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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've got a meet posted for a club meet on good Friday and it's really suprised me the amount of messages ive had off single guys wanting to meet but not at a club! Does it suprise anyone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

assuming the guys might not have many meets or interest in social/party/clubs etc.and a reason is mainly single guys want 1on1..why do u think many will try getting a fem half of a cpl on their own lol...

remember lots on the site use it for purely FUCKING they have no interests outside getting in ur hole (same for other groups)so the whole socializing aspect isnt in their thoughts.

so nope...not surprised at all

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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago

The Dungeon

Our experience with single guys off here is that they want to meet for as cheap as possible. It's usually a meet at yours, rarely theirs, they don't want to pay half for a hotel, they don't want to pay club entry and if they do they expect a fuck because they paid to get in etc. We're beginning to despair with them tbh.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

If most people won't pay upwards of £50 for petrol or train fare for a cross country meet, then what makes you think paying the same amount to gain entry to a club would be favourable to a single guy?

Of course most people want to meet for as cheaply as possible, men, women and couples.

To answer the question posed in the OP, unless the guy is a club veteran, a one on one meet outside of a club situation is more "intimate" and probably comes with less nerves (or need to perform)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Funnily enough these men have clubs listed in their interests. I thought i was doing them a favour meeting them outside and going in with them so they can get in cheaper !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people seem to be missing the point here, the op states they have club meet ad up not a meet at ours ad yet are been sent messages requesting a one on one meet outside of the club, so whichpart of club meet dont they understand, id delete, ignore and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"people seem to be missing the point here, the op states they have club meet ad up not a meet at ours ad yet are been sent messages requesting a one on one meet outside of the club, so whichpart of club meet dont they understand, id delete, ignore and move on."

thanks you two. i have had meets not at clubs but my last 2 have been and they have been great. and as i still haven't had more than 3sums i think it's ideal to arrange a meet at club on the off chance you hit it off with another couple. well that's what i'm hoping for anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally i always prefer a club meet x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally i always prefer a club meet x"

the one ive started going to is great. lots of rooms, nice and clean and really friendly hosts.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've never been to a club so would be delighted if a lady offered to take me! Mr Nice Guy here wouldn't expect sex with her as part of the bargain either, it would be an added bonus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've got a meet posted for a club meet on good Friday and it's really suprised me the amount of messages ive had off single guys wanting to meet but not at a club! Does it suprise anyone else?"

That is because they want to meet you one on one, don't think they understand what you are asking them to do or indeed want to.

There are not that many men who can cope with swingers clubs.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would maybe be clearer what you are looking for: someone to attend and be happy getting the discount and share the cost

someone to pay for a couple entry and be with you for the evening

someone to pay for a couple entry and not be attached to you for the evening and you both go your own way

It is daunting for single guys to attend a club on their own and especially if they haven't been before and I agree with the poster above, some cope... others not.

Goes without saying, there is never a guarantee to play so I am not suggesting that.

You seem to be very very very keen to go to the Easter party, why not just go on your own and enjoy.

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally i always prefer a club meet x

the one ive started going to is great. lots of rooms, nice and clean and really friendly hosts. "

Feel free to.invite me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our experience with single guys off here is that they want to meet for as cheap as possible. It's usually a meet at yours, rarely theirs, they don't want to pay half for a hotel, they don't want to pay club entry and if they do they expect a fuck because they paid to get in etc. We're beginning to despair with them tbh. "

My thoughts if I'm honest, but then I try and filter out, that sort of bloke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd Iike to try clubs but wouldn't want to go to a club i havent been to with someone I haven't met yet. I imagine it likes finding a girl on the street and going to meet her parents.

What if you find you don't like each other, someones going to have an awkquad night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our experience with single guys off here is that they want to meet for as cheap as possible. It's usually a meet at yours, rarely theirs, they don't want to pay half for a hotel, they don't want to pay club entry and if they do they expect a fuck because they paid to get in etc. We're beginning to despair with them tbh.

My thoughts if I'm honest, but then I try and filter out, that sort of bloke "

Thats an interesting one. I struggle to beleieve that. If going to a club i will pay entryand drinks etc. If hotel i will pay the full cost always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not fancy clubs in the main because of cost its nowt to do with the different rates for blokes just skint lol.

Also whilst am a perve do not want to stand out as one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't compromise on what you want, also don't risk your membership and good reputation at the club by taking in random meets who may not behave appropriately!

