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By (user no longer on site) OP   
40 weeks ago

This morning driving to work I was listening to the radio there was a link between two songs, the voice over said the following about the dj’s:

‘Leanne and Joel are like that couple you meet on a two week holiday and get along great with… but then one week into the holiday you find out they’re swingers so you have to stay in and avoid bumping into them at the hotel bar for the following week!’

Then the next song played …

So this was obviously a joke to make people laugh in the morning at the expense of swingers and making fun of the presenters.

I found myself rolling my eyes a bit and a little offended because if this was a joke about someone of the LGBTQ+ community it wouldn’t have been allowed. ( I also fall under this community being fully bisexual myself - not bisexual for my man either I actually find woman attractive…. anywayyy…….)

… The point I’m making is, do you get offended at any swingers jokes you may see hear on television, publicly or on radio ever? And also do we feel swinging should fall into something like the LGBTQ+ community or do you feel swinging is it’s own community altogether by itself?

I feel silly ch5 programmes have a lot to answer for as portraying us all as predators ready to pounce or convert people to this lifestyle !!

Just little thoughts I was having ….. will gladly hear your opinions and thoughts ……

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By *ickie76XXXMan
40 weeks ago

dartford

I totally agree with you. That is totally prejudiced and does make out that swingers are some sort of predators that pray on everyone and anyone. Just shows total ignorance doesn’t it but ignorance is not an excuse as like you say they wouldn’t be able to say that about anyone preferences so why think it’s ok to say it about swingers.

Totally out of order

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
40 weeks ago

Spelling error!

*Do you sometimes get offended in the same way as….

^ Title is meant to read. ^

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
40 weeks ago


"I totally agree with you. That is totally prejudiced and does make out that swingers are some sort of predators that pray on everyone and anyone. Just shows total ignorance doesn’t it but ignorance is not an excuse as like you say they wouldn’t be able to say that about anyone preferences so why think it’s ok to say it about swingers.

Totally out of order "

I just thought that it was a bit unnecessary. I do think unfortunately there is a more seeder/sinister side ‘sometimes’ to this lifestyle however every couple, woman, man so far we’ve met over 3 years ( not met for sex) have always been respectful polite even more so than vanilla people !!!

As a couple , respect and consent is the main things we both portray and look for. Wish us swingers could be seen in a better light at times.

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By *ickie76XXXMan
40 weeks ago

dartford

Yes I agree but there are sinister and seedy sides to lots of things and it doesn’t mean just because we enjoy meeting nice like minded people we should be tarred as being seedy.

I totally agree. I haven’t met many people but those I have, have been the nicest politest couples and really friendly. Respect is a must and shouldn’t have to be asked for in my eyes.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
40 weeks ago

Okehampton

Smacks of “punching down” because everyone ridicules swingers right?

But if they had phrased it “.. when you meet that enm or poly couple and you hide for the rest of the week” they would have been lambasted.

Strange thing words..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
40 weeks ago

East Sussex

No it wouldn't offend me.

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By *rpeggioCouple
40 weeks ago

Baughurst

Not offended but frustrated and annoyed. Not being able and confront the presenter and ask why do you feel a need to hide?

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By *ellinever70Woman
40 weeks ago

Ayrshire

Was the joke about how seriously some swingers take themselves whilst they're doing something that's supposedly a fun activity to spice their life up a little?

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By *rill PhilMan
40 weeks ago

Crediton


"Was the joke about how seriously some swingers take themselves whilst they're doing something that's supposedly a fun activity to spice their life up a little?"

Love this!

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
40 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Nah.

Same as being bi doesn't mean I want to fuck people I don't find attractive, being in the swinging lifestyle also doesn't mean I want to fuck people I don't find attractive.

I don't see any point taking people's stupid prejudices to heart. Letting their stupid comments affect your mood negatively doesn't change anything but your mood

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By *zBoy123Man
40 weeks ago

London.

Nothing offends me, nothing, I'm well balanced and normal .......

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago


"I totally agree with you. That is totally prejudiced and does make out that swingers are some sort of predators that pray on everyone and anyone. Just shows total ignorance doesn’t it but ignorance is not an excuse as like you say they wouldn’t be able to say that about anyone preferences so why think it’s ok to say it about swingers.

