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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Am so mad.

The ex has questioned about what kind of clubs I go to. My son said ceroc ones then his dad has asked him outright if itvwas a swinging ckub. Our son is 11. I am so mad he has asked this.

This is what I text him.....

Just had an intetesting chat with our son. He told me that you asked him if I was going to a swinging club in Sheffield. That is seriously overstepping the mark. He is 11 FFS. Totally unsuitable conversation to have with an impressionable child. For all you know he may try to look into what it is on the net. My life is PRIVATE and questioning our son is overstepping the mark. Dont do it again. Ps. This is a statement not a discussion!!!

Come on formities...I need advice. What do I do. Wondering to speak with the policeman that dealt with my swinging stalker about two years ago and see if he will have a chat with him.

Advice needed as very upset and angry.

Hurt _ruit

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

what happened to the last one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may a lot of flack over this but, not really the place to ask for impartial advice is it.

Your private life is exactly that.

You should be having this chat with your EX, not a bunch of swingers.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

i don't know what to say except your ex is totally out of order but what could the police do? i'd have a chat with your son to say that what his dad asked was something he had made up about you? Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your ex has gone to far end of lol xx

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"I may a lot of flack over this but, not really the place to ask for impartial advice is it.

Your private life is exactly that.

You should be having this chat with your EX, not a bunch of swingers."

lol 'a bunch of swingers'? what does that have to do with anything when someone asks for advice? You made it sound like an insult! Z

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I sent the text to the ex. Now asking advice.

Ahile ago I had a stalkervon here and my local inspector dealt with the man via a phonecall and basically threstened him to stop.

Wondering if I should ask for his help again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasn't this shut down before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i don't know what to say except your ex is totally out of order but what could the police do? i'd have a chat with your son to say that what his dad asked was something he had made up about you? Z"

Then prey your son never finds out the truth, as he will then think his grandad is honest, and you just LIE to him.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"what happened to the last one"

Not sure. Thought I podted it but maybe deleted it by accident.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Wasn't this shut down before? "

I dont know was it

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"i don't know what to say except your ex is totally out of order but what could the police do? i'd have a chat with your son to say that what his dad asked was something he had made up about you? Z

Then prey your son never finds out the truth, as he will then think his grandad is honest, and you just LIE to him."

Some times in life the odd lie is ok if it protects an innocent. Z

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"not really the place to ask for impartial advice is it"

Irrespective of the issue, there's a lot of knowledgeable people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wasn't this shut down before?

I dont know was it"

Pretty sure it was, otherwise you wouldn't have needed to re-post it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont have an ex or an 11 year old, but that is irrelevant. Its a horrible thing to ask a child and horrible thing to do to you. What you do is your business in your private life. Texting him was the right thing to do, having a word with the policeman about this wont do any harm, you can just get some advice. I hope your son is ok and that you are too x

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I thought I may have deleted it. Have nessaged admin to ask if I should not have posted or broken site rules maybe.

Just thought this is the place to ask x

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

My son couldnt remember the words swinging but remembered the sw sound at the beginning.

Dont want to discuss it with my son at all. It was him that brought up the chat in the car.

More inclined to speak to the police

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By *ichelle n big alCouple
over a year ago

Derbys


"I may a lot of flack over this but, not really the place to ask for impartial advice is it.

Your private life is exactly that.

You should be having this chat with your EX, not a bunch of swingers.

lol 'a bunch of swingers'? what does that have to do with anything when someone asks for advice? You made it sound like an insult! Z"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son couldnt remember the words swinging but remembered the sw sound at the beginning.

Dont want to discuss it with my son at all. It was him that brought up the chat in the car.

More inclined to speak to the police"

Pretty sure the police won't be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

let sleeping dogs lie ! DO NOT confront him , or mention the subject , because that is what he wants to do , cause unrest , KEEP HIM GUESSING !

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'm not really sure what it is you think the police can do.

Yes, it was out of order, but he hasn't broken the law.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"My son couldnt remember the words swinging but remembered the sw sound at the beginning.

Dont want to discuss it with my son at all. It was him that brought up the chat in the car.

