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By *otwife and Master OP   Couple
40 weeks ago

Derby

Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x

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By *uke OzadeMan
40 weeks ago

Ho Chi Minge City

I’d never not turn up to an enthusiastic nosh!

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By *oxy jWoman
40 weeks ago

somerset

no they dont they give themselves a bad name they dont affect others most of us know not to tar all with the same brush ...

bad behaviour promotes those with good behaviour just a little bit more ...

you got let down by people who never intended to meet in the first place properly with cock in hand at the time ... if you keep getting let downs then its time to sit back and think why are you attracting these timewasters maybe change how you select meets most of these timewasters are easy to spot ....

things like gangbangs / blowbangs /orgy / large gatherings that involves lots of men have always been a very 50/50 thing with most couples who organise them doubling the amount wanted ie you want 10 guys then go for 20 or more ... done the right way its do a ble but there will always be let downs ....

and another thing if its to easy to arrange then its more than likely to fail...

i feel your pain op i really do but these guys do not ruin it for others all that talk does is encourage guys who are getting nowhere to hide behind that excuse ...

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By *hogun300Man
40 weeks ago

Dundee

No such thing. Guys showing bad behaviour on here whatever that is isca reflection on them and no one else. Good guys stand out. You can only control yourself and not others behaviour.

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By *lthomasMan
40 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Good guys do stand out, with good communication, conversation and the quality of their verifications.

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By *orny-DJMan
40 weeks ago

Leigh-on-Sea

Usually a thread with a title like this is from a single guy complaining about why he's not getting any meets, so certainly refreshing to see a completely different angle.

I must admit to being somewhat bemused by the 'called into work' excuses as yesterday was a bank holiday, so seems incredibly unlikely.

I suspect that in most cases a lot of these guys are all talk and no trousers, or they get a sudden attack of nerves and maybe assume that if they don't turn up, at least you have plenty of other guys there and so won't miss them - when in reality, if they all think like this, you end up with nobody showing up.

Can't really speak for other men, but if I've said that I'd be coming but for some reason changed my mind, I'd at least be honest with you about it, but then again, I'm the sort of person who doesn't like to let anyone down so would be more likely to turn up.

Sorry you had to experience this though. Better luck next time

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By *IG G77Man
40 weeks ago

GATLEY

Ruins it for genuine ones

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By *issmorganWoman
40 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I guess it's a good filter, you can either block them or put private notes on their profiles.

People do tend to tar blokes with the same brush, but I do feel that the decent ones do really stand out on here.

Some probably had no intention 0f ever meeting, some got cold feet and maybe one or 2 weren't able to get away from their partners.

It's a shame, but at least they let you know,too late to probably get replacements though.

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By *ewsexycplCouple
40 weeks ago

Staffordshire

All the same nearly, the rule is 95% are dreamers and wanking over the thought.

We had the same with a single guy meet, nearly gave up in the end as you think it's you at fault (fat,ugly, unprofessional etc)

Clearly there's things you can put in place to help like what's app calls etc.

We have ended up with doing single guy meets at clubs, much easier to socialise, get a vibe and invite to a room etc x

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By *dc1Man
40 weeks ago

essex and all over the south

I went to a gangbang last year. 10 men was invited. Only 2 of us turned up. It was ok thow as it was meant to have been us all wanking and cuming on her. We both got to fuck her instead. Not the point thow is it.

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By *26StitchMan
40 weeks ago

Hucknall

Are negative verifications a thing here? Sorry, I'm relatively new.

I did offer, I definitely would have shown.

Perhaps the site needs a reliability score to out the time wasters, which I've heard elsewhere are a problem.

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By *tanlee1512Man
40 weeks ago

Epsom

Gives reliable guys a bad name and often never given a chance unfortunately

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By *hogun300Man
40 weeks ago

Dundee


"Ruins it for genuine ones "

Nonsense.

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By *alandNitaCouple
40 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

I don't think the situation the OP mentions or the behaviour of any other man "ruins it for the good guys".

If anything, I would say that the poor behaviour of such men makes the others stand out.

In the OPs case no doubt they will use different and more rigorous selection criteria to ensure that at least some men turn up next time.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I'm actually astonished

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By *otwife and Master OP   Couple
40 weeks ago

Derby


"I don't think the situation the OP mentions or the behaviour of any other man "ruins it for the good guys".

If anything, I would say that the poor behaviour of such men makes the others stand out.

In the OPs case no doubt they will use different and more rigorous selection criteria to ensure that at least some men turn up next time.

Nita"

We have been on here a long time and believe me our selection criteria is extremely rigorous! It couldn’t be any tighter. Our point is that no matter how selective you are, some will always disappoint and when men moan about not getting a chance, some have it handed on a plate and aren’t man enough to walk the walk, after talking the talk!

We don’t like moany whiny people and it certainly won’t put us off but it did call for a small rant and I for one feel much better now!

HW x

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By *otwife and Master OP   Couple
40 weeks ago

Derby


"I'm actually astonished "

That was our point. So were we!

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By *eeper ThanMan
40 weeks ago

Dartford


"I don't think the situation the OP mentions or the behaviour of any other man "ruins it for the good guys".