Totally out of order

I just thought that it was a bit unnecessary. I do think unfortunately there is a more seeder/sinister side ‘sometimes’ to this lifestyle however every couple, woman, man so far we’ve met over 3 years ( not met for sex) have always been respectful polite even more so than vanilla people !!!

As a couple , respect and consent is the main things we both portray and look for. Wish us swingers could be seen in a better light at times. "

Don't think you should be making a point of correcting spelling and grammar based on the above!

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
40 weeks ago

wonderland.

Its the prejudice in other ways. I had to prove that being a swinger didn't make me a risk to my granddaughter when I suddenly had to take on custody of her for a while. Social care wanted to know a lot.

The fact I don't meet at home etc. I was even asked that of my friends were swingers too... would I feel safe having them in my home.

It was very very judgemental process. Luckily the person in charge agreed that my lifestyle had no baring but It's not always the case

Cali

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By *ellinever70Woman
40 weeks ago

Ayrshire


"Its the prejudice in other ways. I had to prove that being a swinger didn't make me a risk to my granddaughter when I suddenly had to take on custody of her for a while. Social care wanted to know a lot.

The fact I don't meet at home etc. I was even asked that of my friends were swingers too... would I feel safe having them in my home.

It was very very judgemental process. Luckily the person in charge agreed that my lifestyle had no baring but It's not always the case

Cali"

Why did social care want to know about your sex life?

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago


"This morning driving to work I was listening to the radio there was a link between two songs, the voice over said the following about the dj’s:

‘Leanne and Joel are like that couple you meet on a two week holiday and get along great with… but then one week into the holiday you find out they’re swingers so you have to stay in and avoid bumping into them at the hotel bar for the following week!’

Then the next song played …

So this was obviously a joke to make people laugh in the morning at the expense of swingers and making fun of the presenters.

I found myself rolling my eyes a bit and a little offended because if this was a joke about someone of the LGBTQ+ community it wouldn’t have been allowed. ( I also fall under this community being fully bisexual myself - not bisexual for my man either I actually find woman attractive…. anywayyy…….)

… The point I’m making is, do you get offended at any swingers jokes you may see hear on television, publicly or on radio ever? And also do we feel swinging should fall into something like the LGBTQ+ community or do you feel swinging is it’s own community altogether by itself?

I feel silly ch5 programmes have a lot to answer for as portraying us all as predators ready to pounce or convert people to this lifestyle !!

Just little thoughts I was having ….. will gladly hear your opinions and thoughts ……

"

What does LGBT have to do with being a swinger?

You realise that people that that category don’t actively choose their sexuality, right?

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
40 weeks ago

wonderland.


"Its the prejudice in other ways. I had to prove that being a swinger didn't make me a risk to my granddaughter when I suddenly had to take on custody of her for a while. Social care wanted to know a lot.

The fact I don't meet at home etc. I was even asked that of my friends were swingers too... would I feel safe having them in my home.

It was very very judgemental process. Luckily the person in charge agreed that my lifestyle had no baring but It's not always the case

Cali

Why did social care want to know about your sex life?"
because one of the objections to me having her was that I'm a swinger and therefore apparently morally reprehensible.

I had to at the time sign an agreement that I'd not allow anyone from the lifestyle to my home ( so basically not see friends at mine as most of my friends are swingers) and that even when I didn't have baby with me I would not behave in that way. I argued exactly as you just did.

Eventually a judge agreed it was not relevant x

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
40 weeks ago

wonderland.


"This morning driving to work I was listening to the radio there was a link between two songs, the voice over said the following about the dj’s:

‘Leanne and Joel are like that couple you meet on a two week holiday and get along great with… but then one week into the holiday you find out they’re swingers so you have to stay in and avoid bumping into them at the hotel bar for the following week!’

Then the next song played …

So this was obviously a joke to make people laugh in the morning at the expense of swingers and making fun of the presenters.

I found myself rolling my eyes a bit and a little offended because if this was a joke about someone of the LGBTQ+ community it wouldn’t have been allowed. ( I also fall under this community being fully bisexual myself - not bisexual for my man either I actually find woman attractive…. anywayyy…….)

