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By *ayne_fungirl OP   Woman
38 weeks ago

MANCHESTER

a question to couples, do you both really want this lifestyle or does one side just go along with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

That’s why I started this thread has to how much of it is driven by the husband

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By *uncouple153Couple
38 weeks ago

Abergavenny

We both wanted it, chatted about, and put it into practice. Mr is more active in the looking but Mrs has the final say.

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By *irtyKittenCouple
38 weeks ago

Southampton

It was K that got me into this she was very open about it from day 1.

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By *itSurreyCoupleCouple
38 weeks ago

Reigate

Both of us want this. Otherwise I do t think we’d be on here.

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By *rgasmicChemistryCouple
38 weeks ago

east coast

We both wanted to try it we talked about a ffm for about 2years then got told about fab then joined but we still havnt had the ffm lol mfmfmf ye but not mmf or ffm x

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By *endalshaggersCouple
38 weeks ago

Kendal

Why would people be on here if they didn't both want it....

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
38 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

We wouldn't just go along with it and had decided from day 1 that it would either be both of us or neither of us in this!

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By *SCouple81Couple
38 weeks ago

Between Edinburgh and Scottish Borders

Why would you do it if both of you didn't enjoy it? There is no "one taking for the team" in our relationship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Why would people be on here if they didn't both want it.... "

You'd be surprised.

We've met couple's socially where it's very clear the woman is just going along with it. The guy is usually oblivious.

We met a couple at their house where it became obvious the guy wasn't interested. Which was quite awkward because his wife was obviously having a great time with Mr N while he sat there almost shuddering when I touched him .

Then there was the woman who kept saying "oo he doesn't like that" when I was with her husband.

So yeah, plenty go along with it then sabotage of a meet becomes unavoidable

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Ellen had fantasies about being in an orgy and being watched etc. I probably did 'go along' with it to a certain extent but I have no complaints, we've had some great times.

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm half a couple, we met here, so knew it was something we both were into.

We're still here 8 years later

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By *eart31Couple
38 weeks ago

Broxburn

Both but must admit both are more interested in woman

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
38 weeks ago

Leeds

I very much doubt anyone would admit openly to being pushed into it or just going along with it.

We both want to explore but ATM I'm not feeling it, I just don't feel sexy so our meeting is on hold, when I feel ready again we'll be back to it, I'd never be pushed into something like this, it sounds like a 1 way ticket to disaster if you both aren't game.

Mrs

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
38 weeks ago

Birmingham

It was the Mrs who suggested it. We tried out a poly lifestyle first but didn't have the time to put into seperate meaningful relationships and so, it started to become unethical. We broke that off, had a couple of years of just us and then she suggested something more along the lines of Swing.

We've both been heavily in the kink community so knew the score with clubs/events/private parties etc.

I've never been personally interested in other women. I just can't focus on them, to me, L is the only woman in the room. But adding single guys in has unlocked fantasies and fun that I never imagined. I didn't "go along with it", the idea of an MFM moment has always intrigued me, as soon as we tried it, we both knew that was our dynamic and we've had an amazing time

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By *23RouteCouple
38 weeks ago

Huddersfield

Both !!!!

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By *andb69Couple
38 weeks ago

leeds

If either of us didn't equally want to swing, or one of us had decided we wanted to stop then we would both stop. We share each other's enjoyment, and without that enjoyment there is no reason to continue.

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
38 weeks ago

Northampton

Conversations were initiated by Mr and rules mutually agreed

After a few meets, rules were massively renegotiated by Mrs to allow a LOT more

Both having a great time and thoroughly enjoying the lifestyle

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By *uffnmuffCouple
38 weeks ago

London


"Why would people be on here if they didn't both want it.... "
exactly x

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By *eally_RosieWoman
38 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

I would not be on here if my husband didn’t support it x

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By *eavenscentitCouple
38 weeks ago

barnstaple


"Why would people be on here if they didn't both want it.... exactly x"

Because some people will do anything to please the dominant partner.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
38 weeks ago

cahoots

We are both swingers and it wouldn't work if one of us wasn't really into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Both want to do it or we wouldn't be here!

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By *r K and Mrs LCouple
38 weeks ago

Leicester

It’s something we had both talked about and the things we wanted to see each other do or have done to them, some things we are waiting to do. X

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Both wanted to try it and we both love it, if either one of us didn’t we for sure would stop

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By *amie an ClaireCouple
38 weeks ago

surrey


"We both wanted it, chatted about, and put it into practice. Mr is more active in the looking but Mrs has the final say."

This

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By *astbourne coupleCouple
38 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"a question to couples, do you both really want this lifestyle or does one side just go along with it?"

We are both enjoying it equally

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By *andD300Couple
38 weeks ago

london

D brought the subject up and I thought it sounded cool. C.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Hubby played before we met.. thought give it a go & we have had some good times..

Mrs..x

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By *ilyandronCouple
38 weeks ago

Bristol

Both want it but lily has final say on everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

It’s both of us or none of us . If one decides it’s not right for any reason it stops there and then . We have too much to loose to let it get in the way

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Both in 100% agreement that we enjoy swinging. But it would all stop if one didn’t. As simple as that

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By *irty-pairCouple
38 weeks ago

South Essex

We’re both equally invested in this beautiful, filthy lifestyle. For us, it couldn’t be any other way x

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By *fter dinner delightCouple
38 weeks ago

bury st edmunds/london

We both met at a dogging meet some 20 years ago Ben was taking part and I was there with then boyfriend just spectating seeing what was going on.

I saw Ben in a club a few days after and we chatted and got on and had a good chat about digging a year later boyfriend cheated so I left him and me and Ben got together and I was very interested in the swinger lifestyles so that’s when we made the plunge.

We both set the rules and we stuck to them to this day and our love is solid.

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
38 weeks ago

Thurrock

We met via swinging we had both been doing it as singles for a number of years so when we became a couple it was just natural for us to carry on together

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
38 weeks ago

Portstewart

Was boobs idea originally and I've been liking the forums just wish we could do more but it can be difficult as we've young kids and don't get much free time

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By *astbourne coupleCouple
38 weeks ago

Eastbourne


"Was boobs idea originally and I've been liking the forums just wish we could do more but it can be difficult as we've young kids and don't get much free time "

We know just how that feels. Keep with it, you will find a way (and the time) eventually

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By *ompeycouple2021Couple
38 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Both were on here separately and then got together and naturally carried on with both of us agreeing to it.

Important to have that understanding with one another and do this together

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By *oxy jWoman
38 weeks ago

taunton somerset

we both were open n honest in our dating stage that we wanted open sex lives so we knew right from the start ...

its a good question and its the main reason we have couples blocked as there are so few real 50/50 couples on fab and the scene as a whole most are male led / male pushed and foe me / us thats a turn off big time ... we see it in clubs often too ... its not good ..

even us as a cuckold couple we are both here we have our joint account he has his account

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