If anything, I would say that the poor behaviour of such men makes the others stand out.

In the OPs case no doubt they will use different and more rigorous selection criteria to ensure that at least some men turn up next time.

Nita

We have been on here a long time and believe me our selection criteria is extremely rigorous! It couldn’t be any tighter. Our point is that no matter how selective you are, some will always disappoint and when men moan about not getting a chance, some have it handed on a plate and aren’t man enough to walk the walk, after talking the talk!

We don’t like moany whiny people and it certainly won’t put us off but it did call for a small rant and I for one feel much better now!

HW x"

Glad the rant has cheered you up , it does annoy me hearing these story’s more because these guys get the opportunity for a no strings fun and throw it away, when the good ones get overlooked away plus it’s super selfish as well people have busy life’s and make plans they only think of themselves in the situation

Glad it hasn’t put you off though ( shame I’m not closer ha ha I’d have thrown my name in the hat . )

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
40 weeks ago

Sheffield

You can’t blame anyone for your experiences on fab…but yourself.

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By *eedsortingMan
40 weeks ago

Radley

Like others, I’m quite taken aback that none of them turned! A fine dining experience truly missed. I can also fully understand your frustration op and the need to have a little rant about it. It’s a real kicker when you’ve gone to the trouble of setting things up that will not only satisfy you, but will also give all of the others a great time and then you get left high and dry. Hope you get better next time!

Xx

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By *ercedes_SLKMan
40 weeks ago

nottingham

BARKING MAD……..

As you’ve said - it’s a Blow Job (good or bad) for NO effort so why not turn up

I guess it typifies society today

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
40 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

You’ll probably find most had a good wank at the thought of it and then bottled it afterwards

I’m sure the next one (don’t let it get you down) will be a success

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
40 weeks ago

Central

I think for group action meets, it's definitely better to meet them all in advance, so that you can gauge reliability and suitability. In almost all other instances, the great unmet are invariably much less reliable than people who you have met with.

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By *otwife and Master OP   Couple
40 weeks ago

Derby


"You can’t blame anyone for your experiences on fab…but yourself."

Charming. Thanks.

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By *otwife and Master OP   Couple
40 weeks ago

Derby

Thanks to those who gave supportive comments

Onwards and upwards!

X

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By *alandNitaCouple
40 weeks ago

Scunthorpe


"I think for group action meets, it's definitely better to meet them all in advance, so that you can gauge reliability and suitability. In almost all other instances, the great unmet are invariably much less reliable than people who you have met with. "

I agree.

If I was arranging a group meet of this sort, I would expect all attendees to attend a social in advance. No attendance no meet.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Bloke users with no pics, block ones with no veris, block ones who are not a site supporter.

Try clubs aswell. Best way to meet people

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere near

Lol. Called into work . Lame

Unless one is on call on such day then why commit

Fab is full of day dreamers etc.

Fun in clubs is less hassle no let down. Coz at end of day you can make it your own time out

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By *oxy jWoman
40 weeks ago

somerset


"I don't think the situation the OP mentions or the behaviour of any other man "ruins it for the good guys".

If anything, I would say that the poor behaviour of such men makes the others stand out.

In the OPs case no doubt they will use different and more rigorous selection criteria to ensure that at least some men turn up next time.

Nita

We have been on here a long time and believe me our selection criteria is extremely rigorous! It couldn’t be any tighter. Our point is that no matter how selective you are, some will always disappoint and when men moan about not getting a chance, some have it handed on a plate and aren’t man enough to walk the walk, after talking the talk!

We don’t like moany whiny people and it certainly won’t put us off but it did call for a small rant and I for one feel much better now!

HW x

Glad the rant has cheered you up , it does annoy me hearing these story’s more because these guys get the opportunity for a no strings fun and throw it away, when the good ones get overlooked away plus it’s super selfish as well people have busy life’s and make plans they only think of themselves in the situation

Glad it hasn’t put you off though ( shame I’m not closer ha ha I’d have thrown my name in the hat . ) "

the good ones are not overlooked they are not selected because there was no interest has nothing to do with bad guys at all .... people are selected on what those seek want its so easy to use those who let someone down as a sob story for getting nowhere your self ... and who gets to say your a good guy ?? i bet you any money those that let the op down were ''oh im one of the good guys''

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By *hogun300Man
40 weeks ago

Dundee


"I don't think the situation the OP mentions or the behaviour of any other man "ruins it for the good guys".

If anything, I would say that the poor behaviour of such men makes the others stand out.

In the OPs case no doubt they will use different and more rigorous selection criteria to ensure that at least some men turn up next time.

Nita

We have been on here a long time and believe me our selection criteria is extremely rigorous! It couldn’t be any tighter. Our point is that no matter how selective you are, some will always disappoint and when men moan about not getting a chance, some have it handed on a plate and aren’t man enough to walk the walk, after talking the talk!

We don’t like moany whiny people and it certainly won’t put us off but it did call for a small rant and I for one feel much better now!

