FabSwingers.com forum: Wink etiquette

By *endalshaggers OP Couple
43 weeks ago

Lake District

Is there any unwritten "wink etiquette?".

Since joining we've always thought if we send the wink, we get one back, we then instigate the message. Sometimes we don't want to message straight away.

We've noticed that a lot of people do both a wink and a message (sometimes all three if they send a friend request).

Any winks we receive and we like the look of, we wink back but most of the time it doesn't go any further.

Curious as to what you guys all do with winks? I see loads of people put they ignore them on the profile.

C xoxo

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I wink rarely, and message if one comes back or just srtaight to message. Different folks for different strokes i guess on winking.

J x

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By *od ThrusterMan
43 weeks ago

Newport Pagnell

I always take a good look at anyone who winks me (there really aren't that many) and if they are someone I'd like to meet I'll wink back and follow up with a message.

I do send winks from time to time, but it really depends on the profile, some are totally against them so I wouldn't wink them, some state that they use winks as an initial "ice-breaker" to test mutual attraction so I'll wink them.

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By *att71Man
43 weeks ago

Bristol

Winks are very hit and miss here. Many dont even look at them, but I think they are a good ice breaker, lookm at profile, wink back or message or just move on if they do not suit you.....as I said they good and Iuse /like them but lots do;t

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By *KentMan
43 weeks ago

Cardiff

The way I view it, if a wink is returned, then whomever sent the initial wink should be the one messaging.

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By *batMan
43 weeks ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

When I get a wink, I’ll look at the profile and sometimes message back asking what next? (Using a lot more, nicer words!).

Gbat

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By *ames_HertsMan
43 weeks ago

North Hertfordshire

Just wink at who you like, the response is their choice

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By *winging_couple300Couple
43 weeks ago

Doncaster

We tend not to respond to winks, usually view the profile though but rarely follow through with a message.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
43 weeks ago

Glasgow

We follow the "etiquette" described of of we send a wink and get one in return, we'll follow up with a message. Also vice versa!

C x

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By *iddlesticksMan
43 weeks ago

My nan’s spare room.

I think winks are fun but receiving a wink has no requirement to reply, equally if sending I don’t expect anything from the recipient.

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By *odders88Man
43 weeks ago

Northampton

I don’t get many winks but I do tend to send them instead of messages as I see it as a sign of intent or a massive hint

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By *ealitybitesMan
43 weeks ago

Belfast

I rarely look at winks. Last time there was a thread like this I went and looked and there were winks going back 6 months or more that I had never seen.

I don't send winks or messages but on previous occasions when I have seen winks and decided to reciprocate, in the vast majority of cases that was as far as it went because they didn't follow up with a message after I had winked back.

It should always be the person sending the original wink who makes the first move to messaging if they get a response rather than what many people do and expect the person they have winked to start the conversation.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
43 weeks ago

Leeds

Some don't look at winks, some do.

I tend to go with you if we wink & they wink back we'd follow up with a message and vice versa however we've several people just send a wink every month, we wink back & that's that the game continues - I never understand why they keep winking and never message.

Mrs

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By *wolf91Man
43 weeks ago

Rowley

I agree that the "wink" there, "wink" back is a nice indication to message.. as I'm sure the amazing single ladies and couples here can get overwhelmed quite a bit...

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By *ractorlad3800Man
43 weeks ago

derbyshire

"I agree that the "wink" there, "wink" back is a nice indication to message.. as I'm sure the amazing single ladies and couples here can get overwhelmed quite a bit..."

Couldn’t have said it better my self

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By *cnugatugMan
43 weeks ago

Chatham

I send winks to show interest if I receive a wink in return I'll then take the first shot and message if I don't receive a wink I take it as no interest and move on because dwelling on rejections doesn't get you anywhere

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By *ndisMan
43 weeks ago

Liverpool

I wink if I like someone. If I get nothing back I won't message them. If a wink is returned I will then send a message. If I get nothing at all I quite often block so I don't wink at them again and come across as a pest.

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By *WB85Man
43 weeks ago

Staffordshire

They're pointless. If you're interested in somebody, send them a message.

What do you have to lose.

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
43 weeks ago

Gloucester

We wink to show interest. If we get one back we will then send a message. If we get winked and send one back we wait for them to send an opening message.

Seems a lot of people however don’t bother using the wink system at all.

Kink (Mrs)

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By *lthomasMan
43 weeks ago

wolves

I wink to show interest or if I really like a profile. I don't wink couples or ladies that aren't looking to engage with guys or if I'm to far out of the age range, but will fab nice pics.

I will send a short message if I get a wink or wink back.

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By *ickingdelightMan
43 weeks ago

Cotswolds

This is what I have on my profile. Not that I get many winks, I see them as a nice moral boost.

Similar to a photo being liked

“Ps A wink from me = I like your profile and simply ‘like’, or your profile may be on the fence of if I’m what you’re seeking so a casual wink is to break the ice and feel free to message/wink if my profile is appealing.”

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By *andPextraCouple
43 weeks ago

North West

Dont bother with them at all. Just send a message. It is more likely to get a response from us, and in turn we hope from those we send to

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I have this in my profile. If I wink and you wink back it shows that you have read my profile and that you are interested. I will then instigate the first message. Just saves everyone time. If you like what you see on my profile and you wink back then I won't be wasting my time or yours by filling up your inbox or been ignored. I found this to work well so far

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By *uminsiderMKMan
43 weeks ago

St Austell

Whenever I receive a 'Wink', if it's from a female or couple I will respond with a 'Thanks...' message - which sometimes leads to a further exchange or more, other times not...

....likewise with 'Fabs' of photos - in either case, I don't respond to single males or TV/TS accounts, as I've no interest in meeting with them...

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By *ibLeiMan
43 weeks ago

Manchester

I am not sure there is a proper etiquette, but winking at a profile with the expectation that *THEY* will message is not the nicest thing to do.

If I get a wink and I wink back and I don't hear from them, that's all I need to know about them.

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By *layfullyseductiveCouple
43 weeks ago

ilkley

We wink if we are interested when we see a profile or if we get a wink we take it as they like the look of us so we will then check out there profile if we like then drop a message over little point just winking back!

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By *ot to giggleWoman
43 weeks ago

Coventry

i like winks

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By *ellhungvweMan
43 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"Is there any unwritten "wink etiquette?".

Since joining we've always thought if we send the wink, we get one back, we then instigate the message. Sometimes we don't want to message straight away.

We've noticed that a lot of people do both a wink and a message (sometimes all three if they send a friend request).

Any winks we receive and we like the look of, we wink back but most of the time it doesn't go any further.

Curious as to what you guys all do with winks? I see loads of people put they ignore them on the profile.

C xoxo"

I am largely with you on this OP. If I get a wink and I like them then I will tend to respond with a message.

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By *parkle1974Woman
43 weeks ago

Leeds

I never look x

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By *r SensualMan
43 weeks ago

London

If I get winked first and then wink back then they may as well as just follow up with a message. Otherwise what was the point of winking in the first place?

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By *eeman1Man
43 weeks ago

Liverpool

IF I get a wink I’ll wink back and message saying thanks for the wink. Then see if they reply.

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