FabSwingers.com forum: Men sexuality being such an issue?

By *ames250122 OP Man
40 weeks ago

Worcester

I’ve been on fab for a while and seen a fair few debates about men’s sexuality. It is genuinely worrying how backward thinking a lot of what is said, even on here, a swingers site on men’s sexuality. Why are people so insecure and worried about guy’s sexuality?

There almost seems to be an obsession about it and pigeonholing guys when none of us are here for that.

Don’t I get me wrong I appreciate the importance in a few situations like if it was a straight guy, pretending to bi to be with the female half of a couple. However it tends go ways beyond that most of the time, even with debates of how people think how guys should define themselves. Have we really become that narrow minded as a society? The 1700s had many problems but they were more liberal than that. What’s you thought?

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

My thoughts as a straight man are that I've never once read a thread on these forums where a gay or bi man has had to justify his sexuality.

I've read plenty of comments about individual experiences but not a single one where a gay or bi man has been challenged for saying he is gay or bi.

Hardly a day goes by though where straight men aren't challenged.

I have lost count of the number of times I have been told I'm afraid to explore my sexuality or that I'm narrow minded.

I've even seen threads claiming that everyone is bisexual but some are reluctant to admit it.

A woman says she has no interest in other women and she is encouraged to continue to express herself as such by everyone apart from those couples who are seeking a unicorn and expect every woman to be bi.

A man says he has no interest in other men and in many cases is mocked and an "ah but what if?" response by some or suggestions of being fab straight.

I've been accused of being over defensive in regards to being straight but the reasons are listed above.

I've never ever challenged anyone on here about their sexuality or preferences and never will and I'm still waiting on someone to explain why straight people are the only ones who have to explain their choices.

I'm not for one second claiming that bi or gay people don't face challenges but on fab I've never seen anyone having to publicly justify why they are bi or gay.

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By *ames250122 OP Man
40 weeks ago

Worcester

"My thoughts as a straight man are that I've never once read a thread on these forums where a gay or bi man has had to justify his sexuality.

I've read plenty of comments about individual experiences but not a single one where a gay or bi man has been challenged for saying he is gay or bi.

Hardly a day goes by though where straight men aren't challenged.

I have lost count of the number of times I have been told I'm afraid to explore my sexuality or that I'm narrow minded.

I've even seen threads claiming that everyone is bisexual but some are reluctant to admit it.

A man says he has no interest in other men and in many cases is mocked and an "ah but what if?" response by some or suggestions of being fab straight.

I've been accused of being over defensive in regards to being straight but the reasons are listed above.

I'm not for one second claiming that bi or gay people don't face challenges but on fab I've never seen anyone having to publicly justify why they are bi or gay. "

Yeah I’m the same, I’d never dream of questioning and challenging someone sexuality.

I completely agree, from what I’ve seen only straight guys are challenged on their sexuality. Which seems to happen a lot with a lot of people really paranoid about the guy being straight or etc. It reminds me of high school a bit. Like you, not saying being gay or bi doesn’t have its on problem.

Why a guy’s sexuality is of such concern though if they’ve expressed an interest or stated one thing on their profile but have verifications of trying something else or shown any slight deviation is beyond me.

Like wise as you mention about being mocked or closed minded if you say you have no interest ever trying something with another guy but if you did actually try something, even as a one off and tame as you like as soon as people know you’ll have everyone come down on you for saying your straight but did this. Seems madness to and wish someone could explain it to me as well, cos it just seems guys get a lot of unnecessary stick about this

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