More inclined to speak to the police

Pretty sure the police won't be interested"

The police were very helpful when a stalker was a problem. Thinking of going to the same policeman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"let sleeping dogs lie ! DO NOT confront him , or mention the subject , because that is what he wants to do , cause unrest , KEEP HIM GUESSING ! "

Hit the nail on the head, yes he's bang out of order, but if he see's that's it's really pissed you he will keep doing it

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Was hoping the inspector would just have a friendly chat/warning x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No being funny, and i hope you don't take this the wrong way, but, i doubt theres a lot the police would do in this case! All your ex has to say, is that hes worried about his sons wellbeing with the life you lead! I.E. Bringing strange men back for sex!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"let sleeping dogs lie ! DO NOT confront him , or mention the subject , because that is what he wants to do , cause unrest , KEEP HIM GUESSING ! "

Got to agree- if your son can't remember the word don't remind him - you must be angry but i'd not take this further with your son, Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son couldnt remember the words swinging but remembered the sw sound at the beginning.

Dont want to discuss it with my son at all. It was him that brought up the chat in the car.

More inclined to speak to the police

Pretty sure the police won't be interested

The police were very helpful when a stalker was a problem. Thinking of going to the same policeman"

Stalking is an offence, however out of order your ex has been and let's face it he has, I'm guessing he hasn't broke any laws

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Was hoping the inspector would just have a friendly chat/warning x"

I wouldn't go there either - might very well rebound badly back on you. Good luck, Z

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"My son couldnt remember the words swinging but remembered the sw sound at the beginning.

Dont want to discuss it with my son at all. It was him that brought up the chat in the car.

More inclined to speak to the police"

why would the police be interested? he hasnt broken the law. yes he has overstepped the line massively but nothing illegal has happened.

personally i think the text is enough, anymore and you are just givin him the answers he wants (the lady doth protest too much etc)

yes you are angry at him but a questions was asked and an answer has been given. end of subject and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your sex life is private end of! Your a Adult and what you do or don't do is nobody Business but your own.

I think its a disgusting thing for your ex to be questioning your Son about, especially with him only being 11 year old.

I wouldn't tell him to be honest, would just tell him you go out sometimes for YOU time xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reporting g it to the police is a bit extreme in my opinion. Obviously if the ex starts with more questions or even following you, you then yes I'd agree with legal action.

But that is just my opinion, sorry to hear your story

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I wont discuss it further with my son.

I agree he hasnt broken any laws but he has questioned me in the past.

He saw a lady on xhamster looking very much like me fingering herslf to make her squirt and gush.

The ex sent me a text with a link to the video.

It wasnt me but almost my double but my body doesnt do that.

I told him at that time he was being very inapropriate messaging me like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son couldnt remember the words swinging but remembered the sw sound at the beginning.

Dont want to discuss it with my son at all. It was him that brought up the chat in the car.

More inclined to speak to the police

Pretty sure the police won't be interested

The police were very helpful when a stalker was a problem. Thinking of going to the same policeman"

There is nothing the police can do. What law has he broken?

You could possibly speak to a solicitor but not relly sure they could do anything either.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks


"Was hoping the inspector would just have a friendly chat/warning x"
I wouldn't say anymore to him. Maybe now you have text he might keep his nose out of your business.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

He asked in a text a few days ago if I was going to Le chambre. Saying it was a swing ckub but then I probably alreafy knew that.

With that and this conversation with our son and sending me the xhamster link of the lady the spitting image if me I feel this bordering of disturbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does your ex know you swing if ok to ask?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

you have to remember any action you tae is likely to reverberate on your child. calling the police on his dad could put you in a bad light in years to come

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Thanks all for the help. Sometimes you all really do give a balanced opinion xxx

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"How does your ex know you swing if ok to ask?"

He heard I was having wild sex parties at our previous home. I told him then my life was none of his business.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"How does your ex know you swing if ok to ask?

He heard I was having wild sex parties at our previous home. I told him then my life was none of his business."

I'd just keep telling him that, he's obviously got a bee in his bonnet so i'd stay calm and laugh off his enquiries. Z

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Its more about him questiining our son and mentioning the word swinging to him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How does your ex know you swing if ok to ask?

