FabSwingers.com forum: Clubs vs Partys

By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

Hi just need a bit of advice..I have attended a club before and really enjoyed it once I got over my nerves.

This evening I am attending a party but it's being held in a house. Are parties the same sort of vibe as being in a club or a lot different as they are smaller? I am attending as a single guy…

Hope this does not come over like a bit of a dumb question…

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
41 weeks ago

Next Door

Just be yourself, chat to people, be friendly, don't stand there wanking.

Yes, treat it as the same as a club,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

"Just be yourself, chat to people, be friendly, don't stand there wanking.

Yes, treat it as the same as a club,

Oh god I would never stand there wanking that would look very odd….

Thanks for the advice x

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By *ynamicnatureMan
41 weeks ago

Doncaster

House parties are awesome, I still get nervous at first but the nerves soon disappear,

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By *randmrsbigboobsCouple
41 weeks ago

Romsey

I find house parties a lot easier, as they’re smaller I find it a lot easier to mix with people.

Just get chatting and you’ll never know where it’ll lead

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

"House parties are awesome, I still get nervous at first but the nerves soon disappear,

Ha ha I've felt nervous about it all day

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By *ynamicnatureMan
41 weeks ago

Doncaster

Let us know how you get on dude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

"I find house parties a lot easier, as they’re smaller I find it a lot easier to mix with people.

Just get chatting and you’ll never know where it’ll lead

Mrs x"

Well I am quite a chatty person so as you say you never know lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

"Let us know how you get on dude "

Will do fella

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By *iss DevilWoman
41 weeks ago

Bedford

I find house parties much more stressful than clubs as smaller space and not as easy to get away from people who don't take my fancy. Also, a lot of the times, it's a lot of drinking/socialising first before anything happens. As I hardly ever drink, particularly not in any potentially sexual environments, I find house parties more difficult to engage with.

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By *inLondonMan
41 weeks ago

London

All the advice above - be a normal, polite guest and do all the stuff you would do if attending someone's home for a social event (bring a bottle, respect their space, don't outstay your welcome etc etc). But additionally, don't have any expectation that anything will happen - smaller groups, it's easier for something to dent the vibe than in a big more anonymous club (I went to one house party which should have been fun, but the host had unwittingly invited two couples who'd previously argued at a club and poisoned the mood completely for everyone else). So in short, be normal friendly and decent, plan for the best but don't expect anything, and enjoy meeting some new people. Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

House party's beat clubs for us, they are much easier to strike up conversations with multiple people as long as the host has been selective in who is invited. Generally all will be in the age group we are looking for, of similar level of looks, similar levels of swinging experience and we have 100% play record at parties, clubs we only play maybe 10-20% of the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

"I find house parties much more stressful than clubs as smaller space and not as easy to get away from people who don't take my fancy. Also, a lot of the times, it's a lot of drinking/socialising first before anything happens. As I hardly ever drink, particularly not in any potentially sexual environment, I find house parties more difficult to engage with. "

Yes this did cross my mind as it is a lot smaller environment just hope it's not rammed with people..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

I was just going to go with the same attitude as I did when I went to the club.. don't expect too much and if something happens it's a bonus…

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By *emdomCouple2024Couple
41 weeks ago

dudley

I know this isn't what the post is about, but out of curiosity how do you go about finding party's? We have only ever seen club meets being discussed xx

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By *ythenMan
41 weeks ago

North Co. Dublin

You can just use the events tab- search - then it gives you options of all or specific type meets .. just click type meet you want to search … hope that makes sense sort of .. lol

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By *ythenMan
41 weeks ago

North Co. Dublin

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By *emdomCouple2024Couple
41 weeks ago

dudley

"You can just use the events tab- search - then it gives you options of all or specific type meets .. just click type meet you want to search … hope that makes sense sort of .. lol

Thankyou will check it out, usually only use the most basic searching

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By *ourtney CocksWoman
41 weeks ago

fabland

"I know this isn't what the post is about, but out of curiosity how do you go about finding party's? We have only ever seen club meets being discussed xx"
the forums I’d say I know in the Welsh forums there are parties being added to them most weeks & add your name to that post

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"I find house parties much more stressful than clubs as smaller space and not as easy to get away from people who don't take my fancy. Also, a lot of the times, it's a lot of drinking/socialising first before anything happens. As I hardly ever drink, particularly not in any potentially sexual environments, I find house parties more difficult to engage with. "

Agree. At house parties there are going to be people you don't want to play with. At clubs you can say "nice chatting" then go on your way.

At house parties you can't.

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
41 weeks ago

manchester

We have never been to a club and only ever been to one house party.we went in a room with a couple. The man disappeared Cammy ended up playing with the woman on a bed surrounded by men watching. It was a great experience. We now need to try a club

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"We have never been to a club and only ever been to one house party.we went in a room with a couple. The man disappeared Cammy ended up playing with the woman on a bed surrounded by men watching. It was a great experience. We now need to try a club"

Very nice.

Plenty to chose from round Manchester. Cupids is the best round Manchester.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

I just found this event in the events tab.They posted a watts app number so i just responded and got added to the list…Its not that far from me which is also a bonus…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

Quick up-date the party was really good.Just like being at a normal house party…but with extras if you want to get involved.I willl definitely attend one again..

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