Go alone, its much more fun

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Our experience with single guys off here is that they want to meet for as cheap as possible. It's usually a meet at yours, rarely theirs, they don't want to pay half for a hotel, they don't want to pay club entry and if they do they expect a fuck because they paid to get in etc. We're beginning to despair with them tbh.

My thoughts if I'm honest, but then I try and filter out, that sort of bloke

Thats an interesting one. I struggle to beleieve that. If going to a club i will pay entryand drinks etc. If hotel i will pay the full cost always"

that is entirely your choice and it is one that will attract some like moths to a flame....

but as long as you are happy and having fun... that is all that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our experience with single guys off here is that they want to meet for as cheap as possible. It's usually a meet at yours, rarely theirs, they don't want to pay half for a hotel, they don't want to pay club entry and if they do they expect a fuck because they paid to get in etc. We're beginning to despair with them tbh.

My thoughts if I'm honest, but then I try and filter out, that sort of bloke

Thats an interesting one. I struggle to beleieve that. If going to a club i will pay entryand drinks etc. If hotel i will pay the full cost always"

We share that _iew: if we have a single lady we pay, a couple we share and a single male we expect them to pay. Sorry if that upsets some out there but that is our expectation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regularly go to a club anyway so would be attracted to the idea of a club meet. I would also appreciate the gesture of going as a couple and so getting in cheaper. However, if I saw an ad for a club meet I would assume it was to meet inside the club unless otherwise stated so it might be worth stating that the meet involves meeting to go to the club together (maybe your ad does, I haven't seen it).

As someone who normally goes to clubs as a single guy I would like to try going with a woman as a couple. Unfortunately I'm otherwise engaged this Friday (hope you can cope with your disappointment lol)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would maybe be clearer what you are looking for: someone to attend and be happy getting the discount and share the cost

someone to pay for a couple entry and be with you for the evening

someone to pay for a couple entry and not be attached to you for the evening and you both go your own way

It is daunting for single guys to attend a club on their own and especially if they haven't been before and I agree with the poster above, some cope... others not.

Goes without saying, there is never a guarantee to play so I am not suggesting that.

You seem to be very very very keen to go to the Easter party, why not just go on your own and enjoy.

good luck

"

thanks maybe thats where im going wrong. i thought it was obvious asking for a meet as not once do i mention its a social. honestly not being funny but do i really have to spell it out?

we meet, go into club,(he pays, cos its free for me anyway) have a chat, laugh,drink,fun,leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our experience with single guys off here is that they want to meet for as cheap as possible. It's usually a meet at yours, rarely theirs, they don't want to pay half for a hotel, they don't want to pay club entry and if they do they expect a fuck because they paid to get in etc. We're beginning to despair with them tbh.

My thoughts if I'm honest, but then I try and filter out, that sort of bloke

Thats an interesting one. I struggle to beleieve that. If going to a club i will pay entryand drinks etc. If hotel i will pay the full cost always

that is entirely your choice and it is one that will attract some like moths to a flame....

but as long as you are happy and having fun... that is all that matters "

I know what you are saying but the way i see it youve obviously got to a point where all involved have decides a meet should happen and i just find it the chivalrous thibg to do.

I would prefer club meets over hotek or homes everytime and at my favourite club im always made to feel very welcome wether im on my own or with others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should add here though, If I am arranging a meet in a club, then I go, pay my own entrance fee and expect my meet to do the same.

I wouldn't take him in as a couple, nor would I expect him to pay my entry.

Most the clubs I attend know very well I'm a single lass, when I'm in, they keep an eye on me. (as most clubs do)

I always delete those messages offering me, a free lift, free entrance, free couple membership etc. Most of the single men do not realise a couples membership wont get them in, next time on their own. (Most clubs)

Meeting in a club takes the pressure off 'a sure shag' if the chemistry isn't right then we are both free to go off and play with who ever takes our fancy.

Men that wont go to clubs alone

Most of the single men I meet, are those in clubs, without an internet email tennis required

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have on this occasion (because its a party)booked and paid for a hotel room. but its just for me and i wouldnt expect anyone to pay for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funnily enough these men have clubs listed in their interests. I thought i was doing them a favour meeting them outside and going in with them so they can get in cheaper !"

lots of guys have gangbangs listed as an interest..couples as well..do they do it? do they fuck..

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I would maybe be clearer what you are looking for: someone to attend and be happy getting the discount and share the cost

someone to pay for a couple entry and be with you for the evening

someone to pay for a couple entry and not be attached to you for the evening and you both go your own way

It is daunting for single guys to attend a club on their own and especially if they haven't been before and I agree with the poster above, some cope... others not.

