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By (user no longer on site) OP
43 weeks ago

Hi all

We are at the stage now where we think we want to meet/attend clubs...what's the best advice you can give us as newbies who don't really know the full etiquette etc?

Thanks all xx

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By *issmorganWoman
43 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

Make sure you're both comfortable in which direction you want to take. Keep talking to each other, set your boundaries and don't bend these unless you both want to.

In regards to clubs, go with no expectations, be friendly and open minded and see where it takes you.

Many are like nightclubs, where you can sit and chat, before anything else takes place.

As for meeting, look for profiles that interest you both and message them. I'd suggest always having a social in public place, so if one of you isn't feeling it, there is no pressure to play.

Don't take one for the team, be sure you both like the person/people.

The one thing I noticed is you don't really give an idea of what you're actually looking for and what you can offer any meets. So maybe expand your profile text a bit to include your likes against what you bring to a meet.

The legal bit is also pretty pointless, so maybe cut that out of your profile..

Enjoy your experience and have fun.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
43 weeks ago

Stourbridge

"Hi op

Make sure you're both comfortable in which direction you want to take. Keep talking to each other, set your boundaries and don't bend these unless you both want to.

In regards to clubs, go with no expectations, be friendly and open minded and see where it takes you.

Many are like nightclubs, where you can sit and chat, before anything else takes place.

As for meeting, look for profiles that interest you both and message them. I'd suggest always having a social in public place, so if one of you isn't feeling it, there is no pressure to play.

Don't take one for the team, be sure you both like the person/people.

The legal bit is also pretty pointless, so maybe cut that out of your profile..

Enjoy your experience and have fun. "

Absolutely great advice.

You look a very attractive couple, and you will attract admirers easily. As Miss Morgan says, read up on the club you want to try, and agree what you want to achieve.

Happy Swinging!

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By *winging_couple300Couple
43 weeks ago

Doncaster

You’re spoilt for choice in Blackpool with clubs, we have been to club play and it has always been warm and friendly and a good mix of couples and singles.

Be yourself and have fun

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By *WB85Man
43 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Lots of clubs have newbie events which is a nice way of introducing yourself to them.

The best advice I can give from our experience is to go with no expectations. Go with the intention of just being with each other and enjoy it.

Have a good read of the clubs rules and etiquette so that no silly mistakes are made.

You'll have a great time.

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By *oxy jWoman
43 weeks ago

somerset

you dont need advice about what you want thats between you two and talk and talk some more people cant advise as they just dont know you and what works for them wont work for you''

its your journey the best way forward is down to you ..if its a club then i would say to each other that your only going for a fact finding mission for as many who like clubs there are alot more who dont ie its not for all .... your rules your way everytime those that that dont fit what your looking for its a no thanks dont ever chang how you play for anyone you will regret it ....

do go in to tins think only men are a pain you will come across many ashole couples and women too ...

enjoy get it write and do for the right reasons then its a great lifestyle for sure

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By *enelope2UWoman
43 weeks ago

Fife

Know exactly what you want and what you don't want. As simple as it sounds write what you want have them write what they want and share papers to see if it matches if it doesn't then you're not on the same page literally and it won't work...

Too many couples are not aligned sexually and when in an environment where others are sexually confident comfortable you're putting yourself and your relationship in jeopardy.

It's ok to have things you both won't do or things one won't do but if you also don't want them to do something then you need to be honest on why.

I don't fuck other guys--- why?.. I don't feel like teaching another guy how to fuck me properly when he's there and capable and he hates seeing me unsatisfied via penetration. YET. I don't mind him fucking another chic because I know he can satisfy her as most women are penetration or G spot basic...I'm not

He isn't allowed to kiss or do oral to a woman because I don't want the smell of her pussy or her lipstick etc on his face while I'm kissing or having sex with him.

That's our hard rules

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By (user no longer on site) OP
43 weeks ago

Thanks everyone for your comments, alot of sense being said.

Think we just need to get out there now

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By *p4fun60Couple
43 weeks ago

Hampshire

Your so lucky as in our opinion one of the best clubs around is right on your doorstep @ Club play also pop down to the Avante Garde hotel & chat with Dave & Barb as they hold a great social event at their place & will also be able to stear you in the right direction for the start of your journey

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By *he_turtle_movesMan
43 weeks ago

york

My first time was at a fab social might which really helped take the pressure off for me as there were people there I had at least chatted to before

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By *plGoingDownCouple
43 weeks ago

Bristol

We agree with all the advice about communicating in advance… but also create some secret phrases so you can communicate when others are around

“Apple” - don’t leave me with this person even to go to the loo

“Banana” - if you are up for it if definitely want to fuck this person

You’ll have your own xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
43 weeks ago

Thanks again all ...some really good advice

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By *andPextraCouple
43 weeks ago

North West

Whatever rules you make In advance STICK TO THEM.

Easy ro get swept away and regret.

Never forget you are there for your pleasure first and foremost, not performing seals (some people can sadly expect it to be all about them and their needs)

Finally, debrief honestly and openly afterwards. What went well, didnt etc. We learn something (good and bad) about most of our club visits which shapes what we want next time.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
43 weeks ago

If you attend a club just go with the intention of enjoying yourselves like any night out, If you're looking to have sex and don't find anyone there to your taste find a private room and have fun yourselves, If you're not looking for single Men just tell them, Most will just move onto the next couple/Women, and don't hide yourselves away in the corner the regulars will more then likely introduce themselves to you anyway

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By *otgirl32Woman
43 weeks ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"Hi all

We are at the stage now where we think we want to meet/attend clubs...what's the best advice you can give us as newbies who don't really know the full etiquette etc?

Thanks all xx"

In my experience when a couple "thinks" they're ready to meet they're not actually. Just go to clubs or private house parties (my fave) and WATCH, play with each other only. When you're really ready, it'll just happen in the most natural way

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