… The point I’m making is, do you get offended at any swingers jokes you may see hear on television, publicly or on radio ever? And also do we feel swinging should fall into something like the LGBTQ+ community or do you feel swinging is it’s own community altogether by itself?

I feel silly ch5 programmes have a lot to answer for as portraying us all as predators ready to pounce or convert people to this lifestyle !!

Just little thoughts I was having ….. will gladly hear your opinions and thoughts ……

What does LGBT have to do with being a swinger?

You realise that people that that category don’t actively choose their sexuality, right? "

I think what they are meaning is many don't choose to he non monogamous, yet we are fair game to be taken the Mickey out of

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
40 weeks ago


"I totally agree with you. That is totally prejudiced and does make out that swingers are some sort of predators that pray on everyone and anyone. Just shows total ignorance doesn’t it but ignorance is not an excuse as like you say they wouldn’t be able to say that about anyone preferences so why think it’s ok to say it about swingers.

Totally out of order

I just thought that it was a bit unnecessary. I do think unfortunately there is a more seeder/sinister side ‘sometimes’ to this lifestyle however every couple, woman, man so far we’ve met over 3 years ( not met for sex) have always been respectful polite even more so than vanilla people !!!

As a couple, respect and consent is the main things we both portray and look for. Wish us swingers could be seen in a better light at times.

Don't think you should be making a point of correcting spelling and grammar based on the above!

"

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By *ddfellowMan
40 weeks ago

Newferry, wirral

I cant remember the last time I was

offended by anything TBH I might get angry annoyed etc, but there is very little that has ever offended me.

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By *aomilatteCouple
40 weeks ago

Midlands


"This morning driving to work I was listening to the radio there was a link between two songs, the voice over said the following about the dj’s:

‘Leanne and Joel are like that couple you meet on a two week holiday and get along great with… but then one week into the holiday you find out they’re swingers so you have to stay in and avoid bumping into them at the hotel bar for the following week!’

Then the next song played …

So this was obviously a joke to make people laugh in the morning at the expense of swingers and making fun of the presenters.

I found myself rolling my eyes a bit and a little offended because if this was a joke about someone of the LGBTQ+ community it wouldn’t have been allowed. ( I also fall under this community being fully bisexual myself - not bisexual for my man either I actually find woman attractive…. anywayyy…….)

… The point I’m making is, do you get offended at any swingers jokes you may see hear on television, publicly or on radio ever? And also do we feel swinging should fall into something like the LGBTQ+ community or do you feel swinging is it’s own community altogether by itself?

I feel silly ch5 programmes have a lot to answer for as portraying us all as predators ready to pounce or convert people to this lifestyle !!

Just little thoughts I was having ….. will gladly hear your opinions and thoughts ……

"

We would actually find what was on the radio very amusing. We're not easily offended.

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By *asha86Couple
40 weeks ago

walsall

I dont get offended but i do get abit frustrated when people refer to swingers as keys in a bowl party.... i so want to say IT DOESNT WORK LIKE THAT!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
40 weeks ago


"I dont get offended but i do get abit frustrated when people refer to swingers as keys in a bowl party.... i so want to say IT DOESNT WORK LIKE THAT! "

Old style opinions

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By *dwalu2Couple
40 weeks ago

Bristol

It’s not offensive to us. But we’re swingers, not all swingers, so what they said didn’t apply to us.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
40 weeks ago

Leeds

No, I'd probably find it funny.

Mrs

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By *ny1localMan
40 weeks ago

READING

Sometimes it seems it's too easy to take offence, personally I find it funny, but I'm 'old school ',and find fun in things that where never meant originally as offensive, it's just the way things were expressed at that time..with no offence intended.

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By *ie n MashCouple
40 weeks ago

Back in Malice

In answer to the questions posed

- no, I do not get offended by the jokes. Imo, people are losing their sense of humour and choosing to take offence/show faux outrage at too much these days.

- no, I do not think that swinging should be linked to the LBTQ+ community. You are born into one, you choose to partake in the other.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
40 weeks ago

SW Scotland

Nope, don’t get offended by it one bit.

I don’t think it falls under the lgbtq banner either

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