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"I don't think the situation the OP mentions or the behaviour of any other man "ruins it for the good guys". If anything, I would say that the poor behaviour of such men makes the others stand out. In the OPs case no doubt they will use different and more rigorous selection criteria to ensure that at least some men turn up next time. Nita" We have been on here a long time and believe me our selection criteria is extremely rigorous! It couldn’t be any tighter. Our point is that no matter how selective you are, some will always disappoint and when men moan about not getting a chance, some have it handed on a plate and aren’t man enough to walk the walk, after talking the talk! We don’t like moany whiny people and it certainly won’t put us off but it did call for a small rant and I for one feel much better now! HW x | |||
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"I'm actually astonished " That was our point. So were we! | |||
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"I don't think the situation the OP mentions or the behaviour of any other man "ruins it for the good guys". If anything, I would say that the poor behaviour of such men makes the others stand out. In the OPs case no doubt they will use different and more rigorous selection criteria to ensure that at least some men turn up next time. Nita We have been on here a long time and believe me our selection criteria is extremely rigorous! It couldn’t be any tighter. Our point is that no matter how selective you are, some will always disappoint and when men moan about not getting a chance, some have it handed on a plate and aren’t man enough to walk the walk, after talking the talk! We don’t like moany whiny people and it certainly won’t put us off but it did call for a small rant and I for one feel much better now! HW x" Glad the rant has cheered you up , it does annoy me hearing these story’s more because these guys get the opportunity for a no strings fun and throw it away, when the good ones get overlooked away plus it’s super selfish as well people have busy life’s and make plans they only think of themselves in the situation Glad it hasn’t put you off though ( shame I’m not closer ha ha I’d have thrown my name in the hat . ) | |||
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"You can’t blame anyone for your experiences on fab…but yourself." Charming. Thanks. | |||
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"I think for group action meets, it's definitely better to meet them all in advance, so that you can gauge reliability and suitability. In almost all other instances, the great unmet are invariably much less reliable than people who you have met with. " I agree. If I was arranging a group meet of this sort, I would expect all attendees to attend a social in advance. No attendance no meet. Nita | |||
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"I don't think the situation the OP mentions or the behaviour of any other man "ruins it for the good guys". If anything, I would say that the poor behaviour of such men makes the others stand out. In the OPs case no doubt they will use different and more rigorous selection criteria to ensure that at least some men turn up next time. Nita We have been on here a long time and believe me our selection criteria is extremely rigorous! It couldn’t be any tighter. Our point is that no matter how selective you are, some will always disappoint and when men moan about not getting a chance, some have it handed on a plate and aren’t man enough to walk the walk, after talking the talk! We don’t like moany whiny people and it certainly won’t put us off but it did call for a small rant and I for one feel much better now! HW x Glad the rant has cheered you up , it does annoy me hearing these story’s more because these guys get the opportunity for a no strings fun and throw it away, when the good ones get overlooked away plus it’s super selfish as well people have busy life’s and make plans they only think of themselves in the situation Glad it hasn’t put you off though ( shame I’m not closer ha ha I’d have thrown my name in the hat . ) " the good ones are not overlooked they are not selected because there was no interest has nothing to do with bad guys at all .... people are selected on what those seek want its so easy to use those who let someone down as a sob story for getting nowhere your self ... and who gets to say your a good guy ?? i bet you any money those that let the op down were ''oh im one of the good guys'' | |||
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"I don't think the situation the OP mentions or the behaviour of any other man "ruins it for the good guys". If anything, I would say that the poor behaviour of such men makes the others stand out. In the OPs case no doubt they will use different and more rigorous selection criteria to ensure that at least some men turn up next time. Nita We have been on here a long time and believe me our selection criteria is extremely rigorous! It couldn’t be any tighter. Our point is that no matter how selective you are, some will always disappoint and when men moan about not getting a chance, some have it handed on a plate and aren’t man enough to walk the walk, after talking the talk! We don’t like moany whiny people and it certainly won’t put us off but it did call for a small rant and I for one feel much better now! HW x Glad the rant has cheered you up , it does annoy me hearing these story’s more because these guys get the opportunity for a no strings fun and throw it away, when the good ones get overlooked away plus it’s super selfish as well people have busy life’s and make plans they only think of themselves in the situation Glad it hasn’t put you off though ( shame I’m not closer ha ha I’d have thrown my name in the hat . ) the good ones are not overlooked they are not selected because there was no interest has nothing to do with bad guys at all .... people are selected on what those seek want its so easy to use those who let someone down as a sob story for getting nowhere your self ... and who gets to say your a good guy ?? i bet you any money those that let the op down were ''oh im one of the good guys''" Exactly, its an excuse by guys who might not be as successful on fab ad they want to be | |||