HW x

Glad the rant has cheered you up , it does annoy me hearing these story’s more because these guys get the opportunity for a no strings fun and throw it away, when the good ones get overlooked away plus it’s super selfish as well people have busy life’s and make plans they only think of themselves in the situation

Glad it hasn’t put you off though ( shame I’m not closer ha ha I’d have thrown my name in the hat . )

the good ones are not overlooked they are not selected because there was no interest has nothing to do with bad guys at all .... people are selected on what those seek want its so easy to use those who let someone down as a sob story for getting nowhere your self ... and who gets to say your a good guy ?? i bet you any money those that let the op down were ''oh im one of the good guys''"

Exactly, its an excuse by guys who might not be as successful on fab ad they want to be

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By *oxy jWoman
40 weeks ago

somerset


"Bloke users with no pics, block ones with no veris, block ones who are not a site supporter.

Try clubs aswell. Best way to meet people

"

there is a lot of truth in this most of the guys ive met over the year that i meet outside of clubs we have previously met in clubs that includes guys we meet via here most we've seen or met in clubs before ...

cant stress enough how good the block button is for making fab easier to use but the problem is alot like the online social side so dont block thinking its rude ...its not

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By *asisfan25Man
40 weeks ago

Essex

I hate seeing thread’s or status’s that people have been let down for a meet. My first meet on fab was a gangbang and traveled 3 hours to near Wolverhampton where it was being held. If you make a commitment on here or in real life, you should stick to it or let them know well before.

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By *iredhandMan
40 weeks ago

Manchester

I have faith in those looking for guys that they don’t assume that they will all let them down just because some already have. Why would I be judged based on someone else’s behaviour?

If you’re not having success in getting any meets, it’s more likely that you’re not their type rather than it being because of what someone else did.

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By *eeper ThanMan
40 weeks ago

Dartford


"I don't think the situation the OP mentions or the behaviour of any other man "ruins it for the good guys".

If anything, I would say that the poor behaviour of such men makes the others stand out.

In the OPs case no doubt they will use different and more rigorous selection criteria to ensure that at least some men turn up next time.

Nita

We have been on here a long time and believe me our selection criteria is extremely rigorous! It couldn’t be any tighter. Our point is that no matter how selective you are, some will always disappoint and when men moan about not getting a chance, some have it handed on a plate and aren’t man enough to walk the walk, after talking the talk!

We don’t like moany whiny people and it certainly won’t put us off but it did call for a small rant and I for one feel much better now!

HW x

Glad the rant has cheered you up , it does annoy me hearing these story’s more because these guys get the opportunity for a no strings fun and throw it away, when the good ones get overlooked away plus it’s super selfish as well people have busy life’s and make plans they only think of themselves in the situation

Glad it hasn’t put you off though ( shame I’m not closer ha ha I’d have thrown my name in the hat . )

the good ones are not overlooked they are not selected because there was no interest has nothing to do with bad guys at all .... people are selected on what those seek want its so easy to use those who let someone down as a sob story for getting nowhere your self ... and who gets to say your a good guy ?? i bet you any money those that let the op down were ''oh im one of the good guys''"

Good ones is a poor choice of words , trustworthy or maybe genuine , like a lot say there are a lot of dreamers who have no intention of meeting just get a kick out of knowing they could I guess and 100% guys would say anything to get them some attention

I do think some have the intention to meet but get cold feet meeting someone new for fun is always a bit scary but some see that as part of the fun and appeal some just run from it

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

If the title of the thread was "Entitled, demanding couples ruining it for all other couples" I wonder how many comments there would be to agree?

Nobody can ruin anything for me except me.

At the same time there are a lot of people under the impression here that if they offer something on a plate to a single male he should accept it or be labelled a timewaster, unreliable or ungrateful.

Strangely enough men do have options here. They also have preferences and are allowed to say no when they choose regardless of the circumstances.

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By *asisfan25Man
40 weeks ago

Essex


"I hate seeing thread’s or status’s that people have been let down for a meet. My first meet on fab was a gangbang and traveled 3 hours to near Wolverhampton where it was being held. If you make a commitment on here or in real life, you should stick to it or let them know well before."
no one has replied to my comment but I didn’t mean it as a dog against anyone if they can’t attend a meet for a genuine reason such as feeling uncomfortable

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By *asisfan25Man
40 weeks ago

Essex


"I hate seeing thread’s or status’s that people have been let down for a meet. My first meet on fab was a gangbang and traveled 3 hours to near Wolverhampton where it was being held. If you make a commitment on here or in real life, you should stick to it or let them know well before. no one has replied to my comment but I didn’t mean it as a dog against anyone if they can’t attend a meet for a genuine reason such as feeling uncomfortable"
dig*

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By *inderellamanMan
40 weeks ago

London

Wish these spontanious blowjobs were on west london always the good ones are miles away! Suppose i best travel further out than i do.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

When’s the next one

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By *eedsortingMan
40 weeks ago

Radley


"If the title of the thread was "Entitled, demanding couples ruining it for all other couples" I wonder how many comments there would be to agree?

Nobody can ruin anything for me except me.

At the same time there are a lot of people under the impression here that if they offer something on a plate to a single male he should accept it or be labelled a timewaster, unreliable or ungrateful.