He heard I was having wild sex parties at our previous home. I told him then my life was none of his business."

So, he could just be worried about his son then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your ex has seen you on here and tryin to catch you, people rarely say things when they don't know all the facts I'm afraid hun

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By *ounggun432Man
over a year ago

east mids

pretty low if you ask me...

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Knowing the ex no. When I had the party the kids were with their dads. So not effectingvthem.

He is just being nosey and still far to intetested in his ex wife.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"Maybe your ex has seen you on here and tryin to catch you, people rarely say things when they don't know all the facts I'm afraid hun "

I wondered that too. His other half is now disabled so he probably doesnt get much and the ex us very selfish that way.

He maybe goes on sites like this or clubs like le chambre where I will be soon. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd also be more concerned if the ex uses xhamster if and when your son is around

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"My son couldnt remember the words swinging but remembered the sw sound at the beginning.

Dont want to discuss it with my son at all. It was him that brought up the chat in the car.

More inclined to speak to the police

why would the police be interested? he hasnt broken the law. yes he has overstepped the line massively but nothing illegal has happened.

personally i think the text is enough, anymore and you are just givin him the answers he wants (the lady doth protest too much etc)

yes you are angry at him but a questions was asked and an answer has been given. end of subject and move on."

^^^^This!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"How does your ex know you swing if ok to ask?

He heard I was having wild sex parties at our previous home. I told him then my life was none of his business.

So, he could just be worried about his son then? "

if he is worried about his son he should bring it up with the OP, not ask his son. children should never be used as a pawn in games between ex's

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Kick your ex in the balls.

(Courtesy of the "Simple solutions for life's speed-bumps" Dept)

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Tongue I have no idea.

Lots of thoughts goung through my head at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Knowing the ex no. When I had the party the kids were with their dads. So not effectingvthem.

He is just being nosey and still far to intetested in his ex wife."

Sorry, just being devils advocate here, but, if my 'ex' was having 'wild sex parties' then i would probably have something to to say to her regarding my kids up bringing as well!

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Edin...really why on earth.

Hope your not suggesting anyone hosting house parties or having a meet are unsuitable parents??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How does your ex know you swing if ok to ask?

He heard I was having wild sex parties at our previous home. I told him then my life was none of his business.

So, he could just be worried about his son then?

if he is worried about his son he should bring it up with the OP, not ask his son. children should never be used as a pawn in games between ex's"

We are only hearing one side here! How do we know WHAT he asked his son! Could it have maybe been, "listen son, do you know what mummy is doing! Have you seen any men coming to the house"? I.E. Worried in case his son has seen these things.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"How does your ex know you swing if ok to ask?

He heard I was having wild sex parties at our previous home. I told him then my life was none of his business.

So, he could just be worried about his son then?

if he is worried about his son he should bring it up with the OP, not ask his son. children should never be used as a pawn in games between ex's

We are only hearing one side here! How do we know WHAT he asked his son! Could it have maybe been, "listen son, do you know what mummy is doing! Have you seen any men coming to the house"? I.E. Worried in case his son has seen these things."

still uacceptable in my eyes, ut then what do i now i am not a parent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your ex gone too far ! MINE ! told the police i had a shotgun in my loft , and my house was raided at 4am ! AND carefull guys she is still on here !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Edin...really why on earth.

Hope your not suggesting anyone hosting house parties or having a meet are unsuitable parents??????"

Not at all! I'm only suggesting the guy may be worried about his son.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"How does your ex know you swing if ok to ask?

He heard I was having wild sex parties at our previous home. I told him then my life was none of his business.

So, he could just be worried about his son then?

if he is worried about his son he should bring it up with the OP, not ask his son. children should never be used as a pawn in games between ex's

We are only hearing one side here! How do we know WHAT he asked his son! Could it have maybe been, "listen son, do you know what mummy is doing! Have you seen any men coming to the house"? I.E. Worried in case his son has seen these things."

My son told me the whole conversation as he brought it up.

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

When he sent me the text a few years ago if the lady on exhamster he wasnt worried about his son.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

JUST ! ignore him sweetie ! and try to forget it ! HE will slip up !!