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"Bloke users with no pics, block ones with no veris, block ones who are not a site supporter. Try clubs aswell. Best way to meet people " there is a lot of truth in this most of the guys ive met over the year that i meet outside of clubs we have previously met in clubs that includes guys we meet via here most we've seen or met in clubs before ... cant stress enough how good the block button is for making fab easier to use but the problem is alot like the online social side so dont block thinking its rude ...its not | |||
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"I don't think the situation the OP mentions or the behaviour of any other man "ruins it for the good guys". If anything, I would say that the poor behaviour of such men makes the others stand out. In the OPs case no doubt they will use different and more rigorous selection criteria to ensure that at least some men turn up next time. Nita We have been on here a long time and believe me our selection criteria is extremely rigorous! It couldn’t be any tighter. Our point is that no matter how selective you are, some will always disappoint and when men moan about not getting a chance, some have it handed on a plate and aren’t man enough to walk the walk, after talking the talk! We don’t like moany whiny people and it certainly won’t put us off but it did call for a small rant and I for one feel much better now! HW x Glad the rant has cheered you up , it does annoy me hearing these story’s more because these guys get the opportunity for a no strings fun and throw it away, when the good ones get overlooked away plus it’s super selfish as well people have busy life’s and make plans they only think of themselves in the situation Glad it hasn’t put you off though ( shame I’m not closer ha ha I’d have thrown my name in the hat . ) the good ones are not overlooked they are not selected because there was no interest has nothing to do with bad guys at all .... people are selected on what those seek want its so easy to use those who let someone down as a sob story for getting nowhere your self ... and who gets to say your a good guy ?? i bet you any money those that let the op down were ''oh im one of the good guys''" Good ones is a poor choice of words , trustworthy or maybe genuine , like a lot say there are a lot of dreamers who have no intention of meeting just get a kick out of knowing they could I guess and 100% guys would say anything to get them some attention I do think some have the intention to meet but get cold feet meeting someone new for fun is always a bit scary but some see that as part of the fun and appeal some just run from it | |||
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"I hate seeing thread’s or status’s that people have been let down for a meet. My first meet on fab was a gangbang and traveled 3 hours to near Wolverhampton where it was being held. If you make a commitment on here or in real life, you should stick to it or let them know well before." no one has replied to my comment but I didn’t mean it as a dog against anyone if they can’t attend a meet for a genuine reason such as feeling uncomfortable | |||
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"I hate seeing thread’s or status’s that people have been let down for a meet. My first meet on fab was a gangbang and traveled 3 hours to near Wolverhampton where it was being held. If you make a commitment on here or in real life, you should stick to it or let them know well before. no one has replied to my comment but I didn’t mean it as a dog against anyone if they can’t attend a meet for a genuine reason such as feeling uncomfortable" dig* | |||
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"If the title of the thread was "Entitled, demanding couples ruining it for all other couples" I wonder how many comments there would be to agree? Nobody can ruin anything for me except me. At the same time there are a lot of people under the impression here that if they offer something on a plate to a single male he should accept it or be labelled a timewaster, unreliable or ungrateful. Strangely enough men do have options here. They also have preferences and are allowed to say no when they choose regardless of the circumstances." You make a fair point. However, in this case it's not as if it was something being offered on a plate, a tempting morsel that they could choose to nibble on or not. There was a meeting being arranged and they made a commitment / agreement to turn up. And they didn't. So it's a bit more than an offer on a plate. Sure, we all have choices and preferences - and if an offer is from someone that doesn't tick our particular boxes, that's not a big deal. But in that case, you don't make a commitment to take the offer up | |||
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"If the title of the thread was "Entitled, demanding couples ruining it for all other couples" I wonder how many comments there would be to agree? Nobody can ruin anything for me except me. At the same time there are a lot of people under the impression here that if they offer something on a plate to a single male he should accept it or be labelled a timewaster, unreliable or ungrateful. Strangely enough men do have options here. They also have preferences and are allowed to say no when they choose regardless of the circumstances. You make a fair point. However, in this case it's not as if it was something being offered on a plate, a tempting morsel that they could choose to nibble on or not. There was a meeting being arranged and they made a commitment / agreement to turn up. And they didn't. So it's a bit more than an offer on a plate. Sure, we all have choices and preferences - and if an offer is from someone that doesn't tick our particular boxes, that's not a big deal. But in that case, you don't make a commitment to take the offer up" The op used the phrase "offered on a plate" so they aren't my words. | |||
