FabSwingers.com forum: No Limits

By *ymAndIcedCoffee OP Woman
46 weeks ago

Worcester

I guess because I’m into kink my profile probably attracts a certain type of chancer, but you see it on the forums as well occasionally.

Men who want a woman who has “no limits.”

Guys, here’s your chance. If you really want a woman with “no limits” then I’d love to understand why.

Because surely being able to set a boundary and say things like “no actually, I don’t want you to cut my leg off during sexy time with a chainsaw” is a good thing, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

No limits is absolutely something that massively puts us off and immediately brings to mind all minds of nasty stuff.

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By *orphia2003Woman
46 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

'No limits' to me means you are showing off, clueless about BDSM or desperate. None of which are attributes I want in a play partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

No limits is a massive red flag to me .... once had a person who wanted no limits or safe word

Needless to say we did not meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Is it possible the newer profiles that are like this ?

When we first started out we was all in for mostly everything (not involving water sports )

But after a week or two had whittled it down to our main way we like to play

I suppose we got caught up in the moment and eventually came back down

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

No limits is the best

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
46 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

No limits would scare the hell out of me

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

"No limits is the best

Elaborate for us

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By *ymAndIcedCoffee OP Woman
46 weeks ago

Worcester

"No limits is the best

Could you explain why it’s so attractive to have a woman who doesn’t say no?

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By *ymAndIcedCoffee OP Woman
46 weeks ago

Worcester

"No limits is a massive red flag to me .... once had a person who wanted no limits or safe word

Needless to say we did not meet. "

See, I never play with a safe word. But I operate a simple “no means no” policies.

Safe words are only required because society has taught people (men) that no means yes. And we can push back against that.

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By *ornyguy666Man
46 weeks ago

Nottingham

I don't do underage family and pain that just about it

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By *9alMan
46 weeks ago

Bridgend

everyone has limits, death injury etc to say no limits means you have not thought it through

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

I don't think people really mean no limits. Surely we all have limits? What about the moral, legal and downright disgusting limits. To say you have no limits and mean it, means you're an absolute psychopath, very dangerous and anyone in their right mind would avoid at all cost. So people who say no limits, I'd say 99.99% of those are just fantasist or haven't really thought through what no limits mean.

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By *linyMan
46 weeks ago

Manchester/London

Men who want a woman with no limits until she mentions she likes CBT and wants to punish him!

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By *ymAndIcedCoffee OP Woman
46 weeks ago

Worcester

"Men who want a woman with no limits until she mentions she likes CBT and wants to punish him!

"No limits? Lovely. I'm going to human traffic you to a Russian gulag for you to be the boss's prison wife. Yes darling, it would really turn me on thinking about you there."

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

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Because surely being able to set a boundary and say things like “no actually, I don’t want you to cut my leg off during sexy time with a chainsaw” is a good thing, right?"

Let’s pretend that that’s a limit for everyone here.

But, I like the idea she hadn’t set any limits yet, and her mind is open to try alsorts with me so we can discover where we put our boundaries.

It’s difficult for me to explore a lot of things I haven’t done, with somebody who is already got the limits and made her boundaries.

Yes, communication is there and I find clout quickly that we’re not compatible, if she is already saying all the rules and putting her boundaries in place before I’ve got to even speak up about my needs and desires.

So hopefully that explains why some might say, I’m looking for a woman who has no limits.

It doesn’t necessarily mean I want to do something severe

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By *imisugarWoman
46 weeks ago

Rugby

No limits indicates desperate to me.

Disrespectful of boundaries and only concerned with their pleasure. It's a handy filter for me.

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By *esparate danMan
46 weeks ago

glasgow

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Are you sure they dont just want to fuck Jenny Powell

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
46 weeks ago

SW Scotland

"No limits is a massive red flag to me .... once had a person who wanted no limits or safe word

Needless to say we did not meet. "

Massive red flag to us too, tells us the person is either very inexperienced or possibly has no idea about what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

For me very off-putting, big red flag and a sign of likely depravity. Sorry to be blunt but it comes across that way

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

No no, no no no no, no no no no, no no there’s no limits!!

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

"No limits is a massive red flag to me .... once had a person who wanted no limits or safe word

Needless to say we did not meet.

See, I never play with a safe word. But I operate a simple “no means no” policies.

Safe words are only required because society has taught people (men) that no means yes. And we can push back against that."

Very true ... the words No and Stop should be enough. Sadly too many women discover it is not.

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By *inkyfilthymindMan
46 weeks ago

Heathrow / Berks

Chancers are everywhere. But don’t discount the obvious.

Some can’t think of anything beyond than a cpl of spanks, hair pulling, calling names and sex.

I find that no limits also show how one’s creativity is limited

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By *DW1983Man
46 weeks ago

Blackpool, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I usually assume they're new and/or inexperienced, and that what they really mean is they're open to trying all sorts of new things, but it's a phrase I don't like either. Everyone has their limits, and it's important to communicate and understand them. I'd see it as a bit of a red flag if a woman said it to me, but if it were someone I was interested in and the rest of her profile was 'right' then I'd maybe try to engage, inform and educate.

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