FabSwingers.com forum: all the good men are taken ....

By *oxy j OP Woman
46 weeks ago

somerset

so as so many women say and as i heard today from vanilla women at work is there any truth in this these are single ladys looking for love i know but is it the same swinging wise are all the good people taken and as they say whats left is the undatable for whatever that means ..

so forget dating for a sec and look at it from a swinging only point of view are all the good people taken ??

me i think its a impossible question to answer yes there will be a element of undesirables but so many choose to be single so many .. choose careers so many just choose a different path for so many reasons and lets not for get the very high divorce rate... whats your view

this goes both ways ive only said guys as that was the convo but its open to all

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
46 weeks ago

Stockport

I can assert confidently that all the good trans women are _not_ taken. Because I'm still available to ladies who like trans, and I'm definitely a good one. Intelligent, charming, adequate looking... Can cook, change lightbulbs, mend plumbing, and lend you a pair of stockings when yours are all laddered... Useful in bed for keeping warm on cold nights... Have own DoggingBlanket™, can travel...

Last Polly Chromatic in the shop, get now before all are taken...

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By *cLovin2Man
46 weeks ago

Reading

"so as so many women say and as i heard today from vanilla women at work is there any truth in this these are single ladys looking for love i know but is it the same swinging wise are all the good people taken and as they say whats left is the undatable for whatever that means ..

so forget dating for a sec and look at it from a swinging only point of view are all the good people taken ??

this goes both ways ive only said guys as that was the convo but its open to all"

It's a common misnomer, in my extended family I was regarded as "the catch" I got married, I got divorced. So as one of the "good ones" even some of us end up looking for new relationships, the idea that the good ones only get snapped up, but never have a relationship end is foolish.

It tends to be women who are dissatisfied with the quality of men they are meeting. But I think it's more to do with the method of finding a partner. I remember a woman complaining about the men she ended up with, but her method of finding them was to go down the pub! What do you expect to find there? Mr Darcy?

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By *ickie76XXXMan
46 weeks ago

dartford

so forget dating for a sec and look at it from a swinging only point of view are all the good people taken ??

this goes both ways ive only said guys as that was the convo but its open to all

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Oooww to why are long messages, not for me ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

As I get older I find I'm less tolerant. The same with women partners. I don't this we are willing to compromise as much as we did when younger

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By *icecouple561Couple
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46 weeks ago

East Sussex

I doubt all the good people are taken. There are good people who don't want a relationship.

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By *hil most chillMan
46 weeks ago

South East & Europe

I'll expand on this theory by suggesting all the worst men are taken too

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
46 weeks ago

IPSWICH

If this statement is true I'll take offence.

I'm rarely taken.

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By *rispyDuckMan
46 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I think anyone who thinks like this is either ‘toxic & lacks self esteem’ in my humble opinion lol

let me explain.

Just because ‘the people they desire are taken’ it’s cruel to say what’s left on offer are undesirables.

Because by their own logic ‘they are an undesirable too’ because they are still single haha

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By *lixir of lifeMan
46 weeks ago

knob Creek

Through my time on dating sites, unfortunately this could be true ..

The horror stories I’ve been told are unbelievable..

I was just a nice guy and found dating absolutely stunning ladies easy ..

Be nice guys ..

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By *r_reusMan
46 weeks ago

Coventry

Whenever I hear women ask that question I always find myself wondering

'Do you see yourself as a good woman, who deserves a good man?'

We'll assume that these 'good men' have something that women want, so, what are you offering them in return?

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

There's a hell of a lot of good guys out there. But sadly I feel like a lot of us aren't given the time of day or we get tarred with the same brush because of the bad ones

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

I think it depends if both parties are 'good' if not, then one has to go.

I also think you have to put the work in on self development othetwise you'll atract the same person who just looks different.

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By *rowley616Man
46 weeks ago

Scarborough

My last relationship was 21 years long and it informed my entire life. The woman I loved for two decades. Cheated on me last year then left.

So yeah there are great men out there. Women just aren't looking for good men. They are looking for an ideal they have no right to demand.

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By *tevieboyyyMan
46 weeks ago

Waterlooville

Loving someone does not have to be about having an intimate relationship with them.

I love my partner, and I love my platonic friends, on the friends front have one I love (she loves me) and a few others who I have varying commitment from fondness to a lot of fondness.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
46 weeks ago

Chichester

"There's a hell of a lot of good guys out there. But sadly I feel like a lot of us aren't given the time of day or we get tarred with the same brush because of the bad ones"

That’s life in general all getting tarred with a brush. I as a trans woman have this the last few years since the explosion in trans activism online. Now many people just think we are perverts / mentally not right looking to convert kids into this so called cult lol

It’s wild indeed so yes it a thing the bad guys can affect good guys to some degree but then you can just look to move in more productive circles I find

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By *icecouple561Couple
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46 weeks ago

East Sussex

"My last relationship was 21 years long and it informed my entire life. The woman I loved for two decades. Cheated on me last year then left.

So yeah there are great men out there. Women just aren't looking for good men. They are looking for an ideal they have no right to demand."

I'm sorry you've had a horrible experience that's left you hurt.

However your last sentence is not true of all women

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By *issmorganWoman
46 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

No I don't think it's true really.

Look how many taken men are on here behind someone's back or slating their partners in the forums for no sex etc.

Yes some good men will be taken, lots are single too though. Perhaps some men don't want a relationship or have been hurt by past relationships.

I don't think being married or I a relationship is a way to measure how good a man is.

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By *issmorganWoman
46 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Just to say, it applies to women too^

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
46 weeks ago

Neath valley.

I have found my good man. But it was not on here. We both talked about our past experiences and swinging was one we both had done. Rest is history. No way in hell am I going to lose this one as he is my lottery win relationships wise. They are out there ladies but I only know a few of our friends on here who actually met on a swinging site. Most guys who contact us show so little respect they would definitely not be for me relationship wise but there are tidy ones we have played with who might be if they were looking for long-term with a lady.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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46 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

In terms of swinging I don't think it's particularly easy to find 'good' men or women, or couples, bor should it ever be.

If your primary mechanism is online interaction then it's very easy for someone to come across as 'good' using words and images. The word 'genuine' is thrown around so often it's meaningless. People will say what they think the other party wants to hear to get the result they seek.

You only find out more about someone in person. Hence the common advice of 'clubs and socials'.

In addition what's the definition of 'good'?

As for 'are the good ones taken'? In a swinging sense I don't think that's all that relevant. Couples are obviously partnered. Singles may not wish to have a more traditional relationship and want to remain single, or be happy in an ENM lifestyle, so the fact they're 'taken' in the sense of having a partner or partners doesn't impact their interactions in swinging.

The truth is until you've got to know someone better through face to face interaction, you'll never know if they fir your definition of 'good' or not.

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
46 weeks ago

Durham

Im sure there are good people they are just outnumbered by the clueless ones.

I had a message yesterday from a guy who was complaining about the site in his status . His msg was "fancy a meet" its the third such message I've had from him .

This is the reason guys can't get a meet. The guys with a personality, who can hold a conversation are meeting people x

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

People can withdraw from meeting..and go off grid/monk mode..and take themselves out from meeting, instead of being taken by someone else.

I've done this for years at a time.

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