Strangely enough men do have options here. They also have preferences and are allowed to say no when they choose regardless of the circumstances."

You make a fair point. However, in this case it's not as if it was something being offered on a plate, a tempting morsel that they could choose to nibble on or not. There was a meeting being arranged and they made a commitment / agreement to turn up. And they didn't. So it's a bit more than an offer on a plate. Sure, we all have choices and preferences - and if an offer is from someone that doesn't tick our particular boxes, that's not a big deal. But in that case, you don't make a commitment to take the offer up

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast


"If the title of the thread was "Entitled, demanding couples ruining it for all other couples" I wonder how many comments there would be to agree?

Nobody can ruin anything for me except me.

At the same time there are a lot of people under the impression here that if they offer something on a plate to a single male he should accept it or be labelled a timewaster, unreliable or ungrateful.

Strangely enough men do have options here. They also have preferences and are allowed to say no when they choose regardless of the circumstances.

You make a fair point. However, in this case it's not as if it was something being offered on a plate, a tempting morsel that they could choose to nibble on or not. There was a meeting being arranged and they made a commitment / agreement to turn up. And they didn't. So it's a bit more than an offer on a plate. Sure, we all have choices and preferences - and if an offer is from someone that doesn't tick our particular boxes, that's not a big deal. But in that case, you don't make a commitment to take the offer up"

The op used the phrase "offered on a plate" so they aren't my words.

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By *sianpearlWoman
40 weeks ago

swindon

I simply except that most guys wont turn up and are simply fantasists, I except that 90 percent plus will be no shows, had my fare share of excuses, some quite strange, but that,s the nature of the beast. Its annoying when you have made all the preparations to be available only to get let down, including by verified men but except that there is a small percentage that will show up so I dont tar all men with the same brush.

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By *oxy jWoman
40 weeks ago

somerset

this is not a pop at anyone but if you are getting lots of no shows then you have to sit back and think why are you attracting them what can you do differently to stop picking guys who mess around ... i keep saying this and i know lots of others on here who simple dont get no shows i cant remember my lasst no show got to be over 5 years ago ... and i meet often weekly and more than once ..

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By *xstevenxxMan
40 weeks ago

Ashbourne

What ever number you invited - they must have all been mad - your profile is absolutely stunning

Alot of people on here talk the talk but can’t walk the walk

Keep the faith - there loads of genuine people on here

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By *otwife and Master OP   Couple
40 weeks ago

Derby

Thank you for your comment.

I would appear that your comment is somewhat aimed at HW with your misguided belief that she/we are in someway entitled.

There is no belief of entitlement (of accepting an invite because it is handed on a plate) what do you think swinging is....Making man promises to get a sexual partner?? or likeminded people arranging sexual contact with other like minded people for all parties concerned to get sexual pleasure from it?

If you had read the post correctly and responded with something constructive, like the vast majority have in this post instead of thinking it was an opportunity for you to get noticed lol.. HW's comment was aimed at the time and effort gone in to making the arrangement of the play time, setting clear expectations re type of meet, whom we are as people, meeting expectations, within reason, of those individuals who have confirmed they would attend etc and it really being about the lack of integrity of some people, that being having made a firm commitment to turning up. Ie: 'Yes, I am all good with cum and go meets' and 'I'm looking forward to it'

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By *exymarvelMan
40 weeks ago

cardiff


"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x"

Certainly a view from the other side of the coin. Guys whingeing they cant get a meet. Its because of the idiots that men struggle. If u arrange a meet the bloody well show up. We arent all like it

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast


"Thank you for your comment.

I would appear that your comment is somewhat aimed at HW with your misguided belief that she/we are in someway entitled.

There is no belief of entitlement (of accepting an invite because it is handed on a plate) what do you think swinging is....Making man promises to get a sexual partner?? or likeminded people arranging sexual contact with other like minded people for all parties concerned to get sexual pleasure from it?

If you had read the post correctly and responded with something constructive, like the vast majority have in this post instead of thinking it was an opportunity for you to get noticed lol.. HW's comment was aimed at the time and effort gone in to making the arrangement of the play time, setting clear expectations re type of meet, whom we are as people, meeting expectations, within reason, of those individuals who have confirmed they would attend etc and it really being about the lack of integrity of some people, that being having made a firm commitment to turning up. Ie: 'Yes, I am all good with cum and go meets' and 'I'm looking forward to it'

"

I'm assuming you are talking about my comment but if you had actually taken the time to read what I said it actually has nothing to do with you and is a general comment aimed at responses.

You claim that men ruin it for other men which is obviously not a fact as they can only ruin it for themselves.

I offered a comparison asking if someone had started a thread claiming that entitled couples who make particular demands of single guys were ruining it for all other couples, would those responding have similar opinions?

Surely it would apply across all demographics. Women ruining it for other women and so on?

Why would it only be men who spoil it for other men?

My comment had nothing to do with being noticed. I'm not that shallow or needy.

It was about balance which is often lacking in these forums.

I made the comment because I have had numerous conversations with couples who have become abusive after contacting me, offering me sex on a plate and then telling me I'm an idiot, a loser and a waste of space because I don't accept their offer.

