FabSwingers.com forum: age

By *ensualtouch15 OP Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Is discriminating based on age alone a foolish act ?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Is discriminating based on age alone a foolish act ?"

Yes - but then I've always been a fool!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean on Fab or in general ?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I personally believe any discrimination is a foolish act, but if you mean on Fab, people have preferences. There is a difference between being treated poorly just because you're young, and not getting a shag because someone would feel uncomfortable meeting someone very young.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what you mean! For example, not letting an 11 watch an 18 rated movie isn't foolish!

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Is discriminating based on age alone a foolish act ?"

Nope its personal preference not discrimination. its really odd that because people are not what someone is looking for based on age that its then discrimination according to some.

It doesnt matter how good a meet could be if its with people that are the age of our kids or our parents it would very odd and wrong for us.

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By *ensualtouch15 OP Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I was refering to fab

yes we use the word preference but surely not all people of the same age are the same ?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Is discriminating based on age alone a foolish act ?

Nope its personal preference not discrimination. its really odd that because people are not what someone is looking for based on age that its then discrimination according to some.

It doesnt matter how good a meet could be if its with people that are the age of our kids or our parents it would very odd and wrong for us."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its a matter of how its handled. if a person is rude when turning someone down then that is bad. however, I find a polite 'sorry but you're not in my age range' doesn't upset anyone.

I suppose its about perception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really people have a preference

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By *ensualtouch15 OP Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Do you think it an innate preference or is it a learned preference or is it a reasoned preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the person who's preference it is really.

I just find the thought of anyone much younger does nothing for me as with anyone much older.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i think its more realistic to meet someone near your own age . if i get chatting to someone younger ....so what ... the only gripe i have is when i miss the age limit by one or two years ... then you get sent the i know im a bit too old line...

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Do you think it an innate preference or is it a learned preference or is it a reasoned preference "

It is a preference based on societal norms of what is considered acceptable, based on personal experience (not sexual) of that particular age group and also psychodynamically speaking, on what we transfer onto our meets. If for example I may like older men as for women our experience of a father figure is the first role model...

In other words, to answer your question... it is a bit of all three.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me if people think I am too young for them if the reason is that they would just feel uncomfortable, or if i would remind them of their kids etc. I completely respect and understand that.

But it is a bit annoying if people make assumptions about my personality, maturity, or sexual ability based purely on my age.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It doesn't bother me if people think I am too young for them if the reason is that they would just feel uncomfortable, or if i would remind them of their kids etc. I completely respect and understand that.

But it is a bit annoying if people make assumptions about my personality, maturity, or sexual ability based purely on my age. "

I agree with that it happens at the other end of the scale too

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

But it is a bit annoying if people make assumptions about my personality, maturity, or sexual ability based purely on my age. "

I can understand your frustration here.

What I would say - and please dont take this as patronising for it is not intended to be... when I was your age I would have found it hard to understand that people of my current age felt that we did not have a lot in common. That is not to say we could not have a healthy debate on all sorts of things but we are/ would be at different life stages, have different experience of life and as I for one seek/ need conversation and compatibility before any play can take place... I cannot see how I would have much in common with somebody 30 years younger.

Best of luck - you do sound mature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is discriminating based on age alone a foolish act ?

Nope its personal preference not discrimination. its really odd that because people are not what someone is looking for based on age that its then discrimination according to some.

It doesnt matter how good a meet could be if its with people that are the age of our kids or our parents it would very odd and wrong for us."

But surely you only need to add your brothers or sisters ages to the list and it would mean you meet no one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had quite a few mails from the lower end of my age range over the past week. And tbh I think I may have to raise it?!

I'm a single mum and always explain my situation that I have a lot of organising meets is difficult and if they're interested they'll have to be patient. But they just bombard me with constant mail asking when. They like bunny's on heat?!

They all blocked now and it's because of the lack of understanding due to immaturity. Not tarring all younger people here with the same brush, but it's really quite annoying?!

Omg, I've turned into an old bag!?! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at the pysical way a 21 year old guy is too a 50 year old guy..

