By *ediraMan
39 weeks ago

Reigate

Wow, what a bigoted point of view

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By *S chanel demarTV/TS
39 weeks ago

peterborough

"My bmi says overweight. My waist to height ratio says dangerously underweight. I like my curves and have a bit of jiggle in the right places.

Appealing to the majority of men isn't high on my priorities list.

Especially on here

Well said, love this response

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Being considered sexy or desirable is nothing to do with weight or body type

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By *rBobbMan
39 weeks ago

Birmingham

Loving the curves ladies. You all look amazing

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By *S chanel demarTV/TS
39 weeks ago

peterborough

"I'm not sure OP but three months ago you weren't that bothered by it.

It might be because the average woman is overweight. I'm not angry, nor am I the sort of woman who has a list of demands for a man. I am fat. Aware of that. Working on it.

Hope you get the answer to your questions soon anyway Op."

Don't work at it to hard, please !! Love your profile and pics.....

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By *mber and FireCouple
39 weeks ago

Carmarthenshire

There We Are Then.

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By *S chanel demarTV/TS
39 weeks ago

peterborough

"I think it’s a British thing we’ve spent thousands of hours on naturist swinging and bi beaches in Europe and you see far healthier people. We’ve been to Chameleons 3 times and most couples we saw were in fact clinically or dare I say morbidly obese. Quite off putting actually so we stick to the beaches of Europe. "

Sadly, you have hit the nail on the head with your comment x

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By *azza72Man
39 weeks ago

Leeds

"Why are so many people in a dangerous weight category?

Ladies seem to specify what they want in a man, and their lists can be overwhelming.

Most men would like to have sex with a normal weight lady.

Health is important and also most men find slimmer ladies more attractive.

Before you all get angry. Look at the media and who is considered more attractive. Also when you walk around in public. Who will your eye be drawn too?

Overweight or normal weight ladies.... "

You’re making a lot of generalisations there, who cares as long as folk are happy?

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
39 weeks ago

Southampton

"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me

I'm out then

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By *rBobbMan
39 weeks ago

Birmingham

"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me

I'm out then

Oh no you're not

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By *eeling0880Man
39 weeks ago

Pennines

For me it’s about personal energy. I’ve been chatting with a woman (in person and not on fab) she’s overweight but keeps herself well dressed and is just lovely, pleased to call her my friend.

Totally love her energy and how she speaks. I would love to date her unfortunately she’s married and I’d never instigate anything with her. Lucky guy

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By *hagTonightMan
39 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *ad NannaWoman
39 weeks ago

East London

Why would I be angry? You've stated what you've seen on here, and possibly in clubs, I'm assuming.

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By *uri00620Woman
39 weeks ago

Croydon

I mean it's no secret that the UK has a problem with obesity.

I can't see that swingers would make up a disproportionate number though. Why would they?

Anyway well done for getting people to bite (see what I did there?).... I guess you got what you wanted from your post

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By *evonrobMan
39 weeks ago

Kingsbridge

Talk about sweeping generalisations! Anyway, one person’s overweight is another’s nicely curvy!

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
39 weeks ago

There and Here

I'm fat. I'm honest about that. People have the option to be interested or not. I'm cool with that.

If someone isn't into me, you won't find me taking a side swipe at them. You'll never find me putting anyone down because of their size, big or small. I don't need to do that.

Everyone has their preferences. How you express those preferences though can say a lot. If you need to insult a whole demographic in order to stay relevant, then I'm going to draw my own conclusions about the type of person you are.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
39 weeks ago

Southampton

"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me

I'm out then

Oh no you're not

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By *hagTonightMan
39 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

I have a 6pack bod. I like all kinds of bodies, variety is the spice of life

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By *exymarvelMan
39 weeks ago

cardiff

"Why are so many people in a dangerous weight category?

Ladies seem to specify what they want in a man, and their lists can be overwhelming.

Most men would like to have sex with a normal weight lady.

Health is important and also most men find slimmer ladies more attractive.

Before you all get angry. Look at the media and who is considered more attractive. Also when you walk around in public. Who will your eye be drawn too?

Overweight or normal weight ladies.... "

What is normal weight?. People are all shapes and sizes and have different wants and needs. Beauty is more than skin deep my man. Its all about mutual attraction. Ive met many people that would be classed as gym bod but with personalities of a newt, and vice versa.

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By *ad NannaWoman
39 weeks ago

East London

"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me

I'm out then

Oh no you're not

But you just said obese level is a no. She's telling you she's out ,because she's considered obese, yet you've contradicted yourself.

I've met her and she's beautiful, but you would have dismissed her if her profile stated she's obese.

I think people don't understand what the clinical definition of obese is.

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By *exymarvelMan
39 weeks ago

cardiff

"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me

I'm out then

Oh no you're not

But you just said obese level is a no. She's telling you she's out ,because she's considered obese, yet you've contradicted yourself.

I've met her and she's beautiful, but you would have dismissed her if her profile stated she's obese.

I think people don't understand what the clinical definition of obese is.

Im officially clinically obese but to look at me even now being under 20stones dont look it. Theres guys that go to the gym that are just ripped adonises and are officially classed as clinically obese due to their weight and height ratio. Honestly i think the op is very wrong.

