FabSwingers.com forum: Fab Women spoilt for Choice

By *itdubguy OP Man
42 weeks ago

Dublin

Is it just me, who's on fab over 10yrs, or are some of the new fab women just dismissive or rude?

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By *iss DevilWoman
42 weeks ago

Bedford

"Is it just me, who's on fab over 10yrs, or are some of the new fab women just dismissive or rude?"

If you really think women do have it easy on here, get a female friend to set up a profile on here and see how long they last.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I know some who get hundreds of messages a day.

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By *itdubguy OP Man
42 weeks ago

Dublin

Oh I don't think for 1min that women have it easy on fab. I can't even imagine the type of messages they get but when Genuine Men text, they seem to tar us all with same brush.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
42 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Is it just me, who's on fab over 10yrs, or are some of the new fab women just dismissive or rude?

If you really think women do have it easy on here, get a female friend to set up a profile on here and see how long they last. "

Agreed. Women really don’t have it easy on fab at all. Yes you might get lots of messages but 99% of those aren’t even worth reading.

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By *itdubguy OP Man
42 weeks ago

Dublin

I can Only imagine. I'm gue6the ratio on fab of men to women is probably 20 or 30 to 1..and those are probably Light numbers ?

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"I can Only imagine. I'm gue6the ratio on fab of men to women is probably 20 or 30 to 1..and those are probably Light numbers ?"

Probably closer to 100 to 1 I think

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By *itdubguy OP Man
42 weeks ago

Dublin

Thank god for the Block button lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"Thank god for the Block button lol. "

It is my intimate friend

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By *itdubguy OP Man
42 weeks ago

Dublin

Yeah your probably Right on that. Shame that so many Dickheads are fucking up the whole thing for Genuine men.

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By *alandNitaCouple
42 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"Is it just me, who's on fab over 10yrs, or are some of the new fab women just dismissive or rude?"

I suppose it depends on what you consider rude and dismissive.

Many men seem to be very entitled and get upset when their uninvited messages get ignored, but this and blocking is a no as per FAQs.

Sadly, there's unpleasant people everywhere, so Fab will be no different.

Nita

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By *itdubguy OP Man
42 weeks ago

Dublin

Well I've used it 3 times for stalkers who I'd actually met. One of them we took the meeting forward..and other 2 blocked after coffee meet. So I know Exactly what you mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"Yeah your probably Right on that. Shame that so many Dickheads are fucking up the whole thing for Genuine men. "

The genuine gentlemen ones positively sparkle if you hVe the patience to filter through the idiots

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By *alandNitaCouple
42 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"Yeah your probably Right on that. Shame that so many Dickheads are fucking up the whole thing for Genuine men. "

They don't.

There's lots of positive successful men in here. If anything it makes the good ones stand out

Nita

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By *itdubguy OP Man
42 weeks ago

Dublin

Couldn't agree more Nita. Unfortunately the assholes are messing things up for the genuine lads. Such is life.

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By *alandNitaCouple
42 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"Couldn't agree more Nita. Unfortunately the assholes are messing things up for the genuine lads. Such is life. "

No... they aren't.

Nita

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By *itdubguy OP Man
42 weeks ago

Dublin

Maybe I'm just not as Physically appealing as I thought? Are you telling me my Mam lied when she said "Your gorgeous and can have Any woman you want" lol

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By *itdubguy OP Man
42 weeks ago

Dublin

Maybe it's an Irish women thing?

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By *andZ30Couple
42 weeks ago

dumfries

In our opinion when you say dismissive and rude is it cause they don’t reply or cause they do and are actually the way you are say the first message you send is something that makes the decision to continue to message you or not also the amount of messages single women must get in a day your message might have got lost in the pile

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By *itdubguy OP Man
42 weeks ago

Dublin

My first text is always commenting Positively on their photos and saying where I'm from and I'm interested, text me back. Or is that the wrong approach?

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By *TinRedCouple
42 weeks ago

Reading

"Couldn't agree more Nita. Unfortunately the assholes are messing things up for the genuine lads. Such is life.

No... they aren't.

Nita"

This made me chuckle... Just goes to show how much notice guys really take! Lol

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By *oxy jWoman
42 weeks ago

somerset

just because the site is mainly men does not mean we are spoilt for choice i choose guys im attracted to and there is not many of them on here and then you get the attraction bit done to realise most ruin it with messaging so men aplenty yep but attraction and compatibility is rare ... most women dont share alot of mens ability to fuck anthing anyone anywhere anyhow

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By *oxy jWoman
42 weeks ago

somerset

assholes ruin it for themselves and themselves only ... alot of guys like to use them as an excuse for getting nowhere themselves stop hiding behind that excuse the real reason your getting nowhere is because no one is yet interested in you its that simple

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
42 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Couldn't agree more Nita. Unfortunately the assholes are messing things up for the genuine lads. Such is life.

No... they aren't.

Nita"

No, but really buddy. The endless sea of mediocrity on here means the even remotely interesting and compatible ones stand out brighter than the sun against that backdrop.

If you're getting tarred with the unwanted masses, there's probably a reason for that

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By *neeyedwillieMan
42 weeks ago

Darlington

This site is about 80% single men now,

How many messages do you think they get?

My wife had 30 messages from men, within 3 mins of joining with her single profile...before the message filter was activated (dosnt meet men). All my single lady freinds get hundreds of messages each day. When we ran social events on our couples account and made it open to single guys, we got spammed with dick pics and no effort messages.

Point is, it's not that women are spoilt for choice, they just get the attention and can choose from it.....and its a LOT of attention.

Just do what I dod fellas. Don't bother with fab. Your just one message in hundreds and no matter how witty and charming you think your message is, the chances of getting a response is ridiculously low.