Did that ruin it for all other couples? Not in my opinion but it does give me good reason to point out that it's not just single men who like to mess people around.

It was a constructive comment. Much more constructive than those simply telling you that anyone not meeting you is an idiot based simply on having a few nice pics.

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By *ee And MikeCouple
40 weeks ago

Cannock

We can only comment from our experiences, a few years ago I arranged a little gangbang for Dee’s birthday in a hotel, at one point I thought we were going to have 100 guys and the car park would be full. But one by one they dropped away and we ended up with four decent guys and Dee had an enjoyable, attentive evening so it wasn’t a problem.

But three of the guys couldn’t attend as they had family members die, I think two were in car crashes and were suffering whiplash, one had to take a dog to the vets and one had his car clamped and taken to the pound. They might all have been true, we don’t know, but really we just like people to be honest as you know where you stand then.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

It goes the other way round too. My last 3 organised meets with single women all cancelled literally at the last minute. This is after after I've purposely made sure I was free those days, even though like everyone else, I have a very busy schedule and had to put other things on the back burner to meet them. It just seems like blokes on here are more likely to come up with some nonsense excuse as there are more men on here pushing up the numbers, but in percentage terms, the number of men and women doing this is probably similar. There's good and bad on both sides and I certainly don't tar all with the same brush.

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By *otwife and Master OP   Couple
40 weeks ago

Derby


"Thank you for your comment.

I would appear that your comment is somewhat aimed at HW with your misguided belief that she/we are in someway entitled.

There is no belief of entitlement (of accepting an invite because it is handed on a plate) what do you think swinging is....Making man promises to get a sexual partner?? or likeminded people arranging sexual contact with other like minded people for all parties concerned to get sexual pleasure from it?

If you had read the post correctly and responded with something constructive, like the vast majority have in this post instead of thinking it was an opportunity for you to get noticed lol.. HW's comment was aimed at the time and effort gone in to making the arrangement of the play time, setting clear expectations re type of meet, whom we are as people, meeting expectations, within reason, of those individuals who have confirmed they would attend etc and it really being about the lack of integrity of some people, that being having made a firm commitment to turning up. Ie: 'Yes, I am all good with cum and go meets' and 'I'm looking forward to it'

I'm assuming you are talking about my comment but if you had actually taken the time to read what I said it actually has nothing to do with you and is a general comment aimed at responses.

You claim that men ruin it for other men which is obviously not a fact as they can only ruin it for themselves.

I offered a comparison asking if someone had started a thread claiming that entitled couples who make particular demands of single guys were ruining it for all other couples, would those responding have similar opinions?

Surely it would apply across all demographics. Women ruining it for other women and so on?

Why would it only be men who spoil it for other men?

My comment had nothing to do with being noticed. I'm not that shallow or needy.

It was about balance which is often lacking in these forums.

I made the comment because I have had numerous conversations with couples who have become abusive after contacting me, offering me sex on a plate and then telling me I'm an idiot, a loser and a waste of space because I don't accept their offer.

Did that ruin it for all other couples? Not in my opinion but it does give me good reason to point out that it's not just single men who like to mess people around.

It was a constructive comment. Much more constructive than those simply telling you that anyone not meeting you is an idiot based simply on having a few nice pics. "

At no point did I say ‘they ruined it for other men’, I said ‘it gives single men a bad name’ which is totally different and single men on Fab do have a bad rep for being fantasists!

You say men have choices, of course they do but these where men who had already said ‘yes this is what I’m looking for’, ‘this is my kink’, ‘I can’t wait’ so your point about them being free to turn us down is irrelevant. They didn’t turn us down, they bailed!

HW

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By *ee And MikeCouple
40 weeks ago

Cannock


"It goes the other way round too. My last 3 organised meets with single women all cancelled literally at the last minute. This is after after I've purposely made sure I was free those days, even though like everyone else, I have a very busy schedule and had to put other things on the back burner to meet them. It just seems like blokes on here are more likely to come up with some nonsense excuse as there are more men on here pushing up the numbers, but in percentage terms, the number of men and women doing this is probably similar. There's good and bad on both sides and I certainly don't tar all with the same brush."

It’s not a tit-for-tat game, we’ve just noted our experience on meeting our single men !

You are certainly right about the single men numbers, most messaging us day after day asking how we are are and if we are meeting. Perhaps if people bothered to read profiles on here fully that might be a good start !

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By *illie fitMan
40 weeks ago

Bournemouth


"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x"

I would have been first in the queue, what’s wrong with people?

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By *ee And MikeCouple
40 weeks ago

Cannock


"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x

I would have been first in the queue, what’s wrong with people? "

Perhaps they wanted a cooked dinner and to be paid to afterwards for attending !

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Shame on them for saying they will then not.

A lot of time wasters on here.. total fantasists giving other genuine guys a bad name

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By *hogun300Man
40 weeks ago

Dundee


"Shame on them for saying they will then not.

A lot of time wasters on here.. total fantasists giving other genuine guys a bad name"

Nobody can ruin it for others, only themselves.