Big difference

Hence why I'm attracted to the 21 year old

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Is discriminating based on age alone a foolish act ?"
No putting your hand in boiling hot water is a foolish act.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look at the pysical way a 21 year old guy is too a 50 year old guy..

Big difference

Hence why I'm attracted to the 21 year old

You mean like Brad Pitt and Ed Sheeran

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brad pitt ewww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see it as discrimination

I don't meet women but I wouldn't say I discriminate against women

Its just what you like

I don't feel comfy meeting someone very young, that does not mean I don't like them as people, but if I meet someone for sex I need to feel comfy with who im with and I wouldn't feel comfy with a 21 year old

on the other end of the scale im not really attracted to guys much older than me, again I don't feel that's discrimination its just I have no sexual attraction to men 50+ and if im not attracted to them im not shagging them

for me discrimination is not wanting to talk to someone based on age, sex or colour, talking to someone and becoming friends with them but not wanting to have sex with them because theres no attraction there isn't discrimination in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But it is a bit annoying if people make assumptions about my personality, maturity, or sexual ability based purely on my age. "

i'll be honest I don't meet young guys simply because I feel intimidated by them, has nothing to do with maturity or sexual ability

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally believe any discrimination is a foolish act, but if you mean on Fab, people have preferences. There is a difference between being treated poorly just because you're young, and not getting a shag because someone would feel uncomfortable meeting someone very young."

Discrimination is just the act of making a distinction between two people, or things, or whatever. It's often quite useful to discriminate - for example, between a paracetamol pill and a cyanide pill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think it an innate preference or is it a learned preference or is it a reasoned preference "

It's a personal preference, nothing more...

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By *s_4_uCouple
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

To be honest I think a lot of people whosay we wouldn't play with you because we are old enough to be your parents is rubbish.

This might sound big headed but if mrs secret was walking round a club in lingerie I'm almost certain the. Male half would want to play !

Everyone's got a relative same age it's like sayin I'm not playing with you because my cousin is the same age sorry :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Brad pitt ewww "

I'm with you there much prefer his other half

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

Exactly; discrimination in law is treating someone differently because of their race/age etc. This mantra of "it's a preference not discrimination" is meaningless. Not playing with someone young is discrimination. But in personal life, rather than as an employer etc, not all discrimination is wrong.

The other thing about this preference mantra, is that it's a bit limiting. Taste in art, for example, is mostly about preferences, but we have rich and interesting literature going back millennia examining why we prefer certain art. Yes, of course people should be free to be discriminating in their sexual preferences, but it could also be worthwhile and interesting to examine such preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it is not a foolish act, people are entitled to have a preference and also what you are attracted to. I make no bones about the fact that I find younger vs older abhorrent and prefer my own age group, in doing so I am discriminating against some specifically because of their age nothing more. The fact that some are very mature like Hullad for example, is irrelevant, the age is enough to put me off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But it is a bit annoying if people make assumptions about my personality, maturity, or sexual ability based purely on my age. "

Indeed there are guys around my age that come across younger than your actual age so age is irrelevant where maturity is concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest I think a lot of people whosay we wouldn't play with you because we are old enough to be your parents is rubbish.

This might sound big headed but if mrs secret was walking round a club in lingerie I'm almost certain the. Male half would want to play !

Everyone's got a relative same age it's like sayin I'm not playing with you because my cousin is the same age sorry :/"

Yes it does sound beheaded. And whiletheir maybe some validity in your comment, equally it is a reminder that the arrogance of youth is rarely an attractive trait.

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By *ensualtouch15 OP Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Look at the pysical way a 21 year old guy is too a 50 year old guy..

Big difference

Hence why I'm attracted to the 21 year old

utter rubbish x can you tell me what a 21 year olds body looks like ? Of course not nor a 50 year old .there are of course stereo types but gladly not all adhere to those .

i met 4 strangers on Sun after winter climbing and all guessed my age to be under 30 , i am fitter now than 30 and was rather fit then x

i will re iterate , to make a decision on here based only , only on age .does it entail too many assumptions and we all know assumptions make an ass out of u and me x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Look at the pysical way a 21 year old guy is too a 50 year old guy..