Go where the women are...clubs and social events. Be confident, dress well, smell nice, use your charm and most importantly, do not have expectations. For every lady you talk to that isn't intrested, there's one who will be. Sometimes the old ways are the best ways. Leave the technology to things that vibrate..(and I do not mean your phone).

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By *sWyldWoman
42 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Oh if only we were spoilt for choice.

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By *ssex-coupleCouple
42 weeks ago

clacton on sea

We have a had a very negative experience with women on here and it’s a shame because in the forums the community is a great bunch of people. We’ve faced a lot of pillow talkers, situations where the effort is all from us and the worst was a women who wanted us to pay for her whole night meeting us…

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By *arialoueWoman
42 weeks ago

bradford

"Is it just me, who's on fab over 10yrs, or are some of the new fab women just dismissive or rude?

If you really think women do have it easy on here, get a female friend to set up a profile on here and see how long they last. "
I don't get hardly any message on here

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Only the other day I had 1111 unread messages, the fact that I couldn't engage with everyone wasn't down to me being dismissive or rude x

Women get hundreds of messages daily x

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By *ickingdelightMan
42 weeks ago

Cotswolds

From what I’ve seen/ or chatted about with some women on here I’m surprised there are any women on here with the messages, abuse, photos, and just sheer volume!

I can see why women join and get overwhelmed where hundreds of messages have flooded in within minutes of setting an account up. With not much understanding of the site or blocks you can do to stop/slow responses down they simply leave and go elsewhere

I think fab should have a block on receiving messages until you’re verified and gone through a guide on setting up age limits or limiting who can email etc

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By *ayd100Man
42 weeks ago

clitheroe

Wife tried it, but was overwhelmed by the response,then the abuse started and she couldn't cope, not easy at all

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"Is it just me, who's on fab over 10yrs, or are some of the new fab women just dismissive or rude?

If you really think women do have it easy on here, get a female friend to set up a profile on here and see how long they last. "

Exactly xx

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By *ornycougaWoman
42 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

"My first text is always commenting Positively on their photos and saying where I'm from and I'm interested, text me back. Or is that the wrong approach?"

Nothing intrinsically wrong with that but most women will have scores of these messages too, along with the "wanna fuk" messages.

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By *assy LassieWoman
42 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

"Couldn't agree more Nita. Unfortunately the assholes are messing things up for the genuine lads. Such is life.

No... they aren't.

Nita

No, but really buddy. The endless sea of mediocrity on here means the even remotely interesting and compatible ones stand out brighter than the sun against that backdrop.

If you're getting tarred with the unwanted masses, there's probably a reason for that

Probably his status update

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By *oshblueyedmanMan
42 weeks ago

hereford

Men need to appreciate it’s a snow storm of messages out there for women. You need to understand you are like a snowflake in a blizzard. Every so often your flake will be important. Don’t give up. Xx

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By *ife NinjaMan
42 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Let's face facts. Most of us are fucking ugly. The toned, pretty ones are getting the action

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
42 weeks ago

Birmingham

It's probably more personal honestly, look within... is your profile a profile YOU would reply to? Are your messages actually decent?

We gets hundreds of messages a day, it's uncommon we sit below 5-600 unread. There is absolutely no way we could ever respond to them all. I'm sure most single women are getting more than that.

So are women being rude and dismissive? Or are you lacking in your approach? Are you lost in the sea because you're not shining as anything special?

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Yeah it is so easy for woman

In the last hour every message I've received is from guys who I am not interested in wasting my time because they didn't read my profile or read it and decided it didn't apply to them.

It isn't rude to call people out on disrespectful behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

What message content would be best

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By *neeyedwillieMan
42 weeks ago

Darlington

"Yeah it is so easy for woman

In the last hour every message I've received is from guys who I am not interested in wasting my time because they didn't read my profile or read it and decided it didn't apply to them.

It isn't rude to call people out on disrespectful behaviour "

Simple question but have any ladies ever thought about blocking all men and just messaging the ones you like the look of?

Just imagine how much that would filter out for you all? No messing around, just message the guy you like the look of and go from there.

But im guessing very few ladies will because a) like the attention and b) dont like rejection.

And that's not an opinion or me having a dig at anyone. That's what I hear from numerous female freinds at our local

club when I point this fact out when they make comments about the amount and type of messages they get on fab.

So something to consider. Most men on here are just firing messages off into the ether hoping for a reply amd thers no argument some are...unpleasant with their messaging. But If the sites to improve and the interactions are to get better, many of you ladies "could" solve a lot of problems just by being the proactive ones.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
42 weeks ago

Sheffield

"We have a had a very negative experience with women on here and it’s a shame because in the forums the community is a great bunch of people. We’ve faced a lot of pillow talkers, situations where the effort is all from us and the worst was a women who wanted us to pay for her whole night meeting us… "

Are you sure these were actually women

Socials and clubs are your best option.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
42 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Yeah it is so easy for woman

In the last hour every message I've received is from guys who I am not interested in wasting my time because they didn't read my profile or read it and decided it didn't apply to them.

It isn't rude to call people out on disrespectful behaviour

Simple question but have any ladies ever thought about blocking all men and just messaging the ones you like the look of?

Just imagine how much that would filter out for you all? No messing around, just message the guy you like the look of and go from there.

But im guessing very few ladies will because a) like the attention and b) dont like rejection.

And that's not an opinion or me having a dig at anyone. That's what I hear from numerous female freinds at our local

club when I point this fact out when they make comments about the amount and type of messages they get on fab.

Agree about the club part.

I don’t use fab to arrange meets so a lot of messages are easily filtered for me.

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
42 weeks ago

Cumbria

"My first text is always commenting Positively on their photos and saying where I'm from and I'm interested, text me back. Or is that the wrong approach?"

Maybe they just don’t fancy you?

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