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By *ruit OP   Woman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I am being very careful to not ask any questions from our son as soneone said I am nit hapoy the ex bringing it up with him.

Ex questiined me about it the other day via text andcI ended the conversation. The ex then has chisen to bringbit up with oyr 11 year old.

Not appropriate chat to have with an 11 year old.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Knowing the ex no. When I had the party the kids were with their dads. So not effectingvthem.

He is just being nosey and still far to intetested in his ex wife.

Sorry, just being devils advocate here, but, if my 'ex' was having 'wild sex parties' then i would probably have something to to say to her regarding my kids up bringing as well! "

Why? Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say to your ex ....... its nothing to do with him what you do in your time ...... and to have respect for you and your private life..... and he is out of order saying this to your son .And why did he feel he needed to do this . ? I would even wish to meet him face to face have to out . As its not nice and I know myself I would be mad hurt and need answers.

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By *eaverfeverCouple
over a year ago

nr Manchester

You may not agree but your son is 11 prob starting sex education. I would say somthing along the lines of remember what dad said about swinging club. Then tell him what swinging is, then say (if u did go to the club) i did go to the club with a friend because she didnt want to go on her own, ?? the chances are hes prob already looked it up. What swinging is. Your ex wil just keep firing stuff at him but if he knows then ex may stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Knowing the ex no. When I had the party the kids were with their dads. So not effectingvthem.

He is just being nosey and still far to intetested in his ex wife.

Sorry, just being devils advocate here, but, if my 'ex' was having 'wild sex parties' then i would probably have something to to say to her regarding my kids up bringing as well!

Why? Z"

It was hypothetical. Meaning if i thought my ex bringing strange guys home then i certainly would say something! Kids are far more clued up these days than we give them credit for and know exactly whats happening around them!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"You may not agree but your son is 11 prob starting sex education. I would say somthing along the lines of remember what dad said about swinging club. Then tell him what swinging is, then say (if u did go to the club) i did go to the club with a friend because she didnt want to go on her own, ?? the chances are hes prob already looked it up. What swinging is. Your ex wil just keep firing stuff at him but if he knows then ex may stop."

I'd say and emphatic NO to this - he is only 11 - way too young to cope with the concept of swinging - sex education is totally different to this. Z

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Knowing the ex no. When I had the party the kids were with their dads. So not effectingvthem.

He is just being nosey and still far to intetested in his ex wife.

Sorry, just being devils advocate here, but, if my 'ex' was having 'wild sex parties' then i would probably have something to to say to her regarding my kids up bringing as well!

Why? Z

It was hypothetical. Meaning if i thought my ex bringing strange guys home then i certainly would say something! Kids are far more clued up these days than we give them credit for and know exactly whats happening around them!"

Why would it matter? the children wouldn't be there - there are thousands of people with children who swing - why should it be a problem here? Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You may not agree but your son is 11 prob starting sex education. I would say somthing along the lines of remember what dad said about swinging club. Then tell him what swinging is, then say (if u did go to the club) i did go to the club with a friend because she didnt want to go on her own, ?? the chances are hes prob already looked it up. What swinging is. Your ex wil just keep firing stuff at him but if he knows then ex may stop."

That in my opinion is soooo inappropriate! I agree on an open attitude towards sexual education and that honesty is the best policy, but telling your 11 year old isnt right. It will be totally beyond their emotional maturity to understand it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately, being a complete tool is not a criminal offense whereas stalking is. The Police will view this as a civil dispute and no formal involvement.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Regardless of what questions your ex is asking your son it's wrong of him to use him to somehow get at you. This is the issue I would want to raise with him first and foremost, I hate it when parents use their kids as pawns like this an he should take priority over both parents.

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By *eaverfeverCouple
over a year ago

nr Manchester


"Knowing the ex no. When I had the party the kids were with their dads. So not effectingvthem.

He is just being nosey and still far to intetested in his ex wife.

Sorry, just being devils advocate here, but, if my 'ex' was having 'wild sex parties' then i would probably have something to to say to her regarding my kids up bringing as well!

Why? Z

It was hypothetical. Meaning if i thought my ex bringing strange guys home then i certainly would say something! Kids are far more clued up these days than we give them credit for and know exactly whats happening around them!"