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"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive. Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha! Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name. Must do better! M&HW x" Certainly a view from the other side of the coin. Guys whingeing they cant get a meet. Its because of the idiots that men struggle. If u arrange a meet the bloody well show up. We arent all like it | |||
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"Thank you for your comment. I would appear that your comment is somewhat aimed at HW with your misguided belief that she/we are in someway entitled. There is no belief of entitlement (of accepting an invite because it is handed on a plate) what do you think swinging is....Making man promises to get a sexual partner?? or likeminded people arranging sexual contact with other like minded people for all parties concerned to get sexual pleasure from it? If you had read the post correctly and responded with something constructive, like the vast majority have in this post instead of thinking it was an opportunity for you to get noticed lol.. HW's comment was aimed at the time and effort gone in to making the arrangement of the play time, setting clear expectations re type of meet, whom we are as people, meeting expectations, within reason, of those individuals who have confirmed they would attend etc and it really being about the lack of integrity of some people, that being having made a firm commitment to turning up. Ie: 'Yes, I am all good with cum and go meets' and 'I'm looking forward to it' " I'm assuming you are talking about my comment but if you had actually taken the time to read what I said it actually has nothing to do with you and is a general comment aimed at responses. You claim that men ruin it for other men which is obviously not a fact as they can only ruin it for themselves. I offered a comparison asking if someone had started a thread claiming that entitled couples who make particular demands of single guys were ruining it for all other couples, would those responding have similar opinions? Surely it would apply across all demographics. Women ruining it for other women and so on? Why would it only be men who spoil it for other men? My comment had nothing to do with being noticed. I'm not that shallow or needy. It was about balance which is often lacking in these forums. I made the comment because I have had numerous conversations with couples who have become abusive after contacting me, offering me sex on a plate and then telling me I'm an idiot, a loser and a waste of space because I don't accept their offer. Did that ruin it for all other couples? Not in my opinion but it does give me good reason to point out that it's not just single men who like to mess people around. It was a constructive comment. Much more constructive than those simply telling you that anyone not meeting you is an idiot based simply on having a few nice pics. | |||
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"Thank you for your comment. I would appear that your comment is somewhat aimed at HW with your misguided belief that she/we are in someway entitled. There is no belief of entitlement (of accepting an invite because it is handed on a plate) what do you think swinging is....Making man promises to get a sexual partner?? or likeminded people arranging sexual contact with other like minded people for all parties concerned to get sexual pleasure from it? If you had read the post correctly and responded with something constructive, like the vast majority have in this post instead of thinking it was an opportunity for you to get noticed lol.. HW's comment was aimed at the time and effort gone in to making the arrangement of the play time, setting clear expectations re type of meet, whom we are as people, meeting expectations, within reason, of those individuals who have confirmed they would attend etc and it really being about the lack of integrity of some people, that being having made a firm commitment to turning up. Ie: 'Yes, I am all good with cum and go meets' and 'I'm looking forward to it' I'm assuming you are talking about my comment but if you had actually taken the time to read what I said it actually has nothing to do with you and is a general comment aimed at responses. You claim that men ruin it for other men which is obviously not a fact as they can only ruin it for themselves. I offered a comparison asking if someone had started a thread claiming that entitled couples who make particular demands of single guys were ruining it for all other couples, would those responding have similar opinions? Surely it would apply across all demographics. Women ruining it for other women and so on? Why would it only be men who spoil it for other men? My comment had nothing to do with being noticed. I'm not that shallow or needy. It was about balance which is often lacking in these forums. I made the comment because I have had numerous conversations with couples who have become abusive after contacting me, offering me sex on a plate and then telling me I'm an idiot, a loser and a waste of space because I don't accept their offer. Did that ruin it for all other couples? Not in my opinion but it does give me good reason to point out that it's not just single men who like to mess people around. It was a constructive comment. Much more constructive than those simply telling you that anyone not meeting you is an idiot based simply on having a few nice pics. " At no point did I say ‘they ruined it for other men’, I said ‘it gives single men a bad name’ which is totally different and single men on Fab do have a bad rep for being fantasists! You say men have choices, of course they do but these where men who had already said ‘yes this is what I’m looking for’, ‘this is my kink’, ‘I can’t wait’ so your point about them being free to turn us down is irrelevant. They didn’t turn us down, they bailed! HW | |||