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By *alentTease OP Man
39 weeks ago

Birmingham

All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?

My view is clear. Too many unhealthy people are on this site. Strange how women can ask for, tall , black, big cock, live local, be ready to drive 100 miles, have lots of money, can accommodate.... Blah blah.

I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.

If you protest you know you're over weight.

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By *ad NannaWoman
39 weeks ago

East London

"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me

I'm out then

Oh no you're not

But you just said obese level is a no. She's telling you she's out ,because she's considered obese, yet you've contradicted yourself.

I've met her and she's beautiful, but you would have dismissed her if her profile stated she's obese.

I think people don't understand what the clinical definition of obese is.

I was obese by definition and people kept telling me I wasn't fat.

Can't win on here, sometimes.

Anyway, the OP isn't coming back so shall we talk amongst ourselves?

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
39 weeks ago

Southampton

"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me

I'm out then

Oh no you're not

But you just said obese level is a no. She's telling you she's out ,because she's considered obese, yet you've contradicted yourself.

I've met her and she's beautiful, but you would have dismissed her if her profile stated she's obese.

I think people don't understand what the clinical definition of obese is.

It was the poster above my comment " I'm out who said obesity was a no from him.... but thank you for your kindness xx

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Duck and cover! Incoming!

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By *exymarvelMan
39 weeks ago

cardiff

"I love curvy women however if she's obese level then its a no for me

I'm out then

Oh no you're not

But you just said obese level is a no. She's telling you she's out ,because she's considered obese, yet you've contradicted yourself.

I've met her and she's beautiful, but you would have dismissed her if her profile stated she's obese.

I think people don't understand what the clinical definition of obese is.

I was obese by definition and people kept telling me I wasn't fat.

Can't win on here, sometimes.

Anyway, the OP isn't coming back so shall we talk amongst ourselves?"

Absolutely lol.

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By *exymarvelMan
39 weeks ago

cardiff

"All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?

I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.

If you protest you know you're over weight.

That my man is a sign of an ugly personality. Be kind to all.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
39 weeks ago

There and Here

"All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?

I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.

If you protest you know you're over weight.

OP you can ask for whatever you want. Everyone has that option, even us fatties

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By *ad NannaWoman
39 weeks ago

East London

"All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?

I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.

If you protest you know you're over weight.

Oh, there you are. I didn't think you were coming back.

Yes, people are aware that they're overweight. Why are you bothered about women wanting someone specific? If you don't fit their criteria, move on.

You don't want fat women. I'm not upset about that; I concentrate on the men who are interested in me.

If slim women can have preferences why can overweight ones have them?Are you saying we should be having sex with men we aren't attracted to, just because we aren't a normal weight?

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By *ex LutherMan
39 weeks ago

Closer than you think

The OP is a brave man with this post and his status and as other have said I have had the pleasure of meeting all shapes and sizes from athletic / slim to curvy women and they all have a place on here

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By *oiluvfunMan
39 weeks ago

Penrith

"All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?

I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.

If you protest you know you're over weight.

Just state your preferences on your profile mate. Not that it will make much difference to your Fab experience, as women rarely make the first move in here, so you can still do your own searches, and contact those who do meet what you are looking for

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By *inkycreamCouple
39 weeks ago

manchester

Fabsters fuck that much we need a much higher calorie intake, op you should try it

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
39 weeks ago

Essex

"Define overweight? being too heavy for their height.

I'm too short for my BMI

Height doesn't help. BMI really does not scale appropriately at all

This is true. My BMI tells me I’m overweight. Apparently I should be a stone lighter!!!!

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By *ampire69Man
39 weeks ago

Birmingham West Midlands

you say most swingers are over weight that an interesting statement to make have you done a poll of everyone on here to eastablish that fact, what form of metrics did you use to corrolate your numbers. its all about perception and this happens to be your personal perception .

Do you recall the expression there are lies adam lies and then there are statistics, while i would agree with you that as a nation we are increasing in body mass , i have known some very fit and athletic high BMI people, its all down to personal taste and preference remember we all have choice.

so my question is does it really matter coulsd some people have the perception that you are over weight or your to tall, or they dont like the colour of your eyes, your hair, your skin. so if an over weight person was providing you with a rather nice sexual experience would you be complaining ??

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
39 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"All upset or just the ones that have eaten all their popcorn?

I just asked why it's hard to find a slim profile.

If you protest you know you're over weight.

Men can ask for whatever they want too.

If you don't like overweight women, that's okay. Move along and find someone that does appeal. There's no body shape filter on the site and even if there was, many people categorise themselves differently to how others would. So it's just a case of manually searching for what does appeal.

No need to try and bring anyone down over it

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"you say most swingers are over weight that an interesting statement to make have you done a poll of everyone on here to eastablish that fact, what form of metrics did you use to corrolate your numbers. "

In fairness it's likely to be true given most of the general population are overweight.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
39 weeks ago

O o O oo

For information, we have rules we all have to stick to on the forum.

https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

No matter what we think of a post we can't attack the person for it. We should just answer the post.

We can't discuss a persons profile unless they have asked for it

If you think a profile is fake you should report it rather than name and shame it.

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