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
40 weeks ago

There and Here

Shouldn't everyone be free to decide something isn't for them at any point? And they did cancel. Perhaps some of the reasons given weren't truthful but maybe those reasons felt easier than saying "I've changed my mind"

If we turn the scenario around, and for some reason you decided to cancel, would that be ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Sucks.

Or doesn't.

On the one hand it's just a reflection of them.

On the other, I can totally see that it wears people down. If I kept getting mugged going into a neighbour, I'd stop going. Even if I didn't thing everyone from that area was a criminal.

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By *eedsortingMan
40 weeks ago

Radley


"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x

I would have been first in the queue, what’s wrong with people?

Perhaps they wanted a cooked dinner and to be paid to afterwards for attending ! "

Funny you should say that.... I'm convinced there are a few characters on this site for whom that message is exactly what they would have been thinking. Although you missed off the drinks bit

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By *otuseater11Man
40 weeks ago

IRVINE

Always been the same on fab.the good guys get tarred with the same brush as the time wasters.how it's difficult for us single guys at times but take it that's life

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By *oiluvfunMan
40 weeks ago

Penrith

Sorry to hear you had a total wipeout with your event OP, it is unusual for not even one person to turn up, but must have felt disheartening sitting there waiting…..

I can honestly say, that after over 11 years using Fab, I have never cancelled on an arranged meet, although I have been bailed on last minute, and ghosted several times, so I feel your pain

I would just block those who let you down, and move on to others who potentially will keep a promise. If I were more local, I would have loved to test your skills, as it was 2017 when I last cum from a bj…….

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By *eeper ThanMan
40 weeks ago

Dartford

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By *eeper ThanMan
40 weeks ago

Dartford


"Sorry to hear you had a total wipeout with your event OP, it is unusual for not even one person to turn up, but must have felt disheartening sitting there waiting…..

I can honestly say, that after over 11 years using Fab, I have never cancelled on an arranged meet, although I have been bailed on last minute, and ghosted several times, so I feel your pain

I would just block those who let you down, and move on to others who potentially will keep a promise. If I were more local, I would have loved to test your skills, as it was 2017 when I last cum from a bj……. "

Must of been a good one though mate 7 years and you remember the date well

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By *otwife and Master OP   Couple
40 weeks ago

Derby


"Shouldn't everyone be free to decide something isn't for them at any point? And they did cancel. Perhaps some of the reasons given weren't truthful but maybe those reasons felt easier than saying "I've changed my mind"

If we turn the scenario around, and for some reason you decided to cancel, would that be ok?"

We’ve never done that in all our time on Fab and wouldn’t. We wouldn’t confirm, say we were so excited, couldn’t wait, etc etc and then change our mind. If we weren’t sure we’d say it’s not for us. We aren’t those sort of people, we value integrity and to be honest, having some balls!

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By *iamondzzMan
40 weeks ago

norwich

It happens all of the time . I have had females who have sent loads of intimate pics and messages for weeks then called off on the day . It’s just like ffs because I never have let down yet xx the lady who made the original post is gorgeous btw

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago


"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x"

Best thing to do is arrange to meet a group of people who already know each other.

I think it’s fairly natural for people to be nervous about meeting a group of men they don’t know - and even more so when it’s in a sexual situation and they’re heterosexual.

If the guys already know each other then you’ve gotten over the biggest hurdle and it’s more likely to happen.

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By *wimmingbadgerMan
40 weeks ago

Leicester

I find it mystifying why you'd agree to meet someone for hot, sexy fun and not do it? I'd love to have the luxury of turning hot folks down!

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
40 weeks ago

There and Here


"I find it mystifying why you'd agree to meet someone for hot, sexy fun and not do it? I'd love to have the luxury of turning hot folks down!"

Because something perhaps happens last minute that means you can't? Something that's actually more important than the ride?

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
40 weeks ago

There and Here


"Shouldn't everyone be free to decide something isn't for them at any point? And they did cancel. Perhaps some of the reasons given weren't truthful but maybe those reasons felt easier than saying "I've changed my mind"

If we turn the scenario around, and for some reason you decided to cancel, would that be ok?

We’ve never done that in all our time on Fab and wouldn’t. We wouldn’t confirm, say we were so excited, couldn’t wait, etc etc and then change our mind. If we weren’t sure we’d say it’s not for us. We aren’t those sort of people, we value integrity and to be honest, having some balls!"

You're lucky then that you haven't and can say so confidently that you wouldn't.

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By *eedsortingMan
40 weeks ago

Radley


"I find it mystifying why you'd agree to meet someone for hot, sexy fun and not do it? I'd love to have the luxury of turning hot folks down!

Because something perhaps happens last minute that means you can't? Something that's actually more important than the ride?"

Agree, and I think the OP gets this. It happens. Unexpected things turn up (or in their case, not turn up). But for it to happen with all 20 that had agreed to turn up - that's some seriously bad luck going on there. And a pretty good reason for the OP to have a bit of a frustration rant to get it off their chest.

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By *iker boy 69Man
40 weeks ago

midlands


"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x"

Id have definitely turned up if id seen it, but unfortunately, im in your block list instead of hotlist

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By *hogun300Man
40 weeks ago

Dundee

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
40 weeks ago

There and Here


"I find it mystifying why you'd agree to meet someone for hot, sexy fun and not do it? I'd love to have the luxury of turning hot folks down!

