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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right I have just messaged someone asking why they are on here if they are married. And somehow I am extremely rude fir asking that. Was it too personal or are they over reacting to a simple question ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well they could have just said "none of your business"pp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im married and im on here purely for fun as my wife not into sexy fun anymore and once every couple of months is not enough for me and diy gets boring on your own lol

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Why just the one??? There's hundreds of married people on here.

Some as part of a cpl, some playing alone with consent and some cheating..

There are also plenty of people who will and plenty of people who won't meet married people playing alone.

I won't meet anyone married / attached but it's none of my (or anyone else on here's) busines why they're here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Exactly I apologised and said I didn't mean to sound rude but still they class me as extremely rude

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All I was asking was a simple question to get to know them I didn't mean to be rude if I was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

suppose it depends on the person as everyone is different as to what they find rude or feel if someone being nosey. either way your fit so wouldnt worry about it as plenty of single girls out there for you

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By *r and mrs bangerboobsCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

Why is it any of your business why they are on here anyway?

Not being argumentative ....just not sure that their reasons for being on here need to be given. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It was a question to get to know them better

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By *r and mrs bangerboobsCouple
over a year ago

Bridgend

Maybe they found it rude the fact you asked as part of getting to know them?

Maybe if you'd got to know them first and then asked at a later stage they wouldn't have been so offended.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I asked a girl I know very well on here the same question first and were good friends now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was a question to get to know them better"

I presume they thought you were asking it in a judgemental way rather than in a curious "I want to get to know you and your reason for choosing to be here" way.

That's the problem with text rather than talking face to face. Meaning and intent get misunderstood.

In future reword how you ask the question.

K xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It was a question to get to know them better

I presume they thought you were asking it in a judgemental way rather than in a curious "I want to get to know you and your reason for choosing to be here" way.

That's the problem with text rather than talking face to face. Meaning and intent get misunderstood.

In future reword how you ask the question.

K xxx"

Thank k that's all I was doing being curious nothing rude or judgmental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are getting angry over a simple question you are better leaving well alone as it is clearly an issue for them!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Right I have just messaged someone asking why they are on here if they are married. And somehow I am extremely rude fir asking that. Was it too personal or are they over reacting to a simple question ?"

So who are you, the moral police?!! I'd have told you to fuck off and mind your own business!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right I have just messaged someone asking why they are on here if they are married. And somehow I am extremely rude fir asking that. Was it too personal or are they over reacting to a simple question ?

So who are you, the moral police?!! I'd have told you to fuck off and mind your own business! "

Why is it a moral question? Might well be just for practical reasons.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Right I have just messaged someone asking why they are on here if they are married. And somehow I am extremely rude fir asking that. Was it too personal or are they over reacting to a simple question ?

So who are you, the moral police?!! I'd have told you to fuck off and mind your own business! "
For what trying to get to know them a little bit. Iv asked many people this and got good replies back.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Right I have just messaged someone asking why they are on here if they are married. And somehow I am extremely rude fir asking that. Was it too personal or are they over reacting to a simple question ?

So who are you, the moral police?!! I'd have told you to fuck off and mind your own business!

Why is it a moral question? Might well be just for practical reasons."

If I were married and the first message I received asked why I was here I'd see it as intrusive.

I have on my profile no married men, certainly wouldn't contact one asking why they were on here though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Right I have just messaged someone asking why they are on here if they are married. And somehow I am extremely rude fir asking that. Was it too personal or are they over reacting to a simple question ?

So who are you, the moral police?!! I'd have told you to fuck off and mind your own business!

Why is it a moral question? Might well be just for practical reasons.

If I were married and the first message I received asked why I was here I'd see it as intrusive.

I have on my profile no married men, certainly wouldn't contact one asking why they were on here though."

If that's being intrusive then asking how their day has been must be intrusive too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont like nosey people either.

i would of just blocked you.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Right I have just messaged someone asking why they are on here if they are married. And somehow I am extremely rude fir asking that. Was it too personal or are they over reacting to a simple question ?

So who are you, the moral police?!! I'd have told you to fuck off and mind your own business!

Why is it a moral question? Might well be just for practical reasons.

If I were married and the first message I received asked why I was here I'd see it as intrusive.

I have on my profile no married men, certainly wouldn't contact one asking why they were on here though.

If that's being intrusive then asking how their day has been must be intrusive too"

Dull but not intrusive.

We all see things differently, I just wouldn't see asking a married person why they were on here as a first message necessary or any of my business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right I have just messaged someone asking why they are on here if they are married. And somehow I am extremely rude fir asking that. Was it too personal or are they over reacting to a simple question ?"

Rhys, if the question was "Are you married?" that is seeking information and is reasonable. When you have the answer you can decide if you wish to continue.

"WHY are you on here if you are married?" is judgemental and is going to cause offence. OK?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well consider it lesson learned yes it was a simple question but everyone is different one lady was fine with you askin, the other probably found it judgemental n therefore offensive, you can win them all

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


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"WHY are you on here if you are married?" is judgemental and is going to cause offence. OK? "

That's the point I was trying to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact that it seems normal for you to ask such question suggests, to me, that it is more than just an attempt to get to know someone.

I am not married but if I were, like others, I would be asking what it has to do with you because you weren't just asking if they were married, you were questioning what it was that was wrong (or right) in their marriage that brought them here.

What other questions have you got up your sleeve ?

Surely you must have others that are not so intrusive ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact that it seems normal for you to ask such question suggests, to me, that it is more than just an attempt to get to know someone.

I am not married but if I were, like others, I would be asking what it has to do with you because you weren't just asking if they were married, you were questioning what it was that was wrong (or right) in their marriage that brought them here.

What other questions have you got up your sleeve ?

Surely you must have others that are not so intrusive ?"

I'd guess the profile in question clearly states the married status - else how would you know?

As to asking why someone is here? Was there no additional info in the profile giving an indication? If so, the question would appear at first glance more judgemental than inquisitive and the response doesn't surprise me.

It's a bit like sending anyone, married or not, "why are you here?". If they've given sufficient info in their text it comes across as you not reading the profile. And if they've been vague - that question joins "Hi", "How are you?", "What are you into" and "Fancy a fuck/meet" in the list of opening messages least likely to get a positive response.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

If it stated that they were married , would you of wanted to meet? . If you wouldn't, I don't think you should be questioning them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, I really wouldn't worry about it.

Be more positive, some things just aren't meant to be. Forget it and just move on?!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"All I was asking was a simple question to get to know them I didn't mean to be rude if I was"

Asking if they liked Adam and the Ants would have probably gone down better. You would still have been blocked but not rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Asking if they liked Adam and the Ants would have probably gone down better. You would still have been blocked but not rude "

What is wrong with Adam and the Ants?? You are blocked maty!

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