Goes without saying, there is never a guarantee to play so I am not suggesting that.

You seem to be very very very keen to go to the Easter party, why not just go on your own and enjoy.

good luck

thanks maybe thats where im going wrong. i thought it was obvious asking for a meet as not once do i mention its a social. honestly not being funny but do i really have to spell it out?

we meet, go into club,(he pays, cos its free for me anyway) have a chat, laugh,drink,fun,leave."

it is all down to interpretation, how I would read your forums threads about the party, your meet request and your profile...

you have made it clear what you are expecting...

as i said before... good luck and enjoy the party

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I guess for a lot of guys, going to a club is an 'unknown' and they don't know what to expect.

Personally I have never been to one so can't give a reasoned opinion. My perception though, just from reading stories off here is that a lot of single blokes wander around, following the women like sheep.

Maybe this was a certain place, just a one off or completely untrue , I have no idea. If true though, it would hold no appeal for me.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Our experience with single guys off here is that they want to meet for as cheap as possible. It's usually a meet at yours, rarely theirs, they don't want to pay half for a hotel, they don't want to pay club entry and if they do they expect a fuck because they paid to get in etc. We're beginning to despair with them tbh.

My thoughts if I'm honest, but then I try and filter out, that sort of bloke

Thats an interesting one. I struggle to beleieve that. If going to a club i will pay entryand drinks etc. If hotel i will pay the full cost always"

Believe it!

I don't meet in clubs or hotels and now only meet men that can also accommodate. I've had one meet this year and it won't be a repeat as he didn't want to play in his bedroom...but wants to play in mine!

Yeah...right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Our experience with single guys off here is that they want to meet for as cheap as possible. It's usually a meet at yours, rarely theirs, they don't want to pay half for a hotel, they don't want to pay club entry and if they do they expect a fuck because they paid to get in etc. We're beginning to despair with them tbh. "

We second that even when we were interested in single guys it was always on the cheap always one drink and go somewhere more comfortable or in their eyes cheaper.

The common one was come round our place for lunch or meet at a car park . We won't even leave our cars in a car park let alone anything else

Lol

Guys get a grip

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Why would i meet someone on a cheap? Never

I worth more than just a quick cheap fuck

If i want you, i will treat you right

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

Andover

Aw...perhaps they're just looking for a cuddle ... and the club might spoil the moment

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire


"I guess for a lot of guys, going to a club is an 'unknown' and they don't know what to expect.

Personally I have never been to one so can't give a reasoned opinion. My perception though, just from reading stories off here is that a lot of single blokes wander around, following the women like sheep.

Maybe this was a certain place, just a one off or completely untrue , I have no idea. If true though, it would hold no appeal for me. "

It's true, we only go to clubs on a Saturday now as we got pissed off with the "towel twitchers" following us about. If we went to the cinema or the round room they would gradually edge closer and closer to us thinking we wouldn't notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its turning into a single male bashing. I think I've only ever had 2 guys 'trying their luck' at clubs. Whereas I've spoken with loads & they have been perfectly behaved.

Some women want every bloke in the club to touch them others don't. If someone in a club is being annoying or to close, man woman or couple I would just politely ask them to step back.

I go to clubs to chill & socialise. Anything extra is a bonus. Anyone that expects something in a club probably goes home dissatisfied

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

It is bizarre that here is a single bisexual female who states clearly she prefers FFM and is keen to meet couples and will consider an exceptional male..

she is one of the holy grail of swinging... and she is struggling to get a couple to meet, and all the couples who say there are no single bi females

it is bizarre....

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"I would maybe be clearer what you are looking for: someone to attend and be happy getting the discount and share the cost

someone to pay for a couple entry and be with you for the evening

someone to pay for a couple entry and not be attached to you for the evening and you both go your own way

It is daunting for single guys to attend a club on their own and especially if they haven't been before and I agree with the poster above, some cope... others not.

Goes without saying, there is never a guarantee to play so I am not suggesting that.

You seem to be very very very keen to go to the Easter party, why not just go on your own and enjoy.

good luck

thanks maybe thats where im going wrong. i thought it was obvious asking for a meet as not once do i mention its a social. honestly not being funny but do i really have to spell it out?

we meet, go into club,(he pays, cos its free for me anyway) have a chat, laugh,drink,fun,leave."

I do enjoy clubs, i dont enjoy paying the costs for single men (I know the reasons why, I am just not paying it).