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"It goes the other way round too. My last 3 organised meets with single women all cancelled literally at the last minute. This is after after I've purposely made sure I was free those days, even though like everyone else, I have a very busy schedule and had to put other things on the back burner to meet them. It just seems like blokes on here are more likely to come up with some nonsense excuse as there are more men on here pushing up the numbers, but in percentage terms, the number of men and women doing this is probably similar. There's good and bad on both sides and I certainly don't tar all with the same brush." It’s not a tit-for-tat game, we’ve just noted our experience on meeting our single men ! You are certainly right about the single men numbers, most messaging us day after day asking how we are are and if we are meeting. Perhaps if people bothered to read profiles on here fully that might be a good start ! | |||
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"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive. Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha! Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name. Must do better! M&HW x" I would have been first in the queue, what’s wrong with people? | |||
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"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive. Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha! Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name. Must do better! M&HW x I would have been first in the queue, what’s wrong with people? " Perhaps they wanted a cooked dinner and to be paid to afterwards for attending ! | |||
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"Shame on them for saying they will then not. A lot of time wasters on here.. total fantasists giving other genuine guys a bad name" Nobody can ruin it for others, only themselves. | |||
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"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive. Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha! Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name. Must do better! M&HW x I would have been first in the queue, what’s wrong with people? Perhaps they wanted a cooked dinner and to be paid to afterwards for attending ! " Funny you should say that.... I'm convinced there are a few characters on this site for whom that message is exactly what they would have been thinking. Although you missed off the drinks bit | |||
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"Sorry to hear you had a total wipeout with your event OP, it is unusual for not even one person to turn up, but must have felt disheartening sitting there waiting….. I can honestly say, that after over 11 years using Fab, I have never cancelled on an arranged meet, although I have been bailed on last minute, and ghosted several times, so I feel your pain I would just block those who let you down, and move on to others who potentially will keep a promise. If I were more local, I would have loved to test your skills, as it was 2017 when I last cum from a bj……. " Must of been a good one though mate 7 years and you remember the date well | |||
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"Shouldn't everyone be free to decide something isn't for them at any point? And they did cancel. Perhaps some of the reasons given weren't truthful but maybe those reasons felt easier than saying "I've changed my mind" If we turn the scenario around, and for some reason you decided to cancel, would that be ok?" We’ve never done that in all our time on Fab and wouldn’t. We wouldn’t confirm, say we were so excited, couldn’t wait, etc etc and then change our mind. If we weren’t sure we’d say it’s not for us. We aren’t those sort of people, we value integrity and to be honest, having some balls! | |||
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"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive. Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha! Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name. Must do better! M&HW x" Best thing to do is arrange to meet a group of people who already know each other. I think it’s fairly natural for people to be nervous about meeting a group of men they don’t know - and even more so when it’s in a sexual situation and they’re heterosexual. If the guys already know each other then you’ve gotten over the biggest hurdle and it’s more likely to happen. | |||
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"I find it mystifying why you'd agree to meet someone for hot, sexy fun and not do it? I'd love to have the luxury of turning hot folks down!" Because something perhaps happens last minute that means you can't? Something that's actually more important than the ride? | |||
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"Shouldn't everyone be free to decide something isn't for them at any point? And they did cancel. Perhaps some of the reasons given weren't truthful but maybe those reasons felt easier than saying "I've changed my mind" If we turn the scenario around, and for some reason you decided to cancel, would that be ok? We’ve never done that in all our time on Fab and wouldn’t. We wouldn’t confirm, say we were so excited, couldn’t wait, etc etc and then change our mind. If we weren’t sure we’d say it’s not for us. We aren’t those sort of people, we value integrity and to be honest, having some balls!" You're lucky then that you haven't and can say so confidently that you wouldn't. | |||
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"I find it mystifying why you'd agree to meet someone for hot, sexy fun and not do it? I'd love to have the luxury of turning hot folks down! Because something perhaps happens last minute that means you can't? Something that's actually more important than the ride?" Agree, and I think the OP gets this. It happens. Unexpected things turn up (or in their case, not turn up). But for it to happen with all 20 that had agreed to turn up - that's some seriously bad luck going on there. And a pretty good reason for the OP to have a bit of a frustration rant to get it off their chest. | |||