Big difference

Hence why I'm attracted to the 21 year old

utter rubbish x can you tell me what a 21 year olds body looks like ? Of course not nor a 50 year old .there are of course stereo types but gladly not all adhere to those .

i met 4 strangers on Sun after winter climbing and all guessed my age to be under 30 , i am fitter now than 30 and was rather fit then x

i will re iterate , to make a decision on here based only , only on age .does it entail too many assumptions and we all know assumptions make an ass out of u and me x"

So why is your upper age limit 42? Might there not be some very fit ladies of 50 with bodies of 42 year olds? We all use a number of criteria to make decisions about people and age is but one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look at the pysical way a 21 year old guy is too a 50 year old guy..

Big difference

Hence why I'm attracted to the 21 year old

utter rubbish x can you tell me what a 21 year olds body looks like ? Of course not nor a 50 year old .there are of course stereo types but gladly not all adhere to those .

i met 4 strangers on Sun after winter climbing and all guessed my age to be under 30 , i am fitter now than 30 and was rather fit then x

i will re iterate , to make a decision on here based only , only on age .does it entail too many assumptions and we all know assumptions make an ass out of u and me x"

For me its not an assumption, a preference and nothing more as I wouldn't assume a, say 22 year is less mature because of his age as I have seen on here and other sites, that age and maturity don't necessarily go together; any age can be mature as any age can be immature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are preferences for age ranges and then there are filters on Fab ... if you have an age preference, fine, if it's absolute, then filter out messages from outside that range, if it's not absolutely set in stone, you just prefer to be looking in a certain age range, but are open to talking to someone outside of that range ... seems to me to be a fair etiquette in these matters ... it all depends on what you are looking for in meets, which might be very different from one time to the next, or then again it might not ...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

This might sound big headed but if mrs secret was walking round a club in lingerie I'm almost certain the. Male half would want to play !

Everyone's got a relative same age it's like sayin I'm not playing with you because my cousin is the same age sorry :/"

And there I think you have it. If the lady was walking round in a club I'm sure many men would want to play and it would be based solely on what she looked like. For people wanting slightly more than just a "play" those wanting a cerebral connection no matter how fleeting age or maturity will matter. I think that basing attraction purely on the physical is great for some but as I grow older I find that 80% of it is in my mind and I need a certain maturity.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"To be honest I think a lot of people whosay we wouldn't play with you because we are old enough to be your parents is rubbish.

This might sound big headed but if mrs secret was walking round a club in lingerie I'm almost certain the. Male half would want to play !

Everyone's got a relative same age it's like sayin I'm not playing with you because my cousin is the same age sorry :/"

We are not all the same. I can look at a young man and think phoar, he's hot, just like I can look at some of the female avatars and think wow, she's stunning and I'm straight!

Just because I admire doesn't mean I find them sexually attractive.

Besides the way I play wouldn't work for me, as I'm sure a 50 year old sub would find an 18 year old Dom laughable!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"No it is not a foolish act, people are entitled to have a preference and also what you are attracted to. I make no bones about the fact that I find younger vs older abhorrent and prefer my own age group, in doing so I am discriminating against some specifically because of their age nothing more. The fact that some are very mature like Hullad for example, is irrelevant, the age is enough to put me off"

^^^^^This!

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Maturity is more important than age for us,,as much as I would like to fuck a 25 yr old ,the wife has,prefer mature women who know what they want and like,ends up a more pleasurable experience, the wife feels the same

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Seeing as people are being reasonable in this thread......

I sometimes come across profiles with very specific age criteria. On the lower end, i totally understand. However, on the upper scale, i dunno. When i see a profile specifically look for people up to the age of 53 (for example), i wonder why the person didn't round up or down. Why specifically 53?

Please note, the above is just an example to hopefully, illustrate the point i'm trying to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! Once people get to know me, they realise..i dont actually act my age. Apparently i seem more older and very mature for my age.

...needless to say, they had me blushing lol

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