Because something perhaps happens last minute that means you can't? Something that's actually more important than the ride?

Agree, and I think the OP gets this. It happens. Unexpected things turn up (or in their case, not turn up). But for it to happen with all 20 that had agreed to turn up - that's some seriously bad luck going on there. And a pretty good reason for the OP to have a bit of a frustration rant to get it off their chest. "

I didn't see the number of attendees mentioned, and yes, if it was 20 and all bailed then that's pretty poor luck indeed. Less unbelievable if was 5 though

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By *igaranMan
40 weeks ago

London


"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x"

Weird. I never understand the arranging to meet and not showing up or cancelling.

Probably just wanking when they arranged which is pretty shitty

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By *oiluvfunMan
40 weeks ago

Penrith


"Sorry to hear you had a total wipeout with your event OP, it is unusual for not even one person to turn up, but must have felt disheartening sitting there waiting…..

I can honestly say, that after over 11 years using Fab, I have never cancelled on an arranged meet, although I have been bailed on last minute, and ghosted several times, so I feel your pain

I would just block those who let you down, and move on to others who potentially will keep a promise. If I were more local, I would have loved to test your skills, as it was 2017 when I last cum from a bj…….

Must of been a good one though mate 7 years and you remember the date well "

You never forget your last bj mate...

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By *attering_ramMan
40 weeks ago

near you

Could never be London , we would turn up and turn up the whole place x … it’s a location problem lol

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By *dyladddMan
40 weeks ago

Kirkcaldy


"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x"

It’s people like this that do my head it they make it so hard as you say for the genuine guys!!!

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By *xonman53Man
40 weeks ago

Thame

I won't promise to meet unless I am sure I am able to turn up!

But have been let down in past travelling to meet to be ghosted or even to be given a non existent address..

So it's not just single guys ...

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By *urious and open mindedMan
40 weeks ago

Burnley

I can genuinely say I’m with the good guys. I’m honest with everyone and I have respect for people aswell. I was brought up to treat women how I would expect my own daughter to be treated but a lot of guys on here don’t understand that.

I will never arrange a meeting if I know I can’t make it and I will never demand pics or a phone number.

Not everyone understands that NO means NO.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
40 weeks ago

Home

Unfortunately we all get painted with the one brush

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By *ipstick KissesWoman
40 weeks ago

There and Here


"Unfortunately we all get painted with the one brush "

But you don't

There are many many people actively seeking & meeting single guys

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By *hogun300Man
40 weeks ago

Dundee


"Unfortunately we all get painted with the one brush

But you don't

There are many many people actively seeking & meeting single guys"

Exactly, it's an excuse some guys use as the reason they mot meeting as much as like. It's utter nonsense.

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By *otwife and Master OP   Couple
40 weeks ago

Derby


"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x

Best thing to do is arrange to meet a group of people who already know each other.

I think it’s fairly natural for people to be nervous about meeting a group of men they don’t know - and even more so when it’s in a sexual situation and they’re heterosexual.

If the guys already know each other then you’ve gotten over the biggest hurdle and it’s more likely to happen."

We do befriend MM pairings for this as we think the dynamic of friends as a tag team adds a great other level, if they know and work well together. However there’s very few larger groups on here, particularly in our area.

We also understand that cum n go with a bunch of naked strangers isn’t for every straight man, that’s why we make it absolutely crystal clear that is what we are looking for and you need to be confident being around naked men. It’s all over our profile!

If you have performance anxiety around other men then just say it’s not for you - Simples!

HW x

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By *otwife and Master OP   Couple
40 weeks ago

Derby


"I find it mystifying why you'd agree to meet someone for hot, sexy fun and not do it? I'd love to have the luxury of turning hot folks down!

Because something perhaps happens last minute that means you can't? Something that's actually more important than the ride?

Agree, and I think the OP gets this. It happens. Unexpected things turn up (or in their case, not turn up). But for it to happen with all 20 that had agreed to turn up - that's some seriously bad luck going on there. And a pretty good reason for the OP to have a bit of a frustration rant to get it off their chest.

I didn't see the number of attendees mentioned, and yes, if it was 20 and all bailed then that's pretty poor luck indeed. Less unbelievable if was 5 though"

No, there weren’t as many as 20. I think I’d have slit my wrists lol

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By *oxy jWoman
40 weeks ago

somerset


"Unfortunately we all get painted with the one brush "

see when i see guys saying this its a red flag for me because i think they cant be so naïve.. your getting nowhere is solely down to you and nobody else ... guys need to stop hiding behind this stupid excuse

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up.

I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free.

Much easier

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By *ORBCouple
40 weeks ago

Dundalk


"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up.

I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free.

Much easier "

We don't actually and it's not hard to keep up at all.

That's just an excuse some people like to use rather than admitting they aren't interested and other people use when they aren't getting replies.

RB

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago


"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up.

I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free.

Much easier

We don't actually and it's not hard to keep up at all.

That's just an excuse some people like to use rather than admitting they aren't interested and other people use when they aren't getting replies.