Therefore if I was to meet a lady at a pub, or even at the club door and go in together I would go (I have done this and had a couple of great evenings).

If I had to pay single man price and meet inside I wouldnt.

Call me cheap (and I am sure some will), but thats the way I am I wont pay club prices.

At least that way if she doesnt arrive I can go home and not be in the club looking silly.

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By *ornishBiLoverMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I love clubs and meeting people there. The more open the better. As I am bisexual I get the best of both worlds. I think clubs is another dimension of sexual play. The public side of sexual play with loud music in the background.

Horses for courses, some men will love clubs and sexual encounters with multiple people whereas other men prefer 1 on 1 or something more intimate. I would imagine its the same for the ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" its turning into a single male bashing. I think I've only ever had 2 guys 'trying their luck' at clubs. Whereas I've spoken with loads & they have been perfectly behaved.

Some women want every bloke in the club to touch them others don't. If someone in a club is being annoying or to close, man woman or couple I would just politely ask them to step back.

I go to clubs to chill & socialise. Anything extra is a bonus. Anyone that expects something in a club probably goes home dissatisfied "

We would much rather meet a single male regular at a club than anywhere else. At least thhey know how to behave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess for a lot of guys, going to a club is an 'unknown' and they don't know what to expect.

Personally I have never been to one so can't give a reasoned opinion. My perception though, just from reading stories off here is that a lot of single blokes wander around, following the women like sheep.

Maybe this was a certain place, just a one off or completely untrue , I have no idea. If true though, it would hold no appeal for me.

It's true, we only go to clubs on a Saturday now as we got pissed off with the "towel twitchers" following us about. If we went to the cinema or the round room they would gradually edge closer and closer to us thinking we wouldn't notice."

so u couldnt find somewhere that was cpls only or locked..

did the guys pay to get into the club?...think they did

just honestly asking, what do ppl expect single guys to do when they PAY entry to clubs?

dont perv?

dont appear ready if an invite comes?

to talk amongst themselves stating how shit the club is and not try aprroaching ppl?

when guys/whatever start breaking rules, thats when to moan..not when they are doing whats within the rules of the club, and in fact showing interest..a simple nothanks is fine..moaning that they show an interest is just ludicrous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think guys are worried that if u meet at club he could still have competition and u may leave him for another?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

the subject of single guys and clubs is always a touchy one...

me personally.. I see it as if you are mature enough to be on a site like this, then I don't see why you aren't mature enough to walk into a club ... but thats me...

people who know me know I go as much for the social side as I do for the playing... if I play, then I play... if I don't then I don't...

some see it as "well if i am paying money I want at least something...." and it is this attitude that drives me nuts....

I've seen behaviour in clubs that makes me shake my head in disbelief... but that is not just single guys... that is couples and single women as well....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd Iike to try clubs but wouldn't want to go to a club i havent been to with someone I haven't met yet. I imagine it likes finding a girl on the street and going to meet her parents.

What if you find you don't like each other, someones going to have an awkquad night"
not realy as if ur in a club and dont hit it off u can both blend into the crowd and find other partners so it wouldnt be a complete waste of time for either of u, as if u meet at pub ect u dont hit it off u both go home end of evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the subject of single guys and clubs is always a touchy one...

me personally.. I see it as if you are mature enough to be on a site like this, then I don't see why you aren't mature enough to walk into a club ... but thats me...

people who know me know I go as much for the social side as I do for the playing... if I play, then I play... if I don't then I don't...

some see it as "well if i am paying money I want at least something...." and it is this attitude that drives me nuts....

I've seen behaviour in clubs that makes me shake my head in disbelief... but that is not just single guys... that is couples and single women as well....

"

I hope ur not taking out of context what i mean by paying for entry into a club and having expectations.Ones that are pretty universal as per club rules.

Couples females appear to forget they are just as accountable to the rules as single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually enjoy going to clubs as i enjoy the social side as well but i would like to meet someone so we could go in as a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would i meet someone on a cheap? Never

I worth more than just a quick cheap fuck

If i want you, i will treat you right"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"people seem to be missing the point here, the op states they have club meet ad up not a meet at ours ad yet are been sent messages requesting a one on one meet outside of the club, so whichpart of club meet dont they understand, id delete, ignore and move on."

so agree with this. i have recently hidden my profile because guys (not a dig at guys but this is the only group that i have contact with). they do not read my profile and waste both our time. sticking with meeting guys i have spoken with and met recently so quite understand the need for delete and ignore

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