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By (user no longer on site) OP   
43 weeks ago

So I’m in the gym and a woman has just walked past me a few times, nothing in it at all…but she smells amazing, we have barely looked at each other but her perfume is all I can smell.

My question is…can I tell her that or is that seen as “gym creepy”??

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
43 weeks ago

Next Door

I would find that weird and creepy, others might not.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
43 weeks ago

andover

I would sometimes say something as a passing compliment and leave it at that, however in the setting of a gym, I wouldn’t, she’s there to work out, so might come across a bit weird

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Depends if she is wearing headphones and looks like she wants approaching.

But personally, I wouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I always comment if people smell good, male or female. Same as if someone is wear a cool pair of glasses I will ask where they are from. It’s a good thing to make positive comments to someone, they maybe having a shit day, you saying something positive may turn their day round .

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By *lik and PaulCouple
43 weeks ago

cahoots


"I always comment if people smell good, male or female. Same as if someone is wear a cool pair of glasses I will ask where they are from. It’s a good thing to make positive comments to someone, they maybe having a shit day, you saying something positive may turn their day round . "

Absolutely this...why not give someone a genuine compliment, it's a kind thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
43 weeks ago

I ask because I’m same, I’m there to wrk and I ignore most people when I’m there and it’s rare that I notice people.

In any other setting I wouldn’t hesitate to tell her she smelt good….but I said nothing.

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
43 weeks ago

Gloucester

As a lady who’s had guys come up to her in the gym please don’t say anything. It’s creepy and makes us not want to go back to the gym (I actually stopped going) we are there to work out not get hit on.

Kink (Mrs)

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By *r_selfridge999Man
43 weeks ago

cannock

Society is becoming a horrible place if you can’t pay someone an innocent compliment nowadays without it getting sexualised or taken as your a creep

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
43 weeks ago

Bristol

At best, you could probably get away with complimenting her on her perfume and asking what it is. Then no further.

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By *ellinever70Woman
43 weeks ago

Ayrshire


"Society is becoming a horrible place if you can’t pay someone an innocent compliment nowadays without it getting sexualised or taken as your a creep "

I think it's less horrible when people realise their right to comment on how someone looks or smells isn't always welcome or appropriate

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By *otuseater11Man
43 weeks ago

kilwinning


"Society is becoming a horrible place if you can’t pay someone an innocent compliment nowadays without it getting sexualised or taken as your a creep "
definitely agree with you how we can't give someone male or female a compliant these days or its taken as creepy .shows how society is these days such a shame

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By *r_selfridge999Man
43 weeks ago

cannock

Granted, but since when has it been a bad thing to compliment people, if we’re working out and someone passing by compliment by saying something like “looking good bud keep up the good work” it would probs make my day. Nothing in my head would automatically think ohh there being a creep and after me..

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By *ussraneCouple
43 weeks ago

Romford

Turn round to another male who you know and say can you smell that perfume ? someone smells gorgeous today obviously within earshot of said lady.

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By *ellinever70Woman
43 weeks ago

Ayrshire


"Granted, but since when has it been a bad thing to compliment people, if we’re working out and someone passing by compliment by saying something like “looking good bud keep up the good work” it would probs make my day. Nothing in my head would automatically think ohh there being a creep and after me.. "

Can you see how, at the very least, it might make someone uncomfortable and put them in a position where they feel they'd need to reply when they'd really rather be left alone to go about their business?

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Do not approach girls in the gym they are not looking to be chatted up they are there to train if she wants to talk to you she will let you know

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
43 weeks ago

East Sussex

It's never been wrong to genuinely compliment someone *with no hidden agenda, in an appropriate setting, without making them feel uncomfortable*.

If you are wondering if you should...don't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
43 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Granted, but since when has it been a bad thing to compliment people, if we’re working out and someone passing by compliment by saying something like “looking good bud keep up the good work” it would probs make my day. Nothing in my head would automatically think ohh there being a creep and after me.. "

That's probably because you haven't experienced the 'compliments ' some of us women have. It tends to make you wary especially if you're somewhere where you want to just get on with whatever you're doing e.g. work, gym, reading a book on public transport.

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By *imisugarWoman
43 weeks ago

Rugby

I'll be honest, I would probably find it creepy from a man I wasn't speaking to but wouldn't from a woman if she approached in the same way.

Just a perception thing. Maybe see if you can get her attention with a smile first.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

See the thing is there is ways of approaching girls in the gym and ways of not doing it and telling her how nice she smells is definitely a not if you really want to talk to her wait till she is having problems removing weight that the men have left on the leg press or she could do with a spotter plenty of girls ask for help in our gym you just have to pick the right time

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By *inkForLifeCouple
43 weeks ago

North Shields

The fact you need to ask answers that question. You just need to look at social media to know what a hard time women can have at a gym, why make it any harder for her.

Saying she smells nice is effectively chatting her up.

If a women said you smelt nice, you'd not assume it was an innocent compliment.

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By *M60Couple
43 weeks ago

Central Scotland

Im the hoodie up headphones on outside it so no distractions im there to lift a female could walk past in a bikini and i probably wouldnt notice !

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Just ask ! I typed way more stuff but then even I thought it sounded weird!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
43 weeks ago

Honestly…it was never a way to hit on her.

She smelt good and that was it, I’m glad I didn’t say anything.

I shall continue to ignore all people in the gym.

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