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Knowing the ex no. When I had the party the kids were with their dads. So not effectingvthem.

He is just being nosey and still far to intetested in his ex wife.

Sorry, just being devils advocate here, but, if my 'ex' was having 'wild sex parties' then i would probably have something to to say to her regarding my kids up bringing as well!

Why? Z

It was hypothetical. Meaning if i thought my ex bringing strange guys home then i certainly would say something! Kids are far more clued up these days than we give them credit for and know exactly whats happening around them!

Why would it matter? the children wouldn't be there - there are thousands of people with children who swing - why should it be a problem here? Z"

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By *eaverfeverCouple
over a year ago

nr Manchester


"You may not agree but your son is 11 prob starting sex education. I would say somthing along the lines of remember what dad said about swinging club. Then tell him what swinging is, then say (if u did go to the club) i did go to the club with a friend because she didnt want to go on her own, ?? the chances are hes prob already looked it up. What swinging is. Your ex wil just keep firing stuff at him but if he knows then ex may stop.

That in my opinion is soooo inappropriate! I agree on an open attitude towards sexual education and that honesty is the best policy, but telling your 11 year old isnt right. It will be totally beyond their emotional maturity to understand it "

Totally disagree

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"You may not agree but your son is 11 prob starting sex education. I would say somthing along the lines of remember what dad said about swinging club. Then tell him what swinging is, then say (if u did go to the club) i did go to the club with a friend because she didnt want to go on her own, ?? the chances are hes prob already looked it up. What swinging is. Your ex wil just keep firing stuff at him but if he knows then ex may stop.

That in my opinion is soooo inappropriate! I agree on an open attitude towards sexual education and that honesty is the best policy, but telling your 11 year old isnt right. It will be totally beyond their emotional maturity to understand it

Totally disagree"

Can I ask if you have children? Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't very nice Fruit but I do feel that playing down the incident both to your son and your ex is the best policy.

The more you react the more the ex will do it and your son will become more aware.

The police won't do anything, it isn't a crime. Going to the policeman you spoke to before won't help either. They don't have the resources to just go and warn people if they say something inappropriate, as we'd all be calling the police on each other.

Its ok to rant on here, or ring a friend and have a girly chat about how much of a bastard he is, obviously when your son is not around, and try and put it out the way

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By *eaverfeverCouple
over a year ago

nr Manchester

I have a 15 yr old son. 2 year old son and 11 yr old step son. All im saying if i was in that situation i would tell the son.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because if the ex isn't into swinging, and he knows his ex is, how does he know whats happening/not happening when he isn't around?? For all he knows she is bringing different men home for sex whist his kids are around!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"It isn't very nice Fruit but I do feel that playing down the incident both to your son and your ex is the best policy.

The more you react the more the ex will do it and your son will become more aware.

The police won't do anything, it isn't a crime. Going to the policeman you spoke to before won't help either. They don't have the resources to just go and warn people if they say something inappropriate, as we'd all be calling the police on each other.

Its ok to rant on here, or ring a friend and have a girly chat about how much of a bastard he is, obviously when your son is not around, and try and put it out the way "

Absolutely - best way to go for sure. Z

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The OP clearly thinks this is inappropriate for he son at this time and she will know him better than any of us. Her issue is with her ex and why he has put her in this position.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"I have a 15 yr old son. 2 year old son and 11 yr old step son. All im saying if i was in that situation i would tell the son. "

wow - each to their own. Z

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Because if the ex isn't into swinging, and he knows his ex is, how does he know whats happening/not happening when he isn't around?? For all he knows she is bringing different men home for sex whist his kids are around!"

Why? She's a swinger that doesn't make her a bad parent.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Because if the ex isn't into swinging, and he knows his ex is, how does he know whats happening/not happening when he isn't around?? For all he knows she is bringing different men home for sex whist his kids are around!"