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"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive. Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha! Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name. Must do better! M&HW x" Id have definitely turned up if id seen it, but unfortunately, im in your block list instead of hotlist | |||
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"I find it mystifying why you'd agree to meet someone for hot, sexy fun and not do it? I'd love to have the luxury of turning hot folks down! Because something perhaps happens last minute that means you can't? Something that's actually more important than the ride? Agree, and I think the OP gets this. It happens. Unexpected things turn up (or in their case, not turn up). But for it to happen with all 20 that had agreed to turn up - that's some seriously bad luck going on there. And a pretty good reason for the OP to have a bit of a frustration rant to get it off their chest. " I didn't see the number of attendees mentioned, and yes, if it was 20 and all bailed then that's pretty poor luck indeed. Less unbelievable if was 5 though | |||
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"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive. Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha! Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name. Must do better! M&HW x" Weird. I never understand the arranging to meet and not showing up or cancelling. Probably just wanking when they arranged which is pretty shitty | |||
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"Sorry to hear you had a total wipeout with your event OP, it is unusual for not even one person to turn up, but must have felt disheartening sitting there waiting….. I can honestly say, that after over 11 years using Fab, I have never cancelled on an arranged meet, although I have been bailed on last minute, and ghosted several times, so I feel your pain I would just block those who let you down, and move on to others who potentially will keep a promise. If I were more local, I would have loved to test your skills, as it was 2017 when I last cum from a bj……. Must of been a good one though mate 7 years and you remember the date well " You never forget your last bj mate... | |||
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"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive. Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha! Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name. Must do better! M&HW x" It’s people like this that do my head it they make it so hard as you say for the genuine guys!!! | |||
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"Unfortunately we all get painted with the one brush " But you don't There are many many people actively seeking & meeting single guys | |||
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"Unfortunately we all get painted with the one brush But you don't There are many many people actively seeking & meeting single guys" Exactly, it's an excuse some guys use as the reason they mot meeting as much as like. It's utter nonsense. | |||
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"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive. Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha! Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name. Must do better! M&HW x Best thing to do is arrange to meet a group of people who already know each other. I think it’s fairly natural for people to be nervous about meeting a group of men they don’t know - and even more so when it’s in a sexual situation and they’re heterosexual. If the guys already know each other then you’ve gotten over the biggest hurdle and it’s more likely to happen." We do befriend MM pairings for this as we think the dynamic of friends as a tag team adds a great other level, if they know and work well together. However there’s very few larger groups on here, particularly in our area. We also understand that cum n go with a bunch of naked strangers isn’t for every straight man, that’s why we make it absolutely crystal clear that is what we are looking for and you need to be confident being around naked men. It’s all over our profile! If you have performance anxiety around other men then just say it’s not for you - Simples! HW x | |||
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"I find it mystifying why you'd agree to meet someone for hot, sexy fun and not do it? I'd love to have the luxury of turning hot folks down! Because something perhaps happens last minute that means you can't? Something that's actually more important than the ride? Agree, and I think the OP gets this. It happens. Unexpected things turn up (or in their case, not turn up). But for it to happen with all 20 that had agreed to turn up - that's some seriously bad luck going on there. And a pretty good reason for the OP to have a bit of a frustration rant to get it off their chest. I didn't see the number of attendees mentioned, and yes, if it was 20 and all bailed then that's pretty poor luck indeed. Less unbelievable if was 5 though" No, there weren’t as many as 20. I think I’d have slit my wrists lol | |||
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"Unfortunately we all get painted with the one brush " see when i see guys saying this its a red flag for me because i think they cant be so naïve.. your getting nowhere is solely down to you and nobody else ... guys need to stop hiding behind this stupid excuse | |||
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"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up. I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free. Much easier " We don't actually and it's not hard to keep up at all. That's just an excuse some people like to use rather than admitting they aren't interested and other people use when they aren't getting replies. RB | |||