RB"

Fair enough. Well clubs are much better either way.

Maybe not in Ireland because you don't have many there, but definitely here in England

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By *haggydogMan
40 weeks ago

Brooklands/London

Maybe arranging a meet and having no intention of turning up is a fetish?

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
40 weeks ago

Somerset


"Unfortunately we all get painted with the one brush

see when i see guys saying this its a red flag for me because i think they cant be so naïve.. your getting nowhere is solely down to you and nobody else ... guys need to stop hiding behind this stupid excuse "

When, I the male half was single many years ago, I loved the fact that so many guys here were arseholes. It meant all I had to do to stand out was not be an arsehole. Okay, that was a struggle at times but I think I managed it!

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By *oiluvfunMan
40 weeks ago

Penrith


"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up.

I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free.

Much easier "

Clubs are just too much hit or miss though, especially for a straight, single guy like me. If every club visit I’ve ever had, was as successful as your recent one to Shhh, I could get more enthusiastic about them, and would do more…

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago


"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up.

I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free.

Much easier

Clubs are just too much hit or miss though, especially for a straight, single guy like me. If every club visit I’ve ever had, was as successful as your recent one to Shhh, I could get more enthusiastic about them, and would do more…"

Depends what night you go on I suppose. Greedy girls are a really good night.

Fridays and Saturdays are very couple heavy, so would not go on my own. Only go with a female on those nights. Same with party nights.

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By *otwife and Master OP   Couple
40 weeks ago

Derby


"Maybe arranging a meet and having no intention of turning up is a fetish? "

A very popular one!

HW x

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By *oxy jWoman
40 weeks ago

somerset

if you use the filters and the block button and common sense then the messers are really easy to spot juust a extra bit of care in selection ... i keep saying it and i know loads of other the same in that we cant remember our last let down ...

ahaim if you keep attracting these messers then you have to ask your self why ??? ... nothing is easy nor should it be in selecting a meet the problem is too many are too soft and like to think everyone is great to be given a chance but carry on as you'll forever be messed around ....

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By *iddle ManMan
40 weeks ago

Walsall


"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x"

There are things happen that get in the way of plans, but when the same people constantly let you down in life, then they are just unreliable people.

People deserve second chances as I find this side of life is an extra and I myself have found out lately that there are things in life far more important than ones self.

I will say OP your right in your post, a lot of guys tend to give the genuine ones a bad rep and as a result we find it tough to get on with this site, I find group meets and clubs to be easier nowadays (I never thought I'd say that) as it's not all about me and no guarantee, just turn up and see who's about for a chat.

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By *iddle ManMan
40 weeks ago

Walsall


"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive.

Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha!

Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name.

Must do better!

M&HW x"

Forgot to say, who doesn't like a bukkake.

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By *xydadbodMan
40 weeks ago

Milton keynes

It does happen unfortunately I'm afraid.. sometimes it best to organise things in clubs as it mostly likely to happen..

Obviously I'm not defending these guys but some may be genuine reasons but for most, participating in these kind of group activities may not be for the faint of heart.. its easy to talk about wanting to try or attend these events but when it comes to actually doing it, it becomes another thing.. nerves starts to kick in and then you're hit with the endless what ifs so chances are you are going to back out.

I've been to events like these in the past where it hasn't gone exactly how I would imagine and I couldn't "perform" so to speak and it is embarrassing, but you find ways to overcome that and it takes time.

Sorry it hasn't gone well though OP as I can imagine how all that effort has gone to organised it all only for it to fall though. Good luck next time though and I apologise for the essay

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By *oiluvfunMan
40 weeks ago

Penrith


"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up.

I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free.

Much easier

Clubs are just too much hit or miss though, especially for a straight, single guy like me. If every club visit I’ve ever had, was as successful as your recent one to Shhh, I could get more enthusiastic about them, and would do more…

Depends what night you go on I suppose. Greedy girls are a really good night.

Fridays and Saturdays are very couple heavy, so would not go on my own. Only go with a female on those nights. Same with party nights. "

I went to Shhh the last Friday before Xmas, my first time there, and it was pretty quiet. The place itself is great though, plenty of space, and clean and tidy throughout. Every member of staff very friendly towards me (as a single guy), which is not common in all clubs. I’ll have a look at going over for a Thursday night for my next visit, cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago


"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up.

I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free.

Much easier

Clubs are just too much hit or miss though, especially for a straight, single guy like me. If every club visit I’ve ever had, was as successful as your recent one to Shhh, I could get more enthusiastic about them, and would do more…

Depends what night you go on I suppose. Greedy girls are a really good night.

Fridays and Saturdays are very couple heavy, so would not go on my own. Only go with a female on those nights. Same with party nights.

I went to Shhh the last Friday before Xmas, my first time there, and it was pretty quiet. The place itself is great though, plenty of space, and clean and tidy throughout. Every member of staff very friendly towards me (as a single guy), which is not common in all clubs. I’ll have a look at going over for a Thursday night for my next visit, cheers "

Just depends who turns up. Everyone was so friendly on Thursday then other times not so many. Depends on the day.

Every club is the same

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