But why would he ask the child if he was concerned? Seems like he is a stirrer to me and talking to his son about swinging is totally innappropriate - he should have spoken to Fruit. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a 15 yr old son. 2 year old son and 11 yr old step son. All im saying if i was in that situation i would tell the son. "

Well, no matter how mature they were at 11, i dont think any CHILD should be hearing the nitty gritty details of their parents sex lives, when all they are taught at school at that age is that sex is something to be respected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son couldnt remember the words swinging but remembered the sw sound at the beginning.

Dont want to discuss it with my son at all. It was him that brought up the chat in the car.

More inclined to speak to the police

Pretty sure the police won't be interested"

Unless they get an invite to join! Why would ur 11 yr old know wat ur doing? Fgs my 22 yr old no idea ..!!!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have a 15 yr old son. 2 year old son and 11 yr old step son. All im saying if i was in that situation i would tell the son. "

We at not talking about your children though, only the OP knows her son and what is right for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because if the ex isn't into swinging, and he knows his ex is, how does he know whats happening/not happening when he isn't around?? For all he knows she is bringing different men home for sex whist his kids are around!

But why would he ask the child if he was concerned? Seems like he is a stirrer to me and talking to his son about swinging is totally innappropriate - he should have spoken to Fruit. Z"

Erm, he did! And was told it was "none of his business what she got up to"!! Which would maybe make him even more curious/worried!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The question was Does your mum go to SWINGING CLUBS !!

Nothings been mentioned about homelife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because if the ex isn't into swinging, and he knows his ex is, how does he know whats happening/not happening when he isn't around?? For all he knows she is bringing different men home for sex whist his kids are around!

Why? She's a swinger that doesn't make her a bad parent.

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I never once said she was a bad parent! I said her ex may be worried because as he isn't a swinger himself, he may think shes bringing strange men home for sex when his kid is about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The question was Does your mum go to SWINGING CLUBS !!

Nothings been mentioned about homelife "

The was the one who mentioned 'a wild sex party at home'!

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By *eaverfeverCouple
over a year ago

nr Manchester


"I have a 15 yr old son. 2 year old son and 11 yr old step son. All im saying if i was in that situation i would tell the son.

Well, no matter how mature they were at 11, i dont think any CHILD should be hearing the nitty gritty details of their parents sex lives, when all they are taught at school at that age is that sex is something to be respected."

Im not saying go into the nitty gritty of it but by sound of it the ex is telling/asking the son allsorts. Your making out that swinging is a bad thing!!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Because if the ex isn't into swinging, and he knows his ex is, how does he know whats happening/not happening when he isn't around?? For all he knows she is bringing different men home for sex whist his kids are around!

Why? She's a swinger that doesn't make her a bad parent.

I never once said she was a bad parent! I said her ex may be worried because as he isn't a swinger himself, he may think shes bringing strange men home for sex when his kid is about!"

I can see what you're trying to say but the fact is he asked his son if his mum was.going to swinging clubs (not having men home) if he was that concerned about his sons welfare why would he ask such a question potentially upsetting him ?

I mistook your post for your impression of female swingers, sorry.

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By *eaverfeverCouple
over a year ago

nr Manchester


"I have a 15 yr old son. 2 year old son and 11 yr old step son. All im saying if i was in that situation i would tell the son.

We at not talking about your children though, only the OP knows her son and what is right for him."

If you scroll up i was asked by zoe if i had children.i just didnt quote it under her question!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because if the ex isn't into swinging, and he knows his ex is, how does he know whats happening/not happening when he isn't around?? For all he knows she is bringing different men home for sex whist his kids are around!

Why? She's a swinger that doesn't make her a bad parent.

I never once said she was a bad parent! I said her ex may be worried because as he isn't a swinger himself, he may think shes bringing strange men home for sex when his kid is about!

I can see what you're trying to say but the fact is he asked his son if his mum was.going to swinging clubs (not having men home) if he was that concerned about his sons welfare why would he ask such a question potentially upsetting him ?

I mistook your post for your impression of female swingers, sorry."

No probs. As i said, i'm just trying to look at it from both sides.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees


"My son couldnt remember the words swinging but remembered the sw sound at the beginning."

Easily solved. Go to the local baths and join the SWimming Club. Good exercise and it'll be easily explained.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

It looks like Admin themselves had removed a thread started on the same subject.

It isn't allowed to start another.

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