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"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up. I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free. Much easier We don't actually and it's not hard to keep up at all. That's just an excuse some people like to use rather than admitting they aren't interested and other people use when they aren't getting replies. RB" Fair enough. Well clubs are much better either way. Maybe not in Ireland because you don't have many there, but definitely here in England | |||
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"Unfortunately we all get painted with the one brush see when i see guys saying this its a red flag for me because i think they cant be so naïve.. your getting nowhere is solely down to you and nobody else ... guys need to stop hiding behind this stupid excuse " When, I the male half was single many years ago, I loved the fact that so many guys here were arseholes. It meant all I had to do to stand out was not be an arsehole. Okay, that was a struggle at times but I think I managed it! | |||
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"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up. I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free. Much easier " Clubs are just too much hit or miss though, especially for a straight, single guy like me. If every club visit I’ve ever had, was as successful as your recent one to Shhh, I could get more enthusiastic about them, and would do more… | |||
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"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up. I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free. Much easier Clubs are just too much hit or miss though, especially for a straight, single guy like me. If every club visit I’ve ever had, was as successful as your recent one to Shhh, I could get more enthusiastic about them, and would do more…" Depends what night you go on I suppose. Greedy girls are a really good night. Fridays and Saturdays are very couple heavy, so would not go on my own. Only go with a female on those nights. Same with party nights. | |||
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"Maybe arranging a meet and having no intention of turning up is a fetish? " A very popular one! HW x | |||
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"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive. Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha! Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name. Must do better! M&HW x" There are things happen that get in the way of plans, but when the same people constantly let you down in life, then they are just unreliable people. People deserve second chances as I find this side of life is an extra and I myself have found out lately that there are things in life far more important than ones self. I will say OP your right in your post, a lot of guys tend to give the genuine ones a bad rep and as a result we find it tough to get on with this site, I find group meets and clubs to be easier nowadays (I never thought I'd say that) as it's not all about me and no guarantee, just turn up and see who's about for a chat. | |||
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"Sooo M organised a bukkake yesterday…loads of guys said very enthusiastically that they’d arrive. We have good veri’s we’re not spring chickens, but still active and attractive. Let down at last minute by every one! Several used the ‘I’ve been called in to work’ excuse, one was very original with ‘my roommate has a severe cut and I have to take him to hospital’!! Haha! Come on guys! You are being offered nsa blowjobs (and they are great ones) for very little effort on your part. These guys really give the good single men (and there are a few) a bad name. Must do better! M&HW x" Forgot to say, who doesn't like a bukkake. | |||
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"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up. I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free. Much easier Clubs are just too much hit or miss though, especially for a straight, single guy like me. If every club visit I’ve ever had, was as successful as your recent one to Shhh, I could get more enthusiastic about them, and would do more… Depends what night you go on I suppose. Greedy girls are a really good night. Fridays and Saturdays are very couple heavy, so would not go on my own. Only go with a female on those nights. Same with party nights. " I went to Shhh the last Friday before Xmas, my first time there, and it was pretty quiet. The place itself is great though, plenty of space, and clean and tidy throughout. Every member of staff very friendly towards me (as a single guy), which is not common in all clubs. I’ll have a look at going over for a Thursday night for my next visit, cheers | |||
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"Women and couples get swamped in shitty messages, so it's really hard to keep up. I very rarely message people. I don't have kids, so can just go to a club when I'm free. Much easier Clubs are just too much hit or miss though, especially for a straight, single guy like me. If every club visit I’ve ever had, was as successful as your recent one to Shhh, I could get more enthusiastic about them, and would do more… Depends what night you go on I suppose. Greedy girls are a really good night. Fridays and Saturdays are very couple heavy, so would not go on my own. Only go with a female on those nights. Same with party nights. I went to Shhh the last Friday before Xmas, my first time there, and it was pretty quiet. The place itself is great though, plenty of space, and clean and tidy throughout. Every member of staff very friendly towards me (as a single guy), which is not common in all clubs. I’ll have a look at going over for a Thursday night for my next visit, cheers " Just depends who turns up. Everyone was so friendly on Thursday then other times not so many. Depends on the day. Every club is the same | |||
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